FabSwingers.com forum: Single women "up themselves"?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

The theory goes that because single women are a rare breed in these parts, we have ALL the choice and attention and then get a little ...fussy. We don't want your ordinary average guy any more, we only want the 6ft, hung hunks. That we wouldn't get in the real world because we're salad dodgers or munters etc.

So, any thoughts?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

I doubt it. If some people are getting 'action' every night, good luck to them.

There's nothing wrong with your figure at all lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you do get some profiles with i love me who do you love attitude with varied criteria etc , and some on here wouldnt get looked at in a pub but on here its 100s too1 so get bit up emselves n cocky , my thoughts on it-' just be a nice person

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it's something that people say to try to make their throwing toys out of the pram less infantile.

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Women and couples have every right to be as picky as they want. Wouldn't call that being "up themselves" at all

Personally, I find it a bit daunting at times knowing what I'm up against (there are a lot of really good looking guys on here, with incredible bodies and good sized penises), but its my issue and not theirs x

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

Salad dodgers hahahaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel that it's a case of single women are 'up themselves', it's simply as you say a case of single women being the most in demand on here so they can pick and choose from a large pool of potential meets as they see fit. The only people who seem to have an issue with this are people who get rejected by said single women. Been like that since the cherry days on here and will probably never change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even as a fatty I'm fussy always have been but I prefer dad bods etc rather than gym bods but having said that it has always and will always depend on the person

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So are we meeting these adonises in imaginary land if we can't in the real world? How do I get to this land? Asking for a friend.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

Its easier fir some single men to blame single women for 'being up themselves' than accept their may be other reasons they aren't successful on here.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Everyone, man or woman has the choice of who they want to meet..... if they don't want to meet me that's fine, it's their prerogative, I just move on. Just being a polite and decent person will pay dividends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While I agree that sometimes it's an instant reaction to rejection, I can't deny that there is some truth to it. The amount of attention does sometimes make women entitled on here and their profiles with long lists of demands shows that. Some expect men to jump through 1000 hoops and prove they are worthy. Would they act like that in the real world? Probably not but some do act like their shit don't stink.

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While I agree that sometimes it's an instant reaction to rejection, I can't deny that there is some truth to it. The amount of attention does sometimes make women entitled on here and their profiles with long lists of demands shows that. Some expect men to jump through 1000 hoops and prove they are worthy. Would they act like that in the real world? Probably not but some do act like their shit don't stink.

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person."

Agreed on both accounts, heard some horrifying things from guys and the behaviours of some women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Salad dodgers hahahaa"

I nabbed that from a guy on another thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like pull a pig right. The type of women on here are right goers and well up for it. Nuns don't join sex sites!

Yet they turn down offers from men taking pity on their saggy minges. It's unbelievable.

It's the women's fault for letting all the attention go to their heads. Right up themselves they are.

Hang on... if they are ugly munters, who on earth is offering them a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so up myself my head just came out my belly button!

I think some women do act like complete pricks and the attention they get probably doesn't help that. Am I bothered? Nah. I wouldn't meet anyone that spends their time on here worrying about what others do and complaining.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So are we meeting these adonises in imaginary land if we can't in the real world? How do I get to this land? Asking for a friend. "

Fucked if I know!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"So are we meeting these adonises in imaginary land if we can't in the real world? How do I get to this land? Asking for a friend. "

... there's a yellow brick road leading to it, find that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's like pull a pig right. The type of women on here are right goers and well up for it. Nuns don't join sex sites!

Yet they turn down offers from men taking pity on their saggy minges. It's unbelievable.

It's the women's fault for letting all the attention go to their heads. Right up themselves they are.

Hang on... if they are ugly munters, who on earth is offering them a shag? "

Men lowering their standards. So I believe.

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By *omerset_ExportMan
over a year ago

honiton

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

I think everyone has likes and dislikes. Some ladies might want to explore their fantasies, maybe with that tall tattooed and muscular guy they would be too shy to talk to normally?

I wouldn't say anyone I've spoken to has been stuck up, I'm well aware that as an overweight bloke I'm not what a lot of women are looking for and you know what? I'm fine with that.

A lot of guys on here get pissy or pushy if someone says no. Guess what, just because you have a penis it doesn't mean women will automatically fall at your feet. As I said we all have our likes and dislikes. Just accept that, be polite and move on.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

My experience is that most women are actually less concerned about gym fit and hung like a horse, but more interested in character, humour, intelligence and respect.

However, there is no reason than anyone should ever lower their standards to suit others. Any guys who think the ladies are "up themselves" need to concentrate on being up to the mark instead.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So a mix of

* some women are entitled because of the attention

* some guys say this because they're not getting a shag

I see mention of women's profiles with a list of demands. What kind of demands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is, even in the real world we have preferences, we just don't go saying them out loud like we do on here.

I get that we get more attention but is that our fault? Like others have said if the woman is someone you'd not look at in real life then why try to shag her on here, seems to me the issue is not hers.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person."

