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 ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go? | |||
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"I haven’t been to one, and am never likely to either. I have a crippling anxiety in crowds of strangers. I can barely withstand attending gatherings of people that I know, so the thought of a group of strangers terrifies me. " I totally get this, as that was, and sometimes still is, exactly me. Even at the ones I help out at and know lots of people. I found getting into an online chat group with the attendees before hand really helped as I got to know them a little first, so when we met it was like I already knew them and was just meeting a group of mates at a pub. I hope, if you want to, that you can get over this and I'm willing to chat in private about it and offer help if you like (same for anyone. My inbox is open) | |||
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"It's always nice to meet new people and make new friends "Yes, it's a brilliant way of getting to meet people. Love them! | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. " I've heard some good things about those. | |||
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"Have tried to get into some in the past, maybe they had too many guys or just missed me but usually didn't get a response. " Yeah, unfortunately they do get lots of single guys applying and most do try balancing the numbers. It can be annoying, but keep trying. One technique is to hotlist the organisers profile so you can see when the events go live and get your name down early. | |||
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"I like them. I enjoy meeting new people and it's fun to put real people to fab profiles when people I know from here are there. I'm not sure how to make them better. That's usually down to the people that are there. " That is fun. Some people really aren't as you imagine them to be are they? Everyone usually seems lovely at the ones I've been to though. | |||
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"I attended a few of the Manchester Lounge Socials back in the day ( with bagdes to prove it) but as my social anxiety has sky rocketed in the last few years, I doubt I will ever attend one again " Really? That's a shame it's got that bad, but I struggle so totally understand it. If ever you change your mind and want to visit Birmingham for the UpTheBrum social, I'd happily make you a badge | |||
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We love meeting new people and learning about their different dynamics and being able to have open conversations about sex.
It’s not so much a improvement but we are terrible with names and constantly forget the names of people we would like to get to know better so for people like us we should have fab name tags .. | |||
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"I really enjoy meeting new people and understanding their experiences about Fab and their dynamic as whole. It really opens my mind to what's out there and I feel like I can even be myself a bit more and open up without judgement which I find really difficult to do straight away with new groups of people "Definitely. I don't think I was ever truely myself before and didn't know what I was missing. So great to be in a group. of like minded people. | |||
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"I've been to many a munch from that fetish lifestyle site. I'm going to a couple of socials in London in the next week. Will be my first ones from here. " I've never done a munch. Tbh, I don't really know what the difference is. Hope you enjoy the socials x | |||
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"I'm curious to go to one, my husband isn't quite so interested. But mainly we're stopped by practicalities - organising childcare and transport. We don't drive which makes going out slightly trickier. Maybe one day "You really should! I believe a few people that attend UpTheBrum come from your area, so I'm sure something could be figured out if you ever decided to join us. It would be great to finally meet you both too. | |||
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Birmingham is on the list !! | |||
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"We don’t meet people from fab everyone we have met has been through group socials and if we get on we arrange to meet them again. We have never been let down or has weird experiences so we must be doing something right ..
We love meeting new people and learning about their different dynamics and being able to have open conversations about sex.
