FabSwingers.com forum: What makes you reply?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ladies must get 100’s of messages a day... what makes a message stand out for you?

Fab is becoming painful with the ratio of M to F... how do you send an affective message without getting RSI from typing our 100s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading my profile

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

A humorous message. A good profile write up and pics on a profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following to see what comes out of this, I think persistence and continual application of the brain to make something vaguely witty or relevant with an interesting opening hook is the answer, I still have yet to find the right combo too

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Read my profile , have a profile picture , and be verified and of course knows how to write a constructive msg

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

I reply if I find the person attractive, mostly.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Someone who has read my profile, can meet my preferences and if I fancy them or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite. "

Reading means comprehending and acknowledging. No value in having read a profile if you then ignore what it said! Not saying you do this but loads and loads of people do so.

OP I don't reply to chitchat (how's you/your day/your weekend/how's fabs for you), I don't reply to messages who very obviously ignore basic things (eg. "Free to meet now" requests when first line explains I never am). I almost always reply to oddball questions! Can't resist it. I usually do not reply to compliments unless I fancy them so I can return it. Lastly I reply when I feel a message is sincere (pretty rare occurrence but it does happen!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A clear recent face pic attached to any message is always a good start for me. And a message that indicates someone's read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either a forum related post, or something quirky / unusual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Effective spelling also helps.

Or so I heard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All that counts really is if you fit the bill as to what the person you have messaged is looking for you’d get an idea about that by reading there profile and if they like you there’s nothing more to it than that oh and manners, not lying and being yourself really easy hey lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nudes!!!! Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all messages as I’m a builder and have lots of tea breaks!!

Sometimes the senders can be so so stupid but I try to be polite but trust me at times you just want to write FUCK OFF but I don’t.

And Carol reply’s to ones she likes the look of and ones that can write and gain her interest.

It’s funny how some men change writing styles when switching from me to her.

She likes respect bant stories uniforms and a bit of beard action h and younger men.

She dislikes blunt rude I’m gonna cum on your tits type messages and idiots that can’t be bothered to read our profile.

Don’t give up

It’s just fun.

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all my messages. The ones that I chat with though are different ... unlike most I don't need an essay (quite often find them overly prescriptive and rather dull prefer the more pub/real life approach) a "hi" has worked because I respect not everyone is a word smith but a decent profile is required as I always check out their profile before I message back (I have all my filters on so need a public pic, verifications etc), what we're looking for has to match and if a face pic is included that's a bonus!

What's way more important to me and where most let themselves down is what's next and this shows whether they have read my profile and whether I would like to continue chatting

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Read, comprehend, and show me you've understood my profile in your message.

Treat me like a person with dignity.

Respect my wishes.

Be potentially attractive to me.

Have a good public presence (forum, status, profile).

Pique my interest.

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By *igtone2310Man
over a year ago

Beverley

"I reply if I find the person attractive, mostly. "
You've never replied to me although i guess i'm far too old, i can dream lol xx

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

First they have to have read my profile. I tend to reply to about 80% who have.

That gets rid of over 80% of messages I get!

If they have read my profile, I check their profile for compatibility. If they have read my profile but are clearly incompatible then I send a thanks but sorry message.

If there is a glimmer of hope then I start chatting and getting to know them.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

As a couple we look at profiles first and then the message if the profile is interesting. What we are looking for is a profile and message that seem to be an honest representation of the person sending it and that person fits with what we are looking for.

It is very rare.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

As cliché as it is; just be yourself and converse naturally. We think that’s your best way to ensure you get a reply - and also the best way to ensure the people that reply will be more likely to be compatible with you.

We reply to (almost) everyone and have had many conversations with people who weren’t what we’re looking for - just because it was natural and we got on. It didn’t lead to any sexy fun, but we’re not here JUST to have sex with people - we also want to chat to and get to know like minded dirty bastards for the social side of things!

