FabSwingers.com forum: Winks are good

By *r Analytic OP Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

It's a polite way saying " i read your profile looked at you photos may have fabed a few. If you wanna chat wink back".

It's like when you out in a bar,and you see someone you like. You look over try and lock on with there eyes. And you can get an idea if they are interested to have a conversation with.

I know the ladies get bombarded with messages and sometimes the unprovoked unnecessary dickpic. So it's a less intrusive to grab someone's attention.

How do you take the wink?

Do you see it the same way or errr creep?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Thanks for the explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are ignored by 99 percent on here as the messages are overwhelming too

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

i dont mind a wink,,

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By *Darkhorse69Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire/ South Yorkshire

They are Pretty lazy to be truthful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always check out the profile of anyone who sends us a wink. If we don’t respond it’s because we have read there profile and don’t have any interests that match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ignore them

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m wracking my brain. I don’t think I’ve ever had a meet come from a wink. So for that reason they are pointless for me.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t send messages after seeing multiple screenshots of initial messages from different blokes being shared in an all female Telegram group.

For that very reason I only send winks now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t send messages after seeing multiple screenshots of initial messages from different blokes being shared in an all female Telegram group.

For that very reason I only send winks now.

Did you happen to see your knob in these messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get any thankfully

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I don’t send messages after seeing multiple screenshots of initial messages from different blokes being shared in an all female Telegram group.

For that very reason I only send winks now.

Did you happen to see your knob in these messages?"

I’ve never sent my knob in an initial message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t send messages after seeing multiple screenshots of initial messages from different blokes being shared in an all female Telegram group.

For that very reason I only send winks now.

Did you happen to see your knob in these messages?

I’ve never sent my knob in an initial message

Just the balls? Smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a sign they lack confidence or chat.

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By *r Analytic OP Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"Maybe a sign they lack confidence or chat."

Not at all.

You don't just walk up to someone and just talk. First you acknowledge each other and you can tell if they would be more than ok for a chat.

Two ways I start a conversation

1st if they have put a status up and start with that. Really depends on what status is said to how you start.

2nd read the bio see if there is a conversation you just starts with from there.

If there in no status or much to go from, from the bio then it's all about what they look like then a wink is a polite way saying you look nice would you like to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I ignore winks

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time."

That's a good idea.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

"It's a polite way saying " i read your profile looked at you photos may have fabed a few. If you wanna chat wink back".

It's like when you out in a bar,and you see someone you like. You look over try and lock on with there eyes. And you can get an idea if they are interested to have a conversation with.

I know the ladies get bombarded with messages and sometimes the unprovoked unnecessary dickpic. So it's a less intrusive to grab someone's attention.

How do you take the wink? Never look as I prefer a message.

Would look if I was joining in on a forum thread.

Do you see it the same way or errr creep?"
not creepy.

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Don't mind a cheeky wink

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By *he Wrangler and BelleCouple
over a year ago

Bishops Strortford

We wink and fab pictures on profiles of those that interest us. We do it to say hi were here and if you are interested then please feel free to wink back. If that happens then we message.

As for being lazy, I don't agree.

I know some people are inundated with messages, I've seen messages sent that have stay unread for 3 weeks, which I fully understand.

I also prefer to send a wink because if it's reciprocated then you can send that first message beginning with thanks for the wink and then write why you winked, what you liked etc.

We have chatted with some wonderful people through winks and are hoping to meet some of them soon.

D x

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By *r Analytic OP Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time."

That would be a great idea kinda like oh a match lets open private message up for then.

That would stop/reduce the bombarding of unnecessary messages and dick pics and aggressive messages.

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I'll wink, its just testing the water, right?!

... more likely to message though to be fair, or reply directly off a forum thread

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I just looked, and I have hundreds of winks that I didn't even know were there! I tend to spend most of my time on here in the forum and deleting unwanted messages and dick pics. So winks, unsolicited friend requests and gabs of my photos pretty much go un-noticed.

On fact, I rarely engage with anyone these days unless it's through something arising in the forum. And those messages are easy to spot in my inbox because the subject line is the thread heading.

Time is short, and precious, so I need to manage my fabmin appropriately.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Lack of effort. Like "hi" or "hello" as an opening message.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

The wink system works much better for women winking men than the other way around. Valid way of showing interest if unsure to message. I'd always reply if the person's profile was appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had great meets that began with a wink

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"The wink system works much better for women winking men than the other way around. Valid way of showing interest if unsure to message. I'd always reply if the person's profile was appealing."

I agree that it probably works much better for us women.

However, when my message filters are open, I always check any winks I receive too. If I like the look of your profile then I wink back.

I feel it’s a much more organic way of initially contacting someone than having an amazingly interesting first message that you just cut and paste to suit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works for me i was shown true happiness for a time because of a wink and have spoken to and met many people off the back of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It must work occasionally.

I winked a woman here. Within half an hour of that, I was balls deep in her.

Result.

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By *heMixologistMan
over a year ago

London

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time."

If you block single men (or any other demographic) im pretty sure sending a wink enables them to message you

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By *heMixologistMan
over a year ago

London

Most of the people do not see the winks here i think,but same as you i think its a good way of showing that you are interested in someone. If they do not care to watch your profile after you have winked,then there is no point to text them…

This is how i read it..

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

. (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time.

If you block single men (or any other demographic) im pretty sure sending a wink enables them to message you "

Indeed it does

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Sometimes I get winked and I wink back or message and then nothing, I tend to ignore most of them for that reason.

It's easier in public than on here to know if someone is really interested or just messing around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes I get winked and I wink back or message and then nothing, I tend to ignore most of them for that reason.

It's easier in public than on here to know if someone is really interested or just messing around "

Do people still wink at each other in public? I'd assume they just had dirt in their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time."

This is actually a fucking brilliant idea! Like a matching system

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Sometimes I get winked and I wink back or message and then nothing, I tend to ignore most of them for that reason.

It's easier in public than on here to know if someone is really interested or just messing around

Do people still wink at each other in public? I'd assume they just had dirt in their eyes "

I do, I'm awful for it

If I don't get one back I act like I have a bug in my eye

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By *rungeguyMan
over a year ago

leeds

Only ever had one wink off a woman

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By *r Analytic OP Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"Sometimes I get winked and I wink back or message and then nothing, I tend to ignore most of them for that reason.

It's easier in public than on here to know if someone is really interested or just messing around

Do people still wink at each other in public? I'd assume they just had dirt in their eyes "

Well i dont wink in public more of a I noticed you look. A cheeky look or your hot look. Hard to explain more a in person thing tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is 100 percent a good idea….

There a far too many messages to go through.. never mind winks too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish the wink system was the only form of contact. Then if the feelings mutual, the messaging box could be open between those people. It would stop a lot of bombarding and people wasting time.

This is actually a fucking brilliant idea! Like a matching system "

Would certainly make people put effort into their profiles and stop alot of unwanted mail too x

We use the wink system, if someone winks us we check out the profile and follow up with a message if we're interested.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

I like to wave my winky about

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