I have to say I agree with this. Yes there are men who are abusive and have a go at a lot of women but so do quite a few women and couples. And yes quite a few women get inflated egos here and use lines like do you not know who I am and make men junp through hoops to meet or even chat to them.Some blacklist men who say no to them in groups and yes I have seen it happen first hand and it's one of the reasons why I no longer join groups. Some have even outed others on other social media to family and friends because they got told they didn't want to meet them. But as long as some men are willing to blow smoke up their arses and take their sides on everything and jump through hoops it will continue.

There are also plenty of down to earth women as well and they are decent people who don't believe in the fab ego and fab elite crap. Just like there are plenty of down to earth men as well and couples and they are the ones who make this site worth being on.

Everyone has a right to be fussy about who they meet and have preferences and if they don't fit what others want than they should just move on and not give abuse.But I doubt it will ever happen all the time on here. All you can do is ignore and block when it does happen.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

We do like the average and ordinary, but there has to be a level of attraction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The thing is, even in the real world we have preferences, we just don't go saying them out loud like we do on here.

I have to say that doesn't make sense to me either. "I'm not being as picky to get laid". Last thing I want is a pity shag, ta love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

Nailed it, thank you for the honesty and reality check, take notice, all of you.

Oh wait, wait, no, er...

Cut that cut that cut that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget the "some guys" who will compliment anyone and everyone, that they'd probably scoff and make jokes about in vanilla life.

It's a circus is fab and there's plenty of clowns amongst the class acts.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person.

Stop talking sense… I don’t come on the forums for such reason..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually its the view of those who have been told no thank you along with being called "cunt" and told "you need to get off your high horse". As a single female its ok to have preferences and state those clearly and its ok to want to feel comfortable with the guy you are chatting to. Too many incorrect assumptions seem to be made about single females on here. Similarly there are some very lovely guys here who (in my experience/ opinion) are more mature and dont behave like little boys who just had their pot of muddy worms stolen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its easier fir some single men to blame single women for 'being up themselves' than accept their may be other reasons they aren't successful on here.

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person.

It's a bit of a circle of attention isn't it? I think many women don't believe the "Wow you're so gorgeous" compliments they're fed on a daily basis. But I guess some women will let it go go their heads. Still - men are the ones doing it in the first place. There's a LOT of it on the forum and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Behaviour breeds behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

Nailed it, thank you for the honesty and reality check, take notice, all of you.

Oh wait, wait, no, er...

Cut that cut that cut that."

What a decisive comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fussy about who I meet because this is something more than just a quick shag for us. My husband is trusting someone else with his wife, I'm trusting someone else with my body.

I want someone who I can chat to, who engages my mind aswell as my body. I really don't have a specific preference, I'm attracted to all sorts. There's not a lot of point having the body of an adonis if you can't hold a conversation.

Thankfully I haven't had any mean messages about rejection (yet).

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person."

It's not a term I've ever used out loud and it's never related to looks or their preferences and to be fair is not gender specific.

My experience has been when a man or woman is more invested in themselves than anything else and constantly remind me that they are the centre of attention wherever they go and people are always looking at their arse , that's when I think ffs they're up themselves.

Another fab related experience was when I met someone for the first time and her very first words to be, even before she said hello, were " are you nervous about meeting me?". She was up herself.

Fabbers who see every compliment here as directed at them are up themselves just as when those same people truly believe every criticism is also aimed at them and they are permanently offended. That's my definition of being up themselves.

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

100% a salad dodger here

Still extremely picky on fab though... I want something different than what I'm getting at home. Fab is about living out our fantasies and my fantasy man is muscular and well hung

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are up themselves.

And some men are also fucking raging that Fab is a ladies' market.

If a woman is here to have her fantasies fulfilled, and those fantasises involve a 25yr old guy who is ripped to fuck and hung like a 2l bottle of , so be it. Why should she settle for the middle aged guy she could pull down the pub if she fancies something different?

In the real world middle aged men with £££ make the most of it and can regularly be found to have younger, more attractive models on their arms.

Just human nature I suppose.

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"Salad dodgers hahahaa

I nabbed that from a guy on another thread.

So good, I'm going to steal it too haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where I do honestly feel that everyone has a right to be fuzzy.. i do have to roll my eyes sometimes at the demands some single women make. Some of the most demanding women themselves offer very little but demand so much.. but hey-ho its the privledge of being on this site, im sure its not the case on the real world.. so girls take advantage of it and demand away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bear in mind I say some and if anyone takes this as a personal attack, you probably are that person.

I agree but I do think it can easily go to your head, I know it has sometimes for me when I've just had a bad day or something. But I think everyone has their preferences and some may be more skewed on fab for those reasons, but there is gonna be someone who matches what your looking for. I agree with the just moving on, no harm no foul at the end of the day.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Behaviour breeds behaviour. "

Spot on. See Betaris box..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Salad dodgers, that made me laugh

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I’ve heard this a lot on here also but majority of time I think it’s just men having a strop because their fancy a fuck messages are getting them nowhere .

