FabSwingers.com forum: Married guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Stafford

For me. If the other partner knows I have no problems (in married myself and me and hubs have a couple's profile on here)

But if the partner doesn't know then I personally would avoid and not play.

But there are people on here who really don't mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

If we were looking for single guys we would never consider a married guy.

Not being judgemental, but usually their reasons involve some type of dishonesty and that just isn't attractive.

Just our opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)

If we were looking for single guys we would never consider a married guy.

Not being judgemental, but usually their reasons involve some type of dishonesty and that just isn't attractive.

Just our opinion."

Same for us as the poster above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regularly meet married men. It turns me on. In most cases if you delve into it they are either in an unhappy or sexless marriage but don't want to divorce. I've been a mistress to a married man for 2.5 years. He always puts his wife and family first and loves his wife, but since she went through menopause she gave up on sex. They haven't had sex in over 4 years. He loves her but doesn't want to go through life sexless. He is a former army Sergeant and still plays rugby. A lot of testosterone and a very high sex drive. I've been providing him with all the sex in his marriage for past 2.5 years. It's purely sexual. We are friends, nothing more.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Most guys I've met on here are married or attached to a gf

I see it as none of my business why there on here , tho the frequency of last minute cancellation and the clock watching is something that I find hard to tolerate

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I don't and wont. No judgements on those that do, but I don't want the hassle of someone else's relationship.

She suddenly finds out he's bi, demands to know who's he's sleeping with or discovers it on his phone, laptop etc.. next thing you're the reason their marriage is fucked up. Suddenly she turns up at your house

Plenty of single guys on here and in the real world.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Not for us as we like our meets to be relatively unrestrained and being asked to not wear perfume or leave any marks puts a dampener on things. And that's before the angst of angry partners phone calls or them just turning up on the doorstep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on guys, surely we know that most of the married people playing alone on here are doing so with the full permission of their partners?

Well, that is what they say isn't it??

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Come on guys, surely we know that most of the married people playing alone on here are doing so with the full permission of their partners?

Well, that is what they say isn't it??"
if this is the case why do I spend life planning around mens wives diaries ?? Lol

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By *ubsteffTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I’m a married man and am on here because I’m getting zero sex at home. I love her still but I can’t stay in a sexless marriage without having some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet married men, no matter what their reason for being here is. My life is complicated enough without adding the potential of an angry wife if she finds out

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I don’t meet married men .... as a previous poster said there is some dishonesty going on and that’s a turn off.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"I’m a married man and am on here because I’m getting zero sex at home. I love her still but I can’t stay in a sexless marriage without having some fun

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I get told this all the time by married men and some only in thier 20s ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

Permission would need to be sort. Like others I don't fancy a wife on my doorstep because you forget to mention that you are playing away.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Regularly meet married men. It turns me on. In most cases if you delve into it they are either in an unhappy or sexless marriage but don't want to divorce. I've been a mistress to a married man for 2.5 years. He always puts his wife and family first and loves his wife, but since she went through menopause she gave up on sex. They haven't had sex in over 4 years. He loves her but doesn't want to go through life sexless. He is a former army Sergeant and still plays rugby. A lot of testosterone and a very high sex drive. I've been providing him with all the sex in his marriage for past 2.5 years. It's purely sexual. We are friends, nothing more. "
I dont know you so i wont pass judgement! Its the " he doesnt fuck his wife part" im sure ur an intelligent woman it just baffles me how u wud believe that and he maybe is telling the truth obv i dont know and u dont either....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a married man and am on here because I’m getting zero sex at home. I love her still but I can’t stay in a sexless marriage without having some fun

I get told this all the time by married men and some only in thier 20s ,"

You are lucky many here don't tell their wife or gf.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"I’m a married man and am on here because I’m getting zero sex at home. I love her still but I can’t stay in a sexless marriage without having some fun

I get told this all the time by married men and some only in thier 20s ,

You are lucky many here don't tell their wife or gf. "
tell Thier wife or gf what ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately it's very sad. I would never knowingly do anything with someone deciving the person they're supposed to be faithful to.

