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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm happy for the heads up, and I'd do my best to accommodate. But it's all about give and take really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey, half the job done for us, where do we sign up? As long as the man does what the woman is asking properly too, if she likes being devoured then devoured it is, if she likes firm hands then firm hands, I’m all for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like someone telling me what they like specifically in the bedroom… or whichever room we start in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowing is great, finding out could possibly be better, but only if your successful obviously. I'm more than happy to be told op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to please the women how she wants, makes for a better experience for both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to discover it when together.

I enjoy it when she enjoys it, why wouldn’t I like to know what she wants?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion.

While it is fun experimenting and looking at various different methods in order to explore the levels of sexuality stimulation.

It does require communication as many people on not just this site but also in general populous. Have different levels of experience. What is pleasurable for one is not always pleasurable for the other. I do think it needs honesty about the sort of sexual stimulation and fantasy type play people want to engage with.

From a personal point of view. I prefer to engage with less experienced women. As I find it more enjoyable for not just myself. But, also the woman to slowly and methodically explore different elements of satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent I say, if I can help in anyway facilitate a good time then I am all for it. I might chuck in a few special moves to see how they react but more than willing to please they way they want it.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"I quite like someone telling me what they like specifically in the bedroom… or whichever room we start in "

I'll keep that in mind

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

What a wonderful question. I'm a great advocate for spontaneity when it comes to sex. Sex which is devoid of any strict agenda so that it's not too prescriptive.

However, for me, it goes hand-in-hand with any useful guidance or information from my playmate on what she would like.

It's all about mutual pleasures and fulfillment.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Crikey, half the job done for us, where do we sign up? As long as the man does what the woman is asking properly too, if she likes being devoured then devoured it is, if she likes firm hands then firm hands, I’m all for this "

I'm just so done with unsatisfying sex but I feel like I'm being selfish or demanding by being too specific.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Communication is key ..

I love it when women say what they love . But if it's not for me then I'll say as somewhere down the line they will find out ..

Just be you and be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it really hot to be with a woman who asks for exactly what she wants. Definitely a thumbs-up from me.

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By *ez200Man
over a year ago

malaga

Nothing better than a woman taking control

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Nothing wrong in being assertive

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I quite like someone telling me what they like specifically in the bedroom… or whichever room we start in "

Very clever Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as she whispers it to my ear while I'm flat on my stomach and she's behind me squeezing my butt

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Tarka trail

Lets start with what cake you like first. Then we can discuss how many orgasms you want in one night.

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.

I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.

Marc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it. I’ll do my best.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "

It’s absolutely fine and could be a huge turn on if it appears from innocent flirt.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here?

It’s absolutely fine and could be a huge turn on if it appears from innocent flirt."
I like to tell them what I want too , Gets me no where lol

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By *EXUALAMBASSADORMan
over a year ago

London

It's much better to know in advance.

what turns on one woman can turn off another.

Also, if it's a couple, they might have their personal boundaries agreed between them eg no kissing.

It's all about mutual respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady who is confident and knows what she wants is sexy to me and that includes what she wants in the bedroom*

(* other rooms/places also fine)

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton

Communication is really important. What she doesn't like is just as important as what she doesn't.

To me it only enhances the chances that the sex is unforgettable so the more pointers the better

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I would say I’m happy to accommodate but It has to go both ways. It’s only fair. But if it gets her going. perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need this information! If it's not working for the lady I need to know what does. People are different, and unsatisfactory sex is a waste of time and effort...never mind disappointing..

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

It’s really good to be told by a new partner what she does and also very specifically doesn’t like, she knows her own body and what works for her.

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.

I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.

Marc "

No I mean more liking things done a certain way rather than anything relating to specific people or anything particularly unusual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na darling I’m a geezer my motto is

Fuck it that’ll do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love women who know what they want and are clear about it. I get confused if I am left on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats part of the fun digging deep into wants

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Personally I’d rather know … saves twisting things when you should be pulling things

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
over a year ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow


"I’m happy to know and I’m happy to tell. It’s just communication at the end of the day it’s not about competition. Though I will feel very put out if they said when person x did this it was amazing because then I would feel like I was competing.

I do have personal boundaries and I would not cross them for anyone.

Marc

No I mean more liking things done a certain way rather than anything relating to specific people or anything particularly unusual. "

Then I see no issue whatsoever

Marc

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"I quite like someone telling me what they like specifically in the bedroom… or whichever room we start in "

The doorstep

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I tend to get on with things.. and the ladies enjoy them selves ...

Go slowly and respond to their responses

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

This is not straightforward - in the context of a committed relationship, one should always be willing to listen their partner(s) and adjust to please them - and vice versa.

Where it's a hook-up, the main driver is often the novelty of a new body and the rush that goes with that. The mood could easily be spoiled by being too prescriptive in that situation.

However, the beauty of Fab is that if you wanted a meet that involved, for example, having your pussy eaten for hours, you can ask for exactly that and dictate terms.

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Be good to get the heads up so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way i see sex is its my job to create the perfect sexual experience for who im with every time

So to do that i need to gather information desires fantasies wanted experiences if those things are something i can accommodate that i will do my best to do it

It makes me feel good to create great sex

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I like a lady who knows what she likes and gives guidance. But if it is prescriptive it can be restrictive.

She may have had bad experiences in the past but they weren't with me. If she dislikes oral, let me have a bit of fun giving her some. If she dislikes it we can stop.

Anal is another thing that I have done with ladies who said they didn't like it...but they allowed me to gently play and got into it.

