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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After years of consideration and research I finally had my first hospital consultation re bariatric surgery today and have started the process! it's going to take 6 months until I move to the tier where they will actually consider me for the surgery but in the meantime I was just wondering whether anyone else has gone through this and would want to share their experience with me? My main concern at the moment is the ghastly amount of loose skin I will most likely be left with but I will have to deal with that when it happens.

(no negativity please. If you knew me and the struggles I have been through trying to lose weight plus the struggles that people who have weight loss surgery go through afterwards you would know this is 100% not cheating. I am also making the necessary lifestyle changes to go along with the procedure)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No experience I'm afraid, but that is drastic and a really hard thing to do. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After years of consideration and research I finally had my first hospital consultation re bariatric surgery today and have started the process! it's going to take 6 months until I move to the tier where they will actually consider me for the surgery but in the meantime I was just wondering whether anyone else has gone through this and would want to share their experience with me? My main concern at the moment is the ghastly amount of loose skin I will most likely be left with but I will have to deal with that when it happens.

(no negativity please. If you knew me and the struggles I have been through trying to lose weight plus the struggles that people who have weight loss surgery go through afterwards you would know this is 100% not cheating. I am also making the necessary lifestyle changes to go along with the procedure) "

Good luck chick and its a brave thing to do.. No one goes into major surgery as a quick solution xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No experience but best of luck, OP!

Really hope it gives you back control on your body! Xx

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Hope it goes ok for you, well done for making a change to be happier.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"After years of consideration and research I finally had my first hospital consultation re bariatric surgery today and have started the process! it's going to take 6 months until I move to the tier where they will actually consider me for the surgery but in the meantime I was just wondering whether anyone else has gone through this and would want to share their experience with me? My main concern at the moment is the ghastly amount of loose skin I will most likely be left with but I will have to deal with that when it happens.

(no negativity please. If you knew me and the struggles I have been through trying to lose weight plus the struggles that people who have weight loss surgery go through afterwards you would know this is 100% not cheating. I am also making the necessary lifestyle changes to go along with the procedure) "

I seriously considered it a few years ago but bottled it.

I did meet a couple of surgeons, joined a patient group, did a shedload of research on it. I know a couple of people who have had great success with a band, and one who had a bypass but struggled a little after a few years.

I would never consider it in any way "cheating" and it's far from an easy option. You're absolutely right that it's a lifestyle change and I wish you plenty of success with whichever surgery you're opting for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you so much for the support so far!

Yes it is definitely not a quick fix solution but rather one I have been considering for a few years now. I first asked my ex doctor for a referral when I was 22 but kept being told I was too young, even though I was pre-diabetic. I tried everything to get healthy myself (weight watchers, slimming world, clean eating etc etc) but nothing worked long term. Then I switched doctors about 2 years ago and he referred me, although before I started the process I backed out because the NHS no longer offered gastric banding and I didn't want to have the sleeve or bypass as both are incredibly invasive and irreversible and I didn't want to make such a permanent decision at such a young age. I agreed with my doctor to give it one more year to have a final go by myself and if I still wasn't successful he'd refer me again.

Then Nov_mber 2019 I was diagnosed with type 2 Diabetes and put on medication and asked to be referred again. Finally had the consultation with physiotherapist, dietician and doctor today after months of waiting! I've already started exercising regularly but will be working with a psychologist to overcome my struggles with my relationship with food. The surgery will hopefully act as a helping hand to finally let me enjoy my youth before it's too late...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not sure what the weight loss rate is after surgery but I lost a lot of weight fairly quickly (through lifestyle/diet change), 5 stone in 9 months, and I trained 5/6 days a week so I have managed to get fairly toned and avoid excess skin apart from the normal wobbly belly after having 3 kids. I was nearly 18 stone and a size 22, I'm now under 13 stone and a size 12/14. Maybe look to a personal trainer for support and guidance with the physical/exercise side of things. Good luck

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I’m sure they can do a procedure on the loose skin not sure if the nhs fund it perhaps private could be an opinion maybe do some research on the procedure on the loose skin but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I know someone who has done it, she looks happy and healthy and has had a baby since. She had a bypass.