We’ve come across men women and couples that have entitled attitudes .

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people are up themselves.

And some men are also fucking raging that Fab is a ladies' market.

In the real world middle aged men with £££ make the most of it and can regularly be found to have younger, more attractive models on their arms.

Just human nature I suppose.

Ah. Interesting. I don't view Fab that way, but I can see your point totally. So women are ignoring the average perfectly nice bloke for the Adonis if they can bag him? Would the Adonis go for her if he can pull any woman on the site? How shallow are we all really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Where I do honestly feel that everyone has a right to be fuzzy.. i do have to roll my eyes sometimes at the demands some single women make. Some of the most demanding women themselves offer very little but demand so much.. but hey-ho its the privledge of being on this site, im sure its not the case on the real world.. so girls take advantage of it and demand away

At my age being “ fuzzy “ is a regular thing

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

Can I join you when you find them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Honestly in the forum I see nothing but guys declaring to prefer the more "curvy" lady so don't really see any targeting as such. I honestly don't know who actually takes to heart the drivel you read on the forum. Concentrate on what/ who you like and stuff everyone with their weird opinions. That's how I deal with fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What demands, exactly? I don't look at womens' profiles.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Everyone should be fussy. What's the point unless there is a great connection?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

To be fair I've been in this world a long time and sorry to say but some women and couples have been guilty of being " up themselves " but not because they are picky but because they have had all this attention/ adoration that they somehow are better than other people.

I've seen people belittle others because of this..

Yes it would be very easy to let all the ego rubbing comments make you big headed but I remember that I could have a faceless profile and id still get comments

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I still wouldn't be interested in the men I am not interested in, if there were 100 women to every man... I like what I like and the average blokes whining about us only fucking adonis type fellas have no idea how attraction works and would probably put their dick in the oven if they thought it would get them off... We can smell you a mile away and steer clear as we aren't just a hole for your use! Shame as I like all types of men but have bloked ones I was attracted to physically because of shitty attitudes

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

* think they are better than others that should have said

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

PS. I actually love salad but it doesn’t show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my age being “ fuzzy “ is a regular thing

i'm at that age too! as you can see from my post

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Just because we are on a swinger site we still have standards & those standards may vary from person to person.

I'm picky who I'd meet,that doesn't mean im after a super toned model ,because im far from that myself.

I do want attraction to the person im meeting though & a decent connection.So i rarely meet these days,if that makes me ip myself well so be it .

I think that sort og response is thrown around when someone is rejected by a woman they perceive as less attractive then them.

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)"

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

" .... and some on here wouldn't get looked at in a pub ...."

I've seen this said quite a few times and I just don't get it. ALL women get looked at and get offers in the pub. Admittedly, some more than others, but it's rare to see a woman who wants company not getting some.

Two major factors are at play here.

There are lots of men choosing from a much smaller pool of women.

Secondly, lots of men will fuck anyone. Literally anyone.

That doesn't mean the women aren't attractive, it just means it doesn't matter whether they are attractive or not.

Same in pubs and clubs, same online.

Of course, some women will be more classically attractive than others, and I guess they are able to be choosier. There's nothing wrong with that is there?

None of this is a dig at single women, it's just how it is!

Gbat

(but some people, both male and female seem pretty unfriendly in their online personae. Perhaps they are in real life too?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What demands, exactly? I don't look at womens' profiles. "

You should have a browse sometime, some of them are beyond surreal. Make for good bathroom reading though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh."

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told this often too! Having standards and preferences means you love yourself too much apparently!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!"

I'm really tempted to update my profile now

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!"

The phrase it self is hilarious.

I am now going to use it liberally

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

The solution is easy. Come on girls , start putting it about a bit more and everyone is happy . If you are shagging one bloke a day, up it to three. If it’s five, make it ten.

It really is that simple. Everyone’s a winner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!

I'm really tempted to update my profile now

I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if only some guys had standards then who knows what would happen rather than the fuck any hole approach ...

look guys have it ruff on here but to blame women is laughtable the only reason its ruff for you guys is ''other'' guys plain and simple ..ie there are zillions of you ... men pretend to be women .... men pretend to be couples ....

there are going to be those's who bat way above there head in both sexes .... istick to my guns if that means me being called pick so be it but i have two levels a bottom bar and a top bar i wont go below or above .... very rare that a six pack guy has a big cock so thats that myth out the window i avoid mirror huggers in both sexes ... and if a guy has to jump thro hoops to meet me the str8 away hes the wrong guy ...

also rejection is part of swinging just as its part of real life .... male or female if you cant handle some think that basic then you really do stand no chance on here ...

back to my first line you guys moan that some women aim higher than they would in real life then thats the fault of the guys not the women after all takes 2 to tangle ....

an if you think any ladies have it easy you should see the abuse they get when saying no thanks

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

What did you update?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you do get some profiles with i love me who do you love attitude with varied criteria etc , and some on here wouldnt get looked at in a pub but on here its 100s too1 so get bit up emselves n cocky , my thoughts on it-' just be a nice person

Every woman would get looked at in a pub because everyone has different taste. What u find u don't like will be different to the person next 2 u. The varied criteria is who they like and want to have sex with, which is their right and not every woman will f**k every man

Louisea

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

.....psst....look here

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!