After that, I think most people just need to manage their expectations better. Some people will just not be interested, and thus won’t reply. Some people might not have the time, or might not log in frequently. There are a multitude of reasons why someone might not reply - but we tend to think your time would be better spent on finding people that would reply / be compatible with you as opposed to dwelling upon why you haven’t had a reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Too long

Lovely tits though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite. "

Tried it. Didnt get a single response. I think ive messaged every couple and single within a 10 mile radius. Might have to move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

"I reply if I find the person attractive, mostly. You've never replied to me although i guess i'm far too old, i can dream lol xx"

You haven't sent me a message. And that's because you're 11 years over my age range.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Reading my profile

Too long

Lovely tits though"

If you can't be arsed reading my profile, why should I be arsed meeting you?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

They refer to it and respect my wishes. If they don't, I delete. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Too long

Lovely tits though

If you can't be arsed reading my profile, why should I be arsed meeting you? "
. Of course. Thats your prerogative. But i dont think a lot of guys would take the time to

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Face pic

Humour

Having read my profile

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Reading my profile

Too long

Lovely tits though

If you can't be arsed reading my profile, why should I be arsed meeting you? . Of course. Thats your prerogative. But i dont think a lot of guys would take the time to"

They don't, so I don't reply. Them's the breaks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day all the lady’s can pic and chose from thousands of men on here when ever they want it’s the same age old thing from real life men do all the runing the lady’s sit back an just pic witch ones they want

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

A FaF message and a cheesy cock pic.

Guaranteed to get me fizzing at the bunghole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Effective spelling also helps.

Or so I heard. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're outnumbered dude it's that simple.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"You're outnumbered dude it's that simple. "

Tbh even if women outnumbered men, the way most men message I wouldn't bother.

Hell, I'm bi. The way most women message, I don't bother, and messages from women are rare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get 100s of messages a day and yet I don't reply to most of them. If the message is polite, respectful, you payed attention to what is in my profile and you're what I'm looking for - I'll reply. Most don't read or take notice of what's in the profile - why should I waste my time replying to them?

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

A email! When I got one.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Read my profile , have a profile picture , and be verified and of course knows how to write a constructive msg "

This plus not being listed as 'straight'

A massive cock helps too.

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge

"Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

Um.... I think I'm beginning to see why you might not be getting many meets.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

When I first joined I had no avatar picture, no photos in any gallery's, didn't write a single word of a biog and only filled in the mandatory details.

Despite that, I had literally hundreds of messages saying how stunning I was, how I had the best profile on Fab and how we had so much in common.

So yeah, we can tell when you puddings haven't read our profiles.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

When I first joined I had no avatar picture, no photos in any gallery's, didn't write a single word of a biog and only filled in the mandatory details.

Despite that, I had literally hundreds of messages saying how stunning I was, how I had the best profile on Fab and how we had so much in common.

So yeah, we can tell when you puddings haven't read our profiles.

Mmhm. Generic compliments, occasionally things that are obviously incorrect, pleasantries and nothing else.

Like c'mon, the minimum here is that a message is about me. Good grief, I'm not asking for a doctoral dissertation.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Those of you saying ‘i respond to the ones that read my profile’ bollocks. How can you even tell?

When I first joined I had no avatar picture, no photos in any gallery's, didn't write a single word of a biog and only filled in the mandatory details.

Despite that, I had literally hundreds of messages saying how stunning I was, how I had the best profile on Fab and how we had so much in common.

So yeah, we can tell when you puddings haven't read our profiles.

Mmhm. Generic compliments, occasionally things that are obviously incorrect, pleasantries and nothing else.

Like c'mon, the minimum here is that a message is about me. Good grief, I'm not asking for a doctoral dissertation. "

I would gladly take you on as a PhD subject....Filth and friendship a biphasic relationship.

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By *rsbrooksandjohnCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Normally reply to most messages as politeness costs nothing.