I also know a surgeon who said that he feels it should be done more regularly as it would reduce the costs to the nhs on the long term due to diabetes.

Good luck with it. It's great that you are making an informed choice about your body and what you want.

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By *attooBBWWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X"

Yep. This is me.

I had bypass 13 yrs ago, lost 5 stone then got pregnant! I stayed exactly the same weight through pregnancy then slowly started to pile weight back on again. I don’t have a terrible relationship with food, I don’t always make the best choices but I am by no means a binge eater or overeater.

I paid to have it privately in Belgium after being messed around for years on waiting lists and I feel this was a mistake. I never had any ongoing support or follow up and I just fell off track completely. It is not a quick fix and it is not easy.

I am burdened with life long vitamin deficiencies and need an 8 weekly B12 injection for pernicious anaemia and 4/5yearly intravenous iron infusion for iron deficient anaemia. I’m currently waiting for one of these right now and believe me, it is a horrible illness - I literally drag myself through a week, can’t do anything with my family and feel like I’m about to pass out about 10 times a day.

I had thought about revision surgery a couple of times, but I had a really good success with ye olde diet and exercise last year and felt better than I ever did in life. I don’t want my experience to put you off, I can’t tell you exactly what went wrong for me, but please do research and consider the side effects and also the possibility it might not work as you wanted it to.

All the best

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

I've tried to send a private message but cant

I had a bypass 15 months ago n happy to discuss it with you

Europa x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X"

The band is no longer available on the NHS so will be going hopefully for the sleeve. Like I said I will be working with a psychologist to try and overcome my problems around food.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X

Yep. This is me.

I had bypass 13 yrs ago, lost 5 stone then got pregnant! I stayed exactly the same weight through pregnancy then slowly started to pile weight back on again. I don’t have a terrible relationship with food, I don’t always make the best choices but I am by no means a binge eater or overeater.

I paid to have it privately in Belgium after being messed around for years on waiting lists and I feel this was a mistake. I never had any ongoing support or follow up and I just fell off track completely. It is not a quick fix and it is not easy.

I am burdened with life long vitamin deficiencies and need an 8 weekly B12 injection for pernicious anaemia and 4/5yearly intravenous iron infusion for iron deficient anaemia. I’m currently waiting for one of these right now and believe me, it is a horrible illness - I literally drag myself through a week, can’t do anything with my family and feel like I’m about to pass out about 10 times a day.

I had thought about revision surgery a couple of times, but I had a really good success with ye olde diet and exercise last year and felt better than I ever did in life. I don’t want my experience to put you off, I can’t tell you exactly what went wrong for me, but please do research and consider the side effects and also the possibility it might not work as you wanted it to.

All the best "

So sorry to hear about your difficulties

I did initially discuss going to Belgium to get the band with my doctor after I found out I couldn't get it on the NHS. The reason I didn't was because, as you said, you don't get the same level of follow up as you would having it done here on the NHS unless you commit to going backwards and forwards to Belgium regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After years of consideration and research I finally had my first hospital consultation re bariatric surgery today and have started the process! it's going to take 6 months until I move to the tier where they will actually consider me for the surgery but in the meantime I was just wondering whether anyone else has gone through this and would want to share their experience with me? My main concern at the moment is the ghastly amount of loose skin I will most likely be left with but I will have to deal with that when it happens.