I'm really tempted to update my profile now

I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

Haha this made me giggle

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes because we have preferences we are up ourselves

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

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By *utForAdventure26Couple
over a year ago

St Neots

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

You look gorgeous to us and right up hubbies street. We don't have the greatest self confidence though and that sets us back from the competition pretty regularly.

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By *hy4BBCWoman
over a year ago

near

I'm mot very attractive I don't think. Bit I'm looking for a guy back with a massive cock. I really don't care about looks or height thought

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

I think it’s a fattie - due to poor diet, lack of salad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thin or fat I’ve always been fussy because it’s my body and I’m allowed to say who enters into it

I’ve grown less fussy as the years have gone on but I believe that you need to have an attraction towards each other!

I used to love the bad boy type but now it doesn’t do it for me as much!

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By *utForAdventure26Couple
over a year ago

St Neots

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

Scotswoman like me?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

As I said above its not gender specific and can be related to their own perception of where they stand on this site.

I've seen it many times when men, women and especially couples mock the opinions of others and when challenged their only defence is that they've been here for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal..."

There was a certain thread on here I cannot remember which one where there was a guy who went on a rant and he mentioned that most on here look like there salad dodging or something to the affect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single woman on here, I do think we get things pretty easy.

I know if I wanted sex tonight, I could get it. I also know I can pull hotter guys on here than I could in a bar on a night out.

All women know this, how can you not? And some, not all, but definitely with some it does go to their head a little.

You just have to look at the threads. Guys get slated all the time, mainly in jest but they do. You can't say anything about a woman without people taking offense.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal..."

You mean normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

There was a certain thread on here I cannot remember which one where there was a guy who went on a rant and he mentioned that most on here look like there salad dodging or something to the affect"

Ooooh okay gotcha, thought it was some weird penis or vagina analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cnuts lot of em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a salad dodger. Although if it's on a burger then yes please. Just no tomato. Can't stand it

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"As one of the so-called salad dodgers, I feel that we're unduly targeted when it comes to this. I've seen a thread recently arguing that a woman without a gym fit bod doesn't deserve a gym fit man.

Or is it women who have their legs open but you'd rather a paper bag on hand? (Again this is borrowed from a recent thread)

You dont eat salad at all? Mental.

People can be fat and still eat salad and enjoy them, I dont think there is a correlation.

However the term is so funny, genuinely made me laugh.

I do eat salad. Every night. I'd still be termed a salad dodger by some guys!

I'm really tempted to update my profile now

I did.

Ok now I see it, guess that's trade marked now

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

There is nothing wrong with being fussy, we should all be fussy, there has to be physical attraction and chemistry for amazing sex, and life is way too short for anything less amazing sex.

With regards to women only wanting 6ft hunks that are hung like a donkey, that certainly hasn't been my experience at all, in my experience what they want more than anything is just a nice genuine guy who treats her with respect, won't let her down at the last moment (I hear so many stories of this happening to my female friends) and gives her what she needs and desires most.

Them guys that look like they just stepped out of the centre page of GQ magazine usually turn out to be pretty selfish in bed anyway I think most ladies already know this.

Bottom line is women can afford to be fussy, and so they should be, however this often isn't just about looks.

Men on here just don't do themselves any favours.

Put the work in guys and you will be rewarded. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the major problem is with those that say things like that is from themselves entitlement and expectations.

Usually said from those that can’t get a meet and get rejected.

They’ve put absolutely zero effort in - Terrible photos (if any) nothing in the bio, new to the site, never been to a social or a club. Yet come on here and expect to fuck someone they message.

It’s a good thing to have preferences. And I don’t think it’s a bad thing to have demands either. I think some people find it easier to blame everything else and throw their toys out, than actually take a look at themselves and try a different approach.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I think it's a story men make up to explain to themselves why they're not getting any meets.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)"

The media, I'm convinced, cause more teen anxiety than any other outlet. Everyone is gorgeous in their own way

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)"

What is "media ideal"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

I'm with Nora thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once saw a lady status which said- "dont blame the player - blame the game." I liked that and it sums up Fab perfectly.

If you see a profile that looks off, such as fwb wanted, apply within, stocktaking (Ha ha) ect, don't engage with them. It's really that simple. That said it could just be banter. Humour often gets lost online.

Attraction comes in all forms. We're all human and we're all navigating our way through life. Fabs a distraction from reality for lots of folk.

