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"Dont know might be some of both sexes that would rather not share!" why do think that is,is it to do with privacy of those they have met | |||
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"Be nice to have opportunity to get one. Chicken and egg..... people won't see you without (which is understandable tbf) but then if you don't get a break in first place you can't get one. " if you do have verifications , I've noticed more seem to display the summary rather than the verifications them selves | |||
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"Be nice to have opportunity to get one. Chicken and egg..... people won't see you without (which is understandable tbf) but then if you don't get a break in first place you can't get one. " Get to a club then, that way people will judge you on how you present yourself and not your veris, best way to get some verifications to be fair. | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them." I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them. I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. " That’s a fair point, especially if only a summary is available-Bob | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them." don't people generally differentiate between social or a fun meet tho | |||
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"Are women less likely to display their verifications?" I had mine on display for a while but when a guy I hadn’t met then messaged, expecting a recreation and repeat performance of what was described in one of my veris, it felt a bit odd to be having that convo with him, particularly when he accused me of being a time waster because I didnt want to drive over to his place immediately for sex with him on a dark Saturday evening apparently because I’d had a spontaneous meet previously with someone else, it meant I should automatically be available to have one with him. | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them. I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. That’s a fair point, especially if only a summary is available-Bob" Yes I think this would be a good idea. | |||
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"Dont know might be some of both sexes that would rather not share!why do think that is,is it to do with privacy of those they have met" Some people dont want to admit how many people they have met or who | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them. don't people generally differentiate between social or a fun meet tho" You can't, It just comes up as a verification. | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. " That’s downright creepy, hope they were blocked quicksmart, cheeky bastards - Bob | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 23/05/22 00:25:43]" do you think a summary for either type of meet then or just filter what you show | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. " Not something inhave or would do, but that is showing iniati e and effort, doing a bit of background research. I much prefer to arrange a meet on my own merit, rather than tick boxes someone else suggests | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them. I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. " | |||
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"Are women less likely to display their verifications?" Less is more in my Opinion. I won’t display everything I’m getting up to! I have decided to pick and chose what goes on my profile! | |||
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"Are women less likely to display their verifications? I had mine on display for a while but when a guy I hadn’t met then messaged, expecting a recreation and repeat performance of what was described in one of my veris, it felt a bit odd to be having that convo with him, particularly when he accused me of being a time waster because I didnt want to drive over to his place immediately for sex with him on a dark Saturday evening apparently because I’d had a spontaneous meet previously with someone else, it meant I should automatically be available to have one with him. " | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. That’s downright creepy, hope they were blocked quicksmart, cheeky bastards - Bob" I think that's probably why people choose the summary over full verification but it has been pointed out that there is no defining of a meet on the summary | |||
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"We leave ours on display as love receiving them and love having a nose through other people's haha " I was thinking of re displaying mine | |||
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"We leave ours on display as love receiving them and love having a nose through other people's haha I was thinking of re displaying mine " No harm in doing so at all, go for it we say! We would though cause we are nosey | |||
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"We leave ours on display as love receiving them and love having a nose through other people's haha I was thinking of re displaying mine No harm in doing so at all, go for it we say! We would though cause we are nosey " chuckle | |||
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"Are women less likely to display their verifications?" Nearly all the women I've verified don't publish what I had written and the main reason is they simply prefer to keep it private who they are intimate with, which is their prerogative of course. However, one woman I met and was veri'd by as part of a gangbang originally published it. But she soon had to take all the veri's from all the guys who had attended the soiree down as we started to get targeted by several male and couple profiles (same person/people? Possible) all demanding we send pics and her friends only pics and constantly trying to get her phone number etc... Of course we all blocked and reported but it was ultimately easier just to keep it all private. | |||
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"Are women less likely to display their verifications? Nearly all the women I've verified don't publish what I had written and the main reason is they simply prefer to keep it private who they are intimate with, which is their prerogative of course. However, one woman I met and was veri'd by as part of a gangbang originally published it. But she soon had to take all the veri's from all the guys who had attended the soiree down as we started to get targeted by several male and couple profiles (same person/people? Possible) all demanding we send pics and her friends only pics and constantly trying to get her phone number etc... Of course we all blocked and reported but it was ultimately easier just to keep it all private. " Yeah that's bad craic like | |||
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"Surly it has a great deal to do with if it was a positive experience that they would want to publish? " May sometimes be the case but not always, it's usually mostly about privacy | |||