I mean, at best it's sad that you can't discuss and find a solution, at worst it's outright deciet and putting someone's health at risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not judging as I’ve met a few married people before but I try not to now just because it’s usually on their terms and I got fed up of meeting where and when it suits them. Obviously they’ve got to be discreet but I don’t and I can’t be bothered with the hassle, I’m here for relaxed fun

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Not judging as I’ve met a few married people before but I try not to now just because it’s usually on their terms and I got fed up of meeting where and when it suits them. Obviously they’ve got to be discreet but I don’t and I can’t be bothered with the hassle, I’m here for relaxed fun

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this is what I was saying , it's like Ur having to plan Ur life around mens wives at times and gets frustrating agreed ,

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

No, unless we are really close, know each other's situation and he does not talk about his wife every minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is what I was saying , it's like Ur having to plan Ur life around mens wives at times and gets frustrating agreed , "

It is frustrating

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Can't be doing with a married man playing without a partner knowing, I don't care what the back story is. Ms

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Nope, I actively try to avoid them, I completely disagree with cheating, regardless of the reason.

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

"Ultimately it's very sad. I would never knowingly do anything with someone deciving the person they're supposed to be faithful to.

I mean, at best it's sad that you can't discuss and find a solution, at worst it's outright deciet and putting someone's health at risk."

This is my opinion. If you are playing without your partner's knowledge, your reasons (i.e. justifications) don't matter a jot to me, I'm not knowingly going there. Lack of communication in a relationship is indeed sad; not enough folk will just bloody discuss their issues. There are also those who simply enjoy and get a thrill from cheating. Either way, I'm not getting involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me. If the other partner knows I have no problems (in married myself and me and hubs have a couple's profile on here)

But if the partner doesn't know then I personally would avoid and not play.

This

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Their wife

Thier life

Thier shit if it hits the fan

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If his wife is in the dark,no I wouldn't meet him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dishonesty is not sn attractive trait in our humble opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status. "

Each to their own of course!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status.

Each to their own of course!!"

Yes well done, you’re in a public forum! I’ll tag on that I think that there’s a chance that those who see it as cheating, are likely to only swing just to keep their partners happy. Seen this a lot on our journey. Each to their own opinion though

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

For us we wouldn't play if someone's partner didn't know about it!! Just our personal preference. If they have permission then fine ok but it's a no if they don't!!

I've had enough accusations of affairs, etc in the past I don't need that drama. Also having been the other woman several years ago when I was young and very stupid it's not worth it!! I'm not into being the reason marriages split I'm really not!

We don't really play with single guys much because most of them are really pushy or weird round here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us we wouldn't play if someone's partner didn't know about it!! Just our personal preference. If they have permission then fine ok but it's a no if they don't!!

We don't really play with single guys much because most of them are really pushy or weird round here. "

Is that because it’s Bodmin?

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"For us we wouldn't play if someone's partner didn't know about it!! Just our personal preference. If they have permission then fine ok but it's a no if they don't!!

We don't really play with single guys much because most of them are really pushy or weird round here.

Is that because it’s Bodmin?

quite possibly!! Cornwall does seem like the worst place for weird ones haha.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I find it amusing that on a sex site there's so much moral high ground from some , most of society would disrespect the lots of us but seemingly that's going on from within , live and let live ppl , less judgement which is well

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of cheating married guys on here is unreal

I've chatted to that many guys and they say the but I'm married and she doesn't know line

Swinging is about singles or couples with each other's consent not a place for cheats to lie and fuck someone else

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

As much as I love a good man bashing there never appears to be the counter thread of “look at all those cheating women”.

I’ve met some truly wonderful married women playing without permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it amusing that on a sex site there's so much moral high ground from some , most of society would disrespect the lots of us but seemingly that's going on from within , live and let live ppl , less judgement which is well

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better ! "

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As much as I love a good man bashing there never appears to be the counter thread of “look at all those cheating women”.

I’ve met some truly wonderful married women playing without permission.

Being honest, we haven't seen many public threads like this put up by married women.

At least they have the good sense to go about it quietly.

Married men seem to want to announce their cheating ways to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy to meet a hones one aka who has told his mrs but lets get real if he lies to his wife he will have no issues lying to me and people you can't trust are best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happy to meet a hones one aka who has told his mrs but lets get real if he lies to his wife he will have no issues lying to me and people you can't trust are best avoided."

This is simply perfect sense!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"For us we wouldn't play if someone's partner didn't know about it!! Just our personal preference. If they have permission then fine ok but it's a no if they don't!!

We don't really play with single guys much because most of them are really pushy or weird round here.

Is that because it’s Bodmin?

I've noticed it with a lot of the new guys that are joining, locally and nationally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once."

