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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " If we recieved a message from a profile with no visible photos (you don't have to show your face publicly) and limited info in the text? We'd delete in a heartbeat. Nobody will reply if they're not interested and few will go to the effort to try and find out more when there are hundreds of well constructed profiles to catch the eye. A | |||
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"Only you can say if you're wasting your time. Do you want advice on how to present yourself in a way that might encourage more replies?" Are you meeting us then ? | |||
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"Even with out the status lol " You have veris so not all bad | |||
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"I'll say it Men Outline the Females easy +10/ -1 or more It's a Cheap site Pretty bad once the locals reinforce the paying of friends and communication, there may be a chance of plugging formality here to keep your image from being spread, Probably find family & neighbours doing it Will say this it's very often the sniggers, secret £££ meetings gangs & Sparting Can bring life borishly into Pretty Bollox All I've never had a meet off here and there are snooping individuals know it I can build a whole house to myself or a stables ,, Where are those Fillies ?? Hiding as models ? " I'd go for the house  | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. " In what way are womens standards warped? | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped?" They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped? They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. " If the womens get meets are their standards to high then? | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped? They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. " Unrealistically high by your assessment? And why is the situation you speak of only an issue that women contribute. Rather than men being unable to communicate (as an example). | |||
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"I'll say it Men Outline the Females easy +10/ -1 or more It's a Cheap site Pretty bad once the locals reinforce the paying of friends and communication, there may be a chance of plugging formality here to keep your image from being spread, Probably find family & neighbours doing it Will say this it's very often the sniggers, secret £££ meetings gangs & Sparting Can bring life borishly into Pretty Bollox All I've never had a meet off here and there are snooping individuals know it I can build a whole house to myself or a stables ,, Where are those Fillies ?? Hiding as models ? I'd go for the house "What size would you like^^^ What price would it fetch | |||
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"I'll say it Men Outline the Females easy +10/ -1 or more It's a Cheap site Pretty bad once the locals reinforce the paying of friends and communication, there may be a chance of plugging formality here to keep your image from being spread, Probably find family & neighbours doing it Will say this it's very often the sniggers, secret £££ meetings gangs & Sparting Can bring life borishly into Pretty Bollox All I've never had a meet off here and there are snooping individuals know it I can build a whole house to myself or a stables ,, Where are those Fillies ?? Hiding as models ? I'd go for the house
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What price would it fetch "It's your house, I have my own thank you | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped? They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. Unrealistically high by your assessment? And why is the situation you speak of only an issue that women contribute. Rather than men being unable to communicate (as an example)." I think it’s a bit of both. I think social media has definitely made some men less good at communicating But I think the bigger thing is when every women has 100s of messages a day all begging for her attention, that guy she might see out at the shops and fancy, suddenly isn’t good enough. Just my experiences , what I’ve seen going on. I don’t think people are designed to live with a million people tucked away on their phone or on a website or app. I think I’d messes with peoples heads | |||
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"I'll say it Men Outline the Females easy +10/ -1 or more It's a Cheap site Pretty bad once the locals reinforce the paying of friends and communication, there may be a chance of plugging formality here to keep your image from being spread, Probably find family & neighbours doing it Will say this it's very often the sniggers, secret £££ meetings gangs & Sparting Can bring life borishly into Pretty Bollox All I've never had a meet off here and there are snooping individuals know it I can build a whole house to myself or a stables ,, Where are those Fillies ?? Hiding as models ? I'd go for the house
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It's your house, I have my own thank you "Is it in Malice ^^ | |||
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"I'll say it Men Outline the Females easy +10/ -1 or more It's a Cheap site Pretty bad once the locals reinforce the paying of friends and communication, there may be a chance of plugging formality here to keep your image from being spread, Probably find family & neighbours doing it Will say this it's very often the sniggers, secret £££ meetings gangs & Sparting Can bring life borishly into Pretty Bollox All I've never had a meet off here and there are snooping individuals know it I can build a whole house to myself or a stables ,, Where are those Fillies ?? Hiding as models ? I'd go for the house
