FabSwingers.com forum: Old Verifications

By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Three days ago I declined a guy ( part of a couple) as we’re not looking for anymore guys right now.

Today he asked the exact same question and I sent a simple reply with a smiley face totally inoffensive but he didn’t click so I explained he’d already asked. Again polite and smiley face . He was then rude and commented that seeing as we didn’t have a veri in the last four years it explained a lot. Then blocked us. We’ve had three meets in the last two months with existing friends and mostly don’t tend to publish verifications as we don’t see the need as we are proven genuine.

No great loss, but this got me thinking and my question is, does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun?

It’s a shame really as I’d added him to our hotlist as he was a good looking guy. Bad call by me obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, I don’t really put much stock in verifications beyond another person has met someone and says they’re real.

I’ll meet people who have none, as much as I’ll meet someone with 100.

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

"Three days ago I declined a guy ( part of a couple) as we’re not looking for anymore guys right now.

No great loss, but this got me thinking and my question is, does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun?

It’s a shame really as I’d added him to our hotlist as he was a good looking guy. Bad call by me obviously. "

Good looking maybe.

Bit of a knob too though. If he can't be bothered to remember who he's messaged and been declined from then he's clearly just playing the numbers game and C&P everyone

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By *ickshawedCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

When we're talking to a couple I like to see at least one recent verification. We've talked to "a couple" before that had years old verifications but it would seem they had broken up since then and only the man was using the account.

For me it just adds to the reassurance that they both exist and I'd be more likely to chat to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whistling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say it matters to me, I've had couple of meets in past with people who'd had no recent verifications.

Not like we're buying a car and need a current MOT.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Three days ago I declined a guy ( part of a couple) as we’re not looking for anymore guys right now.

No great loss, but this got me thinking and my question is, does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun?

It’s a shame really as I’d added him to our hotlist as he was a good looking guy. Bad call by me obviously.

Good looking maybe.

Bit of a knob too though. If he can't be bothered to remember who he's messaged and been declined from then he's clearly just playing the numbers game and C&P everyone "

Yes I guessed that and can honestly say we’re not devastated

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"When we're talking to a couple I like to see at least one recent verification. We've talked to "a couple" before that had years old verifications but it would seem they had broken up since then and only the man was using the account.

For me it just adds to the reassurance that they both exist and I'd be more likely to chat to them."

Many years ago I responded to non verified and after a few pics they disappear. So yes there must be some I agree.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Can't say it matters to me, I've had couple of meets in past with people who'd had no recent verifications.

Not like we're buying a car and need a current MOT. "

Ha ha great post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a 'couple' had their last veri 4 years ago I'd assume she left him and he's alone sat wanking over sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather see no veris at all showing.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun"

Clearly it puts of idiots

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

My rule is, if I send a message, and get no reply, or the lady stops messaging, I don't send another, and leave it. No need for nastiness.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"My rule is, if I send a message, and get no reply, or the lady stops messaging, I don't send another, and leave it. No need for nastiness. "
very true. We are always polite and always reply. I’ve made the profile negative which has helped reduce numbers.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"If a 'couple' had their last veri 4 years ago I'd assume she left him and he's alone sat wanking over sex chat.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Whistling

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

"Whistling

A very friendly profile x

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A local couple had a public falling out a few years ago and she advertised for a replacement.

When she found one she continued with the same profile and changed a couple of details.

All the verifications remained but at that stage, which was long before covid, it had been 2 or 3 years since the profile had been verified.

Anyone not knowing the history would automatically have assumed that the 40+ veries were for the couple in its current form which in my opinion was misleading and therefore a fake profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the verifications are several years old without any recent ones - I wouldn't refuse them based just on that but it would be a red flag and I'd be more cautious.

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"A local couple had a public falling out a few years ago and she advertised for a replacement.

When she found one she continued with the same profile and changed a couple of details.

All the verifications remained but at that stage, which was long before covid, it had been 2 or 3 years since the profile had been verified.

Anyone not knowing the history would automatically have assumed that the 40+ veries were for the couple in its current form which in my opinion was misleading and therefore a fake profile. "

Yes but that is extreme don’t you think?? A small percentage of situations like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't say it matters to me, I've had couple of meets in past with people who'd had no recent verifications.

Not like we're buying a car and need a current MOT.

Ha ha great post

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"If the verifications are several years old without any recent ones - I wouldn't refuse them based just on that but it would be a red flag and I'd be more cautious."

So a verification summary is better ? I can message six people to verify us within a week . Is that being genuine? I agree with you though being cautious is wise on here. We’ve been caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I've got recent veris for socials, not sex.

What does that say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some folk think they're entitled to a meet. We don't, not that we haven't had our share of drawn out messages to waste our time.

