FabSwingers.com forum: Married man allows to play but….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So my wife and I have a couples account on here and I also have a singles account but she’s not really interested in playing with variety. She has a particular FWB.

What this means is I get to play around but it’s almost as if there is a stigma against married men playing separately. Anybody else find this?

So far I’ve found fab unsuccessful and this means unverified which makes it doubly hard ironically.

How do you get passed this problem? Any hints/tips/advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not open married men that's the issue for most women, it's married men who don't have permission that's the stigma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've mentioned your couples profile and it's photo verified so that's a start.

I would aks why you think it's your married status getting in the way rather than anything else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The big problem I see is your couples account isn’t verified either.

So people may assume you’re playing without your wife’s knowledge and will be reluctant to meet you.

You could always go to a club and get verified that way.

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere

Can't whoever verified your couples profile verify yourself,after all,it's still you

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You have no verifications displayed on your couples account and the only picture is of you both in a fully clothed snap, so it makes me question if you really do have a consenting wife. Sorry for being so suspicious.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The text of your profile says nothing except you are married. Maybe write something about what you like and what you can offer ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

I suppose I might be caught up in the trap that there are a lot of cheating men out there. Until someone takes a chance I’ll just have to wait. Although the meets thing might be the way forward. We’ve been to TG and plan to go again. Also, planning a trip to Bristol Hotel Gardens spa so if there are fabbers there then those could work for verification.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"You have no verifications displayed on your couples account and the only picture is of you both in a fully clothed snap, so it makes me question if you really do have a consenting wife. Sorry for being so suspicious. "

Again, not an accusation, but the photo on your couples profile looks like a holiday snap that you have put up, not one that overtly says we are looking for sex.

Perhaps both go into the cam rooms and ask someone to verify you as a couple ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again, not an accusation, but the photo on your couples profile looks like a holiday snap that you have put up, not one that overtly says we are looking for sex.

Perhaps both go into the cam rooms and ask someone to verify you as a couple ? "

That’s a good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it."

Ok. Didn’t know you could do that other than the photo verification. Without wanting to sound stupid but how exactly?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The staff at a club or spa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

Ok. Didn’t know you could do that other than the photo verification. Without wanting to sound stupid but how exactly?"

The staff at the club you plan on going to. That’s how we got our first veri.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Seems a strange move to make a couples profile if your wife doesnt play here. Also that its just a family snapshot youve used.

People can get suspicious of those traits

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems a strange move to make a couples profile if your wife doesnt play here. Also that its just a family snapshot youve used.

People can get suspicious of those traits"

So I’m gathering. The naughtier stuff is hidden however. We are new to this generally so call it naivety.

What I’m getting from this is verification from staff at events and a reworking of our profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in a similar situation,my wife has gone right off sex after she fell for a guy we met on here,he stung her along for as long as it suited him,then dumped her by texting me ! As a result my wife has lost all interest in swinging & sex with anyone including me. She is happy for me to get it elsewhere,but I've encountered people on here who won't believe that I'm playing with her blessing.

Very annoying.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

We started as a swinging couple that progressed into us also playing solo we also attended numerous socials and became quite well known in those circles so it can work , just because your wife doesnt want to play doesnt mean you both cant attend things like that and get known and verified ..the more you can do to prove you are genuine the easier it becomes

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

I’m in the same boat. I’m lucky to have 2 meets in the last 3 years. I have a lot of verifications from going to clubs. The honest truth about it is no matter who you are you will struggle. There are 10 men (probably more) to 1 women. Then you got to think that women will then filter those out by who they are attracted to, how has a good opening message etc so even if you on par with her other options you may get filtered out due to the fact you’re married.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Meets and events are the way forward. Messaging on fab is a long shot generally then.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Seems a strange move to make a couples profile if your wife doesnt play here. "

Yes I am wondering what is the point of the couples profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems a strange move to make a couples profile if your wife doesnt play here.

Yes I am wondering what is the point of the couples profile"

It was set up before she decided to limit to one guy specifically. He’s a Dom master and she likes what he does ??. We kept it up just in case someone or a couple did take our fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems a strange move to make a couples profile if your wife doesnt play here.

Yes I am wondering what is the point of the couples profile

It was set up before she decided to limit to one guy specifically. He’s a Dom master and she likes what he does ??. We kept it up just in case someone or a couple did take our fancy. "

Why can't he verify you both?