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " What pictures do you send? What do you think swinging is? | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped? They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. Unrealistically high by your assessment? And why is the situation you speak of only an issue that women contribute. Rather than men being unable to communicate (as an example). I think it’s a bit of both. I think social media has definitely made some men less good at communicating But I think the bigger thing is when every women has 100s of messages a day all begging for her attention, that guy she might see out at the shops and fancy, suddenly isn’t good enough. Just my experiences , what I’ve seen going on. I don’t think people are designed to live with a million people tucked away on their phone or on a website or app. I think I’d messes with peoples heads " The men who can communicate do fine on this site, I feel. It's more about than the size of their dicks for many women and couples. I don't get 100s of messages. I've seen lots of other women here say they don't either. What you're saying is that if women have lots of choice, it goes to their heads and they get full of themselves (I think). I've seen a lot of guys say this in the short time I've been on the site. And my experience of the site and my knowledge of women don't add up to the same conclusion. Yes of course there will be women who get a big head. But you'd have to be reasonably daft to do that. | |||
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"Veris dont mean nothing now a days more about how a person looks " If that was the case I'd have zero veri's! Maybe, I'm just guessing it might have something to do with having a personality? | |||
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"That’s the game now The internet, social media and places like this have done to womens standards the same thing internet porn did to mens view on sex. It’s completely warped things Get to socials or clubs where you’ll do better. In what way are womens standards warped? They are unrealistically high, inflated by the unlimited options that online social media / dating / hookups provide That’s why I say go to clubs/socials. Guys that would do great in person do horribly on here because the options are unlimited. Unrealistically high by your assessment? And why is the situation you speak of only an issue that women contribute. Rather than men being unable to communicate (as an example). I think it’s a bit of both. I think social media has definitely made some men less good at communicating But I think the bigger thing is when every women has 100s of messages a day all begging for her attention, that guy she might see out at the shops and fancy, suddenly isn’t good enough. Just my experiences , what I’ve seen going on. I don’t think people are designed to live with a million people tucked away on their phone or on a website or app. I think I’d messes with peoples heads The men who can communicate do fine on this site, I feel. It's more about than the size of their dicks for many women and couples. I don't get 100s of messages. I've seen lots of other women here say they don't either. What you're saying is that if women have lots of choice, it goes to their heads and they get full of themselves (I think). I've seen a lot of guys say this in the short time I've been on the site. And my experience of the site and my knowledge of women don't add up to the same conclusion. Yes of course there will be women who get a big head. But you'd have to be reasonably daft to do that. " I’d disagree, there’s plenty of men in here that communicate just fine, and still get ignored. But that’s for a number of reasons. And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options Kinda like a kid that has every toy. He’s so spoiled for choice he ends up playing with none of them. None are good enough. When it reality, plenty are good enough if he didn’t have such unlimited options. I really think it’s social media. Humans have always been fairly tight knit communities. Even in cities people had small social/business communities. Now everyone has access to unlimited humans in their pocket. People are reduced to a left or right swipe, or a quick glance at the headline of a message then delete. I think that effects us | |||
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"Veris dont mean nothing now a days more about how a person looks If that was the case I'd have zero veri's! Maybe, I'm just guessing it might have something to do with having a personality? " Choosing personality over a big wang and shredded abs? Who'd have thought! | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials…" why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life " Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me " Yeah only if ur good looking | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking " You are good looking. | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking " I know plenty of not great looking lads that pull every time they go out, and would get ignored on here Stop feeling sorry for yourself | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking I know plenty of not great looking lads that pull every time they go out, and would get ignored on here Stop feeling sorry for yourself " And how can u do that | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me " Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking You are good looking. " Thanks dont feel it most days | |||
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" And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options " If you're not trying to be nasty, I'd avoid talking about women's standards being too high or whatever, because it makes you sound like all the other bitter guys who come on here and moan they're not instantly getting laid. | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… " No clubs in middlesbrough so thats hard | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking I know plenty of not great looking lads that pull every time they go out, and would get ignored on here Stop feeling sorry for yourself And how can u do that " Drop the poor me attitude and go to a club or social, be nice, be friendly, be sociable and respectful You’ll do great | |||
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" And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options If you're not trying to be nasty, I'd avoid talking about women's standards being too high or whatever, because it makes you sound like all the other bitter guys who come on here and moan they're not instantly getting laid. " Women moan to there aloud so why cant men lol | |||