A message gets unread so what, move on. I've been on off Fab for years and it's pretty clear to me that ladies aren't here to break records and have sex with every man on this site

Accept someone's limitations and they'll never let you down. Even better, accept your own limitations and the Fab experience may not be as frustrating. Just a thought.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Wheather it be on fab or in everyday life... we all have our preferences to who we chat to and jump into bed with.

We have come across women that want us to jump through hoops just to get a meet with them or they pit us against other couples (which is there choice and fair enough) but that's the type we just decide to say "yeah, it's a thanks but no thanks from us then"

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

That's not what i said on the other thread but there actually is a lot of data out there on female sexual selection and social media apps. The top 10% of guys get 90% of the swipes. The reverse is not the case. Noone said anyone was up themselves

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

Some are... Some men are... Some couples are.. Its life. Thankfully most arent. Nobody is forcing anyone to be on the site. You can only control what you do, not what anyone else does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

I'm with Nora thanks

5'11" do ya?! What's an inch between friends?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do with being up one of em

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)

The media, I'm convinced, cause more teen anxiety than any other outlet. Everyone is gorgeous in their own way

The only times I have found a person not to be beautiful has been because of something they said, not because of how they looked.

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

People use this site to satisfy their own personal needs. Most single women and couples here could pull any guy they want in a pub club however if looking for a NSA hookup you want to be assured of discretion and safety and the only way to be remotely sure of that is vetting guys on here by their veris and photos

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I'm sorry this is my life. I should be able to choose who comes into my life or in my vagina. So yes too dam right, I am fussy. I want to be physically attracted to the guy I fuck and that include mental stimulation as well as physical. Anything less will basically be waste of my precious time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

There was a certain thread on here I cannot remember which one where there was a guy who went on a rant and he mentioned that most on here look like there salad dodging or something to the affect

Ooooh okay gotcha, thought it was some weird penis or vagina analogy

Haha nope! Apparently all us ‘fatties’ are that way because we’re salad dodgers who prefers greggs guess where I went tonight

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I could do with being up one of em "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

I'm with Nora thanks

I identify as a 6 foot hunk .. line up girls i will be with you shortly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it's something people say to help them deal with the rejection better. I've had abuse in real life after rejecting men as well as on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks iv got a fanny like the batcave. Thank you please

"
big harold is your man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I must be up myself because I’ll only meet people that I connect with and feel like I’ll enjoy their company. I find some complaints on here absolutely baffling it’s like they think everyone should just meet everyone because we are on a swinging site. I’d rather have no meets than the wrong meets.

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Can someone point me in the direction of the 6ft hung hunks. Thank you please

I'm with Nora thanks

5'11" do ya?! What's an inch between friends?!

Yeah but is that extra inch in your pants?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What did you update?"

called myself a salad dodger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d still be the same in the real world as I am on here I don’t think I’ve got demands as such I think it’s great on here that we can choose what we write in our profiles so that people know what we’re looking for. We’re not mind readers or work on guess work straight to the point is good!

Saying that I’ve got currently not meeting and I’m still getting messages to meet or to be used as a cumslut on my knees looking up at them because there memorised by my eyes! Being talked to like sure is going to get you a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Horses for Courses” and all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I must be up myself because I’ll only meet people that I connect with and feel like I’ll enjoy their company. I find some complaints on here absolutely baffling it’s like they think everyone should just meet everyone because we are on a swinging site. I’d rather have no meets than the wrong meets. "

I feel the same way, but those who want NSA aren't looking for the same connection. Or even any connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

There was a certain thread on here I cannot remember which one where there was a guy who went on a rant and he mentioned that most on here look like there salad dodging or something to the affect

Ooooh okay gotcha, thought it was some weird penis or vagina analogy

"
no its the old pie eater but that means something totally different on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Super interesting. I do think there can be an air of women being able to be picky - I’m totally guilty of meeting men on fab who I firmly believe would never even give me a second look at a bar. To be honest for me that’s part of the appeal.

However on the flip side, men sometimes do not handle rejection well. I have been spoken to like utter shit for giving a polite no. Been told “plenty of women lining up for my dick” and so on…

I know it’s tough for men here, and I couldn’t take the steady stream of rejection so I empathise, but I agree that actually a man’s attitude is what makes me want to meet him. After all, I will be giving him my number, my address and some control over my body. That cannot be handed over to anyone with even a hint of a red flag!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah, Im definitely up myself according to many people who I wont have sex with or even reply to.

For me, looks, height and genetalia dont really come into it though. I dont even look at pics until after I know I am interested (by reading their message and/or profile).

I have got fussier since I got here too... I now only reply if I am very interested rather that mildly curious... the bar is high folks!

Fay x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

I've been on the site for a while and I've seen women referred to like that multiple times. Including the thread you mention - I am paraphrasing.

And in my messages. I have read the "research" which is oft-cited about 90/10. Suffice to say, it's NOT research. Happy to read anything else you'd like to point me to.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Me?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)

The media, I'm convinced, cause more teen anxiety than any other outlet. Everyone is gorgeous in their own way

The only times I have found a person not to be beautiful has been because of something they said, not because of how they looked."

