FabSwingers.com forum: Men: How long did it take you to get your first meet on here?

By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one?

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Few weeks. Effort in equals meets

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Does it count if I met a woman that was already on fab and she introduced me to the sits? Because in that case it was minus 5 days

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

"Does it count if I met a woman that was already on fab and she introduced me to the sits? Because in that case it was minus 5 days"

Yeh I'd count that. And say it's unbeatable

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By *erc2Man
over a year ago

Wymondham

Still haven’t met any ladies on this site, I Have been on here over a year. It’s good fun looking though ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a couple of weeks for me.

It was the witty charm that I possess, I'm sure of it

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

A couple of years I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's early days for me but its safe to say im struggling like a fish out of water..your not alone dude

We live in a vicious circle..i mean hope haha

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

"Personally still on 0 meets. Signed up about 4 years ago but didn't actually use it. Started actually using it for about 6 months but still not even got close. How long did it take you, if you've had one?"

Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths.

Just out of interest do you enjoy your time on fab without having met anyone yet? I haven't met anyone through fab in a while, I am not really looking for anything though, so I am just enjoying chatting to people and lurking, without much intent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on and off here for about 5yrs but since coming back on here bout 5 months ago had my 1st meet about 3 weeks ago and my last meet last week

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I think it was a few weeks...purely social...but worth getting some veris

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths.

Now that I've found the forums I'm not as bothered as I was but still a big confidence dampner not getting any responses. Got pretty low self-esteem anyway so the rejections sort of reinforce my belief that I'm completely undesirable to the opposite sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 days

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By *rLothbrokMan
over a year ago

Lancs

It took me a few months, but I wasn’t sure about it all at first. I eventually took the plunge, got chatting in the forums and then arranged a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me 2.5 weeks after pure graft and sweat

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

About two weeks.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

About — 4 — weeks.

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By *cotty1376Man
over a year ago

PRESTON

still waiting

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

37 minutes…

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

Took me ages... But, given they rarely bother even opening my messages, I've feel quite privileged!!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Well I joined about 5 months ago but didn't use it. Started taking it more seriously about a week ago and I've already had a meet, Yay!

How long it'll be before I meet a lady from here is a different story all together though haha!!

At this point I'm lucky if I get a response to a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 days"
you stud you

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By *aughty but nice...Man
over a year ago

Staffs

I had a meet roughly 2 weeks after joining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 hour and in that hour I had to rush to the bank to get the money to pay her. Wasn't worth the tenner imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a couple weeks was not a good meet at all lol

Curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I went to the clubs and got verifictions it didn't take long. Meet 1 or 2 times a month now with either regular ladies/couples or one off and clubs every sat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one yet

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Probably six months after joining, and a couple of months after starting to properly engage with it.

They were simpler times, though, and it was only 500 men to every woman.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Few months but we both were busy and was finding it difficult to find a suitable time so we had longer than expected ended up being whole night. we also enjoyed the connection we had via communication on/off here

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

On this profile about 3 months but we'd been chatting a while and covid delayed things.

I'm all honesty, I think if people struggle initially that is unlikely to change unless people significantly change their approach

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By *osephSamuel90 OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

"On this profile about 3 months but we'd been chatting a while and covid delayed things.

I'm all honesty, I think if people struggle initially that is unlikely to change unless people significantly change their approach "

But surely the success of your approach relies on what you're offering at the end of the day. I've sent face pics to women and tried to tailor the message to get their interest, but end of the day I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks message. If someone's good looking they could send a face pic with just hey as a message and those same women would reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 days you stud you

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im no stud hell back then i was clueless

just people make it out to be much harder than it is

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

About 4 months, but I signed up while we were still in lockdown.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"On this profile about 3 months but we'd been chatting a while and covid delayed things.

I'm all honesty, I think if people struggle initially that is unlikely to change unless people significantly change their approach

I think if you think women will reply just because a man is good looking you probably don't understand the mindset of women on here.

I'm okay looking, have a decidedly average body but have never struggled on here.

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By *ihmMan
over a year ago

West Wales

Don't mean to sound depressing, but there will be a lot of single chaps who never get a meet, simple maths.

I've said it before on here, if it isn't an enjoyable experience, if it doesn't add anything to your life then probably best to step away. Not suggesting that is what you should do, I don't know enough about you, what you do or don't get from being on fab to pass the kind of judgment. More of a general comment, definitely not aimed at single chaps as a whole on fab either. But it does seem to be a breeding ground for a lot of pent up frustration, anger and resentment. I suspect in most cases it is down to unrealistic expectations. I should imagine the subscriber churn is pretty phenomenal, just a guess. It isn't for everybody, simply because of the numbers and some people just not being equipped to deal with the almost constant rejection that all but the most appealing 0.5 have to deal with.

Over the years of being on fab, with this profile and a previous one, I have come to the conclusion, that for me personally, fab has very limited usefulness as a tool for actually meeting people. I don't enjoy sexting (apparently now an actual word) my sense of humour doesn't translate into text, which by the way is a massively lengthy and drawn out process, big fat thumbs! All in all I am not in my natural environment, is what I am saying I suppose. I don't expect anything though, so I am never disappointed.