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" And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options If you're not trying to be nasty, I'd avoid talking about women's standards being too high or whatever, because it makes you sound like all the other bitter guys who come on here and moan they're not instantly getting laid. " Good thing I cleared up my thoughts on the rest of the comment then | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking I know plenty of not great looking lads that pull every time they go out, and would get ignored on here Stop feeling sorry for yourself And how can u do that Drop the poor me attitude and go to a club or social, be nice, be friendly, be sociable and respectful You’ll do great " No clubs in middlesbrough | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… No clubs in middlesbrough so thats hard" Are you specifically looking for something swinging related? If not surely it’s easier to pull away from this site? | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… No clubs in middlesbrough so thats hard Are you specifically looking for something swinging related? If not surely it’s easier to pull away from this site?" Even of the site it aint easy | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… " Clicked quote on the wrong guy. Meant the comment below | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… No clubs in middlesbrough so thats hard Are you specifically looking for something swinging related? If not surely it’s easier to pull away from this site? Even of the site it aint easy " I look like I’ve been hit by a bus and I’ve never found it particularly hard. | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… Clicked quote on the wrong guy. Meant the comment below " Lol | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… " *Edit sorry Thicc I didn’t realise you were quoting the other guy. I thought you were replying to me… | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… No clubs in middlesbrough so thats hard Are you specifically looking for something swinging related? If not surely it’s easier to pull away from this site? Even of the site it aint easy I look like I’ve been hit by a bus and I’ve never found it particularly hard." Lucky for some | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… *Edit sorry Thicc I didn’t realise you were quoting the other guy. I thought you were replying to me…" I just read it like 5 times trying to figure it out to, the quote was just on the end without the right spacing for some reason But yeah, I totally agree If you can’t get meets here, but won’t go to clubs or socials, you’ve no right to moan. | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. " Had more on profile but didnt work so took most of it and got more pics just dont bothet cus most ask for face pic ans still dont reply so u cant win | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… *Edit sorry Thicc I didn’t realise you were quoting the other guy. I thought you were replying to me… I just read it like 5 times trying to figure it out to, the quote was just on the end without the right spacing for some reason But yeah, I totally agree If you can’t get meets here, but won’t go to clubs or socials, you’ve no right to moan." Well if u dont get nout here u wont at socials | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… *Edit sorry Thicc I didn’t realise you were quoting the other guy. I thought you were replying to me… I just read it like 5 times trying to figure it out to, the quote was just on the end without the right spacing for some reason But yeah, I totally agree If you can’t get meets here, but won’t go to clubs or socials, you’ve no right to moan. Well if u dont get nout here u wont at socials " Why are we going around in circles? Fab is hard mode. Women get 100 messages a day. Most get ignored Socials and clubs is easy mode. You go up and say hi with a smile and she melts. You can’t give off confidence or charm in an already full inbox Either go to a social/club Or don’t whinge | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Which part am I wrong about? I know it is easier in real life. I always tell people get out there clubs and socials are on up and down the country but the ones that moan on here usually are the ones that don’t attend them. - So that’s why I said if you aren’t prepared then you better make your profile on here stand out… *Edit sorry Thicc I didn’t realise you were quoting the other guy. I thought you were replying to me… I just read it like 5 times trying to figure it out to, the quote was just on the end without the right spacing for some reason But yeah, I totally agree If you can’t get meets here, but won’t go to clubs or socials, you’ve no right to moan. Well if u dont get nout here u wont at socials " It’s almost impossible to click with an opening message. You can approach someone in the real world (socials or clubs), make a little bit of conversation and be vibing within a minute or 2. The advice here is solid. It’s up to you if you want to take it or not. | |||
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"You can have a profile picture that won’t reveal your identity. If you put the effort in you have a better chance on here. No profile picture would rule out a lot of people even replying. You’ve got to try and stand out especially if you aren’t prepared to go to clubs and socials… why bother with a social if people dont like u on this they wont in real life Your wrong pal. In real life is much easier. Trust me Yeah only if ur good looking I know plenty of not great looking lads that pull every time they go out, and would get ignored on here Stop feeling sorry for yourself And how can u do that " Stop telling us all would be a good start. | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. " There's been confusion from above message and ones that followed. Not the actual message. This message was to the op Who wrote the topic but hasn't bothered replying yet....I agree alarm bells And who's profile shows to me he thinks it's a fuck site. Then all messages after got all mixed up lol Coz the one that's feeling sorry for himself answered for the op (did anyone manage to decipher that lol) | |||