It’s not so much a improvement but we are terrible with names and constantly forget the names of people we would like to get to know better so for people like us we should have fab name tags .."Yeah, it's a great way of meeting and seeing how you get on with lots of people at once. As you have already met them, you know they are much less likely to flake out on you. I definitely agree with name badges. I'm terrible at names too. I actually made a load of little name badges for some of my friends I've made through the socials | |||
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I don't know anyone going but thought why not go and see what it's like and meet new people | |||
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"We really enjoyed Upthe Brum both times we made it. The social side is important to us as a couple. We don't play without a connection " Ah I didn't know you were at the last UTB! Will you be attending the next? OP/Cocko, I don't really attend socials, should really start getting to some. Do you have any good recommendations near me? | |||
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward?" No. Socials are good, and there's normally a decent, friendly crowd | |||
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"We really enjoyed Upthe Brum both times we made it. The social side is important to us as a couple. We don't play without a connection " They put so much effort into it, I think it really stands out. Yeah, to me the social side is what swinging is about, just as much as the sex. | |||
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"One of the best nights out we’ve had in a long time! Went to Lincoln in May and was an absolute blast. Manchester & Leeds both booked and we’ll keep our eyes peeled for more. The group chats away away from Fab really do help and it doesn’t feel like a group of strangers. We’re tying the events with weekends away
Birmingham is on the list !! "I really wanted to get to the Lincoln one, but couldn't manage 
Yes, definitely get to Birmingham one day! | |||
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"I'm heading to one in Lincoln in August
I don't know anyone going but thought why not go and see what it's like and meet new people "Brilliant. That's what it's about. You might not know anyone now, but afterwards you'll have a new set of friends
I've heard. Good things about Lincoln, so hopefully you'll have a great time. X | |||
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"Going to my second this weekend. A bbq one, it's nice to meet new people. Who have similar interests. Next in October a black tie masquerade, just an excuse for me to get glammed up." Ooh! A BBQ one! That's a good idea. I do like my food | |||
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"I've given an opinion on another current thread. I've been to a few and to be honest I'm not a big fan for a number of reasons mainly to do with attitude, game playing before and after and a lack of inclusion. Apart from all that the biggest issues are venue and volume which seem to be a bug bear for many attendees. Large tables which don't encourage anyone to approach because it's like attending an interview and they restrict movement around the room. Music levels so loud it's impossible to have a conversation without shouting. As I said on the other thread, it's not a nightclub. It's a social or meet and greet and too many organisers don't seem to understand how important these things can be. Maybe if people were more honest in verifications they might pick up on it rather than everyone giving generic verifications saying how amazing it was but never attending another. " It sounds like you've had some bad experiences their tbh, but I can assure you they aren't all like that. Music is definitely an issue at some for me as I suffer from Hidden Hearing Loss (my hearing is fine in normal situations, but I can't pick seperate sounds and voices from load background noise) which makes it really hard to have conversations in pubs and clubs. I've found that if you speak up to the organisers at the time, they will usually turn it down a bit. As for inclusion I know UpTheBrum try their hardest to make everyone feel included, welcome and do what they can to help them mingle. They even put a load of effort into an (optional) speed dating section at the start, where they pair people up with others who match what they say they are looking for. That's brilliant to get people chatting. I definitely agree with you comment about honest feedback. Events can not improve if people don't give honest feedback. As long as it's politely given, I would have thought all organisers would be grateful for it. | |||
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"We really enjoyed Upthe Brum both times we made it. The social side is important to us as a couple. We don't play without a connection Ah I didn't know you were at the last UTB! Will you be attending the next? OP/Cocko, I don't really attend socials, should really start getting to some. Do you have any good recommendations near me? " I can't remember exactly where you are from, but up North I've heard good things about Lincoln (but never been) and you have been to the Manchester one already. But UpTheBrum in Birmingham is always worth the journey  | |||
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"I like the idea of the smaller ones. The large ones too far away aren't really my cup of tea or practical. Pxx" There are some smaller ones. They can be nice if you get decent people turn up. The people that do UpTheBrum ran one on a canal cruise through Birmingham earlier in the year which was small but great fun, and on Saturday they are running Femme, which is another smaller event just for women. | |||
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"I'm sociable and would love to go, but I avoid my local area and money/time prevents me from going to others. For the time being at least. " I get that. I'm lucky as I've a few good ones nearby, but not actually in my town. That might be a bit close for comfort. | |||
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but hope to go to them soon- need to book some annual leave lol. | |||
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward?" Most people from Fab don't actually use the forum much if at all, and that seems to be reflected in the people that attend the socials. Manchester attracts a lot of forum users, which personally I quite like as I like to get to know them in person. However at most socials usually there are a enough attendees that I doubt you'd have issues with the majority of them and in person everyone seems to have all been really lovely and friendly. A lot of the socials also have a guestlist, or a chatroom, so if in the unfortunate event you see too many going that you don't get on with, you can always let the organisers know and drop out. They would fully understand. But I'd hope most people would be grown up enough to not cause issues. | |||
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"we used to go the the Sussex Social and enjoyed it very much. We also attended the Hastings social one lunch time. We often meet people for coffee privately too, its good to meet new friends "It is isn't it? | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. " I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
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"I loved them, they helped me build up my confidence and make friends. Now I just spend at least half of my time abroad and mostly on weekends, so haven’t been able to go to any since early this year. but hope to go to them soon- need to book some annual leave lol. "They have helped my confidence massively too. Half of your time abroad? That sounds nice, but I can see how that would effect you getting out and doing things. | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I've heard some good things about those." We have a laugh, and anyone new is welcomed by the friendly crew that we are
I'd happily meet someone at a station and make our way to the venue together; which someone has done for me before. | |||
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"I've been to many a munch from that fetish lifestyle site. I'm going to a couple of socials in London in the next week. Will be my first ones from here. " I'd love to attend a munch | |||
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"I've been to many a munch from that fetish lifestyle site. I'm going to a couple of socials in London in the next week. Will be my first ones from here. " I'd love to attend a munch | |||
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"I've been to about 15 all over the country. All good in different ways. "15! Busy women!
