FabSwingers.com forum: Are most guys ruining this site for the normal ones..

By *old finger OP Man
1 day ago

Dublin

I’m getting the opinion that most guys are ruining this site for the normal ones seeking company here…

Would woman associate most guys as assholes here at this stage….

To be fair you’d be right as I’ve had some strange propositions and I ain’t even half as fit as most of ye here…

Problem being most ladies are now ultra defensive as idiotic behaviour from some guys have made them that way! ( has to be done I know)

Then when the beautiful ladies turn them down all of a sudden they are bi and want the likes of me!!

Surely there needs to be some screening

Rant over

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By *og-ManMan
1 day ago

somewhere

Most guys think that they're normal

The only person capable of ruining fab for you is you

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By *old finger OP Man
1 day ago

Dublin

Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

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By *ythenMan
1 day ago

"Most guys think that they're normal

The only person capable of ruining fab for you is you "

Well said 👍

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By *old finger OP Man
1 day ago

Dublin

Do you guy remember how hard your first verification was?

Honestly

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By *old finger OP Man
1 day ago

Dublin

Any female feedback here would be appreciated

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By *ublinstud_MisstattooCouple
1 day ago

Dublin City

"Most guys think that they're normal

The only person capable of ruining fab for you is you "

This does apply

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
1 day ago

Kent/London/Greater London

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??"

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

It's clear lottsa guys are getting 'off' sending these pics & especially the ones with the close up dick pic profiles, those type of profiles I totally ignore till they disappear/delete by site system. Very gross ones I block & delete.

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By *ionycusMan
1 day ago

Babylon

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.

Strange guys , yes, people are strange.

Ruining something for others? How can something you never possessed be ruined by someone you never met?

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By *illiamlook13Man
1 day ago

comber

Only one thing a hole, it took me nearly 6 years to get verified by a lovely couple

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By *ittleBoPeepingWoman
1 day ago

Galway, Clare

Moaning about not getting meets, and having the same moan as your entire bio, will do you absolutely no favours.

As others have said, you can only ruin it for yourself.. by moaning, by not 'selling' yourself well.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
1 day ago

East / North, Cork

Do many men here behave badly? Yes

Does that ruin it for the others? No

In many ways the poor behaviour of many men can help the ones who choose to behave decently.

Is it a choice for a woman to become distressed at bad male behaviour here? No. This is victim blaming.

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By *ealitybitesMan
1 day ago

Belfast

Some women aren't normal.

Some women are arseholes.

Some women aren't beautiful because they aren't normal and are arseholes.

It's good though because that allows the good ones to stand out from the crowd...... good women and their beautiful arse holes.

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
1 day ago

Kent/London/Greater London

There's weird & creepy women here too, it's not just men & they send content I don't want too.

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By *he KakapoMan
1 day ago

A nice rock

Most guys aren't assholes.

The assholes makes it easier for the rest as they set the bar low for what counts as a half decent conversion on here.

Imagine if every male profile for normal, and charming and put effort into their profile, I'd be a fucking disaster for us

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By *hantomfemmeWoman
1 day ago

Sligo/Galway depends on the day

Yep 100%. Ive men that know me threatening to out me... bring it on...

200+ dick pics a day then get abusive when I dont reply.

I mean what's wrong with a hey how r u.

Teenagers with mommy issues.

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By *aisuke_JigenMan
1 day ago

Londonderry

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By *aisuke_JigenMan
1 day ago

Londonderry

Sorry what I meant was conversation, connection and clarity. Here, were here for the good times. But with balance, you've got the good and the bad.

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By *ustBoWoman
1 day ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No,the only one who can ruin fab is yourself,others are not to blame for your lack of meets,chats etc on here.

I'm sure even the gobshites on here think they are justified and normal and a decent person,and have excuses for their crap behaviour towards others. And this applies to everyone equally. Men are not the only ones with bad attitudes on here.

I don't judge anyone by the behaviour of others. Just like i refuse to take responsibility for the crappy attitude of some of the other women on here. Their actions have no bearing on me,or my fab journey.