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"Well if u dont get nout here u wont at socials " … And if you don’t try, you’ll never know… What’s there to lose by going to one. Treat it like a night out and enjoy yourself | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. There's been confusion from above message and ones that followed. Not the actual message. This message was to the op Who wrote the topic but hasn't bothered replying yet....I agree alarm bells And who's profile shows to me he thinks it's a fuck site. Then all messages after got all mixed up lol Coz the one that's feeling sorry for himself answered for the op (did anyone manage to decipher that lol) " Dont think i mentioned sex lol | |||
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"I had a woman message me a few days ago, chat was good, sent her pics and she says I was cute etc. she suggested we meet Message her the next day, it’s left unopened in her inbox Did I fuck it up? Or is 99% of the challenge on fab holding their attention long enough and hoping something better doesn’t comes along to distract her in her 100 messages a day? In real life, at a social, with a real connection, eye contact, actually heading eachother voice, it’s a done deal Honestly, fabs is hard mode. Fabs is like going to the pub and there’s 1 girl and 300 guys all trying it on. It’ll never work Just go to a club or social " Which pub? Asking for a friend  | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. There's been confusion from above message and ones that followed. Not the actual message. This message was to the op Who wrote the topic but hasn't bothered replying yet....I agree alarm bells And who's profile shows to me he thinks it's a fuck site. Then all messages after got all mixed up lol Coz the one that's feeling sorry for himself answered for the op (did anyone manage to decipher that lol) Dont think i mentioned sex lol " You answered a comment that was directed at the op I tried to differentiate what messages were for you and what was aimed at the op The sex message was for the op. But you've answered thinking it was to you | |||
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"We are a fully genuine bi couple, maybe not to everyone’s taste and that’s fine but we do struggle getting people to meet. We find most peoplejust want to collect pics and are only available 3 days a year at 3.17am when we let them know our availability. That said we have met some great people on here and a fantastic couple we are becoming friends with outside of fab. I guess it’s the same as anything in life the more effort you put into it the more you will get back out! X" We were in the same boat. We’re not meeting but when we were we’d really struggle to find anyone. We’d get a lot of interest but nothing concrete and we’d just end up sacking it off and going to a club so it’s not just single men that find it hard on here. | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys Is it coincidence that you and the 'woman' who gave you your verification, both joined 7 months ago? Coincidence that you both are only verified by each other and nobody else? Profile pics, profile text aside, that would set alarm bells ringing for a fair few I'm sure. There's been confusion from above message and ones that followed. Not the actual message. This message was to the op Who wrote the topic but hasn't bothered replying yet....I agree alarm bells And who's profile shows to me he thinks it's a fuck site. Then all messages after got all mixed up lol Coz the one that's feeling sorry for himself answered for the op (did anyone manage to decipher that lol) Dont think i mentioned sex lol " What did you mean you saying if you get nought on here then you wouldn't at socials then ? | |||
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"I had a woman message me a few days ago, chat was good, sent her pics and she says I was cute etc. she suggested we meet Message her the next day, it’s left unopened in her inbox Did I fuck it up? Or is 99% of the challenge on fab holding their attention long enough and hoping something better doesn’t comes along to distract her in her 100 messages a day? In real life, at a social, with a real connection, eye contact, actually heading eachother voice, it’s a done deal Honestly, fabs is hard mode. Fabs is like going to the pub and there’s 1 girl and 300 guys all trying it on. It’ll never work Just go to a club or social Which pub? Asking for a friend "Beefeater kitchen open late and they have bedrooms for business/pleasure | |||
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"I have the same problem. Why is it nearly all the single women on here want men hung like donkeys? Any suggestions to help make my profile would be appreciated. " Put your face as your profile pic. Same advice as above. Go to social events. | |||
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"I have the same problem. Why is it nearly all the single women on here want men hung like donkeys? Any suggestions to help make my profile would be appreciated. " Your a good looking dude but your height is gonna put people off, go to a club or social where it doesn’t matter as much | |||
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"For privacy id rather not have my fwce as my profile pic. I have it in my public photos but people have to go into my profile to see them rather than coming accross them while browsing. " You can still put a profile picture up that doesn't show your face. Looks better than the stock "no profile picture" look | |||
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"For privacy id rather not have my fwce as my profile pic. I have it in my public photos but people have to go into my profile to see them rather than coming accross them while browsing. You can still put a profile picture up that doesn't show your face. Looks better than the stock "no profile picture" look" I'll try again lol Some won't go into your profile if it's a blank pic, they won't bother to look at your profile to see if you have pics | |||