So is having sex with other people not cheating on your partner even if they know or in some cases join in, the vows say forsaking all others so as part of the "contract" you should only have sex with the person you married.

I would think that as well as married men playing away there are a fair few married ladys as well

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

No. I wouldn't want to have to fit in around your wife and family. I'm here for my own needs not yours when you are available. Nothing in it for me and I won't meet guys cheating. I don't meet married halves of couples either. This applies to male and female by the way.

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By *oneyjule65Couple
over a year ago

Halifax

We have & do so long as they tell us...they have their reasons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

I don't mind, a couple Is a complex system and it's none of my business if their partner is aware and happy of their playing or not.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

I would say about 90% of singles on here be it male or female are married. We have played with guys and then they let it slip they are married. Have also heard women in clubs talking about there unsuspecting husbands. We have a friend who wife plays with who's wife is obnoxious at the moment he can't leave her so we think nothing of it she knows he sleeps with other women. I play with other women too but not very often as we prefer to have fun together. So without interigating people In club. How do you know, so we say what goes on in club stays in club . As for me I rather play with another man's wife with him present as I know he will be as turned on as me when I'm watching wife with another guy

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my view on it + why we don't meet married guys. It is no judgement on others.

Sex is sex, there is nothing wrong with it. You can have sex with as many people as you like + people shouldn't look down on that. It doesn't matter

However cheating on your partner is not the same thing, it's not about sex its about lies + dishonesty. There could be a number of young children involved + if it was a bad breakup you could destroy their entire lives for the sake of a fuck. It's no different than the lies + dishonesty from a guy who has HIV + doesn't tell you. Only difference is it is your life that is destroyed if the condom splits rather than an innocent child's

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

As you state, we all have our reasons to be here.

I know 2 men that are married, they both have their reasons and I totaly understand them.

They've both been upfront with me, I knew from day 1 their situations, and made an informed decision.

We all know exactly where we stand, and I am fine with that.

On the other hand, I met a guy for a social, we had chatted for nearly 2mths before we met.

First thing I spotted was his wedding ring.

Quickest social ever.

He'd never once mentioned a wife.

Call it double standards of you like, but I wasn't prepared to meet someone who hadn't been honest with me.

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Beryl here.

As you say there are always a variety of reasons. I ask if the men are married, if they are and are honest that’s a good start. I then ask if their wife knows. If she doesn’t then he’s cheating and that’s the end. If he says yes she does and explain further then a social is on the cards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together "

I don’t accommodate and I’m single, not attached in anyway at all! Maybe they live with family, their parents/kids or a house share. There’s lots of reasons why someone don’t accommodate

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together

I don’t accommodate and I’m single, not attached in anyway at all! Maybe they live with family, their parents/kids or a house share. There’s lots of reasons why someone don’t accommodate

We give those reasons the same amount of consideration as the reasons cheats give for cheating and bin them. We might miss out on meeting the occasional genuine person by doing so but we can pretty much guarantee that the singles we meet are actually single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play with married men, I know they are married and I still play with them. If they’ve got issues in their marriage that is their problem not mine and I certainly ain’t the only person they play with.

I’m generally a clubs only girl, I don’t bother asking anyone I meet in that situation their marital status as I’m sure most of you don’t either, it’s not something you bring up in conversation at a swingers club.

I’m also not gullible enough to believe everything I get told by people I meet, I’m not after a relationship, I don’t need their romantic or sexual history - it’s best left unsaid and just assume they are taken.

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By *he witch returnsWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

Having seen a married guy for almost 3 years I can't complain. She is more the other woman than me. Total sexless marriage. He plans. His life around my free time.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Having seen a married guy for almost 3 years I can't complain. She is more the other woman than me. Total sexless marriage. He plans. His life around my free time."
Ur fella must be a unicorn , cherish that cos it's extremely rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more about the connection and attraction with the person rather than the reasons they’re on here. I’m not looking for a relationship. That’s not what this site is about

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"At least they have the good sense to go about it quietly.

Married men seem to want to announce their cheating ways to everyone."

Damned either way though -

Be upfront and get lynched by the moral high ground, hide it and be even more morally questionable than being open about it.

As others have said gents/woman have their reasons to be unfaithful - as long as it causes no dramas those reasons are their own to deal with. Imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together "

I live on an army camp and say I can't accommodate due to the questions next day about what i was up to.

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

im in a sexless marriage must be the most used line on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're quite happy meeting married men.

