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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Surley this would be a good idea for this site, as so many people are now struggling in both areas ?

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By *heNerdyFembyWoman
over a year ago

Eastbourne (she/they)


"Surley this would be a good idea for this site, as so many people are now struggling in both areas ? "

first I 100% agree mental health needs to be treated more seriously and everyone could use more help in this regard.

Saying that the problem with a forum is your not always going to get good advice and some of it could actually be harmful instead of helpful. I don't think anyone wants that.

I would love it if professional help was more accessible though

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

By creating a forum for mental health and well being, it could be viewed that the site is accountable for the advice offered.

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Totally agree that help should be available, but that can only be achieved if lots of people are talking about it

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"By creating a forum for mental health and well being, it could be viewed that the site is accountable for the advice offered."
we all know the site doesn't type for the individual, this about helping people not scaremongering

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"By creating a forum for mental health and well being, it could be viewed that the site is accountable for the advice offered. we all know the site doesn't type for the individual, this about helping people not scaremongering "

I am all for supporting mental health, and the threads I have seen in the past are usually for supportive to the posters.

I am saying, in this day and age of risk assessments, red tape and accountability etc. The site risks being made accountable for the advice offered I am guessing.

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though"
where on here is dedicated to mental health and well-being?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing dedicated. But check through the threads,sometimes someone will start something.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though where on here is dedicated to mental health and well-being?"

There isn't a dedicated mental health forum, but there are posters who open a thread from time to time saying they are struggling. The threads usually get good responses and lots of supportive advice.

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X"
thank you will look now x

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X thank you will look now x"
in my favour though I'm looking, and your telling me to search Monday morning mental health wellbeing, shouldn't it be at the forefront where everyone can see it

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Type in 'mental health' into forum Search box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X thank you will look now x in my favour though I'm looking, and your telling me to search Monday morning mental health wellbeing, shouldn't it be at the forefront where everyone can see it "

Possibly so, but it’s how I found it, so just passing it on. Also, it’s an individuals thread, and it could become overwhelming! Maybe I shouldn’t have advertised it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the virus section should be the health section.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though where on here is dedicated to mental health and well-being?"

There's a weekly mental health check in thread, loads of other threads started intermittently that often get a good response

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Thank you to all that replied I'll start looking at some of the suggested searches suggested x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you to all that replied I'll start looking at some of the suggested searches suggested x"

Is there something specific you wanted help with or to talk about?

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X"
copied and pasted Monday morning mental health wellbeing came up with no results?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have used the Monday health check in thread and found it useful at times

People do try and help and give advice

I do sometimes worry being so open may put people off contacting for fun as they may think they are too dark to enjoy life but sometimes you need somewhere to talk

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X copied and pasted Monday morning mental health wellbeing came up with no results? "

just put 'mental health' in the forum search box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Search ‘Monday morning mental health wellbeing’, they lovely lady that starts the thread and very caring and thoughtful.

X"

I can't find it either would you mind bumping it up if you can find it please.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1330700

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree mental health is a grave concern but I also believe sites like this are no good for people dealing with mental health issues..something that serious should be dealt with in a professional setting and not on a site primarily based on how you look...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Monday mental health check-in

Try that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Monday mental health check-in

Try that!"

I've just found it and commented so it should be at the top of the lounge list now. X

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"I agree mental health is a grave concern but I also believe sites like this are no good for people dealing with mental health issues..something that serious should be dealt with in a professional setting and not on a site primarily based on how you look..."

My mental health has been life threateningly bad this year, I wasn't posting on the forums then but friends in here knew and I didn't get any negativity, and I've been fairly frank on threads since i posted without negativity

I think anything we post on the forums is a filter, if people are out off by talk of mental health would you want to meet them anyway?