Have ignored a few

But do love it when the person messaging does read our profile first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies must get 100’s of messages a day... what makes a message stand out for you?

Fab is becoming painful with the ratio of M to F... how do you send an affective message without getting RSI from typing our 100s"

I always reply to a compliment. I do say in my bio `flattery will get you everywhere`

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman
over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

I respond to messages from people who have read my profile. There is plenty there to see if we have anything in common and make an decent effort.

What I will not reply to are messages, referring to me as a box ticking exercise. Or a "preference"

Friendly conversational messages, that show interest in me as a person.... And its not just men who don't read profiles.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Someone who has obviously read before messaging me and someone who is actually interested and sent a personalised message not a generic paste to all message.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

How many ladies on fab have ever read a long winded blokes profile with dos and don'ts, preferences etc and drafted a coherent relevant funny and engaging message...

I think it's a round number....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies must get 100’s of messages a day... what makes a message stand out for you?

Fab is becoming painful with the ratio of M to F... how do you send an affective message without getting RSI from typing our 100s"
the ratio is the same as it ever was, if youve read the target profiles and sent well thought out polite messages with a face pic and showing some personality you can't do any more, if they are very popular its kinda pointless trying really because even if they like you and you have rapport they still miss many of the messages you send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A humorous message. A good profile write up and pics on a profile x"

This.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"How many ladies on fab have ever read a long winded blokes profile with dos and don'ts, preferences etc and drafted a coherent relevant funny and engaging message...

I think it's a round number...."

I have, and I would again.

But you have two choices. Take it, or leave it.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"How many ladies on fab have ever read a long winded blokes profile with dos and don'ts, preferences etc and drafted a coherent relevant funny and engaging message...

I think it's a round number....

I have, and I would again.

But you have two choices. Take it, or leave it. "

Nice, I hope it worked...I'm sure it did...

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

Only recently ticked men on the 'looking for' section. Now we understand why women and couples get so frustrated.

We have probably had anywhere between 200-300 guys message us since and judging by the content of the messages only 4 or 5 have read the profile.

It really is no wonder most men have no success on here.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Only recently ticked men on the 'looking for' section. Now we understand why women and couples get so frustrated.

We have probably had anywhere between 200-300 guys message us since and judging by the content of the messages only 4 or 5 have read the profile.

It really is no wonder most men have no success on here."

Just read your profile and responded...tho I am outside your age range ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to have a nice polite message and a couple of recent clear face and body pics if they don't have any on their profile. Physical attraction and chemistry is important to me. Some couples just say fancy a fuck? and expect single guys to come running without even sending a picture . If this was a single guy doing that they would be the first to complain about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at the profile first. That’s how we can usually yell if someone has read ours - e.g the fact we are only interested in bi men.

If all looks well we will read the message and go from there what the content is.

Usually something that acknowledges that they have the profile and reference why we would be a good match to chat/meet I.e similar interests etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell *

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

recently verified and smiley face pics...

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

It's usually pure luck when I reply to a message. Depends if I'm in the mood to chat or not. It's more likely if you've some half decent pics on your profile and the message isn't utter shite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know when I get some replies. I think I've tried a few variations, but no one replies. I do get viewed a lot by men. I've had messages from men too, I be polite and tell them I'm not into men, but they come back and ask if your horny etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am feeling sarcastic, mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to reply to those who are local to me and have sent a decent message. I only really reply though if there’s a face pic and I’m attracted to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got loads during the first few weeks but thankfully they've died down now, I actually get only 1 or 2 a day now. That's fine by me, I know what I want, and if I like what I see when I check out the profile that's what makes me reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Didn’t expect this many responses .. good to see a variation of replies though... I’ll always have a read of a profile before attempting to message - I don’t see why you wouldn’t .. attraction and chemistry are everything .. saying that I do sometimes feel like it’s a numbers game on Fab as I’ve always assumed the ladies and couples are drowning in messages from all the guys ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite.