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By *arenjeffCouple
over a year ago

oldham

We play in clubs mainly so never really know their status. It’s not a question we ask even if just chatting.

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By *appy but hornyMan
over a year ago

wakefield

"im in a sexless marriage must be the most used line on here"

Totally agree, but some of us are genuine as i am, i admit its hard to tell tbh

When i eventually find some fun, and it is not as easy as some think, then i will ensure that my wife will confirm im genuine, as she has stated that she would to help me

Anyway just saying thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together

I don’t accommodate and I’m single, not attached in anyway at all! Maybe they live with family, their parents/kids or a house share. There’s lots of reasons why someone don’t accommodate

Some also say they accommodate but don’t, do you ever meet people at yours or hotel that state they accommodate but that have never accommodated you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only reason I tend to stay away from married men is due to being caught up in the mess when they’ve been found out...it’s happened to me twice in the past with guys on here...wives caught them out and my number has been in their phone..the screeching phone calls at 3am put me right off....so I avoid as much as possible now..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only reason I tend to stay away from married men is due to being caught up in the mess when they’ve been found out...it’s happened to me twice in the past with guys on here...wives caught them out and my number has been in their phone..the screeching phone calls at 3am put me right off....so I avoid as much as possible now.."

Yep I’ve had this although no calls just constant abusive text messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I wholeheartedly agree. I make it pretty plain on my profile, yet some try there luck

If the wife or gf knows (like my boyfriend does) then brilliant, I do ask if I can just check first! Most genuine never have a problem.

There are plenty of single guys on here so I never see the need to sneak around and grab what little time he does

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By *orny75Man
over a year ago

Chatham

I’m lucky enough to have my own profile and a couples profile. I tell my gf about every conversation and meets if I use my own profile. We met through swinging

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"At least they have the good sense to go about it quietly.

Married men seem to want to announce their cheating ways to everyone.

Damned either way though -

Be upfront and get lynched by the moral high ground, hide it and be even more morally questionable than being open about it.

As others have said gents/woman have their reasons to be unfaithful - as long as it causes no dramas those reasons are their own to deal with. Imo. "

Lol cheating causing no drama?

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Having seen a married guy for almost 3 years I can't complain. She is more the other woman than me. Total sexless marriage. He plans. His life around my free time."
And u for sure their marriage is sexless? She is not the other woman she has the marriage certificate to prove it, u are! Ive never seen such a gullible woman on here! Hes lying to his wife about u he will lie to u about her! ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im in a sexless marriage must be the most used line on here

Totally agree, but some of us are genuine as i am, i admit its hard to tell tbh

When i eventually find some fun, and it is not as easy as some think, then i will ensure that my wife will confirm im genuine, as she has stated that she would to help me

Anyway just saying thats all"

Your situation is different. Your wife realises and is very good in letting you find something.

What the OP is talking about men sneaking around behind their backs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't. Simple as that.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

My wife is fully aware, in fact it’s her fantasy she loves it when I come home and tell her what I been up to.but this still scares them off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I wholeheartedly agree. I make it pretty plain on my profile, yet some try there luck

If the wife or gf knows (like my boyfriend does) then brilliant, I do ask if I can just check first! Most genuine never have a problem.

There are plenty of single guys on here so I never see the need to sneak around and grab what little time he does "

Yep agree totally, I also have it on my profile..many still try it though

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Having seen a married guy for almost 3 years I can't complain. She is more the other woman than me. Total sexless marriage. He plans. His life around my free time. And u for sure their marriage is sexless? She is not the other woman she has the marriage certificate to prove it, u are! Ive never seen such a gullible woman on here! Hes lying to his wife about u he will lie to u about her! ..."

This is key,

If he they can fool the person who knows and loves them the best what stops them doing it to a relative stranger.

"why don't we try it without a condom this time, it safe I've not been with anyone but you and I've not had sex with the wife for years"

Meanwhile his wife is none the wiser and it put at a risk she is not aware of. Even if they keep using protection, he could still catch something.

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By *appy but hornyMan
over a year ago

wakefield

"im in a sexless marriage must be the most used line on here

Totally agree, but some of us are genuine as i am, i admit its hard to tell tbh

When i eventually find some fun, and it is not as easy as some think, then i will ensure that my wife will confirm im genuine, as she has stated that she would to help me

Anyway just saying thats all

Your situation is different. Your wife realises and is very good in letting you find something.

