FabSwingers.com forum: How often you send messages and winks ?

By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Just wondering how often people send UNSOLICITED messages and winks , so many complaining about being ignored or rejected made me realise I send them on average 1 every 6 months or so, what do you do ?

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I havnt been actively looking in yonks, but when I was, provably once a month ish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that often in reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is it the same few men just flooding women's inboxes?

SINFUL

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Rarely, unless their status, profile or forum post piques my interest.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"So is it the same few men just flooding women's inboxes?

SINFUL "

This is what I'm thinking

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

i send odd winks when I get really horny

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

If I like someone I will wink.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Depends on if someone or something catches my eye so could send a few messages a week or in some weeks none at all. I never send or respond to winks.

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I usually send wink as a way to inform my interest without bothering them with a message.. If I get a wink back I then send a message.

Sometimes (more so recently) I'll send a message as winks seem to be lost somewhere.. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I thought winks where just ignored these days..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically most have to start with one approaching the other so they will always be unsolicited. I usually wink first and only message if I get one in return. The problem is the people who persist after being rejected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always respond to a wink.. it saves all the pain of coming up with a witty and thoughtful message only to never have been read..if the wink is acknowledged then I will take the time with a good message.

However I usually lurk in shadows of the forums these days..

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Technically most have to start with one approaching the other so they will always be unsolicited. I usually wink first and only message if I get one in return. The problem is the people who persist after being rejected

Yes I wink back if I like the wink I've got, or if I really like it I'll message in response to a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i stopped sending messages to women as everyday on the forum i see them complaining about the ones they get.

its got to the point where whatever you do its never going to be the right thing so i just dont bother now.

im sure others feel like this but are not brave enough to say so

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I always respond to a wink.. it saves all the pain of coming up with a witty and thoughtful message only to never have been read..if the wink is acknowledged then I will take the time with a good message.

However I usually lurk in shadows of the forums these days.. "

I don't respond to a wink if I'm not interested or they look fake, I usually suggest they go and get photo verified before engaging with people

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I've never sent anyone a first message x

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

I don't usually wink someone. I too thought people ignore them or don't read anything into the wink itself....

However, if someone winks me I will wink them and raise them with a few fabs of pics I like in their profile.

For amusement I wink myself - but that's just for my own personal giggles!!!

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I've never sent anyone a first message x"

Seeing your pics, I imagine you'll never have to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've only ever sent a couple of winks as part of Forum game.

I often message people privately via threads regarding something they posted, but for new chat or meets perhaps only once a month?

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

So own up ! Who's got the cut and paste scattergun message outbox then

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Whenever I feel like it

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Once every three or four months or do. Someone really has to catch my eye for me to message. I am not currently looking and that happens often as well, so I think it is the same old desperadoes using a scatter gun approach that inundate people's mail boxes.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?"

How often do you do it ? No judgement

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Whenever I feel like it

How often is that ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Probably once a day at least

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Probably once a day at least

OK fair enough

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

How often do you do it ? No judgement "

Depends what you mean by unsolicited. Some profiles use language that encourage messages. Maybe once per day or a flurry if I'm feeling horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every 20mins

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

I feel winks are put in a really strange place... I'd much rather prefer it on "Home" as that's often where I am the most. I don't notice until I change a pic or edit something! Then it looks like I'm ignoring.

I message as and when I feel like it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never. Unless it’s a forum/thread challenge x

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Every 20mins"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I chat to my regulars (said in a none prostitute kind of way)

I rarely message anyone and I don’t wink unless it’s a forum game.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Never. Unless it’s a forum/thread challenge x"

I've seen your pics,too busy clearing your inbox I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only wink in real life

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I feel winks are put in a really strange place... I'd much rather prefer it on "Home" as that's often where I am the most. I don't notice until I change a pic or edit something! Then it looks like I'm ignoring.

I message as and when I feel like it.

Have to agree ! I often miss them

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

We basically don't bother with winks either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will quite often send a wink.

Some profiles say they won't acknowledge a wink so after reading the profile I will determine whether or not to send a message.