Ugly has always been an inside thing, rather than an outside one!

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Personally I think the guys that don't look like that but think that way might as well not be on here.

If you want to meet people but have a negative attitude and don't think have a chance on here then really no point putting yourself through the trauma

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Probably been said but blokes (some anyway) get that attitude when they've been rejected!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Who is this from the m or f?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Who is this from the m or f?"

Does it matter?

We are both equally as amazing as the other

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Me?

Thats 1

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Yeah the UK national average dress size is 16, the media ideal is half that (as a high)

The media, I'm convinced, cause more teen anxiety than any other outlet. Everyone is gorgeous in their own way

The only times I have found a person not to be beautiful has been because of something they said, not because of how they looked.

Ugly has always been an inside thing, rather than an outside one! "

True that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest issue - and it runs right through this and many other threads - is using a person's gender as a proxy for their behaviour. Are some women up themselves? Sure. Are some so insecure about their looks they're too nervous to message the 6ft gym bodied Adonis because they don't believe he will be interested? Of course. Are some men seeking to blame women for their inadequacies? Of course. Are there some men in here that are genuinely nice people who get overlooked by many women simply because of their stated height? Sure. Does this mean those women aren't entitled to look for tall men? Of course not. Does a bunch of posts from men sayng they believe women here are up themselves mean that this is a universally held male belief? No.

Ffs this is the 21st century, you'd think we would have learnt to separate behavoir and gender.

The second you catch yourself thinking "men are ...." or "women think ..." or anything similar, go and get a pad and write one thousand lines saying "a person's gender does not define their behavoir" before you consider posting the thought on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn it she went off before my edit grrrrr

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

Come round this weekend and find out

If you dare…..

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Do you have a stamp of approval?

Or one of those “quality checked” marks?

Or a % score?

A review on Tripadvisor?

Yelp?

A letter from teacher?

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

Its there sex life they can do what or say what they like, Some will get offers for a meet some wont,

I'm fussy as fuck and I don't care what other people think about it, If I don't like the look of them or our personality isn't similar I wouldn't meet them,

A lot of people use this site for a fantasy meet I suppose more couples then singles, Married couple wanting that gym perfect 6ft plus hung guy or a hotter then average Woman but most just probably want the fantasy of a extra person or couple and looks are less important then personality or if they click,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Me?

Thats 1

Aww

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Do you have a stamp of approval?

Or one of those “quality checked” marks?

Or a % score?

A review on Tripadvisor?

Yelp?

A letter from teacher?"

Messages confirming I'm amazing in bed, do they count?

I keep them just in case they slag me off at a later date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only tough for the guys who want to send a message and get a instant fuck ! Or have no interest in really getting to know if they are suited to the person/people they are messaging, the guys who spend time talking and actually having conversations don’t find it tough they enjoy that aspect of the site. It’s like walking up to stranger in bar and asking they want a fuck whilst you have your cock already out for them to see and you are the hundredth guy to do it in the last 5 minutes … ( only worked for me once

)

It’s really not rocket science !!!

Maybe I shouldn’t say this but I’m often told during conversations that I’m different to the normal “fab guy” because I actually have conversations that aren’t just about sex constantly, I know I’m definitely not the only guy who has this approach but it’s just what’s natural to me and I really think if guys displayed more respect they’d enjoy the site more and potentially find more meets or at least more connections.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The biggest issue - and it runs right through this and many other threads - is using a person's gender as a proxy for their behaviour. Are some women up themselves? Sure. Are some so insecure about their looks they're too nervous to message the 6ft gym bodied Adonis because they don't believe he will be interested? Of course. Are some men seeking to blame women for their inadequacies? Of course. Are there some men in here that are genuinely nice people who get overlooked by many women simply because of their stated height? Sure. Does this mean those women aren't entitled to look for tall men? Of course not. Does a bunch of posts from men sayng they believe women here are up themselves mean that this is a universally held male belief? No.

Ffs this is the 21st century, you'd think we would have learnt to separate behavoir and gender.

Mr"

Is it too late to say "some men" and "some women" which was (I felt) clearly implied in my OP.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s only tough for the guys who want to send a message and get a instant fuck ! Or have no interest in really getting to know if they are suited to the person/people they are messaging, the guys who spend time talking and actually having conversations don’t find it tough they enjoy that aspect of the site. It’s like walking up to stranger in bar and asking they want a fuck whilst you have your cock already out for them to see and you are the hundredth guy to do it in the last 5 minutes … ( only worked for me once

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It’s really not rocket science !!!

Yes to this! Completely backs up my early comment, I want someone who can engage my mind also

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Do you have a stamp of approval?

Or one of those “quality checked” marks?

Or a % score?

A review on Tripadvisor?

Yelp?

A letter from teacher?

Messages confirming I'm amazing in bed, do they count?