Yeah, everyone I have done has it's own unique feel. | |||
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"I strongly dislike large groups, I’m so socially awkward so not for me. " Would you be interested in a smaller, more focused social? | |||
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward?" I've been to one where at least one person had me blocked on the forums. I politely smiled and that was it. There were quite a lot of people there, so we had plenty of others to chat to, but I leave the forum politics at home. | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x"That sounds very much like with me and UpTheBrum. I shall have to keep an eye out for them, even though London scares the hell out of me. | |||
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"I strongly dislike large groups, I’m so socially awkward so not for me. Would you be interested in a smaller, more focused social?" I think socials just aren’t for me. One on one is more my speed! Super shy, introverted and I have ADHD. | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I've heard some good things about those. We have a laugh, and anyone new is welcomed by the friendly crew that we are
I'd happily meet someone at a station and make our way to the venue together; which someone has done for me before. "Same here. I've met people, and helped them with their luggage from the station before the Manchester Social, and gone out for drinks and meals (and clubs) with people before UpTheBrum to help them settle in. | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x
That sounds very much like with me and UpTheBrum.
I shall have to keep an eye out for them, even though London scares the hell out of me. "Me too, and I live here
Some of us met at the main station once and we got a taxi to the venue. I'm happy to meet someone at a main station and travel to the venue together. The Underground can be daunting to out of towners.
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"I'm attending my first ever event on the 23rdbat a club!! I can't wait" That sounds slightly more than social | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I've heard some good things about those. We have a laugh, and anyone new is welcomed by the friendly crew that we are
I'd happily meet someone at a station and make our way to the venue together; which someone has done for me before.
Same here. I've met people, and helped them with their luggage from the station before the Manchester Social, and gone out for drinks and meals (and clubs) with people before UpTheBrum to help them settle in. "It's the whole idea of socials. To be sociable, and make people feel welcome. | |||
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"I strongly dislike large groups, I’m so socially awkward so not for me. Would you be interested in a smaller, more focused social? I think socials just aren’t for me. One on one is more my speed! Super shy, introverted and I have ADHD. " That's fair enough, but you may be suprised how many other people (including myself) are like that at the socials, so people do understand. I do love one on one's, but they aren't as easy to get (well for me ) | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I've heard some good things about those. We have a laugh, and anyone new is welcomed by the friendly crew that we are
I'd happily meet someone at a station and make our way to the venue together; which someone has done for me before.
Same here. I've met people, and helped them with their luggage from the station before the Manchester Social, and gone out for drinks and meals (and clubs) with people before UpTheBrum to help them settle in.
It's the whole idea of socials. To be sociable, and make people feel welcome.