I think a wink shows interest and if no wink back or message then I will know that there is no mutual interest so saves me wasting mine and their time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent out about 8 messages today (not replies, just new conversations)

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"I've sent out about 8 messages today (not replies, just new conversations)"

I just fab your sexy ass pictures now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent out about 8 messages today (not replies, just new conversations)

I just fab your sexy ass pictures now..

Well thank you x

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Almost never respond to winks.

Messages over 3 words, always respond.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I've sent out about 8 messages today (not replies, just new conversations)

I just fab your sexy ass pictures now..

Well thank you x"

I'm always fabbing Kitty's sexy ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say love to see your pics on a daily basis.. keeps me coming back for more..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im the saame as mimi400

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Almost never respond to winks.

Messages over 3 words, always respond.

Good policy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every Monday at 8.30pm without fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every Monday at 8.30pm without fail.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Never. Unless it’s a forum/thread challenge x

I've seen your pics,too busy clearing your inbox I'd say

. My inbox is a mess!

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Every Monday at 8.30pm without fail.

I'll shall await

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"I've sent out about 8 messages today (not replies, just new conversations)

I just fab your sexy ass pictures now..

Well thank you x"

Not a problem.. Just wish I could 'fab' you in person

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Not that often

When something takes my fancy…

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Just wondering how often people send UNSOLICITED messages and winks , so many complaining about being ignored or rejected made me realise I send them on average 1 every 6 months or so, what do you do ?"

What constitutes "unsolicited"?

It's not unsolicited if a woman's profile piques my interest and I send her a unique handcrafted message.

It would be unsolicited if her profile says "Only here for the forums; not looking to chat or meet".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever messaged a few guys first.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

What constitutes "unsolicited"?

It's not unsolicited if a woman's profile piques my interest and I send her a unique handcrafted message.

It would be unsolicited if her profile says "Only here for the forums; not looking to chat or meet".

That is certainly a view point

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Just when I stumble across someone who tickles my fancy. Not very often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every Monday at 8.30pm without fail.

I'll shall await

I've got a long waiting list...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havnt for ages tbh, only when taking parts in games but unsolicited as such its been months

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not for a very long time

Jo x

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Every Monday at 8.30pm without fail.

I'll shall await

I've got a long waiting list..."

Of that, I've no doubt

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Just when I stumble across someone who tickles my fancy. Not very often. "

Same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once a year on feb 31st

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?"

Exactly! Creamblues's response completely extinguishes OP's question.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

Exactly! Creamblues's response completely extinguishes OP's question.

To explain... I was asking HOW OFTEN, hope that helps

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

Exactly! Creamblues's response completely extinguishes OP's question.

To explain... I was asking HOW OFTEN, hope that helps "

Do you mean to the same person or different/distinct people?

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Once a year on feb 31st"

Picky

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

Exactly! Creamblues's response completely extinguishes OP's question.

To explain... I was asking HOW OFTEN, hope that helps

Do you mean to the same person or different/distinct people?"

No, I mean how often do you find yourself sending a 1st message to someone you have an interest in ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez it's a difficult concept for some to grasp

I might send one now

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Jeez it's a difficult concept for some to grasp

I might send one now"

Ah you feel my pain

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I only message people via forum games so not at all for any other purpose.

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Am I missing something? If you like the look of someone then you send them a message or wink. Otherwise how are you going to get to know them?

Exactly! Creamblues's response completely extinguishes OP's question.

To explain... I was asking HOW OFTEN, hope that helps

Do you mean to the same person or different/distinct people?

No, I mean how often do you find yourself sending a 1st message to someone you have an interest in ? "

Ah, quite often (ish)

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I only message people via forum games so not at all for any other purpose. "

Very well explained in your profile

Oh and to not be a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

I search every couple of days as not everyone uses the forums. If I find someone I think I’d match with, I will send them a short introduction message just to gauge if they are interested, if not I leave it at that. Trying to meet people as a man is difficult

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

I send a wink. Hard to start messaging for some people and a simple hi how are you is apparently frowned upon you have to send a CV lol

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Never

Yea but your inbox probably breaks FAB regularly

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I search every couple of days as not everyone uses the forums. If I find someone I think I’d match with, I will send them a short introduction message just to gauge if they are interested, if not I leave it at that. Trying to meet people as a man is difficult "

Agreed, the odds are stacked

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"Never

Yea but your inbox probably breaks FAB regularly

I was thinking the same!

