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When you organise a vanilla date

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And then find out they’re on Fab so Ive got a date tomorrow and today he revealed he’s on here too and has seen me on here before! Lol!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Good stuff, hope all goes great for you x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Well, ice breaker conversation right there!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well, ice breaker conversation right there! "

Haha very true!

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By *ortherner81Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"And then find out they’re on Fab so Ive got a date tomorrow and today he revealed he’s on here too and has seen me on here before! Lol! "

Decision time then .. try and have a 'normal' date, or get straight into talking about Fab life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I went on a date last night

Good luck OP

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a stalker.....lol im sure its fine....yikes x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out "

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here. "

I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I don't do vanilla dates.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "

Sounds perfect! Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he’s a gent will you sit on his face?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you have a great time, I've forgotten what dating is like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was swiping away I was surprised with the amount of people I recognised from Fab

Hope the date goes well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he’s a gent will you sit on his face?"

NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you have a great time and both get what you want from it. It is impossible to not be slightly different to how it would have been otherwise, but he probably knew you was on fab right from the start. You'll probably have dirtier sex than otherwise, but that's a good thing, surely!!

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "

That is one of the benefits to this little situation with him.

Obviously it does not mean sex is guaranteed etc but it's so much easier to be able to mention sex as a topic and discuss without it coming across as that's what you are wanting or seeming like a creep. Knowing what they like early on let's you know if you are sexually compatible.

It is a disadvantage to vanilla dating that sometimes sex can be so far away from the first date then when you eventually get around to it, there is just no compatibility there.

Now if sex is the only or majority of conversation then that is not good at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hope you have a great time and both get what you want from it. It is impossible to not be slightly different to how it would have been otherwise, but he probably knew you was on fab right from the start. You'll probably have dirtier sex than otherwise, but that's a good thing, surely!! "

Oh yeah he messaged me on fab a whole month before liking me on Hinge dirty sex is a very good thing!

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

I spoke to someone recently who said that if she went on a date with someone from dating site she would not fuck them on a first date. But if it's swinging it's different.

So maybe whether your date is on fab might dictate whether you're going to get a shag. Although OP I've seen you on cam and I'm sure that if you want a shag he won't be able to refuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can be a good thing can be a bad thing

I am looking for different things bween them

But have found the minute they find I am on fab they focus shifts from wanting to date and all that to just wanting to bang

Hopefully it dosent turn that way for you op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I spoke to someone recently who said that if she went on a date with someone from dating site she would not fuck them on a first date. But if it's swinging it's different.

So maybe whether your date is on fab might dictate whether you're going to get a shag. Although OP I've seen you on cam and I'm sure that if you want a shag he won't be able to refuse."

We are going for coffee, there’ll be no fucking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy!

That is one of the benefits to this little situation with him.

Obviously it does not mean sex is guaranteed etc but it's so much easier to be able to mention sex as a topic and discuss without it coming across as that's what you are wanting or seeming like a creep. Knowing what they like early on let's you know if you are sexually compatible.

It is a disadvantage to vanilla dating that sometimes sex can be so far away from the first date then when you eventually get around to it, there is just no compatibility there.

Now if sex is the only or majority of conversation then that is not good at all. "

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire


"We are going for coffee, there’ll be no fucking lol "

"Coffee" - is this a new kink that I haven't heard of?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.

I’ve always said that too but we’ll see! "

Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It could be very interesting indeed. Enjoy the date OP

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

At least you have a topic in common that will lead to some interesting conversations. Hope it all goes well for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you get married can we all come to the wedding?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Good luck OP

I stopped Vanilla dating when I joined here, it's kinky dating all the way now for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah good luck on the date!!

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Best of luck OP. Have fun.

My situation is a bit more complicated. I can't have a 'vanilla' date because I'm in a poly relationship. I would have to tell the lady all about my lifestyle before taking her out (only fair). This inevitably causes issues as most women wouldn't entertain the idea of sharing. And then they often confuse it with swinging etc.

Obviously not true of most... But it's a struggle even on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Best of luck OP. Have fun.

My situation is a bit more complicated. I can't have a 'vanilla' date because I'm in a poly relationship. I would have to tell the lady all about my lifestyle before taking her out (only fair). This inevitably causes issues as most women wouldn't entertain the idea of sharing. And then they often confuse it with swinging etc.

Obviously not true of most... But it's a struggle even on here."

At least you’re honest! Yeah I wouldn’t consider dating someone poly, I think it’s a special kind that can handle that! Have you tried the dating app that is specifically for poly dating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When arranging a sensible date

And realising they’re on Fab quite late

You should go for a coffee

With caramel or toffee

Cos you’re both not vanilla, check mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never actually been on a date date

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "

Well that sounds fantastic

Have a brilliant time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope all goes well OP

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.

I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!

Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck. "

We met on here (Northern Chat room)

First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs

Good luck on your date

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"If you get married can we all come to the wedding?"

When we got married, 1/3rd of the guests were from fab.

Mind we had to have a backstory for the relatives as to how we knew them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.

I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!

Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck.

We met on here (Northern Chat room)

First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs

Good luck on your date "

Wow is it really 11 years! I remember when you got together.

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"I wouldn't date anyone who had a profile on here.

I’ve always said that too but we’ll see!

Lots of people have met their partner on here. It's possible. Good luck.

We met on here (Northern Chat room)

First meet 11 yrs ago and been married 8 yrs

Good luck on your date

Wow is it really 11 years! I remember when you got together. "

It was in the chat room Feb 14th a leap year Meg proposed to me and I said yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me last year.

Also, I feel it’s becoming more and more a thing as a lot of singles are using fab like dating sites now. The amount you see on tinder etc that are also here is massive!

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By *iggyStarjumpsMan
over a year ago

Stockport


"Soooo is he still up for vanilla dating or will he get all Fab on you and expect a little more now that he has pointed it out

He’s up for vanilla dating, he’s just looking for one sexually adventurous girl much like I’m just looking for one sexually adventurous guy! "

Good luck, have a great time!

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Should I say that is a win-win OP?

Or at the very least you know where you stand and you are not going to play hopscotch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm dating someone from here and have for 2 years it can work. only problem is looking for that third person to join the fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm dating someone from here and have for 2 years it can work. only problem is looking for that third person to join the fun "

Awww I love this, gives me hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck on your date OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww I'm glad it does!! someone for everyone so I've been told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The topic of Fab provides great conversation fodder on a date, particularly the weird messages and shit

Hope it goes well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he'd mentioned fab before we met, he wouldn't be for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The topic of Fab provides great conversation fodder on a date, particularly the weird messages and shit

Hope it goes well!"

I mean he’s seen me suck cock and get fucked, nothing left to hide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he'd mentioned fab before we met, he wouldn't be for me"

Why? (Not a dig at all, but genuinely curious).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The topic of Fab provides great conversation fodder on a date, particularly the weird messages and shit

Hope it goes well!

I mean he’s seen me suck cock and get fucked, nothing left to hide "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he'd mentioned fab before we met, he wouldn't be for me

Why? (Not a dig at all, but genuinely curious)."

I'd probably think he was all about the sex.

And for me, I wouldn't want to date someone like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP. Hope it turns well. Isn't that the dream for most? Find someone who you like in vanilla life and is also into swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good luck OP. Hope it turns well. Isn't that the dream for most? Find someone who you like in vanilla life and is also into swinging?"

We won’t swing lol

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'm just going you wish you good luck!

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