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward?" Several years ago I was probably my most opinionated on the forums and also attended quite a lot of socials and I honestly never had a problem. I'm aware there were inevitably people that blanked me and I know there were people I had zero interest in meeting but beyond that nothing negative at all. Ajd I also met people that I'd clashed with repeatedly on the forums and got on fine | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x"Yay for dancing amigos | |||
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward? Several years ago I was probably my most opinionated on the forums and also attended quite a lot of socials and I honestly never had a problem. I'm aware there were inevitably people that blanked me and I know there were people I had zero interest in meeting but beyond that nothing negative at all. Ajd I also met people that I'd clashed with repeatedly on the forums and got on fine " Some people are totally different in person than you expect from their online persona aren't they? To me, that's one of the interesting things about meeting them. | |||
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"Say you go on one, and it's all people from Fab, what happens if there's people there that you don't get on with, from the forums? Is it not a bit awkward? Several years ago I was probably my most opinionated on the forums and also attended quite a lot of socials and I honestly never had a problem. I'm aware there were inevitably people that blanked me and I know there were people I had zero interest in meeting but beyond that nothing negative at all. Ajd I also met people that I'd clashed with repeatedly on the forums and got on fine Some people are totally different in person than you expect from their online persona aren't they? To me, that's one of the interesting things about meeting them. " We all have more in common than what divides us. Sadly the nature of forums and social media make us forget that | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x
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"I miss socials, my mental health is too unpredictable at the moment to commit to anything that requires travel or hotels which is just about everything! I even struggle with local munches with much smaller crowds and people I know! I've quit drinking since I used to regularly go to them, and I'm not great in boozy/loud environments but I'd like to get to some again at some point. I'd definitely recommend them" That's a shame. Best wishes on fighting that, and getting back out there. | |||
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x
Yay for dancing amigos
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"I've been to a few London ones; mostly the Secret Tea Party one though. Each time has been different, with a different vibe. The last one was hilarious at times and very relaxed at the same time. I've been to two evening socials in London that had more of a night out vibe. I don't think I've laughed so much in a long time than I did at the latest stp!
I absolutely love the socials! I've met some of my closest friends at these events and found kindred spirits where I would probably have disregarded them based on a profile!
Cherry x
Yay for dancing amigos
At least you don't get sore feet when dancing, missus!
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"I'm sociable and would love to go, but I avoid my local area and money/time prevents me from going to others. For the time being at least. I get that. I'm lucky as I've a few good ones nearby, but not actually in my town. That might be a bit close for comfort. " I would have probably blocked half the men  | |||
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"I’ve been to quite a few. My favourite is the Leeds Social. We normally have a laugh. "I had to drop out of coming to the last (I think) one of those. Was gutted as I was going to visit o e of the clubs up their at the same time, but other things got in the way. UpTheBrum is my favourite. I know people probably feel I'm a bit biased, but they honestly don't ask me to mention it, I just do so as it basically changed my swinging life and means so much to me. | |||
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"I've been to the STP which was very enjoyable and a thoroughly welcoming and relaxed affair. I've attended two London ones which were convenient, gin-fuelled, chuckle-factor and a total blast...after I got past the trepidation and shyness. I would like to attend some of the ones up North but the distance and practicalities are prohibitive. And being "blocked" from one of the 'famous' ones is another hindrance. [Well, you did ask "why not"]" I really enjoy making a full weekend of it. But I'm lucky that I'm in a situation where I can do that. I know many people can't. | |||
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"I'm sociable and would love to go, but I avoid my local area and money/time prevents me from going to others. For the time being at least. I get that. I'm lucky as I've a few good ones nearby, but not actually in my town. That might be a bit close for comfort. I would have probably blocked half the men " | |||
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"We really enjoyed Upthe Brum both times we made it. The social side is important to us as a couple. We don't play without a connection Ah I didn't know you were at the last UTB! Will you be attending the next? OP/Cocko, I don't really attend socials, should really start getting to some. Do you have any good recommendations near me? " We missed the last one but were at the 2 previous ones | |||
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"We really enjoyed Upthe Brum both times we made it. The social side is important to us as a couple. We don't play without a connection Ah I didn't know you were at the last UTB! Will you be attending the next? OP/Cocko, I don't really attend socials, should really start getting to some. Do you have any good recommendations near me? We missed the last one but were at the 2 previous ones " Are you coming to the next, UpTheBrum: Phwo4r? It's on the 13th August. | |||
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Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
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I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
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"Manchester lounge socials.
Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
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The snogging is also pretty good to. "Were you at the last one? | |||
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Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
Also, having an absolute blast because everyone turns up in such a good mood and the vibe is addictive.
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Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
Also, having an absolute blast because everyone turns up in such a good mood and the vibe is addictive.
The snogging is also pretty good to. "I really need to learn to be better at approaching people, showing interest and eventually asking if I can have a kiss | |||
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"I've been to many a munch from that fetish lifestyle site. I'm going to a couple of socials in London in the next week. Will be my first ones from here. I've never done a munch. Tbh, I don't really know what the difference is. Hope you enjoy the socials x They're just socials but broken down into particular interests such as... Femdom munch Under 35s Tattoo munch Grumpily old gits munch What I.like about them is that the location is listed on the event so you can just turn up rather than waiting to be pre approved. I fully get that it could quite easily become a sausage fest if it was the same on here. I just like being spontaneous sometimes and not planning months in advance. " Minus Grumpily old gits part I’d give that a whirl | |||
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"My range is Manchester social Northampton social London socials With a few local cake ones thrown in
I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
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"I really enjoy the socials. It gives me a chance to meet people I wouldn’t get the chance to interact with on here as they don’t use the forums. Saying that I have met some friends from the forums too at socials. It gave me a huge boost to my meeting people IRL skills. If you are unsure of attending one, I will be attending the Birmingham social on the 13th and would be happy to talk to anyone thinking of going " I'll be there!
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I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
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I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
With a few side splitting moments sprinkled in
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Antisocial grump! "Other people innit . Nah | |||
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I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
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Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
Also, having an absolute blast because everyone turns up in such a good mood and the vibe is addictive.
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"Manchester lounge socials.
Putting faces and people to the profiles that had caught my eye was what appealed to it all.
Also, having an absolute blast because everyone turns up in such a good mood and the vibe is addictive.
The snogging is also pretty good to.
Were you at the last one?
Sadly no.
Why? Did you want a snog?
I was just checking if I missed you "You miss everything else, so it wouldn’t have surprised me
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"My range is Manchester social Northampton social London socials With a few local cake ones thrown in
I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
With a few side splitting moments sprinkled in
You should come to one of the Birmingham ones. I usually bring Fridgecake (though it may be a bit warm this time)
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"Going to Social events when I was single completely transformed what Fab is to me. I have the Social Events to thank for having this smoking hot ball of enthusiasm and love by my side. As a couple they have taken me all over the country netting wonderful new people I would never otherwise have met. Hades " | |||
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"We haven’t been to one yet but want to do to one in Lincoln in August. We are nervous but excited. Nervous excitement is a great feeling! I'm sure you'll love it! Thanks! We aren't sure of the etiquette but hope we get the hang of it and make some new fab friends," Just treat them like you are meeting a bunch of regular people in a town centre location. It's just chat might be a bit more risqué and it may end up being a bit more kissy. Main thing is just socialise and have fun. I'm not sure if they have a chat room like UpTheBrum does (which you should consider if you like Lincoln ), then getting involved in that and asking questions, getting to know people there first is always a great idea.
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"I love attending socials from the more intimate ones to ones with bigger crowds Travelling across the country bro attend is all part of the adventure and always make a weekend of it There’s still a few that I want to get to but dates always clash but I keep looking Best thing I did was hotlist all the social event profiles I was interested in " Hotlisting is what I do and is a great idea, as it means you hear about the events and can get your name down before they fill up. Hopefully UpTheBrum is hotlisted | |||
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"We haven’t been to one yet but want to do to one in Lincoln in August. We are nervous but excited. Nervous excitement is a great feeling! I'm sure you'll love it! Thanks! We aren't sure of the etiquette but hope we get the hang of it and make some new fab friends, Just treat them like you are meeting a bunch of regular people in a town centre location. It's just chat might be a bit more risqué and it may end up being a bit more kissy. Main thing is just socialise and have fun. I'm not sure if they have a chat room like UpTheBrum does (which you should consider if you like Lincoln ), then getting involved in that and asking questions, getting to know people there first is always a great idea.