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"Never

I'd message you again if you were closer.. Lol

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I send a wink. Hard to start messaging for some people and a simple hi how are you is apparently frowned upon you have to send a CV lol"

Winks often get lost in the mix and people want to get a feel of what your like in a personal message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i have sent one unsolicited message.

But they were looking for a meet.

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By *exy mature ladyWoman
over a year ago

Newport

Never message first

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I think i have sent one unsolicited message.

But they were looking for a meet. "

So not unsolicited really ?

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Never message first "

Jeez, your profile made me want to send one

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By *exy mature ladyWoman
over a year ago

Newport

"Never message first

Jeez, your profile made me want to send one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly just personally reply to a persons post on the forum if filters allow, l hardly post direct messages to ladies any more...they have enough going on

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Mostly just personally reply to a persons post on the forum if filters allow, l hardly post direct messages to ladies any more...they have enough going on

Agree completely, I've been lucky enough to be shown a couples/unicorns inbox while on a meet....I think I would just bulk delete daily tbh

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Agreed, the odds are stacked"

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think i have sent one unsolicited message.

But they were looking for a meet.

So not unsolicited really ?"

I guess so although I didn't make the cut.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Agreed, the odds are stacked

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read"

Marketing strategy I guess

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Agreed, the odds are stacked

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read

Marketing strategy I guess"

As my old coach used to say to me you miss 100% of the shots you never take, so unless you’re passing to help somebody else take your shot when you think you’ve got a chance. That applies just as well to real life as it did to football.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far, never

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Agreed, the odds are stacked

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read

Marketing strategy I guess

So how many roughly in a week ?

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Agreed, the odds are stacked

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read

Marketing strategy I guess

So how many roughly in a week ? "

Depends on how many people I haven’t messaged that I like but 8-10 a week as an average, This week was a little higher as I finally had a free day to meet for coffee so was actively trying to make a connection so about 15,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply to winks and message it’s onl polite

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Agreed, the odds are stacked

Yep if you don’t send messages you are hurting you’re chances even if 90% don’t get read

Marketing strategy I guess

So how many roughly in a week ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely, unless their status, profile or forum post piques my interest."

Yep us too..

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Very rarely. Can't even remember the last time I did.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"So far, never "

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never sent anyone a first message x"

Me (mrs PD) neither..

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Very rarely. Can't even remember the last time I did."

And why would you need to , I myself have perved your gorgeous profile

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I've never sent anyone a first message x

Me (mrs PD) neither.."

Lol at last line of your profile

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"I always reply to winks and message it’s onl polite

Agree, unless they're fake

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Covent Garden

"I've never sent anyone a first message x

Me (mrs PD) neither..

Lol at last line of your profile

Me too - that made me laugh out loud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far, never

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

Lol which one...there's 3

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Very rarely. Can't even remember the last time I did.

And why would you need to , I myself have perved your gorgeous profile

Thank you kindly. Most of the messages I receive are shrapnel, though.

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"So far, never

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

Lol which one...there's 3

Ass one

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Very rarely. Can't even remember the last time I did.

And why would you need to , I myself have perved your gorgeous profile

Thank you kindly. Most of the messages I receive are shrapnel, though."

No doubt, like junk mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far, never

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

Lol which one...there's 3

Ass one

Yeah, kinda proud of that one haha

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By *hocCock1 OP Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"So far, never

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

Lol which one...there's 3

Ass one

Yeah, kinda proud of that one haha"

and so you should be its peachy perfect

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By *rs BxxWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

Never sent a message or a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do receive 'messages' or 'winks' from women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So far, never

To be fair pic from 8th July will probably generate people messaging you till the end of time

Lol which one...there's 3

Ass one

Yeah, kinda proud of that one haha

and so you should be its peachy perfect

Thanks

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

newcastle-under-lyme

not even going to dare to look for when i last got a wink lol

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