I keep them just in case they slag me off at a later date

Fussy fuckers women! Anyone would think they were all up themselves!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am perhaps a bit dim, but I hadn't realised quite how much some people view Fab as fantasy material. Wanting to find their fantasy man or woman for an encounter. It had never occurred to me. Thanks, all.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

It shouldn't be generalised to all women on fab of course. There are a few that have a sense of entitlement and over inflated sense of worth due to the attention they receive here. In the past I steered well clear of them and didn't consider them appealing, regardless of how hot they might look.

Most women I've connected with here don't have this attitude.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"So are we meeting these adonises in imaginary land if we can't in the real world? How do I get to this land? Asking for a friend. "

.................................

Good point.

More choice doesn't necessarily mean better choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Depends what you mean by normal. According to the NHS 29% of women are obese with a further 30% classed as over weight (the first figure is lower for men, the second significantly higher). Statisticaly this means the median size certainly, and most likely the mean, is clinically over weight. This isn't fat shaming (as terms like salad dodger are) but it is worth pointing out that (unlike a few decades back) what the media portrays as normal is actually a healthy weight. The fact that the majority of people in this country are overweight doesn't make portraying healthy sizes a bad thing.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Do you have a stamp of approval?

Or one of those “quality checked” marks?

Or a % score?

A review on Tripadvisor?

Yelp?

A letter from teacher?

Messages confirming I'm amazing in bed, do they count?

I keep them just in case they slag me off at a later date

Fussy fuckers women! Anyone would think they were all up themselves!

I've seen photos and videos to confirm that some really are, maybe even right now while reading this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't Single men "up themselves" as well? It's not just one-sided. Both sexes do it. Muscled men do it more because they have an ego. "Hey, look at me. I'm gorgeous. Mr God. Full of muscle. No brains". Women do it because they have brains and now it gets attention.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Do you have a stamp of approval?

Or one of those “quality checked” marks?

Or a % score?

A review on Tripadvisor?

Yelp?

A letter from teacher?

Messages confirming I'm amazing in bed, do they count?

I keep them just in case they slag me off at a later date

Fussy fuckers women! Anyone would think they were all up themselves!

I've seen photos and videos to confirm that some really are, maybe even right now while reading this thread

Kinky!

Question is with the cost of living crisis, do they still go organic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Adonis here if you ladies want to take a look

6ft

Tattoos

Muscles

Big fat cock

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Adonis here if you ladies want to take a look

6ft

Tattoos

Muscles

Big fat cock

But do you have a GSOH?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs this is the 21st century, you'd think we would have learnt to separate behavoir and gender.

Is it too late to say "some men" and "some women" which was (I felt) clearly implied in my OP.

My comment was aimed generally, not at you specifically though the "ALL" in capital letters in your OP kind of suggests that whatever you personally think, you believe that some men at least judge all women in this way. If they indeed exist, these are the kind of people my post was aimed at.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

I'm alright at the sex apparently, I wouldn't just take my word for it though

Hmm I fear this is a trick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't Single men "up themselves" as well? It's not just one-sided. Both sexes do it. Muscled men do it more because they have an ego. "Hey, look at me. I'm gorgeous. Mr God. Full of muscle. No brains". Women do it because they have brains and now it gets attention. "

Do only thick men work out?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I’m

Fucking

Amazing

Only a handful of people (men and women) on this site are worthy of my time

Amazing at what precisely? Being an idiot? And the sex milarkey? General human being?

Come round this weekend and find out

If you dare….."

Don't dare me, I'll turn up on your doorstep

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

There are some yes! Seen the profiles! But there are men same as well! Had one today because he didn't get what he wanted throwing dummy out his profile was very entitled! Apparantly I'm a time wasting idiot! Even though I never promised anything in first place! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Adonis here if you ladies want to take a look

6ft

Tattoos

Muscles

Big fat cock

But do you have a GSOH?"

What is a GSOH??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve seen some self entitled men on here who think that they can talk to women like absolute dirt and think that’s okay! If someone spoke to me like that to my Face ID tell them to get some respect and walk away! This is no different so if that means I’m up myself so be it! I’d rather not have to watch what I’m saying because it could send them off into a complete rage!

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By *ister CMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"I keep seeing this mentioned on other threads, so thought I'd kickstart a discussion.

So, any thoughts?

Doesn't have to be put quite as insulting as it is...

But...I think that there are elements of truth in that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you see a profile that you deem demanding, don’t message them.

If you receive messages that you deem demanding, block and move on.

No one is forcing anyone to jump through hoops. If you choose to jump through them, that’s on you.

Often it’s a come back to being declined.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"There are some yes! Seen the profiles! But there are men same as well! Had one today because he didn't get what he wanted throwing dummy out his profile was very entitled! Apparantly I'm a time wasting idiot! Even though I never promised anything in first place! X"

I experience this the other day! They were blocked. There are all sorts on this site , some very polite and lovely and some not soo. As in all walks off life. I think you have to have broad shoulders to be on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest that anyone who thinks woman are “picky” to read some of the male or couples profiles.

