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"Badly written, badly researched pieces of fan fiction that should have never been made into books let alone films! The sex scenes (such as they are) are nearly none existant and they aren't in the slightest bit kinky. As for BDSM, oh you don't want to get me started on how it's glorifying horribly abusive co-dependent relationships. " That's really interesting and informative thanks, I've only watched the first one with my ex. We watched it and she got quite turned on by it so wanted to watch it again straight away which lead to some great sex half way through watching it. | |||
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"I enjoyed the books at the time. I think they did massively positive things for our kind of lifestyles and people’s perception and acceptance. Films are a right load of shite but again have helped the public begin to understand that having kinks isn’t necessarily the work of the devil." At the time they came out I was running a munch, they brought a lot of people onto the scene but they also screwed up people's ideas of submission and more importantly the concept of actual informed consent. It took education and quite a bit of time to help people understand how BDSM encounters and relationships should work, but I'm glad those people at least found the scene. I'm still terrified about the people who never actually made it onto the scene to learn. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() So you’re not really a nanny? | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() Spot on loved the Topgun analogy by the way. Someone saw an opportunity to make money and they took it. Nothing more nothing less.Good luck to them. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() Yes, yes I am - my profile says so ![]() | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm not sure it's me that needs to get over myself. If you didn't see it as a manual to how to get into a life choice great... Plenty of people did... BDSM isnt hard to understand really. Do what turns you on, with who turns you on, as long as all parties fully understand the risks as well as the rewards it's all good. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() I wish I had written those books - that woman is set for life! | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() It's not about you ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() Are you comparing flying planes to spanking someone’s arse ? | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() I just found Top Gun sooo badly written and it really affected the fighter pilot community. | |||
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"How do so many people manage to start a debate on BDSM and people getting "over themselves" when Xmas is 4 days away. I wish there were less entitled snowflakes in the world but we can't all get what we want.. Can we? As for your question OP. As someone with 15 years experience in bdsm, and the right kind not the one that was fictionalised to be "bdsm", if you took the film for what it was.. Which is based on the books then it was an OK film.. I enjoyed the film as a standalone series. If I was to look at it from a bdsm perspective - no it was not an accurate representation. I also understand where someone said it brought many people into the scene with the wrong intentions. Men mainly claiming they were Dominant and putting people's safety at risk. But we aren't talking about that. As a film I thought it was OK and kinda funny at times. Did it get me wet? No. Did it make people positively and openly talk about bdsm more.. Yes. I mean it is what it is. Merry fucking Christmas! ![]() Merry Xmas to you too ![]() | |||
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"The books don't display the true ways in which being dom or sub work in this dynamic .. for me its a love story with a bit of kink thats not understood or explained and us borderline abuse by Christian These books have done more harm than good for the bdsm world and I don't even think they are written that well lol " Interesting comments, purely for understanding, what is the “true way”? Examples would be good. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() You’re wasted here. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() Gooooooooooossssseeeeee, noooooooooo. | |||
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"I haven’t seen the films or read the book, but that won’t stop me jumping to conclusions and talking about something I know little about." That what I always do! ![]() | |||
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"I haven’t seen the films or read the book, but that won’t stop me jumping to conclusions and talking about something I know little about. That what I always do! ![]() I made my mind up about the film when they were auditioning actors. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() Damn, I liked Top Gun too. ![]() | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Top Gun 2 isn’t out yet. | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Oh no, getting slated for spelling too. And it’s only Monday.... | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I thought it was a harmless romcom. The BSDM people love to be elitist and superior and no one quite understands their lifestyle ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Great to see people still have a sense of humour on here. | |||
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"Is it not the modern day equivalent of a racy mills and boon? I daresay more than a few of the many millions of women who read the book feel as though it gave their sex life a bit of a boost" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Nothing would posses me to attempt the films... the book I fought my way through was bad enough. Nothing remotely erotic about domestic abuse... which was how it came across to me." Wouldn’t know about abuse, so wasn’t able to project it into the book or film. Read it off the forums misconceptions though. Oh, lampposts that weren’t lit yet pissed upon, they were fun. | |||