If you have any specific questions, feel free to PM and I can discuss them with you."Thank you, that’s welcome advice. There will be a chat room at some point, I think. We’ll make sure so join in. The Brun social sounds ok too. | |||
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs I can't make that one. Enjoyed the others though. Seems really popular with forum users, so is definitely a different vibe to a lot of the others. Different in what way? Mrs " Just in it being so popular with the regular forum users and draws many in from all around the country. It was great, as nearly everyone I spoke to in person, I'd had interactions with on here, but I have to admit that I did feel slightly intimidated
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs I can't make that one. Enjoyed the others though. Seems really popular with forum users, so is definitely a different vibe to a lot of the others. Different in what way? Mrs Just in it being so popular with the regular forum users and draws many in from all around the country. It was great, as nearly everyone I spoke to in person, I'd had interactions with on here, but I have to admit that I did feel slightly intimidated
Most other socials don't seem to have as much recognisable names attending."True. Most of the ones I go to there aren’t many forum people there. The Manchester one is especially for the forum. It used to be only for forum folk. Not sure if it still is or not. Haven’t been for years. | |||
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs I can't make that one. Enjoyed the others though. Seems really popular with forum users, so is definitely a different vibe to a lot of the others. Different in what way? Mrs Just in it being so popular with the regular forum users and draws many in from all around the country. It was great, as nearly everyone I spoke to in person, I'd had interactions with on here, but I have to admit that I did feel slightly intimidated
Most other socials don't seem to have as much recognisable names attending.
True. Most of the ones I go to there aren’t many forum people there. The Manchester one is especially for the forum. It used to be only for forum folk. Not sure if it still is or not. Haven’t been for years. "I don't think so. That was the Manchester Lounge Social which was run by different people I believe. The current one is just the Manchester Social, but they obviously get a lot of the original attendees still going. | |||
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs I can't make that one. Enjoyed the others though. Seems really popular with forum users, so is definitely a different vibe to a lot of the others. Different in what way? Mrs Just in it being so popular with the regular forum users and draws many in from all around the country. It was great, as nearly everyone I spoke to in person, I'd had interactions with on here, but I have to admit that I did feel slightly intimidated
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That was the Manchester Lounge Social which was run by different people I believe.
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"I used to regularly go to the kink ones and used to help host them Never been to a swing social down to nerves, anxiety and not being able to afford them" I'm suprised nerves and anxiety would hold you back if you did kink ones. They would have definitely triggered mine. Hopefully it's not that it's something that's got worse for you since then. Anxiety can be horrible. Quite a few socials are either free or very little to attend, but then I guess you do have additional costs of childcare (if you have kids), travel, food and drink. | |||
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs " You’ll both have a great time was my first back in April and I’ve never been more nervous in my life but I did it alone haha it turned into the best wk end met some great people looking forward to going back x | |||
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs You’ll both have a great time was my first back in April and I’ve never been more nervous in my life but I did it alone haha it turned into the best wk end met some great people looking forward to going back x"You looked so happy and smiley though, no one would have imagined you were nervous. | |||
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I just enjoy putting myself out of my comfort zone as being round lots of people I struggle with but I am usually glad I did it after
Hopefully there will be more in future while I still have the socials bug "I'm sure there will always be somewhere for you at UpTheBrum if you ever want to return X | |||
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"My range is Manchester social Northampton social London socials With a few local cake ones thrown in
I find they are what you make it, ranging from alcohol fuelled party nights to intimate drinks in a bar with a few people. I've had a really good time at all of them and made some great social friends.