What the OP is talking about men sneaking around behind their backs"

Thank you

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By *ozy couple d lCouple
over a year ago

DROMORE

Aren't most of the men on here married,but pretend they are single,

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

just ripped the head off a regular of mine who's married, finally told him what I thought of him, and why hes not getting sex at home.

So not entering into this thread, cause I'll get banned (again)

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together

I don’t accommodate and I’m single, not attached in anyway at all! Maybe they live with family, their parents/kids or a house share. There’s lots of reasons why someone don’t accommodate

Exactly I'm the same I'm single I house share so I won't bring people back and even if I didn't house share I'm not bringing guys I meet off here back to my house straight away. Ye if it became a regular thing but not on a first or second meet. It's not always that people are cheating. I think it's common sense not to being someone to your home.

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West

I do. As a hotwife it would be slightly hypocritical of me to judge someone else's situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter to me. Its their life and how they manage it is up to them

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Seems that a few couples would sleep with the "wife" regardless if she cheating....many ladies r on here "cheating" ..ive spoke too a few...

But fella cheating..and ooooh....lol

Love fab so many very honest ppl..lol

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By *aughtybynature73Couple
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Met a few attached men . Tbh it's a swinging site not our place to judge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't want to meet a guy if we knew for sure he was married or in a relationship, but the truth is we have never asked the question, and none have ever volunteered the information. Have we ever thought they might have a significant other at home? Definitely, but we don't see it as our business to hold them to account, and anyway they'd probably lie if we asked.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"Seems that a few couples would sleep with the "wife" regardless if she cheating....many ladies r on here "cheating" ..ive spoke too a few...

But fella cheating..and ooooh....lol

Love fab so many very honest ppl..lol"

We're honest and definitely not hypocritical by our choice of not meeting either sex if they're cheating.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Some also say they accommodate but don’t, do you ever meet people at yours or hotel that state they accommodate but that have never accommodated you ? "

We've never had a hotel meet (doesn't count as can accommodate to us) but we've met plenty of single guys at ours and where they live. We've also met quite a few people here and never been to theirs as there's not been a second meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems that a few couples would sleep with the "wife" regardless if she cheating....many ladies r on here "cheating" ..ive spoke too a few...

But fella cheating..and ooooh....lol

Love fab so many very honest ppl..lol

We're honest and definitely not hypocritical by our choice of not meeting either sex if they're cheating."

We are the same.

We like to think that the people we mix with are honest people.

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once."

Ok, so you sign a contract, but then one party decides they don’t want sex, is it fair for the other person to spend the rest of their life without it?

If the other person doesn’t want sex you can’t force them, but then it’s wrong if one party goes and finds it somewhere else?

So many people on a moral high horse on a site that is designed to get people together to just have no strings sex

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once.

Ok, so you sign a contract, but then one party decides they don’t want sex, is it fair for the other person to spend the rest of their life without it?

If the other person doesn’t want sex you can’t force them, but then it’s wrong if one party goes and finds it somewhere else?

So many people on a moral high horse on a site that is designed to get people together to just have no strings sex

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

A cheater is a cheater regardless of the reasons.

No I do not sleep with married guys. - unless female knows

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"A cheater is a cheater regardless of the reasons.

No I do not sleep with married guys. - unless female knows "

Great username....

What about married women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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I have my reasons for being here, that being my husband having a very low sex drive and contrasting with my high sex drive has been painful for me as a woman. Usually it's the other way round with female having a low sex drive. I had years of feeling abnormal and ashamed of my high sex drive and really low self esteem. So I find when I speak to married guys we come from similar stories, wife low sex drive, rejection just kind of have an understanding for how that feels. I don't judge and have met married men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my humble opinion, there will always be some guys or ladies who do not want to declare their marital status. When I first join this site, I did not mentioned I was married. I met a few women and one of them wanted to go a step further and I had to tell her that I was married but sexless. She ended the contact with me and I respected that. I don't want to mislead anyone and continue with the lies. So it is stated Married on my status. For whatever reasons or anyone else it is a personal choice. Friends or foe, there is always someone for somebody. Respect and please do not slag. Cheers.

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By *aznlouCouple
over a year ago

co durham

We don’t knowingly meet married people playing away whether that be male or female.

We don’t want to be responsible for a family break up, there are plenty people on fab who are being honest & are free to play. If the other half doesn’t know then their lying. I’m not sure if it’s still the case but if caught out can’t you be named in divorce proceedings??