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" I think it’s a bit of both. I think social media has definitely made some men less good at communicating But I think the bigger thing is when every women has 100s of messages a day all begging for her attention, that guy she might see out at the shops and fancy, suddenly isn’t good enough. Just my experiences , what I’ve seen going on. I don’t think people are designed to live with a million people tucked away on their phone or on a website or app. I think I’d messes with peoples heads The men who can communicate do fine on this site, I feel. It's more about than the size of their dicks for many women and couples. I don't get 100s of messages. I've seen lots of other women here say they don't either. What you're saying is that if women have lots of choice, it goes to their heads and they get full of themselves (I think). I've seen a lot of guys say this in the short time I've been on the site. And my experience of the site and my knowledge of women don't add up to the same conclusion. Yes of course there will be women who get a big head. But you'd have to be reasonably daft to do that. I’d disagree, there’s plenty of men in here that communicate just fine, and still get ignored. But that’s for a number of reasons. And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options Kinda like a kid that has every toy. He’s so spoiled for choice he ends up playing with none of them. None are good enough. When it reality, plenty are good enough if he didn’t have such unlimited options. I really think it’s social media. Humans have always been fairly tight knit communities. Even in cities people had small social/business communities. Now everyone has access to unlimited humans in their pocket. People are reduced to a left or right swipe, or a quick glance at the headline of a message then delete. I think that effects us " I appreciate you're not trying to be nasty and word things politely. But pretty language doesn't obscure your point - women getting their heads turned by attention. And then thinking the average nice guy isn't worth a try. I just think that's possibly true for a minority of women but not the majority. And - it's not a natural reaction. It's a shallow response and that's why I object to you typifying all women that way. I don't believe it's true. I'd love to hear other peoples opinions. | |||
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"I have the same problem. Why is it nearly all the single women on here want men hung like donkeys? Any suggestions to help make my profile would be appreciated. " What thousands of us single women and we all want donkeys? | |||
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" I think it’s a bit of both. I think social media has definitely made some men less good at communicating But I think the bigger thing is when every women has 100s of messages a day all begging for her attention, that guy she might see out at the shops and fancy, suddenly isn’t good enough. Just my experiences , what I’ve seen going on. I don’t think people are designed to live with a million people tucked away on their phone or on a website or app. I think I’d messes with peoples heads The men who can communicate do fine on this site, I feel. It's more about than the size of their dicks for many women and couples. I don't get 100s of messages. I've seen lots of other women here say they don't either. What you're saying is that if women have lots of choice, it goes to their heads and they get full of themselves (I think). I've seen a lot of guys say this in the short time I've been on the site. And my experience of the site and my knowledge of women don't add up to the same conclusion. Yes of course there will be women who get a big head. But you'd have to be reasonably daft to do that. I’d disagree, there’s plenty of men in here that communicate just fine, and still get ignored. But that’s for a number of reasons. And I’m not saying it goes to their head, that’s a nasty way of putting it. I’m saying that’s the natural reaction to unlimited options Kinda like a kid that has every toy. He’s so spoiled for choice he ends up playing with none of them. None are good enough. When it reality, plenty are good enough if he didn’t have such unlimited options. I really think it’s social media. Humans have always been fairly tight knit communities. Even in cities people had small social/business communities. Now everyone has access to unlimited humans in their pocket. People are reduced to a left or right swipe, or a quick glance at the headline of a message then delete. I think that effects us I appreciate you're not trying to be nasty and word things politely. But pretty language doesn't obscure your point - women getting their heads turned by attention. And then thinking the average nice guy isn't worth a try. I just think that's possibly true for a minority of women but not the majority. And - it's not a natural reaction. It's a shallow response and that's why I object to you typifying all women that way. I don't believe it's true. I'd love to hear other peoples opinions. " I don’t believe it’s all women but I disagree on minority I also think it’s very age dependant. Someone that’s lived 40 years until social media came along isn’t going to be as effected as someone that’s been born with it Ultimately, if your looking for the best you can get, whatever that is, but social media or apps or sites like this gives you access to millions of people, that catapults what the best you can get it. 50 years ago finding the best match for yourself meant finding a guy you liked in your town Now it means shuffling though thousand of profiles, apps, insta profiles etc. Many won’t agree with it, but that’s my experience. | |||
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"I got meets as a single lady. I wouldn't say my standards were high as I lacked confidence till I got a meet with someone I didn't think would look twice at me. But that was because my confidence has been wrecked before. My standards aren't high. I just meet people I click with. The most attractive man could be a total bellend and I wouldn't go there. It annoys me when men in here say we are up ourselves or have high standards because we won't fuck them. Looks alone is not enough. I like a nice face on a man, as for body type it's variable. It's not about standards it's about preferences and chemistry. T" Why do you assume high standards only means looks? | |||
