FabSwingers.com forum: Let us reflect

By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

How will you remember 2020?. The word that springs to my mind is sad. It has been tough and if i think too much about it i will cry so i just plod on but it has not been the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I reflect I try to think of inspiring happy memories.

The best one I will treasure is Captain Tom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Painful. In every way possible. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will reflect on the lost time with my kids and hope next year i can make up the lost time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work work work

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Sad busy traumatic I'm a care assistant so its been different difficult and strange xx

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes of course. He is a star but i feel for the families who have lost loved ones, the businesses tht will not survive, the kids who are missing out on education and so much more.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Completely crappy and depressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stressful

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge

We did a lot of sailing, got the Coastguard called out, had some brilliant walks and got to know each other more, and our chess game improved massively.

One of the very few benefits of separate but equally isolated crappy childhoods are that when you can't see other people it's just a bit blah, not a crisis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hectic daunting and disappointing.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Sad busy traumatic I'm a care assistant so its been different difficult and strange xx"

I too work in care and have worked many hours. We just get on with the job but when i have time to ponder i realise the stresses involved.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Completely crappy and depressing."

Same.

Started off ok but towards the end I suffered an episode of depression I've not had like of in 20 years.

All good now though a ready to slam the door on 2020

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Sad busy traumatic I'm a care assistant so its been different difficult and strange xx

I too work in care and have worked many hours. We just get on with the job but when i have time to ponder i realise the stresses involved."

This x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"We did a lot of sailing, got the Coastguard called out, had some brilliant walks and got to know each other more, and our chess game improved massively.

One of the very few benefits of separate but equally isolated crappy childhoods are that when you can't see other people it's just a bit blah, not a crisis.

Most of the completely crappy and depressing things from 2020 are not Covid related for us. They're things that might have happened in any case. Things like my Dad going ga-ga, my Dad being broken into, my son being mugged, my son being assaulted and his face smashed in, surgery, health scares. Little things like that. Oh, and work

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I will always look back on this year with mixed emotions. Yes, it's been shitty in so many ways, for so many people, and my sympathy lies with those who are less fortunate than me. But it has also been a year of a life reset, of fully understanding who and what are most important to me, and of prioritising relationships with those dearest to me, one in particular that will always hold a special place in my memories, no matter what the future holds. I am extremely grateful for some of the things that have happened this year in spite of (or perhaps even because of) this whole situation.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The year everyone got to experience everyone else's social life.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I just feel sad tonight. Time off to reflect is not good. I am better off at work being busy with no time to think.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Frustrating but could have been worse.

I've survived it and so have my close friends and family.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Frustrating but could have been worse.

I've survived it and so have my close friends and family.

Yes this is true but i care alot for others i do not even know. It has been horrific for so many.x

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Pain. Of all kinds.

And complete and utter joy. But those moments have been few and far between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unexpected but also a time when people realise that you have to keep a look out for those that aren't coping or getting by.

I hope that this attitude of working together and civility with your neighbours continues after the virus is a distant memory x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Pain. Of all kinds.

And complete and utter joy. But those moments have been few and far between"

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not the year out I had planned at all, but despite it all there is good from it. I’m closer to my son than I’ve ever been, watched him turn from boy to young man and couldn’t be prouder how he has taken this year in his stride; some friendships have grown stronger than ever; family and friends are all well; this year has changed my future and it is one I’m very much looking forward to. I’ve a lot to be thankful for, tears have been and will continue to fall, however the smiles and laughter wipe them away quickly.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had a nervous breakdown in april that lasted 6 months and im still recovering.

Like many its been a traumatic year.

where going into new year with both my son and his partner having covid.

However, i have a very deep sadness for those worse of then me that have lost family, businesses and homes i know ive got of realatively lightly.

Also on a personal note i am on a high as ive found out im having another grandchild in june a baby girl.

So i have something to look forward to amidst all this drearyness

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Traumatic, painful, character building. The shit hits the fan and we see people as they really are.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

Whilst it has been an awful year for most, I am grateful that despite having had COVID-19, working from home has afforded me a much better work/life balance... and the opportunity to enjoy my surroundings that I didn’t have before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, mixed feelings. I've felt quite lonely this year and like I haven't gave my daughter the holiday we planned and lots of super exciting days out... but on the other hand I have loved the close bond I've shared with my daughter and I've also found it fantastic for my mental health not being pressured into getting out to do fun days out, trips away and meeting up with family and friends.

I'm an introvert though and live with my partner so I have definitely had it easier than some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stagnant / stopped Like the movie line. The day the earth stopped

Otherwise onwards into 2021 and new ventures , online business , leverage some brexit changes etc so going into 2021 hyper charged for a constructive change year.

No point dwelling in the dark of 2020 when the light of 2021 is here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been emotional..

None more so then when our first child was born in November. He has been in our bright light in a dark year.