Xx

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry


"I agree mental health is a grave concern but I also believe sites like this are no good for people dealing with mental health issues..something that serious should be dealt with in a professional setting and not on a site primarily based on how you look..."
primarily I come across I'm lead to believe by what people around me say,like crocodile Dundee and mick Carter, but im far from it

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By *ust me mod OP   Man
over a year ago

coventry

Thanks for the suggestions will look at them tomorrow,don't think I'm being push aside all suggestions, i need help, I've suffered fo 30 yrs and am still here but the last 10 have been hard made even more so by covid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are genuinely struggling, there are other places where they can get more efficient help than on here. I've become a little skeptical as everyone I've tried to help has taken the conversation sexual as soon as they feel we have made common ground.

I'd say yes talk to people but don't rely on strangers on the internet to solve your problems especially with the toxicity around sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree mental health is a grave concern but I also believe sites like this are no good for people dealing with mental health issues..something that serious should be dealt with in a professional setting and not on a site primarily based on how you look..."

Fair point. Also some types will use the information to try and get sex. Sad but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

John really struggles with his PTSD from his army days. But feels so at ease when we go to club's. Everyone is so friendly and puts him at ease. So a permanent forum would be amazing. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree mental health is a grave concern but I also believe sites like this are no good for people dealing with mental health issues..something that serious should be dealt with in a professional setting and not on a site primarily based on how you look...

Fair point. Also some types will use the information to try and get sex. Sad but true. "

Very true. People exploit vulnerability whenever they can.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Numerous men have started threads about mental health issues they were facing and as expected empathy and understanding were lacking in many replies even to the point where they were told to man up.

Numerous women have started threads about mental health issues they were facing and strangely those are treated completely differently.

This may be a sharing community but as a whole it's not a caring community.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Again I agree with the above.

I have noticed a shift towards men being supported though. However often posts that seem antagonistic in tone or where the op hasn't expressed themselves well but are covering real pain, confusion and hurt elicit aggressive responses. On a more appropriate platform this would possibly be spotted and dealt with quite differently. Mental health problems aren't always obviously presented.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though"

There are forums for Australia and New Zealand with bugger all in them. A health and wellbeing section would be more useful than those two at least

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though

There are forums for Australia and New Zealand with bugger all in them. A health and wellbeing section would be more useful than those two at least "

And that's the point, there's a load of sub forums that get minimal traffic. A thread in the main forum is much more likely to be seen

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Again I agree with the above.

I have noticed a shift towards men being supported though. However often posts that seem antagonistic in tone or where the op hasn't expressed themselves well but are covering real pain, confusion and hurt elicit aggressive responses. On a more appropriate platform this would possibly be spotted and dealt with quite differently. Mental health problems aren't always obviously presented."

I agree, since I've been back on, mental health definitely seems one of the topics that responses don't seem overly gender influenced.

But I'd also agree, in other threads, kindness is often lacking, kicking single men is definitely a preferred past time to some on here, it seems unnecessary.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Again I agree with the above.

I have noticed a shift towards men being supported though. However often posts that seem antagonistic in tone or where the op hasn't expressed themselves well but are covering real pain, confusion and hurt elicit aggressive responses. On a more appropriate platform this would possibly be spotted and dealt with quite differently. Mental health problems aren't always obviously presented.

I agree, since I've been back on, mental health definitely seems one of the topics that responses don't seem overly gender influenced.

But I'd also agree, in other threads, kindness is often lacking, kicking single men is definitely a preferred past time to some on here, it seems unnecessary. "

It is unnecessary a lot of the time and often done by people who would be shocked if you told them they were bullies. Young fairly naive (and let's face it most young people are naive it goes with the territory) men are treated very poorly and yet they are the ones we're told are most likely to suffer mental ill health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though

There are forums for Australia and New Zealand with bugger all in them. A health and wellbeing section would be more useful than those two at least

And that's the point, there's a load of sub forums that get minimal traffic. A thread in the main forum is much more likely to be seen"

I see what you are saying but I think a separate section covering all manner of health and wellbeing would be well used

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though

There are forums for Australia and New Zealand with bugger all in them. A health and wellbeing section would be more useful than those two at least

And that's the point, there's a load of sub forums that get minimal traffic. A thread in the main forum is much more likely to be seen

I see what you are saying but I think a separate section covering all manner of health and wellbeing would be well used"

It has the potential to be well abused as well.