I’ve seen “gym fit bodies only”, “under a certain size dress” “small boobs”, “big boobs”

Everyone has a right to a preference and if you don’t fit within that there’s not much point in trying

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)

Ffs this is the 21st century, you'd think we would have learnt to separate behavoir and gender.

Is it too late to say "some men" and "some women" which was (I felt) clearly implied in my OP.

Even if you expressly state it, some people will draw their conclusions and comment based on those instead of what you wrote!

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"If you see a profile that you deem demanding, don’t message them.

If you receive messages that you deem demanding, block and move on.

No one is forcing anyone to jump through hoops. If you choose to jump through them, that’s on you.

Often it’s a come back to being declined. "

Agree, and if they are worth it then there is no problem putting the effort in, we all have a choice on here.

I guess the male ego can be a fragile thing sometimes.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I'm getting a bit of a complex that I'm not getting this constant adoration I'm apparently supposed to be getting as a woman on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I'm getting a bit of a complex that I'm not getting this constant adoration I'm apparently supposed to be getting as a woman on here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"If you see a profile that you deem demanding, don’t message them.

If you receive messages that you deem demanding, block and move on.

No one is forcing anyone to jump through hoops. If you choose to jump through them, that’s on you.

Often it’s a come back to being declined. "

Basically this. There’s many a diva on here and there’s many a man who thinks they’re gods gift. It’s easy to work out who’s who. Just avoid whoever’s not for you. I really don’t overthink too much on here. It’s pretty simple really

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Personally I'm getting a bit of a complex that I'm not getting this constant adoration I'm apparently supposed to be getting as a woman on here

Oh wow, you are the most , beautiful, sexy, perfect, Amazing, Stunning..... enough? Or should I go on?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Personally I'm getting a bit of a complex that I'm not getting this constant adoration I'm apparently supposed to be getting as a woman on here

Oh wow, you are the most , beautiful, sexy, perfect, Amazing, Stunning..... enough? Or should I go on?

I guess it's a start

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"If you see a profile that you deem demanding, don’t message them.

If you receive messages that you deem demanding, block and move on.

No one is forcing anyone to jump through hoops. If you choose to jump through them, that’s on you.

Often it’s a come back to being declined.

Absofuckinlutely agree ..

Whatever gender you choose to be just be a respectful decent fucking human being and mean it and stop all the arguing and just get on ..

It really needn't be this difficult

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

As a woman I find women are no different to men.

Some are lovely, great company and ooze sex appeal.

Some are less so or very less so.

I've found it tends to be ladies who hold court in some clubs, sitting at the bar in their sexy attire, attracting the attention of the guys.

In Wetherspoons, sitting at the bar in normal attire, maybe not so much attention.

I love the attention and love wearing revealing clothes but don't kid myself that out in a pub with friends I'm somewhat invisible.

Grab the attention while you can but don't take it too seriously and don't believe you are something you're not.

Have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless you.

Why do you assume men who work out don’t have a brain?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"If you see a profile that you deem demanding, don’t message them.

If you receive messages that you deem demanding, block and move on.

No one is forcing anyone to jump through hoops. If you choose to jump through them, that’s on you.

Often it’s a come back to being declined.

I just worship your legs and your bikinis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"100% a salad dodger here

Still extremely picky on fab though... I want something different than what I'm getting at home. Fab is about living out our fantasies and my fantasy man is muscular and well hung

Will you share him when your done

asking for a friend

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

"Off topic but whats a salad dodger?

My guess is someone who is larger than the media espoused ideal...

You mean normal

Mr"

I'll say once again, I thought salad dodger was hilarious. I'll take a look on the NHS website, see what they reckon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good discussion everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's hilarious

I have my message filters on super tight so on average i probably get about 10-15 messages a day

Most of those are either unverified- instant delete, miles away from me - instant delete, or 'meet now' type messages - instant delete.

Some the few well mannered men who message me, I either don't find them attractive.

When I do actually find a man I'm interested in and build up a rapport with there's usually something that comes out that stops me meeting them, can't accommodate, admit that they're in a relationship.

Men think that because there are more men than women on here we are knee deep in penis when it's not the case at all.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Personally I'm getting a bit of a complex that I'm not getting this constant adoration I'm apparently supposed to be getting as a woman on here

Oh wow, you are the most , beautiful, sexy, perfect, Amazing, Stunning..... enough? Or should I go on?

I guess it's a start

Funny, intelligent, delicious, Devine, lovely, cool, cute and definitely not demanding! How about now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair I've been in this world a long time and sorry to say but some women and couples have been guilty of being " up themselves " but not because they are picky but because they have had all this attention/ adoration that they somehow are better than other people.

I've seen people belittle others because of this..

Yes it would be very easy to let all the ego rubbing comments make you big headed but I remember that I could have a faceless profile and id still get comments "

Fab royalty and forum favourites.

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