With a few side splitting moments sprinkled in
You should come to one of the Birmingham ones. I usually bring Fridgecake (though it may be a bit warm this time)
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"We haven't been to one because we love club nights so much. A club night is a big social anyway, with dance and maybe play. " I often invite people going to socials to a club the night before. It's a bit backwards, bit still fun | |||
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"A good few years ago now but Chester socials were a great night and one in a Liverpool City centre bar was just as good. We did organise pub meets near Chester but it got a bit out of hand, was asked by one of the bar staff if it was a "works do". Hopefully, as normality is starting to rear its head more and more socials around the corner. "Haha! I bet they were wondering where you all worked. | |||
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"I love social events! I've been to a few now, and even help out (I use that term very loosely ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go?"Answering a question with a question sorry (and probably a silly question at that lol!) but we've been intrigued to know a bit more about socials... are they literally like a group of mates going to the pub rather than peeps getting naked as they do in the clubs? Some socials seem to be at people's homes and we wondered if that's code for the green light. Keen to get back into the scene without jumping back into the potential intimidation of walking straight back into a club and getting my baps out before I've said hello! | |||
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"I love social events! I've been to a few now, and even help out (I use that term very loosely ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go?
Answering a question with a question sorry (and probably a silly question at that lol!) but we've been intrigued to know a bit more about socials... are they literally like a group of mates going to the pub rather than peeps getting naked as they do in the clubs? Some socials seem to be at people's homes and we wondered if that's code for the green light. Keen to get back into the scene without jumping back into the potential intimidation of walking straight back into a club and getting my baps out before I've said hello! "Mates up the pub | |||
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"I love social events! I've been to a few now, and even help out (I use that term very loosely ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go?
Answering a question with a question sorry (and probably a silly question at that lol!) but we've been intrigued to know a bit more about socials... are they literally like a group of mates going to the pub rather than peeps getting naked as they do in the clubs? Some socials seem to be at people's homes and we wondered if that's code for the green light. Keen to get back into the scene without jumping back into the potential intimidation of walking straight back into a club and getting my baps out before I've said hello! "Yeah, I'd say it's most like meeting a big bunch of friends at a pub. You may not know all (or any of them), but everyone is usually really friendly, chatty and social, as that is what they are all there for. Most social events take place in public areas or private areas of public venues, so no play is pretty much universal and people wear what they would for a night out on the town when trying to impress others. They are there as more of a way of meeting more like minded people, making friendships and potentially finding people to play with, and just to have a great night out. I've never been to a social event / party at someone's house. I'd assume it isn't quite the same and because it isn't in a public space, I'd image there would be more risqué outfits / nakedness and play. Hope that helps. Happy to answer more in PMs if you like. | |||
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"I love social events! I've been to a few now, and even help out (I use that term very loosely ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go?
Answering a question with a question sorry (and probably a silly question at that lol!) but we've been intrigued to know a bit more about socials... are they literally like a group of mates going to the pub rather than peeps getting naked as they do in the clubs? Some socials seem to be at people's homes and we wondered if that's code for the green light. Keen to get back into the scene without jumping back into the potential intimidation of walking straight back into a club and getting my baps out before I've said hello!
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up "Apparently there’s one in Birmingham on the 13th of august | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Apparently there’s one in Birmingham on the 13th of august "ooh thank you I shall have a quick look now as it on 45mins from us thank you | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Apparently there’s one in Birmingham on the 13th of august ooh thank you I shall have a quick look now as it on 45mins from us thank you "Yep, I love it, which is why I push it so much. The also have a much smaller, Femme (no men) night this Saturday if you are interested. | |||
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"We're looking forward to Up The Brum. Nelly has purchased a new dress and was modelling shoes at the weekend. I've bought a new shirt and even picking up some shoes at the weekend. For once I'll be going to a social and not wearing Adidas Sambas! "Nelly would look amazing in a big bag!! J x | |||
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"We're looking forward to Up The Brum. Nelly has purchased a new dress and was modelling shoes at the weekend. I've bought a new shirt and even picking up some shoes at the weekend. For once I'll be going to a social and not wearing Adidas Sambas!
Nelly would look amazing in a big bag!!
J x"I agree and I've said that to her on many occasions. | |||
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"We're looking forward to Up The Brum. Nelly has purchased a new dress and was modelling shoes at the weekend. I've bought a new shirt and even picking up some shoes at the weekend. For once I'll be going to a social and not wearing Adidas Sambas!
Nelly would look amazing in a big bag!!