Reading means comprehending and acknowledging. No value in having read a profile if you then ignore what it said! Not saying you do this but loads and loads of people do so.

Do you happen to know the weight of a flock of seagulls? The bird variety, not the band

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"Didn’t expect this many responses .. good to see a variation of replies though... I’ll always have a read of a profile before attempting to message - I don’t see why you wouldn’t .. attraction and chemistry are everything .. saying that I do sometimes feel like it’s a numbers game on Fab as I’ve always assumed the ladies and couples are drowning in messages from all the guys .."

You can't go wrong with this. We don't expect war and peace, but its easy to reference part of our profile to show us you've read it before sending a message.

If this happens we always send a polite reply. If they aren't for us we thank them for the message and explain they aren't what they are looking for. If they may be what we are after we continue the chat. The rest are instantly deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite.

Reading means comprehending and acknowledging. No value in having read a profile if you then ignore what it said! Not saying you do this but loads and loads of people do so.

Do you happen to know the weight of a flock of seagulls? The bird variety, not the band

You mean... a colony? It depends on how many gulls, and what type - the ones in Brighton are well beefy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if she begs me basically otherwise JCBA

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By *orkDefenderMan
over a year ago

Just East of Wakefield

With regard to the question asked in the thread header

Politeness, even if it's to say "No thankyou"

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

If a face photo is attached then I will reply. If I find the person attractive then I'll look at their profile. I will then either say they are not for me or will engage conversation. It really just is down to attraction/location/what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

location location location I'm a 10,000 mile max round trip man but only warm countries please and accom 3 weeks min be square or be there

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Same in life as on here if there polite and engaging I'll chat to most, as you never know where a conversation may lead x

Ray reads all the messages and also chats sometimes just to make sure he's also comfortable with them.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"Ladies must get 100’s of messages a day... what makes a message stand out for you?

Fab is becoming painful with the ratio of M to F... how do you send an affective message without getting RSI from typing our 100s"

Not all ladies receive 100's, ratio makes not a lot of difference if none are what you seek.

Effective messsge theres no one size fits all no one generic message that will get a reply.

Chances are if the recipient ain't attracted to you you won't get a positive response.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

I used to reply to every message, even just a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first read a woman's profile it always amazes me when it says face pic must be attached to first message this immediately puts me off, where I understand in the real world we all see the person first the majority of public pictures on fab are just of body parts so to speak and some women don't even have one public picture yet still ask for a face pic, a lot of fab members have reasons they want discretion otherwise all profile pictures would be of their faces.

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By *igboobies42Woman
over a year ago

Essex

I always like the messages that make me laugh or smile. I am more attracted to someone that can appeal to my personality than someone that is just attractive (although all meets need an element of both) x

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

"I always like the messages that make me laugh or smile. I am more attracted to someone that can appeal to my personality than someone that is just attractive (although all meets need an element of both) x "

Fully agree with that sentiment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply if I find the person attractive, mostly. "

This is the actual truth.

Ugly people with great messages get nowhere near the replies good looking people do with just hi. It’s just how attraction works

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I've written to ladies if I've found something humorous in their profile. I don't expect a response as it's just me spontaneously acknowledging that. Then other times I've fancied the backside off someone had no response and if I'm honest feel totally the same. You don't miss what you've never met, it's simple

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I don’t read it until I look at the profile. I perv at the photos and read about them. If I like what I see then I look at the message. It’s it sexual straight away. It’s a no. Something humorous, about my status or photos I may reply to. It really is time dependent and how I am feeling. Probably not the best answer, but it’s the truth for me.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I reply when a alpha male offers me his cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting original message from someone who I find I am attracted to.

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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

So, since we aren't here to be romanced by single guys, we look for someone who looks and sounds fun.

Here's how we scan a message:

1. Profile pic - hot torso or happy smile over giant penis.

a. No profile picture and we usually don't even scan further.