That said if a meet isn't going to be happening or the people messaging don't understand that we're not interested we just block and move on. Pay it no mind and just carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the verifications are several years old without any recent ones - I wouldn't refuse them based just on that but it would be a red flag and I'd be more cautious.

So a verification summary is better ? I can message six people to verify us within a week . Is that being genuine? I agree with you though being cautious is wise on here. We’ve been caught out. "

How is it not genuine? Have they met you both together recently?

That's all they are confirming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only reason I don’t have a verification is because my penis can’t type.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"A local couple had a public falling out a few years ago and she advertised for a replacement.

When she found one she continued with the same profile and changed a couple of details.

All the verifications remained but at that stage, which was long before covid, it had been 2 or 3 years since the profile had been verified.

Anyone not knowing the history would automatically have assumed that the 40+ veries were for the couple in its current form which in my opinion was misleading and therefore a fake profile.

Yes but that is extreme don’t you think?? A small percentage of situations like that. "

I agree. It was more of an example to show that it's not just men who can use an old couples profile to mislead.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"No great loss, but this got me thinking and my question is, does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun? "

I'm genuine, it's up to you to decide if I'm fun though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair if I was looking to meet I’d need a very recent verification.

I’d definitely want my girl recently spunked in from somebody else.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Yes, a lack of a recent verification would make us wary if not put us off completely.

We appreciate covid put a dampener on a lot of peoples activities so we give some leeway due to that. If someone's last meet was late 2019 then fair enough, we would be willing to give someone the benefit of the doubt on that.

On the flip side though we've been approached by accounts where the last veri may have been from anywhere from 5 to 7 years ago with photos to match. Admittedly that's only happened a couple of times on Fab but I'm pretty sure thats a red flag to anyone.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I will ask if they've not had a veri for years, most say they took a break or were in a relationship etc.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"To be fair if I was looking to meet I’d need a very recent verification.

I’d definitely want my girl recently spunked in from somebody else."

He likes sloppy seconds ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a year or two because of covid but any longer than that would put me off.

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By *tokeman4str8funMan
over a year ago

clayton, newcastle

"Three days ago I declined a guy ( part of a couple) as we’re not looking for anymore guys right now.

No great loss, but this got me thinking and my question is, does a lack of recent verifications put people off or are a few veris enough to confirm genuine and fun?

It’s a shame really as I’d added him to our hotlist as he was a good looking guy. Bad call by me obviously. "

Been here 2 years and not had a veri.

Met 2 person, did try cams on mobile, still none

Person I met had no veris to,

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By *ackal1 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Thanks for all the replies.

Had a meet tonight but won’t ask for a veri as we’ve met before. Maybe we should

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By *akie32Man
over a year ago

winchester

never relly look at verys, always ask for a social meet somewhere public and make my own mind up, dont care whaat others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of a recent verification wouldn’t put us off.

We haven’t had a meet or visited a club for the past two years. A mixture of the pandemic and finding our mojo again.

Lack of any verifications on a profile that’s been active since pre pandemic times would be a red flag, it suggests they’re probably never going to.

Viv

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By *inkylovers09Couple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Not put us off as such but a little cautious.. more with women profiles as they could have received a fake veri (which we have seen) if they are genuine they would have more than one or a more recent one

With couples it would make us think twice as they could have split up and now pretending to be a couple when its just the male half.

(Can you tell we have had a few fake profiles recently! Lol)

Think we are a good judgment of profiles tho and spot them pretty quickly

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

It wouldn't put us off, we're often seeing people and don't bother with them unless the other fabbers want one, then we'll oblige them with them.

The last 3 on our list we didn't play with nut are great fun and we talk with.

We stopped reading to much into what a fab veri means generally beyond a met one that is by someone established here, if that makes sense.

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By *uckyNineMan
over a year ago

prescot

Don’t you love it when u politely turn someone down and they block you, totally puts you in your place

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

A lack of recent verification would be a warning sign for me, yes.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

I’ve seen some profiles that require at least 3 veris, one of which must have been within the last 6 months … then of course there are those who won’t meet anyone that doesn’t have a single veri. So clearly important to some and not others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly couldn't care less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My rule is, if I send a message, and get no reply, or the lady stops messaging, I don't send another, and leave it. No need for nastiness. "

Hmm my policy too have broken it a couple of times but try to keep to it as a general rule.

Agree that we shouldn’t effectively harass people till they hit the block.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’d never think to look when someone’s last veri was. I never do veris unless someone particularly wanted one and even then it depends who it is and I’ll only do a social one. I don’t really want them so I tell people not to leave one for me, although it’s rarely even mentioned as most of the people I’ve met/meet don’t want them either. It’s shocked me that people won’t meet if you don’t have recent veris.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"If a 'couple' had their last veri 4 years ago I'd assume she left him and he's alone sat wanking over sex chat.

