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What to talk about on a social meet

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By *urious1973 OP   Man
over a year ago

angus

How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just the same as “real” life, any old thing plus you have fab

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Same as you would IRL.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Just continue as you have been from the site

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I tend not to talk about sex in that context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example "

If there is a connection then the conversion should flow naturally..if you're struggling to chat then you'll struggle going further...simples

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

doesn t matter , if there is no spark between you , nothing is happening ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talk a little about us, general waffle & share our vibe. Kink wise, we share what we like/ what our hard limits are, what we are looking for in a meet & ask the other person/people to tell us the same for them.. Then if we are all on the same page & we find them hot, we flirt like crazy until we can meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet have a drink together. And talk about. Ours and theirs sexual encounters. What we do and don't in the sex department. If we click fun to be had by all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If theres no vibe or they are shy, we chat waffle to fill the awkward silence & make a an excuses for a fast exit.

As the above poster says, if the social is hard going, that's a red flag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our excuses*

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

My profile makes it very clear what in life interests me, anyone I meet for a social I'll have chatted to for a while online so the conversation tends to be easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly bs like ooo I like that tv show

Band or what ever

What you looking for off a serious relationship me two

Why don’t I come over and we watch tv show

Pumped and ghosted

Hence why I stick to fab at least people are honest in what they want

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Dating is totally different because your not dating so the conversation would be entirely different just be you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually fab and interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally ask how big their areloas are and if they bleach their bullet hole within the first level 3 sentences

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Bit of everything in our case. Start with the pleasantries and if it seems appropriate, move onto fab / swinger talk. We just play it by ear.

If we are meeting newbies we tend to be a bit more reserved though. Broach the subject of what got them onto fab and what they are expecting. Let them ask us rather than us tell them sort of thing. Don't wanna scare people off do we

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Anything but sex

That’s usually dealt with in messages before the social

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Start with the weather and then move on to favourite brands of lube

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

normally start of with the how's your day been and then on to sex dos don'ts ect

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

Conversation about their day is normally a good start and once you both are more comfortable and ensuring no one is around listening, a convo about embarrassing meets are always a barrel of laugh. Some of people's experiences can make me chuckle

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My experience is that it is a bit of both. They certainly start off chasing about normal stuff but once you are more comfortable with each other you tend to swap stories about past swinging experiences and what you are looking fur.

I would be very put off and would end the social if a guy immediately launched into talking about sexual stuff. If I were a man I would let the women take the lead into straying into more intimate areas.

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By *onkeynutWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Just normal conversation. I talk about anything and everything but then I’m a chatty person. Sometimes we talk about fab briefly but not in detail.

It may be from fab but I still want a normal conversation/interaction with someone before I think about going further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find talking about the dos and don't of sex totally unsexy, much rather go with the flow...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I’ve talked a little about me, I then let them talk about me for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talked about my stamp collection. It didn't go well..

'Oh, you really enjoy fellatio?...I thought you said philately...!'

Explains why I never get past a social..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normal things as you would in any social event but with the added bonus of being able to speak freely about fab topics

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I normally go off on a random tangent. They're either put off by the amount I talk or entertained and impressed by my passion for things. Its a good filter to find my people. Also if it gets too much kissing me and/or dragging me upstairs is a great way to shut me up.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Once I’ve talked a little about me, I then let them talk about me for a while. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're concerned I think you're putting to much pressure on what may come after the social. Try to relax, treat it like a normal conversation and chat as if you were talking to anyone else you might fancy a bit, be nice and charming. Show your true self and whatever happens happens.

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By *isa40Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By *isa40Couple
over a year ago

Cornwall

We had our first social this week, I was really nervous.

Over thought it way too much, it was great, we just chatted about everyday stuff and some flirty talk too.

Was just like meeting up with friends.

Just go with the flow you will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the time you have seen them naked before meeting them in person which is usually the opposite to what happens in real life. In that respect you need to remember that this is a slightly different world. Usual rules apply but you can talk about personal issues that you can't talk about to vanilla couples. I would say that most topics of conversation are fine just don't have an obsession with the sex aspect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there's been conversation before so there's always something to pull from that.

We talk about normal day to day life but we dip into fab. If they use the forums maybe about posts from here. Usually about funny stories or experiences a bit like if I was to meet someone from an online dating site (funny dates etc).

I've never struggled for conversation and I've had socials that have lasted from as little as 15 mins to as much as 3 hours.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example "

You talk normally. I don’t like sex talk with someone I don’t know

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Usually talk about the areas we live in about our lives and what's going on. Just normal chat really to start with. Chat about the platform we met on. Anything else is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk is cheap, it’s all about the action...!

Kidding of course, good communication we all is key - so mainly talk about each others likes and dislikes to make sure we respect each others boundaries, etc.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I just talk about general things, as if I was talking to anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example

You talk normally. I don’t like sex talk with someone I don’t know"

For me a social is to get to know each other as people. I never discuss sex. If it goes that way I'm polite but we will never meet again.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Anything that's current and relaxed, including about each other. It's not going to need sexual detail, as that's already covered and inappropriate for most public places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything that's current and relaxed, including about each other. It's not going to need sexual detail, as that's already covered and inappropriate for most public places "

Exactly this Sophie.

If they don't know how to behave in public I certainly won't trust them in private.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I love meeting new people and never struggle for things to say. I do always ask why and when they joined fab as need to know we are here for the same reasons.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I love meeting new people and never struggle for things to say. I do always ask why and when they joined fab as need to know we are here for the same reasons."

Same for us

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"I love meeting new people and never struggle for things to say. I do always ask why and when they joined fab as need to know we are here for the same reasons."

Same here. If the conversations not fun and naughty you have to suspect you're not all on the same page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just let it flow naturally is the best way… and if you’ve been chatting on here just pick up from where you left off

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Certain people lately would testify I can and do talk about anything and everything! Love a good chat, tends not to be sexy stuff so much on a first social as will be in public but otherwise pretty much anything goes.

Recent topics have included politics, art, philosophy, psychology…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't make the mistake of asking about their favourite book.. Apparently that is far too personal!!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We had a video social during the week. We started off with what we knew was common ground, namely our lives on this scene - how we got here and what we've got up to. Then it naturally turned towards more regular things like jobs, kids, music etc.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I'd say it's usually 50% fab and 50% other stuff. Although if I've met another geek then 10% fab and 90% geeky shit is more likely

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