J x"Yep, just not in bits! (bit to serial killer-ish?) | |||
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"We're looking forward to Up The Brum. Nelly has purchased a new dress and was modelling shoes at the weekend. I've bought a new shirt and even picking up some shoes at the weekend. For once I'll be going to a social and not wearing Adidas Sambas! "Looking forward to seeing you both there. It's way too hot to think about clothes at the moment though! | |||
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"We're looking forward to Up The Brum. Nelly has purchased a new dress and was modelling shoes at the weekend. I've bought a new shirt and even picking up some shoes at the weekend. For once I'll be going to a social and not wearing Adidas Sambas!
Nelly would look amazing in a big bag!!
J x
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up "Only one night? Noooooooooo! | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! "yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar. | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up "You guys were lovely for both of the days and it definitely helped that you were newbies as well. Shame about the other one, it's their loss! | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar."I think they were talking about you only staying one night for the Manchester Social | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar.
I think they were talking about you only staying one night for the Manchester Social "ah right yeah we are only up for the Saturday as got work commitments Friday I should most definitely read things twice | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar.
I think they were talking about you only staying one night for the Manchester Social ah right yeah we are only up for the Saturday as got work commitments Friday I should most definitely read things twice "Lacey got it in one
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar.
I think they were talking about you only staying one night for the Manchester Social ah right yeah we are only up for the Saturday as got work commitments Friday I should most definitely read things twice
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I'm waiting to see what M's comeback is to my little gin incident from last time "didn't you get him straight in the eyes with it? | |||
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"We went to went to the Manchester social back I April which was a fantastic experience and thats why we shall be returning next month (unfortunately just for the oneday this time) a fantastic Friday night spent getting to know other newbies to the Manchester socials as well as some regulars... then a utterly brilliant Saturday day and night with a big group all mingling and up for a boogie later that night. We have also attended on in Nottingham which wasn't a very good experience at all, very Cliquey and despite our best efforts totally dismissive to engage in more than a 30sec conversation with any other people than those around there table We felt like a spare part for about 2 hours hence the reason we left early and have not attended another not to mention it was a paid ticket and black tie event, all in all with the hotel any everything else in we spent about £450 to just sit and talk to eachother
Glad that didn't put us off tho or we would never have discovered the fantastic job the girls put on in Manchester. Hopefully we can attend lots more and more than willing to try other group socials in other locations... if anyone knows of any then please give us the heads up
Only one night? Noooooooooo! yep... wouldn't even say it was for a night, I literally spent longer getting ready and doing my hair than we spent at the event it's self... by just after 10 we were that uncomfortable (which is unbelievably rare foe us to feel that wat) and fed up that we just left and went to a cocktail bar.
I think they were talking about you only staying one night for the Manchester Social ah right yeah we are only up for the Saturday as got work commitments Friday I should most definitely read things twice
Lacey got it in one
I'm waiting to see what M's comeback is to my little gin incident from last time didn't you get him straight in the eyes with it? "I did
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"We've never been but we are going to the Manchester social in August, I'm looking forward to it. Mrs I can't make that one. Enjoyed the others though. Seems really popular with forum users, so is definitely a different vibe to a lot of the others. Different in what way? Mrs Just in it being so popular with the regular forum users and draws many in from all around the country. It was great, as nearly everyone I spoke to in person, I'd had interactions with on here, but I have to admit that I did feel slightly intimidated
Most other socials don't seem to have as much recognisable names attending."Ah I see, I'm really looking forward to it. Mrs | |||
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It’s also the primary reason I visit the site these days. Sexually my tastes are quite specific these days, not from a content point of view but a chemistry and connection point of view, so socials are a perfect way to refine my potential bedroom partner pool. | |||
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"I love social events! I've been to a few now, and even help out (I use that term very loosely ) with the UpTheBrum Socials.
Everyone has been a little different, but they have all really helped me feel part of a wider community and allowed me to make some really good friends.
If you have been to one, what do you enjoy about them, and what do you think could make them even better?
If you haven't been to one, why not and what might tempt you to giving one a go?"Putting people to names - very rarely attend cos frankly im too impressive in the flesh for most women to cope with and no one needs a room full of women with ovaries breakdancing… but being able to chat face to face is great and we all have a common interest. | |||
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