You know me so well

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Pretty sure us not showing our veris annoys some and has cost us a meet or so but there's plenty of offers still coming our way so we're not fussed at all what others think. We got blocked a few weeks back op with the guy accusing us of being fake due to hidden veris, would've sent him to profiles that we have verified but ah well.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

A lack of recent verifications woukd definitely put me off meeting someone especially a couple as there dynamic could have changed, one may no longer be interested in meeting etc

But that said lots haven't met during Covid which pretty much wipes out 2020/2021 & you have a verification from late 2019 which to be honest right now I'd class as recent

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Mine are over 2yrs old … no one has floated my boat recently … puts me out the game then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If a 'couple' had their last veri 4 years ago I'd assume she left him and he's alone sat wanking over sex chat.

You know me so well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People lie with some verifications.....

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We’re not bothered with veri’s. Rarely leave them or ask for them. We have met lots more people than our veris would have you believe. Personally I preferred fab when they didn’t exist. Makes me feel like a product review on eBay. I don’t like the idea of all the details of our meet being broadcast.

Each to their own

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Reassuring they're real, but I never read them

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm only interested in people bring who they claim to be, plus reliable, as long as we're compatible. I don't use veris like TripAdvisor, rating the shag.

I'm not too bothered about needing recent veris

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

We have had a pandemic over the past couple of years and a lot of people were understandably not meeting and I suspect some may still be nervous even now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re not bothered with veri’s. Rarely leave them or ask for them. We have met lots more people than our veris would have you believe. Personally I preferred fab when they didn’t exist. Makes me feel like a product review on eBay. I don’t like the idea of all the details of our meet being broadcast.

Each to their own"

I prefer people who don't show veris or summary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own

I prefer people who don't show veris or summary."

Trouble is i dont have a varie as i meet with a lady thats not on fab but you would be supprised the amount of people that wont even reply to a message if you dont have that green tick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own

I prefer people who don't show veris or summary.

Trouble is i dont have a varie as i meet with a lady thats not on fab but you would be supprised the amount of people that wont even reply to a message if you dont have that green tick."

People read profiles before they reply. Might not be the absence of a green tick that puts them off.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I'm thinking of obtaining a 'Veri' pistol.

Then I oould give people red or green signals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I find it very off putting when I see a massive list of verifications on a profile.

I think it’s far better to have a small amount of ‘good’ verifications however old or new they are.

I think a handful of social ones look ok but sexually not so good when racking up the numbers.

Personally I wouldn’t publish every single verification I ever had on my profile. I would pick and choose for sure. It’s not about racking up the numbers for me. Less is certainly more!

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

It's worse when the veris are from hidden profiles ... and especially if only one (either single female or couple) ...then it's red flag city

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By *illingToHelpMan
over a year ago

Oldham or South Shore

I don’t put much in to verifications. I have a couple and all they say is that I’m not a bot profile. To be honest, I’d prefer not to make or receive verifications once the first one has been received, confirming that the person is genuine. Sometimes people say really personal or overtly sexual things in verifications, and I’d rather keep everything a bit more private and discreet. So, when I meet someone, I make a point of saying there’s no need to leave a verification. Why broadcast to everyone what you’ve been getting up to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met a lot of people from the site over the years, but haven't met anyone this time round, predominately because I re-joined during lockdown and out of lockdown I've had a challenging 18 months personally

I don't want to rely on old veri's and on re-joining it seemed unfair to asked people to verify me when people weren't supposed to be meeting

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We had a couple wink us today. Their last veri was 10 years ago. The profile write up had their ages of 10 years ago. 2 photos none discript, yep 10 years ago. I would wonder if they are still together? Or if he's now using an old couples as a single man to up his chances.

We like more recent veris, taking into account pandemic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met a lot of people from the site over the years, but haven't met anyone this time round, predominately because I re-joined during lockdown and out of lockdown I've had a challenging 18 months personally

I don't want to rely on old veri's and on re-joining it seemed unfair to asked people to verify me when people weren't supposed to be meeting"

I'll re-verify you if you want me to. You are still the decent bloke I've known for the last 10+ years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to rely on old veri's and on re-joining it seemed unfair to asked people to verify me when people weren't supposed to be meeting

I'll re-verify you if you want me to. You are still the decent bloke I've known for the last 10+ years.

Has it been 10 years?

We should have had a party

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Some people use verifications like trip advisor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Old verifications don't matter so much to me, whereas accounts with no recent pics do.

Would you buy a car/house with the last pics being 3+ year old?

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We don’t rate veris that much if we’re interested in meeting someone as you only see the positive ones anyways.

Just a little cautious if it’s a couple and it’s been a while since their last veri in case they’re no longer together

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By *otplumMan
over a year ago

Margate

Have not bothered with Veris for some time now. Have had a good selection of meets in the last couple of years and have met some lovely ladys. Feel almost disrespectful writing about them.

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