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"Sp what's the verdict on the fifty shades of grey films? Interested to hear if the woman get turned on by the films and it scenes? Have you got worked up by the scenes that you just had to fuck there and then? " James Bond.. without the sex & the action ![]() | |||
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"If your rich handsome and have a great body you can basically do anything to a woman... If you not well you get the point... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Think this might bite you back. | |||
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"If your rich handsome and have a great body you can basically do anything to a woman... If you not well you get the point... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Yeah...none of us give a shit so long as you've got money and look good on our arm... ![]() ![]() | |||
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"They don’t bother me and they don’t turn me on. It’s just a smutty love story. I’ve read better smut on fan fiction sites... but each to their own! " Didn’t turn me on either, the take on BDSM psychology did though. | |||
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"If your rich handsome and have a great body you can basically do anything to a woman... If you not well you get the point... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Blimey | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. " Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() | |||
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"I mean the books were alright but nothing massive the movie was awful. Didn’t watch anymore other than the first did they even make more than one?? " Books were really badly written, I struggled through the first one and half way through the 2nd, didn't even bother with the 3rd. Think I managed to get half an hour through the first film, about fifteen mins into the second and the third I didn't bother with. | |||
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"I mean the books were alright but nothing massive the movie was awful. Didn’t watch anymore other than the first did they even make more than one?? Books were really badly written, I struggled through the first one and half way through the 2nd, didn't even bother with the 3rd. Think I managed to get half an hour through the first film, about fifteen mins into the second and the third I didn't bother with. " How were they badly written? Was it they were written in first person? | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() money great looks helps a lot .. | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() Is that real or a false representation of relationships between ladies, and men? | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() Nonsense | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() My guy, your shooting yourself in the foot with this one! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() ![]() ![]() not really just talking bout the movie. | |||
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"I didn't meant to offend any woman att all was not my purpose..if I did I apologise to the women I did.. Was just a comment bout the movie or book.. My sincere apologies if I offend any women in any way no matter how small.. I apologise. Just for interest, what was your point? ![]() ok if it nonsense what's your opinion on the movie? ![]() | |||
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"Didn’t know there were 50 shades of grey... sounds really boring to be honest... how many shades of vibrant red are there?" I give up ![]() | |||
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"I tried the first book but could not get past the first five pages, it is truly badly written. That being said I tried reading the Story of O and gave up at page 15. It lacked informed consent in each situation the heroine was placed. I also tried "Beauty" as that was recommended and the heroine gets stripped, and paraded naked against her will. So I am puzzled why these other books are held up as the epitome of BDSM on matters of consent. Personally I prefer The Marketplace books. All I know is that I have done scenes with a number of women who got into BDSM through the books. The books validated what they felt and wanted to explore. I suspect it was more the hype around the book and the BDSM scene that brought the crowds in rather than the book itself. A bit like those visiting Torture Garden. In any case the view of the dominant being caring and sharing is relative new, compared to the stereotype of the cruel and demanding domme/dom that has a lineage back to the Marquis de Sade and probably beyond. " A great friend of mine once asked me is it the intellect or the physical that control sensuality. My answer was, holistic. Interested in your thoughts. | |||
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"I am not a believer in binary choices when it comes to human beings. Even those who state they are simple people tend to be complex. That being said I think it is the totality of the human mind and body that partly creates sensuality. I say partly as you have to add in experience, also the effect of the other person(s), the circumstances, and even what is to hand. All these various outputs will be different in each person." Translate that bollocks ffs? | |||
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"Sp what's the verdict on the fifty shades of grey films? Interested to hear if the woman get turned on by the films and it scenes? Have you got worked up by the scenes that you just had to fuck there and then? " I bought the trilogy of books when they hit the public - read first book and binned them all after that - I thought absolutely rubbish! If the books are anything to go by... I shan't imagine what the films were like! | |||
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