2. Check if there are pictures attached.

a. If so will look for:

- face (smile is super important! We have to imagine chatting with you and a deadpan expression doesn't help.)

- torso/body (we like couples, so if we are going to bend for a single guy they need to provide something that zings and is different than the norm.)

2. Glance at length of message.

a. If the message is 10 words or less we tend to skip on.

3. If all the other boxes are ticked - read the message

a. Is it an obvious cut and paste with no acknowledgement of preferences on our profile?

- Understand it's a numbers game and are happy with over half of the message being a very clever cut and past and the rest tailored to us.

b. Are we adressed as a couple?

c. Does the grammar, spelling, usage and style imply someone wth whom we can enjoy a bit of banter?

d. Are they looking for the same things as us? (We don't do video chat play etc.)

If all the above checks out we move on to the profile before responding. There are plenty of threads on best practices for profiles. Will just reiterate, verifications from meets, quality pictures (a dick pick tucked in the mix isn't a bad thing) and a well thought out description are key to success.

Anyway... we are obviously bored today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread to improve our response back ratio...

Hopefully it will work

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By *uzy swallowTV/TS
over a year ago

Warminster

Very good advice xxx

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By *ioletVixenMrBlueBiCouple
over a year ago

northwich

I think for us we’re most likely to reply to a message if:

1. You’ve attached a face pic. Not an essential, as for us we prefer to judge how things are going after a bit of messaging, but it doesn’t do any harm.

2. If you’ve read our profile

3. Messages that give us something to go off. Inspire us, make yourselves stand out. What are you looking for, does it meet what we’re looking for? What are you offering that makes you different to everyone else?

4. People who are local or at least happy to travel to us, as we can’t travel this one is important to us.

5. Have recent verifications and pictures on your profile, as well as some though and detail in the text.

6. If you say you’re bi but have straight on your profile, that says to us you’re only interested in meeting Mrs and that’s an instant turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had messages from men and I wouldn't worry.

The standard of messages isn't all that high sometimes ha ha

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don’t be creepy and cringeworthy which most men are on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies must get 100’s of messages a day... what makes a message stand out for you?

Fab is becoming painful with the ratio of M to F... how do you send an affective message without getting RSI from typing our 100s"

100s is an exaggeration in the real world of Fab .

If they have quoted some of my profile to me .

Are local to me . Have a sence of humour

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The profile wins it for me, as I always look at it. If your message is thoughtful, not demanding and has pics attached, I'll probably reply.

But, as I'm a slow message respondent, I'll decline if several more demanding ones turn up.

Be friendly and flirty and I've got interest. Attraction physically still needs to be there, of course. Good luck guys!

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

"Reading my profile

This, plus good spelling and grammar.

Originality.

Honesty.

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By *arkhorse66Man
over a year ago

bristol

"Only recently ticked men on the 'looking for' section. Now we understand why women and couples get so frustrated.

We have probably had anywhere between 200-300 guys message us since and judging by the content of the messages only 4 or 5 have read the profile.

It really is no wonder most men have no success on here."

I certainly read your profile before messaging and unfortunately had to accept your lack of response as a polite decline.

I will continue to adopt that strategy though and there are those that like what I have to offer. Can’t all be to everyone’s taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something creative, a profile pic.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Don’t be creepy and cringeworthy which most men are on Fab."

I suspect that it is actually not as many as people think, as a percentage, it's just there are so many guys ..it still makes up a lot of blokes.

Having organized two socials all of the guys (with very few exceptions) that attended were decent, presentable and popular .. in fact any issues regarding behaviour etc have mainly involved single ladies and couples ...which I found interesting given the stereotype views on fab.

I know there are a lot of weird people on fab, and ladies and couples get a lot of ignorant messages from guys profiles ..i think there are also a lot of nice guys as well...and organized socials seems a nice way to find them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a question

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

An interesting profile usually.