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"I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. " I agree. I have had to hide my veris which are mainly social as some fake account started messaging them pretending to be me! | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them. I think there needs to be two types of veri - a meet type and and social type. " Why do you need to know if someone has played or it's just a social? | |||
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"Be nice to have opportunity to get one. Chicken and egg..... people won't see you without (which is understandable tbf) but then if you don't get a break in first place you can't get one. " Some will. I've met 2 guys without veris. Absolutely lovely men, one became a regular for a bit and the other I'd definitely meet again. | |||
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"Veri's are always "your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't". Having been a swinger for a while, I've seen :- single ladies tend not to show them or many of them. They get jelous stalkers at times. Plus being the most sought after, they don't have to prove they are real. Single men moan they can't get them. Then if they do get one, they moan it's been xyz before they get another. So obversly no one ever meets or plays. So there leaving? Too many veris put people off. No matter if your a couple, or single. No matter if they are socails or meets. Although men having lots " hes the man". Females, shes a slut, and a whore. Couples " too many meets, puts people off". " 100% this. | |||
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"…. Having said that I read everyone else’s and it often can affect my choice on whether to meet them x" This is true. If I see 124 veris from names such as cock12inch / gymfitdude / tallguy68 I’m absolutely not winking or sending a message, I kinda get the point she won’t be into me. | |||
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"They are to prove someone is genuine. I wouldn’t show sexual ones in a million years. None of anyone’s business who I meet or what I do. I don’t leave them for other people either. Having said that I read everyone else’s and it often can affect my choice on whether to meet them x" That doesn’t strike you as a touch of double standards? You dislike others doing the very thing that you do? | |||
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"They are to prove someone is genuine. I wouldn’t show sexual ones in a million years. None of anyone’s business who I meet or what I do. I don’t leave them for other people either. Having said that I read everyone else’s and it often can affect my choice on whether to meet them x That doesn’t strike you as a touch of double standards? You dislike others doing the very thing that you do? " No I don’t. They don’t have to show them! | |||
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"I spent a long time hiding my verifications, mainly because I dislike that people seem to enjoy pulling on the thread of verifications and checking out a persons past. I’ve found that many use it as a way to check on a persons ‘type’, which seems ludicrous to me as it removes a persons ability to actively choose, instead it bases interactions on the viewers self esteem. Now I just show social verifications, as they show that I’m real. Veri’s are meant to prove that a person is who they are, not as a way to track and trace or as trip advisor" Exactly why I don't like to see more than 4. | |||
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"I spent a long time hiding my verifications, mainly because I dislike that people seem to enjoy pulling on the thread of verifications and checking out a persons past. I’ve found that many use it as a way to check on a persons ‘type’, which seems ludicrous to me as it removes a persons ability to actively choose, instead it bases interactions on the viewers self esteem. Now I just show social verifications, as they show that I’m real. Veri’s are meant to prove that a person is who they are, not as a way to track and trace or as trip advisor" I actually agree with you tea on this to some extent. I don’t display my veris at all …. They become a magnet for those trawling and gossiping! | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. " I've had the same.. people contacting those I've met or asking me about those I've met to see what I or they are like | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. " I have had this once I found it creepy as hell. | |||
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"I don't display mine as I've had people message people who've met me asking them to say XYZ is a friend and I think you should meet them etc Also I've had some graphic ones on my couples profile explaining details of the meet & well fo you really want to read those I'm happy to show them if people ask but I generally prefer to keep them hidden or sometimes I'll show one or two recent ones just to prove I meet as planned etc " Lol totally thought I was in my singles orofile when I wrote this | |||
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"I had a couple of occasions when men mailed the people on my verifications, asking for more information about me, tips on how best to get a meet etc. I have had this once I found it creepy as hell." Yuk, that's awful. | |||
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"Im real thats all that need be known " This. Believe me or don’t. I don’t do all this video calling to prove I’m real either. | |||
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"Im real thats all that need be known This. Believe me or don’t. I don’t do all this video calling to prove I’m real either. " Ugh.... Yes! Just turn up, then you'll see! | |||
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"Im real thats all that need be known This. Believe me or don’t. I don’t do all this video calling to prove I’m real either. " I don't think I've ever video called on here and I have been here donkeys | |||
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"Im real thats all that need be known This. Believe me or don’t. I don’t do all this video calling to prove I’m real either. " but thats wank time ffs | |||
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"I've wondered this, For me it's just that the vast majority of my verifications are from socials so I don't see the point in displaying all of them." Does a social meet not confirm you are genuine, and match the person you purport to be, in your profile? Most of my veris are from the first social meet, and it's nothing to do with anyone else whether I went on to have a play date with the person afterwards. The fact is, I matched my profile, and that's all anyone needs to know. | |||
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"I don’t usually display mine after someone I used to see regularly said everyone I’d met had contacted them - didn’t take long to find out that they’d all been contacted by that person first . Quite an eye opener, so now just easier to keep them hidden. " yeah that has been my experience too | |||
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