I respect anyones boundaries sexually and you can sense if what you are doing is well received or not. But to be told how and what to do...and only that...would put me off.

Let's see where the mood takes us and just enjoy each other.

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By *poppins78Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

I think it’s good to know sometimes, as long as you are able to say and do the same in return

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm not really fussed long as we agree on something

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

There are some sexual things I really don't want to do, so I have no issue communicating that.

But the rest I'm happy to leave to chance, I'm not precious about exactly how they're done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will tell people beforehand the things that I don't like, I think the things you do like tend to come up in conversation naturally but I don't give people a specific "you must do this" list

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

What’s a special move? Just lay there and let me get on with it please.

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By *ez200Man
over a year ago

malaga

The way I look at it I have to pleasure the woman before I even think of myself

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm open to it but it does take away the exploration to see what makes them tick

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Communication is key. All parties will have a better time if they're aware of what works for the other and what doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lady being comfortable is the most important thing that’s a fact I only think that’s important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a good idea, as it helps set the expectations and everyone knows how to satisfy and just get down to the fun

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By *acey_Red OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I like a lady who knows what she likes and gives guidance. But if it is prescriptive it can be restrictive.

She may have had bad experiences in the past but they weren't with me. If she dislikes oral, let me have a bit of fun giving her some. If she dislikes it we can stop.

Anal is another thing that I have done with ladies who said they didn't like it...but they allowed me to gently play and got into it.

I respect anyones boundaries sexually and you can sense if what you are doing is well received or not. But to be told how and what to do...and only that...would put me off.

Let's see where the mood takes us and just enjoy each other. "

I don't really necessarily mean that there's lots of things off bounds or that I'm against anything that isn't my ultimate things. I'm more than happy to do things that aren't limits for me or that don't cause me any unfun kinds of pain for someone elses enjoyment. I mean more that I know what is going to get me off and what makes sex uncomfortable for me. Waiting for someone to figure that out through exploring alone can lead to a number or unsatisfying, uncomfortable or even painful encounters for me until we know each other well enough.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Communication is so very important.

I think that some might be put off by an individual expressing their needs and how they enjoy being touched, as if they’re not capable and able of hitting the spot themselves without guidance (ego).

For me I’d much rather know that they’re enjoying themselves, that I’m touching them how and where they want and I’d be happy that they were comfortable enough to communicate openly with me about that.

Every woman has faked an orgasm at least once but no guy ever thinks that it’s them. That’s because communication breaks down and egos get in the way

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By *onderstuff73mMan
over a year ago

Brum

Happy to know. Let’s discuss and get everything out there. Love that, it becomes a team effort and the sharing of personal information. Perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll definitely try to accommodate and being pushed in the right direction (not the total direction, I mostly know where I'm going!) but if it feels like a rigid process, it can take away some of the sensuality of it all and I don't want to have the moment lost as a result. If she were to tell me beforehand then I'd be well up for it

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By *ingo00Man
over a year ago

Cowley

Always good to know what each other likes beforehand, as long as it doesn't take all the creativity out of it!

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By *alentedfMan
over a year ago

Near Newbury

Great communication leads to great foreplay.

Which inturn leads to a great sexual experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No issue with it, I'd rather know of things they don't like up front and feedback on what I'm doing is always good. Certainly don't think it comes across as demanding.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I always listen must come with age. Sex is a mutual experience . What one person may really enjoy another may not. So it's always important to listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good sex needs good communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
no, I'd rather her tell me, that way I don't make a fool myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol signature moves wish I knew what they where. Personally I’ve found that things just work if there isn’t any bravado. I remember certain connections with woman because we connected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal preference. Everyone has their own particular needs and kinks so just get it out there and be straight with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "

I think it’s great, because it will increase both party’s enjoyment and connection. I think that guys like to think that we’re born just naturally knowing how to be sex gods, but our egos are a massive hindrance to learning together with our partners, to achieve something that’s ultimately much better, much more connected, and sexier

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?"

Happy for them to say, but most of the time it's just a guide. Just coz they enjoyed something specific with someone last Tuesday doesn't mean it's what they want tonight.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Like most things, a balance is best. If you're in bed with Mister-you-don't-want-to-do-it-like-that it could get a bit annoying.

But you want her to have a good time and who doesn't like cheating on the test?! So her feedback and direction is welcome.

But equally she shouldn't just be my way or the highway, being open minded and trying things is fun.

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By *restonM50Man
over a year ago

preston

It's entirely up to the individual. We all have wants and desires.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

Yes no problem, providing she’s it asking to jump off the wardrobe I’m more than happy to know and understand what the lady wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being able to communicate this is a huge turn on especially when it's in between sessions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a big turn on love it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "

I absolutely totally 100% love it and welcome and relish it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
when shes says I just want a good pounding no fucking about

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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "

Communication is key - knowing what they like is really important for everyone to enjoy themselves

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By *jekimMan
over a year ago

Wigan


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "
well to me no I find it very sexy when a woman knows how an what she likes and once her toes are curled up of her moves that's when we throw are own in

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By *rijj73Man
over a year ago

croydon

Love knowing, want to make it as fun as possible, happy to take critic if I’m not doing it right

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral


"How do you feel about women being quite specific about what pleases them sexually?

Are you happy for the information and happy to accommodate? Do you think she's demanding? Does it maje you feel a bit put out not to show off your signature moves if that's not what she likes? Am I even likely to get an honest response on here? "

Happy to hear it as long as it doesn't become a demand, but more of a coaching

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