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By *eterBelfast100Man
1 day ago

newtownabbey

Well said 👏

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
1 day ago

Newry

No. As far as I'm concerned, I judge each message/profile on it's own merits. If you're an asshole you're only ruining it for yourself. And as Bo says, it just makes the good ones stand out.

Before I ever open a message, I'll have checked out the profile of the sender. If there's potential compatibility, I'll open the message. If the message further suggests potential then I might reply. I'm certainly not making any of these decisions based on the "wanna fuck" message Ruinyourvag69 sent me 6 weeks ago accompanied by a photo of his resplendent cock

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By *astelloWoman
1 day ago

Far far away

There is a higher proportion of unpleasant people on here of both genders than the average population.

But don't let it bother you. You learn soon enough to move on.

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By *ornywife20Couple
1 day ago

North Cork

Think the unpleasant people are just more vocal here than in real life as they have the mask of anonymousty to hide behind. Assholes wouldn't say anything if people knew their true identity.

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By *tevie-wonderboyMan
24 hours ago

Limerick

There are tons of good points being made here and I agree with most of them and some I don't. True you need to sell yourself on ur profile but let's be honest for a guy that isn't very easy not saying more on that. Yeah like others have said the constant Dick pics and being aggressive in dms does ruin it for the decent guy that will say hey how are you or put effort into reading a profile before sending a dm. But, on the same token where is the common curtesy to say hey back even if we not your type, I get it some can't take No for an answer. This is just my opinion on it all and my experience so far being on this site. Cause can't say I've had many decent interactions

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By *obbie 99Man
24 hours ago

kildare

I messaged a lady here from Tullamore.

After the 2nd message she went all defensive including this was one of her messages

You are here only few minutes and you think that women run to you straight away 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Good luck to you with these thoughts 🤣🤣🤣

All I asked was wiuld she like to chat!

So it's both semester!!

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By *ornywife20Couple
23 hours ago

North Cork

Some ladies can get 200 or 300 plus message a day I kid you not I have seen it first hand

So it would be impossible to reply to them all . I know a few ladies who try their best but they just can't keep up with the sheer volume they receive.

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By *electableicecreamMan
23 hours ago

The West

The zombie guys that are masturbating into everyone elses inboxs are definatly not helping.

One of the major knock on effects is a lot of people just dont stick for longer than it takes to recieve 200 miserable dick photos in 8 hours.

If guys took better dick pics fab would be a better place all round.

Come on lads, zoom out a litte and for the love of god turn on a light

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By *eroLondonMan
21 hours ago

Mayfair

No one spoils anything for anyone. It's a misconception that's often spewed by those who feel their lack of success is down to the transgressions of others.

In all my years I've never encountered a fake profile, a timewaster, a 'ghoster' or bad behaviour that directly impacted my Fab journey.

I carve my own path on here and my experiences — good and not-so-good — are based on my actions and behaviours.

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By *ubadubdubWoman
21 hours ago

Hereabouts

One of my favourite quotes is 'Do what you can, with what you have, where you are'.

Ultimately the privilege of choice and burden of responsibility all your own OP 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *ealmc1973Man
21 hours ago

Limerick, Clare, Tipperary

Not sure...are there any blokes on this site at all?

In other words, I, personally, don't care what other blokes are up to. I am not interested in blokes and so it's none of my concern - unless they are asking me to get friendly with their wife.

In my opinion, which can be wrong, preoccupation with 'what the others do' can take the cock out of cocktail

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By *xplicitMan
19 hours ago

donegal

It's possible OP that you expect people to behave the same way on the internet( on a sex site) as they do in real life, and that simply won't happen.

The key is to get them to meet for a social and then you will find people become very real, normal, witty, horny or brutally honest. But until you can actually progress to face to face contact this place will be a nightmare.

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By *inkyDragonMan
19 hours ago

Dublin

"I’m getting the opinion that most guys are ruining this site for the normal ones seeking company here…

Would woman associate most guys as assholes here at this stage….

To be fair you’d be right as I’ve had some strange propositions and I ain’t even half as fit as most of ye here…

Problem being most ladies are now ultra defensive as idiotic behaviour from some guys have made them that way! ( has to be done I know)

Then when the beautiful ladies turn them down all of a sudden they are bi and want the likes of me!!