I am a great believer in meeting face to face, the less technology involved the better. Clubs, the way we always used to do it are the way forward. We will be back to coded classifieds in the back of the paper before we know it!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

If you've decided you're ugly, then I'm sure you can find people to agree with you.

...but the opposite will also apply.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

I'll let you know when it happens

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

Months , but not unexpected. The male to female ratio being what it is. Plus being older than most lowers chances also. But it is what it is.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The first time around, about 9 months which seems to be ball park and that was pre pandemic!

It can take a while to find your feet and work out how fab works

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

I was lucky- had a meet at a local sex cinema. Talking to the couple after they asked me what my Fab name was. I told them I'd never heard of Fab!

They told me about it and gave me my first verification as soon as they were able. The rest is history...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have to get back to you on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 2 months

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I just checked & my first verification was about 3 months after I joined though I’ll be brutally honest, I can’t remember if that was the first person I met or not. It probably was. It was 10 years ago & I can’t remember what I had for lunch some days so no chance of me remembering this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had one yet.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

About 4 weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate took me ages. The issue is fab has a trend of things. Meeting isnt pretty straight forward.

Even if you send a message the person at the other have probably been bombarded by 100s of men. So they give up reading the whole lot.

Some women are only here to fantasize their sexual desires so they only stick sexting and masturbation.

In my case and looking at forums, i see asians are not popular as we are always associated with

Bad media press

Supposedly a small cock

And too pushy and thats without getting to know us.

But hey ho

Ive only had one meet and to be fair that was after a while so good luck

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By *wales_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff ish / PDI early Nov

"I'm an ugly bastard and they don't like my face so just gets deleted or get a no thanks "

I don’t think you are ugly. Appreciate you didn’t ask for feedback so consider this friendly advice, but inject some fun and dynamism into your pics rather than passport pics in which you look like you’ve already given up hope of a meet. Also, stop putting yourself down publicly, confidence is a huge turn on. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over a year many profiles ago. Now mainly here to lurk and occasionally join in on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 minutes

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Just a week or so.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

When I first joined a fair few years back it was a lot easier. Wasn’t as many single guys clogging up inboxes so it only took about a month

Now it’s just too busy. It’s luck of the draw whether your message even gets opened or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say the most intriguing question is ‘how long was it before you talked to anyone you wanted to meet?’ Because that’s what it’s related to.

You could probably find a meet pretty quickly, there’s enough local updates that say as much.

But finding someone on my wave length took a long time to even tempt me to meet up from here, around 6months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to my local club and was told about it there. So when I made this the next day, I found people I had met and was verified on the day.

Then I arranged a meet with someone a week later

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

When I was a single guy, first time round, I had my first meet lined up within a couple of days.

Some nice photos and some chat without expectation and it didn’t take long.

As others have said, effort is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waiting, but since I'm not expecting one, given my situation I'm not likely too, so I just suck it up and Be the Perv in the corner.

oh and haunt the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been years and multiple profiles and not had one yet

I'm so desirable

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester

Didn't take long couldn't say how long though. But months I'd say not years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple, was a few hours!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Not too long. A think about 3 weeks I think. But I was having more success on other sites as I was looking more for NSA adventures and connection rather than pure swinging activities at the time. Especially before I found out how much I enjoyed clubs, which opened me up more to the wider scene. So naturally this site was not my main focus. Was more in it for the forums and discovering this world. However after a couple of years on here I met my now fiancee on here. Since then most of the people I meet is at clubs or out and about. I don't really use this to actively search for people, my life is busy. But on occasion I still get a few people drop by my profile and say hello.

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple
over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

Back in my single man days many moons ago, got a social meet the day I joined.

On this profile, two hours after we created the profile.

Winston

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Took me about four years on and off to even go to my first group social.

Still to have a first meet; I’ve been at the planning stage a few times but it’s always been scuppered either by distance or availability.

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

First time was a married couple that i ended up meeting regularly for over a year! It took about 1 month i think!

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By *eneralKenobiMan
over a year ago

North Angus

3 minutes and 23 seconds and I was swimming

That’s a lie

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By *osey WalesMan
over a year ago

Surrey

Get yourself to organised socials. Chat to people and dont be a dick.

The meets i have had stem from socials and clubs visits not purely from fab.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

A few weeks I think .

But I chat for a good while first .

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands

"3 minutes and 23 seconds and I was swimming

That’s a lie "

What part was a lie ?

The 3 min 23 secs , or the swimming.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You can improve your chances on here and this goes for singles or couples.

The more pics you have of you, different parts of the body and not just cock pics and the more detailed you make your profile (with your likes and what you can offer), the more chances you have of standing out from others.

If you then go to advertised socials or attend clubs or go on cam you increase your visibility on here.

FAB offers the tools…it’s up to you to make it work best for you.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I joined and had to wait 2 weeks to chat on the forums…I spotted C a few days later and contacted her.

We’ve been together 2 years now

It’s luck mixed with trying to stand out from the rest.

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