Oh and in March I finally achieved my goal of cage diving with Great White Sharks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just been so frustrating! You wanting to just get on in your life but it was taken away from us in an instant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll look back on 2020 with sadness .

A good friend started up he's small business about a year before covid was doing OK for himself but he's daughter passed away in January in a traffic accident and when covid kicked in he's small business went to the wall

He ended up taking he's own life start of October and I think could I have done more to keep a check on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My year started with my son making me proud by successfully completing his 2 month rehab stay for his addictions, after 2 almost fatal hospitalizations the previous September/October he finally listened to me and checked himself in to a private clinic.

End of January saw doctors wanting to amputate my left leg below the knee due to a diabetic ulcer, I was given antibiotics and one week to show improvement... it did

In July and under the cover of lockdown my sons depression returned, I've only just found out that a month previous he'd made an attempt at suicide but on July 15th and surrounded by pictures of me he was sadly successful.

I'm still dealing with the fallout of this as well as the dramas that took him to that dark place.

This has created another life changing decision that only friends know about.

It ends with me very nearly loosing a close fab friend a few days ago who if she didn't listen to me and call for medical assistance probably wouldn't be here now.

I'll be posting a thread new years eve naming and shaming my close friends who've helped me through this...

I look forward to a better year to come and optimistic that it holds happiness not just for me but everyone else who can't wait to say fuck you to 2020.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Possibly the worst year of my life and not because of COVID - although the restrictions that has bought have obviously had an impact - but it's also been a year where I've learned a lot about myself, found strength and light in places I least expected, and support from people that has kept me going even in the darkest hours - certainly not a year I care to repeat but as ever I look forward with optimism and hope, and take strength from having got through this year regardless of the tears and sadness it has thrown my way.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Sadness for those medically affected in anyway, brother in laws cancer op postponed twice now, Nephew under thirty has been suffering with Covid for two weeks now & is not improving.

For us directly it’s actually had little effect, with two young kids we didn’t socialise much anyway, we both work from home & have both continued working so have no work colleagues to chat to about all of this. We moved here two years ago to be remote almost “Grizzly Adams” like in our seclusion & our love of that seclusion has “paid off” if you like, as not seeing others on a regular basis has never bothered us greatly.

The kids though we have tried to get out & about meeting the odd friend outside when the schools were shut & we are now starting to worry that the reopening may be delayed (due back on the 11th here) & that 2020 is definitely starting to have a detrimental affect on them not just educationally.

We will have a toast to all those gone in 2020 tomorrow night but will not be celebrating.

S&H

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

A sad year for many and all for different reasons. I will gladly toast farewell to 2020 and live in hope that 2021 is brighter. Thank you all for sharing your stories.x

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Lonely springs to mind for me. Moreso cos of covid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Traumatising, heartbreaking, stressful beyond belief and not a year I would ever want to relive. It's been full of pain and sadness for not only me but so many close to me and so much of it is not going away any time soon. Also made harder by us not being able to support eachother in our normal ways.

To summarise, it's been pretty damn shitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My year started with my son making me proud by successfully completing his 2 month rehab stay for his addictions, after 2 almost fatal hospitalizations the previous September/October he finally listened to me and checked himself in to a private clinic.

End of January saw doctors wanting to amputate my left leg below the knee due to a diabetic ulcer, I was given antibiotics and one week to show improvement... it did

I'm still dealing with the fallout of this as well as the dramas that took him to that dark place.

This has created another life changing decision that only friends know about.

It ends with me very nearly loosing a close fab friend a few days ago who if she didn't listen to me and call for medical assistance probably wouldn't be here now.

I'll be posting a thread new years eve naming and shaming my close friends who've helped me through this...

I look forward to a better year to come and optimistic that it holds happiness not just for me but everyone else who can't wait to say fuck you to 2020.

I am so sorry for your loss and truly hope you find some happiness in the coming year buddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Completely crappy and depressing.

Same.

Started off ok but towards the end I suffered an episode of depression I've not had like of in 20 years.

All good now though a ready to slam the door on 2020

Me too. Its been a brutal year.

Glad u are well now.

What will i remember? Just the basic acts of survival - eating, exercising, sleeping (a lot).

and joining Fab!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Traumatising, heartbreaking, stressful beyond belief and not a year I would ever want to relive. It's been full of pain and sadness for not only me but so many close to me and so much of it is not going away any time soon. Also made harder by us not being able to support eachother in our normal ways.

To summarise, it's been pretty damn shitty. "

I went to a "it's not a funeral because no, but ish" and not hugging people was excruciating

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I mostly feel grateful to be honest. It has made me appreciate the things that I might previously have taken for granted. It has made me value time with my friends and family so much more. There have undoubtedly been challenges & difficult times, but there have also been many happy memories made & precious moments to treasure.

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