Surely there needs to be some screening

Rant over

Fuck it. Just get on with your own thing and don’t be giving any shite that happens on here a second thought. 🤠

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
18 hours ago

Midlands

"I’m getting the opinion that most guys are ruining this site for the normal ones seeking company here…

Would woman associate most guys as assholes here at this stage….

To be fair you’d be right as I’ve had some strange propositions and I ain’t even half as fit as most of ye here…

Problem being most ladies are now ultra defensive as idiotic behaviour from some guys have made them that way! ( has to be done I know)

Then when the beautiful ladies turn them down all of a sudden they are bi and want the likes of me!!

Surely there needs to be some screening

Rant over

When I read your post and then your profile, it said to me that here is yet another guy telling us women what they think we want to hear.

If a woman is ultra defensive to men its not because of how they've been messaged its how men have treated them through their actions.

Everyone here has been treated a certain way at some stage that hurt them or made them feel disrespected. Do I think all men are assholes as a result no I don't. There are lots of fabulous men still here.

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By *man1044Man
18 hours ago

North Galway

I worked dealing with the public many years while most were polte and understanding there is always one asshole who will spoil your day.

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By *usybee26Woman
18 hours ago

Londonderry

I have only been on Fab a year and as a woman I have to agree there are people on here that have no manners or respect for human beings both male and female.

But I also have met good friends and one in particular

I have been trolled re my profile and pics and have had to hide my profile several times.

It is very difficult for men on here as there are so many females and they can have their pick .

Sometimes it's good to take a brake, come back again.

All I can say is it can be hard work but once you meet different people or that one person it's definitely worth it .

Happy Fabbing!

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By *ursecretmischiefCouple
18 hours ago

The West

I think men get a bad rap on here. Of course there are plenty of gobshites, but in the main, the majority of messages we get from men here are polite and mannerly. Even if we're not interested, I can only recall a few times where they became abusive.

The problem most men have is that they're not really into the scene as a whole, they're just here to see what they can get. For example, any fella not capable of going to a social is probably not going to be of interest to most couples/women.

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By *indenMan
17 hours ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

OP, in your case, no, they’re not ruining it for you.

I don’t mean to be a prick about it but you’re stating a thread that’s pretty much just repeating that it says in your bio from a profile with no public pictures and you’re wondering if it’s other men who are spoiling your chances of success here.

Like FFS…..

Worry less about how others are spoiling you’re chances and focus more on what you can do to improve them.

You can only control one of those things and for some reason you seem to be focused on the thing you have absolutely no control over.

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By *astcoastmanMan
17 hours ago

Portobello

Oh dear, is someone feeling needy?

I didn't think it was possible to have a profile worse than mine but you succeeded in that remit.

Mine's crap for a reason, so I can chat and be friends with those I want to be and who want to be friends with me

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By *eturning MGMan
17 hours ago

mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland

"I’m getting the opinion that most guys are ruining this site for the normal ones seeking company here…

Would woman associate most guys as assholes here at this stage….

To be fair you’d be right as I’ve had some strange propositions and I ain’t even half as fit as most of ye here…

Problem being most ladies are now ultra defensive as idiotic behaviour from some guys have made them that way! ( has to be done I know)

Then when the beautiful ladies turn them down all of a sudden they are bi and want the likes of me!!

Surely there needs to be some screening

Rant over

When I read your post and then your profile, it said to me that here is yet another guy telling us women what they think we want to hear.

If a woman is ultra defensive to men its not because of how they've been messaged its how men have treated them through their actions.

Thanks😇😘🤣

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By *tevie54321Man
17 hours ago

Co Down

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

Yet when men send normal messages and no dick pics you don't even get a reply of any description then a day or so the same girls complain all they get are dick/nasty messages. I came to the conclusion a while back that there are females on here who just wanna be victims and drama Queens who want attention and seem relevant.