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By *maguyMan
over a year ago

Cambs

"Reading my profile

I normally read the profile through but still is hard to get a reply

I dont even get views

Any suggestion on the profile picture?

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By *maguyMan
over a year ago

Cambs

"Reading my profile

This, plus good spelling and grammar.

Originality.

Honesty."

I agree with you

But what if the guy is from Europe,has an accent and obviously makes few grammar mistakes, would it be a turn off for you ladies?

By the way I’m from south Europe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that our profile is fairly specific. Most messages that we read, it becomes immediately obvious that they have not read it!

Those messages get deleted.

Others who have read it and are polite and respectful usually get a reply of some sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

"Reading my profile

Women always say this and it still results in nothing.

It makes me think that I'd have more of a chance if I treated this like a numbers game and just bombed everyone I see with a generic message.

Maybe if I send 30 messages I might get a bite.

Reading means comprehending and acknowledging. No value in having read a profile if you then ignore what it said! Not saying you do this but loads and loads of people do so.

This is exactly what I look for.

Actually comprehending the profile and not just saying wow fantastic profile.

Construct your message based on the profile only if you fit what the profile says.

Oh and read to the end of the profile.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Hey there/ how you doing? Type messages don't inspire a reply. Nor do obviously cut & pasted long generic messages. Then there are ones that say 'great profile we are looking for similar things' , yet looking at their profile tells me we have very little common ground.

Majority of guys message purely based on pics and location. They don't read profiles.

I respond most to messages that demonstrate that my profile has been read and absorbed & where the sender intrigues me in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be a wordsmith like Shakespeare but if your ugly u ain't getting shit back, but the fit guy that says hi I'd like to bang you gets a instant reply. Shallow I know but thats how it goes... Its an attraction game

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By *UCKiliketofuckMan
over a year ago

kettering

Iv tried many different ways to communicate to the women of this site they read and dont reply...

I read every profile iv come across liked the sound thought we may have had something in common but nothing.... I have a good description of what I'm looking for....

Nothing works... I just get weird men asking to suck me off... not for me... hope some one reads this and finds my profile appealing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he/she refers to things in my profile, they have a decent ish profile and if I like what I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Manners

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lol really

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By *ucilleWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

"Fancy a fuck"

That always hooks me, every time.

But honestly, a message that gives a sign we're on the same wavelength is the ideal from me, especially if they indicate my particular swinging style.

There's no magic formula.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place

"Only recently ticked men on the 'looking for' section. Now we understand why women and couples get so frustrated.

We have probably had anywhere between 200-300 guys message us since and judging by the content of the messages only 4 or 5 have read the profile.

It really is no wonder most men have no success on here.

Just read your profile and responded...tho I am outside your age range .."

Thus proving their point.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We always reply but the reply depends on the message received

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By *abriellajackCouple
over a year ago

Newport

"Only recently ticked men on the 'looking for' section. Now we understand why women and couples get so frustrated.

We have probably had anywhere between 200-300 guys message us since and judging by the content of the messages only 4 or 5 have read the profile.

It really is no wonder most men have no success on here.

Just read your profile and responded...tho I am outside your age range ..

Thus proving their point.

Exactly!

We get that people find it hard sending a first message but it's your opportunity to show us you are messaging us because you believe we are looking for the same sort of experiences.... Not just because you like the pictures.

This isn't just a single male thing as couples and ladies are guilty of this too. Personally, the profile is the first thing we check and if they don't seem compatible we don't look at the pictures.

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By *ourayloversCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

(Ray)

Lou recently had a message off a "woman" had photos on her profile and veris etc

To say it was blunt and to the point is an understatement !!! When Lou replied (as she does to all messages) the woman couldn't comprehend why Lou was offended.

It's not just guys who send "fancy a shag" messages !

Hi how are you guys always works or some level of engagement please !!!

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