(no negativity please. If you knew me and the struggles I have been through trying to lose weight plus the struggles that people who have weight loss surgery go through afterwards you would know this is 100% not cheating. I am also making the necessary lifestyle changes to go along with the procedure) "

If you want to pm me, I had a gastric bypass 5 years ago. It’s definitely not an easy option, it’s a tool you have to use and still takes a lot of Will power. I’ve had issues but would still do it again. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not sure what the weight loss rate is after surgery but I lost a lot of weight fairly quickly (through lifestyle/diet change), 5 stone in 9 months, and I trained 5/6 days a week so I have managed to get fairly toned and avoid excess skin apart from the normal wobbly belly after having 3 kids. I was nearly 18 stone and a size 22, I'm now under 13 stone and a size 12/14. Maybe look to a personal trainer for support and guidance with the physical/exercise side of things. Good luck "

That's amazing, well done!

I will have access to a physiotherapist for advice during the process but will definitely consider a PT when I can afford it as I know strength training is a big part of improving loose skin.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

No experience with surgery but 3 years I made a choice not to be overweight by the time I hit 40 .I started slimming world and have lost 11 stone was pounds away from target till this lockdown ....

I was worried about loose skin but I was pleasantly surprised a few little wobbly bits but nothing like some of the story’s you see.The doctor told me all people are different and there skin elasticity is different so maybe that’s why. Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day that’s all that matters xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No experience with surgery but 3 years I made a choice not to be overweight by the time I hit 40 .I started slimming world and have lost 11 stone was pounds away from target till this lockdown ....

I was worried about loose skin but I was pleasantly surprised a few little wobbly bits but nothing like some of the story’s you see.The doctor told me all people are different and there skin elasticity is different so maybe that’s why. Do whatever makes you happy at the end of the day that’s all that matters xx"

11 stone! My goodness, that's incredible!!

Don't beat yourself up too much, lots of people are struggling with lockdown snacking from what I've heard. It is a very stressful time so taking comfort in a little extra food is totally normal x

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By *heCrowAndButterflyCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X

The band is no longer available on the NHS so will be going hopefully for the sleeve. Like I said I will be working with a psychologist to try and overcome my problems around food. "

Sleeve is what they seem to prefer becuse it gives them some wriggle room if it doesn't have the desired effect, having it done in early January eek!

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Good luck on your tough journey and I am sure you’ll get to the place you want to be x lots of highs and lows to come... treat each with reservation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Dad had the bypass last Jan, he's 13 stone down so far.

He's not had any issues apart from obviously the loose skin. Oddly, it has reprogrammed his brain and his attitude to food has changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X"

Exactly this. My friend did it. They could only eat tiny amounts, it was great at first and they shrank to a 10/12 (from an 18/20)... But then they discovered they could drink. They replaced one crutch (food) for another (drink) and continued with the shittest diet I've ever known... MacD's, KFC, pizza, crisps, chocolate +pop... And wine

They are currently bigger than when they started, and just as miserable.. Possibly more miserable.. But now with a shed load of other health issues

If you don't fix the root issue behind why you don't love /value/believe in yourself, having this drastic operation will not necessarily be the answer to your problems.

OP if you want to chat and explore further, no judgement or expectations, please message me x

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

While I have not had the surgery I did look into it. There is a lady on Instagram who documented her journey so I would say maybe look at her page. It was helpful and informative about what it was like after and what she now eats etc to stay health. Her name is Ariana Omipi. Good luck on your journey, if it wasn’t so expensive I would probably get it done.

Lily

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By *heCrowAndButterflyCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Are you going for a bypass or band?

If you don't sort your relationship with food it's likely you will gradually eat more, stretch your stomach again and end up exactly where you are now.

I'm not being a bitch, this has happened to a few people I know. Be honest with yourself.

Also it's a bloody horrendous way to live. Vitamin deficiencies, vomiting, other issues.

Good luck with whatever you decide. X

The band is no longer available on the NHS so will be going hopefully for the sleeve. Like I said I will be working with a psychologist to try and overcome my problems around food.

Sleeve is what they seem to prefer becuse it gives them some wriggle room if it doesn't have the desired effect, having it done in early January eek! "

By the way it's the male half having it done in Jan

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