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By *astcoastmanMan
17 hours ago

Portobello

The issue with not getting a reply is mainly due to the ratio of males to females on here. My friend showed me her phone, she had over 3,000 unread messages, how is anyone supposed to read all of those, never mind reply

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By *atonaWoman
17 hours ago

Meh

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

There are “bad” people of all genders, but by god some of the men here are absolute fucking idiots. Look at my status for a fresh example of the shit I put up with. And I always reply - won’t be doing that anymore. From now on I’ll just block and save myself the agro!

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
16 hours ago

Midlands

"The issue with not getting a reply is mainly due to the ratio of males to females on here. My friend showed me her phone, she had over 3,000 unread messages, how is anyone supposed to read all of those, never mind reply"

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
16 hours ago

Midlands

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

I read your status and I got the same message not too long ago.

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By *he KakapoMan
16 hours ago

A nice rock

Damn picky sluts!

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By *atonaWoman
16 hours ago

Meh

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

I read your status and I got the same message not too long ago.

We’re given grief because we’re not replying and meeting left right and centre, but we’re the sluts?!! Annoys me for a few minutes only thankfully 😉

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By *atonaWoman
16 hours ago

Meh

"Damn picky sluts!"

I’m letting that slide only because I love your humour 😏

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
16 hours ago

Midlands

"Are you trying to insult me or do you agree there are strange guys here??

Yes there are strange & weird guys here.......I've all men blocked now cos the majority of dms I get aren't great......& The dick pics for me are a complete turn off at this stage

Some men are very pushy too & have great difficulty accepting a No I won't meet, I get the likes of "Why Not" & a loads more dick pics that I never asked for.......

I read your status and I got the same message not too long ago.

We’re given grief because we’re not replying and meeting left right and centre, but we’re the sluts?!! Annoys me for a few minutes only thankfully 😉"

Sometimes I reply with a cheeky few words that annoys them even more

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By *astcoastmanMan
16 hours ago

Portobello

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By *astcoastmanMan
16 hours ago

Portobello

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ? "

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By *eturning MGMan
15 hours ago

mayo galway roscommon sligo....West Of Ireland

Plenty of people dont do themselves any favours on fab and thats for sure. But if you bring it into real life would you ever walk up to a lady in a bar, say "hi" and just whip out your cock????

No you wouldnt so why do lads think its acceptable on here? And if a girl say no sending 12 more cock pics from different angles and calling them sluts will hardly change their minds. In saying that dont blame other guys for your own failures. If its not working take a look at your profile, how you message women, how to get verifications etc. Theres enough advice of forums every week to write a book.

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
15 hours ago

Midlands

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto"

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

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By *indenMan
13 hours ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get. "

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

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By *uddermeIspinMan
13 hours ago

city centre

Tbf is not most men in here ruining it for all the normal guys, it's just me. I'm the one to blame. Honestly I'm such an asshole I even annoy myself. Like even copy and paste is annoyed with me for constantly sending out the same msgs over and over again and when I don't get a reply I get keep in messaging cause sooner or later someone's gotta message me back then I'm the very first one to come to the forums to complain and throw the toys out of the pram cause no one wants to meet me. But hey lookit at it this way if it was easy, everyone would be doing it.

I do try to be better but the ass is oozing out of me I just can't help myself.

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
13 hours ago

Midlands

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

I've only been in Costa in Naas once.

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By *he KakapoMan
13 hours ago

A nice rock

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

I've only been in Costa in Naas once.

I'm guessing because they barred you the first time?

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
12 hours ago

Midlands

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

I've only been in Costa in Naas once.

I'm guessing because they barred you the first time?"

Ssshhh.... no one was to know

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By *indenMan
12 hours ago

Naas which is South West of Dublin

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

I've only been in Costa in Naas once.

I'm guessing because they barred you the first time?

Ssshhh.... no one was to know "

Not to worry, there are probably about 7 other Costas in Naas alone….

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By *nquisitive LadyWoman
12 hours ago

Midlands

Do you think your profile and photos are representing the best you've to offer someone here ?

Ditto

Yes some of the best I can offer. What's not shown is what people I meet get.

Which is a real treat for the staff in Costa at the time…..

I've only been in Costa in Naas once.

I'm guessing because they barred you the first time?

Ssshhh.... no one was to know

Not to worry, there are probably about 7 other Costas in Naas alone….

You're quite the regular I'd say

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