You only have to look at the "be nice" threads and comments from people who are very vocal and supportive in public but are renowned for all sorts of nefarious games elsewhere often using info gleaned from vulnerable people.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Again I agree with the above.

I have noticed a shift towards men being supported though. However often posts that seem antagonistic in tone or where the op hasn't expressed themselves well but are covering real pain, confusion and hurt elicit aggressive responses. On a more appropriate platform this would possibly be spotted and dealt with quite differently. Mental health problems aren't always obviously presented.

I agree, since I've been back on, mental health definitely seems one of the topics that responses don't seem overly gender influenced.

But I'd also agree, in other threads, kindness is often lacking, kicking single men is definitely a preferred past time to some on here, it seems unnecessary.

It is unnecessary a lot of the time and often done by people who would be shocked if you told them they were bullies. Young fairly naive (and let's face it most young people are naive it goes with the territory) men are treated very poorly and yet they are the ones we're told are most likely to suffer mental ill health. "

Yes the old 'I tell it like it is' bullshit. No you are being cruel, vindictive and trying to look superior. What's worse is that a couple of comments will inevitably lead to an influx of similar comments.

And those who remember me from old, I know I could be all of those things, but I've reflected a lot on that behavoir of late, it's not something im proud of but I dint think I wa ever as nasty as some of what I see targeted at some men on here

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

Fab is not the best place to seek support for your mental health in my opinion. I’m not saying you can’t find help on here, but this is a swingers site and not a mental health support forum. There will be many other online support forums which will be regulated appropriately for those with MH difficulties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is not the best place to seek support for your mental health in my opinion. I’m not saying you can’t find help on here, but this is a swingers site and not a mental health support forum. There will be many other online support forums which will be regulated appropriately for those with MH difficulties. "

I agree to a certain extent, I think Sometimes if someone is just having a rubbish day or a bit of a rubbish time then chatting to people on here about it can be really helpful. It's when people have complex, long term or ongoing issues that I think people should seek support somewhere better equipped at helping them.

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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)


"Fab is not the best place to seek support for your mental health in my opinion. I’m not saying you can’t find help on here, but this is a swingers site and not a mental health support forum. There will be many other online support forums which will be regulated appropriately for those with MH difficulties.

I agree to a certain extent, I think Sometimes if someone is just having a rubbish day or a bit of a rubbish time then chatting to people on here about it can be really helpful. It's when people have complex, long term or ongoing issues that I think people should seek support somewhere better equipped at helping them. "

Yeah I agree. That what I meant by you can find some help here but I think it’s best not to use fab as a primary source of support.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is not the best place to seek support for your mental health in my opinion. I’m not saying you can’t find help on here, but this is a swingers site and not a mental health support forum. There will be many other online support forums which will be regulated appropriately for those with MH difficulties.

I agree to a certain extent, I think Sometimes if someone is just having a rubbish day or a bit of a rubbish time then chatting to people on here about it can be really helpful. It's when people have complex, long term or ongoing issues that I think people should seek support somewhere better equipped at helping them.

Yeah I agree. That what I meant by you can find some help here but I think it’s best not to use fab as a primary source of support. "

I think you hit the nail on the head, It's fine to seek support here but not rely on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People talk and support on here, I'm not sure there's enough thread to warrant an entire forum though

There are forums for Australia and New Zealand with bugger all in them. A health and wellbeing section would be more useful than those two at least

And that's the point, there's a load of sub forums that get minimal traffic. A thread in the main forum is much more likely to be seen

I see what you are saying but I think a separate section covering all manner of health and wellbeing would be well used

It has the potential to be well abused as well.

You only have to look at the "be nice" threads and comments from people who are very vocal and supportive in public but are renowned for all sorts of nefarious games elsewhere often using info gleaned from vulnerable people. "

You've convinced me - let's not bother just in case it's hard work

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