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"I got meets as a single lady. I wouldn't say my standards were high as I lacked confidence till I got a meet with someone I didn't think would look twice at me. But that was because my confidence has been wrecked before. My standards aren't high. I just meet people I click with. The most attractive man could be a total bellend and I wouldn't go there. It annoys me when men in here say we are up ourselves or have high standards because we won't fuck them. Looks alone is not enough. I like a nice face on a man, as for body type it's variable. It's not about standards it's about preferences and chemistry. T Why do you assume high standards only means looks? " Because the guys keep telling us it is. | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " Get yourself to clubs with no expectations and get socialising you never know who you might meet | |||
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"I'd go to venues or suitable with an Open eye Mostly they don't meet here or Get spoken about 'there' Either You could be lead by deafness & actions Places can be full of inappropriate sounds like music, voids & premise laws that are generally being flaunted by those owning, visiting them Unless genuine - use your own know-how & face value Many people use here & walk by from it" I only use fab for club meets now. | |||
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"I use fab now just for cake advice and to get top news stories!" Can't even imagine the amount of offers you've had to turn down considering you're the preference of a lot of fab users | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " Take at look ar your profile,theres thousand upon thousands of single guys on here,does yours stand out? If you were a couple/fem would you reply to your profile and mind they get loads of messages a day | |||
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"Been on this site 7 months and had 1 person i met with now and again but she is now in a relationship, people just seem to open and delete messages or open reply say they want to meet the egnore, am i wasting my time here i dont have profile picture for my privacy from too local but will send pictures any advice guys " It is tougher than ever on here since the pandemic but keep at it or try new things, clubs or socials etc and my opinion on open an no reply messages is after a period of time you think is acceptable is take it as a no, block them an move on to save bothering them again. Good luck | |||
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"I get replies and have conversations but as soon as a meet is mentioned it goes quiet." Progress | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself "Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis. It's definitely a struggle for us | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself
Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis.
It's definitely a struggle for us"This is true, some here don't manage to receive a single verification, never mind a dozen. | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself
Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis.
It's definitely a struggle for us
This is true, some here don't manage to receive a single verification, never mind a dozen."Lucky for me that socials count | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself
Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis.
It's definitely a struggle for us"Personality wins out! A lot! I know plenty of 50+ gents who aren’t hung like a donkey that get tonnes of meets. It’s the funny, positive chaps that show their personalities that do well! Plenty of guys in the forums do well for meets by showcasing they’d be a laugh to hang out with. The whingeing, complaining ones don’t do well though! | |||
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"I got meets as a single lady. I wouldn't say my standards were high as I lacked confidence till I got a meet with someone I didn't think would look twice at me. But that was because my confidence has been wrecked before. My standards aren't high. I just meet people I click with. The most attractive man could be a total bellend and I wouldn't go there. It annoys me when men in here say we are up ourselves or have high standards because we won't fuck them. Looks alone is not enough. I like a nice face on a man, as for body type it's variable. It's not about standards it's about preferences and chemistry. T Why do you assume high standards only means looks? " Because its one of the most common whinges on fab by the men.... The women are apparently up themselves and wouldn't get the guys they go after on fab in real life. Blah blah blah. T | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself
Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis.
It's definitely a struggle for us
Personality wins out! A lot! I know plenty of 50+ gents who aren’t hung like a donkey that get tonnes of meets.
It’s the funny, positive chaps that show their personalities that do well! Plenty of guys in the forums do well for meets by showcasing they’d be a laugh to hang out with.
The whingeing, complaining ones don’t do well though! "It's much easier to give generic advice as a couple or woman than to try and work with the reality of what is desired in a guy on fab | |||
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"This place is as hard as you make it for yourself
Unless you're just not blessed with good looks or (if there is a preference for it) a bigger penis.
It's definitely a struggle for us
Personality wins out! A lot! I know plenty of 50+ gents who aren’t hung like a donkey that get tonnes of meets.
It’s the funny, positive chaps that show their personalities that do well! Plenty of guys in the forums do well for meets by showcasing they’d be a laugh to hang out with.
The whingeing, complaining ones don’t do well though!
It's much easier to give generic advice as a couple or woman than to try and work with the reality of what is desired in a guy on fab "Who wants to meet someone who spends all their time bitching? And I speak from the knowledge of how my 50+ male friends do on here. I don’t doubt it’s more difficult for men but complaining and moaning constantly is your main issue. You’re a handsome guy, it’s the negativity that gets in your way! | |||
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