I agree with everyone else. Just looks like some random day out pic and she has no idea.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

My issue would be if the wife was happy for him to see me regularly, and I'd want discretion regardless of them being married.

Also, I'm not a fan of regular hotel sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my wife and I have a couples account on here and I also have a singles account but she’s not really interested in playing with variety. She has a particular FWB.

What this means is I get to play around but it’s almost as if there is a stigma against married men playing separately. Anybody else find this?

So far I’ve found fab unsuccessful and this means unverified which makes it doubly hard ironically.

How do you get passed this problem? Any hints/tips/advice?"

I won't meet married people where the partner knows. I don't want my sex life discussed with other people.

Don't care if they're cheating, they are more likely to be discreet as too much to lose.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it."

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work "

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single women have their choice - it's just simpler with single men. Like Outsider, I don't like being discussed with someone's partner.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Just my two pennies worth but your couple profile isn’t verified by other meets and the text reads a bit like a guy who is playing without permission so in the words of the apprentice “I’m out” for both profiles.

Maybe if you truly have an open marriage your wife could help you with both profiles? Jazz it up a bit more to sound like you are actually a couple looking to play together at some point…I dunno I’m just being Judgey McJudgeface

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?"

I don't know about TG but BGHS aren't a club they are a nudist spa. That could be why.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?

I don't know about TG but BGHS aren't a club they are a nudist spa. That could be why.

Pxx"

Makes sense.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?"

Torture Garden is a huge fet and lifestyle event, londin venues have multiple rooms and over a thousand attendees, they host events across Europe and also in America. They have no formal presence on here, you'll unlikely meet the organiser/owners, most of the staff at London events will be venue staff and the TG crew/staff wholl be in the play areas are more interested in keeping people safe than socialising and there's no guarantee that any of them will be on fab. It's not a swingers club.

And BHGS is a spa and again has no real presence on here, and from all the stories I hear while swinging is tolerated in part of the venue they very much market themselves as a spa, and I think asking for a verification for fab would likely not be well received. Again, it's not a swingers club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?

I don't know about TG but BGHS aren't a club they are a nudist spa. That could be why.

Pxx

Makes sense."

Yeah Torture Garden would likely not verify if that’s what TG is for! But then it’s not a swinging club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is definitely suspicious I suppose not being verified on either account but we are photo verified and you do have to hold up the username and stuff etc.

Ask the staff to verify you. They’ll be more than happy to do it.

The staff at TG wont verify a fab profile and I'd be surprised if the staff at BHGS would either.

If yiu want a venue to verify then you'll need a more traditional swinging site.

Though your first comment of meeting people at those 2 events would work

Really? Every club we’ve attended are happy to do so. Why don’t they?

I didn’t know any of that. Thanks for the info.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

We are an open married couples, just me now playing

We have verifications going back over the years showing this. But still seem to be regarded as a cheat by many

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Your single profile tells us nothing op, other than you're married.

Fill out what you can offer and what you're into etc.

My partner & I meet separately& have a couple profile.Hes had some good meets,we cross reference all our profiles and i'll happily speak to anyone who wants to meet him ,so they know its all above board .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my wife and I have a couples account on here and I also have a singles account but she’s not really interested in playing with variety. She has a particular FWB.

What this means is I get to play around but it’s almost as if there is a stigma against married men playing separately. Anybody else find this?

So far I’ve found fab unsuccessful and this means unverified which makes it doubly hard ironically.

How do you get passed this problem? Any hints/tips/advice?

I won't meet married people where the partner knows. I don't want my sex life discussed with other people.

Don't care if they're cheating, they are more likely to be discreet as too much to lose. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I have no problem playing with married guys as long as it’s open as long as the wife knows

It’s the people playing behind someone’s back I have a problem with

As it brings trubble to me unknownly

I don’t need someone wife or girlfriend turning up at the door because they left fab open or didn’t delete a text or something

I don’t need someone wife or girlfriend calling me all the 3-4-5 letter bad words under the sun

When in reality I did nothing wrong I didn’t know if I did I wouldn’t have went there as cheating is wrong

For me when it comes to meeting one hafe a couple as long as I have meet both 1st before hand to gether

Then happy to meet the other hafe as meny times as they like them selfs

Don’t need to play on the together meet

As long as I had a chat with both face to face then happy

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