It’s not hypocrisy it’s being truthful & faithful, we play with consent. Marriage is a legally binding thing. People want their cake & eat it & just making it easier to allow them to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status. "

harsh but fair and we agree

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By *euschMan
over a year ago

peterborough

"I’m not sure if it’s still the case but if caught out can’t you be named in divorce proceedings??

No, not anymore, in the eyes of the court it’s just about the fact the marriage has broken down, they don’t care what caused it

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

For those who say there’s consent or permission how is this proved?

Personally think this site is what it is. And people make a choice based on preference. I certainly think married men are much less attractive proposal than married women ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some also say they accommodate but don’t, do you ever meet people at yours or hotel that state they accommodate but that have never accommodated you ?

So they potentially could be married if you haven’t been to there’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm married wife knows everything. She is will you prove that by speaking or even coming with me on meets, And NO she doesn't play anymore..

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Let's face it, most 'single' men on here are actually attached or married.

Personally, for me, it's none of my business. We find attached or married men far more discreet. Each to their own really.

If we were all the same we'd be pretty bored.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

It's a no from us.

We are not being judgemental, but if the other half finds out we don't need or want to be dragged into their arguments.

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By *aturally sexyCouple
over a year ago

watford

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)"

We chat to lots of married men and some married women at clubs whose partners are unaware.

I don’t think it’s fair to judge other people and their married relationships.

I’m happy to play with married men - sometimes it’s less complicated.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Some also say they accommodate but don’t, do you ever meet people at yours or hotel that state they accommodate but that have never accommodated you ?

So they potentially could be married if you haven’t been to there’s

That is possible but we use plenty of due diligence while getting to know them and just like poker players, cheats have tells that aren't hard to pick up on. They also didn't seem to mind leaving with P's scratches down their backs and all asked for a repeat meet so I'm guessing it's unlikely that they were.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

And very likely the truth. You can still love your wife and family, but need sexual/physical contact, your wife won’t or can’t give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And very likely the truth. You can still love your wife and family, but need sexual/physical contact, your wife won’t or can’t give. "

We agree.

But if you love and respect her that much, tell her what you are doing.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better ! "

Well said

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

Tell her, and end a marriage, family? Some wives don’t want sex, and also don’t want there husbands to have sex. Is that there choice? I’ve discussed it, if I had sex with another woman, “were over” celibate and married is a choice. Masturbation is a physical relief. Men also need a close intimacy, a physical mutual attraction. A raw consuming urge for passion with a partner! Life has enough ups and downs with out judging married men in this site. Don’t judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. Love to you all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Well said

Being an honest person and treating the person you profess to love with respect and honesty is not moral high ground is it??

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

When you married you wife/husband and made the vow, “forsaking all others” was that a truthful vow? Not if your on here? Husbands/Wives on here , without “permission “. One is ostracised, the other is welcomed unreservedly? Double standards?

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over a year ago

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

Enjoyed reading this thread, some many opinions, so many judges, each to their own. But more venom aimed at married men than women? Think this might suit the men in the couples on here?

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over a year ago

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hypocrisy but I guess some like to think they're better !

Well said

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Enjoyed reading this thread, some many opinions, so many judges, each to their own. But more venom aimed at married men than women? Think this might suit the men in the couples on here?"

An argument we see used very often to justify not being honest with a partner.

One is where two partners are honest with each other, the other is where someone is not honest with their partner.

How can you dress it any other way??

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By *hongguyMan
over a year ago

heckmondwike

how do you no they don't have sex you sneak in there bedroom at night think hes getting double sex luckeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tell her, and end a marriage, family? Some wives don’t want sex, and also don’t want there husbands to have sex. Is that there choice? I’ve discussed it, if I had sex with another woman, “were over” celibate and married is a choice. Masturbation is a physical relief. Men also need a close intimacy, a physical mutual attraction. A raw consuming urge for passion with a partner! Life has enough ups and downs with out judging married men in this site. Don’t judge anyone until you have walked a mile in their shoes. Love to you all xx"

so what were the terms you married did it say that it gave either the right to play the field and break your vows of in sickness and health. She may have a health reason he might have a health reason for not wanting sexual intercourse.For better or worse telling her you are going to fuck someone else is better than going behind her back or his back just to get your rocks off! If there is no sex at all in the marriage it has broken down and it should end, could you really lie to the woman you love that you married and said I do for what ever reason beholden to males and females. To me that is self gratifying and showing that the sex is more important than loving a wife or partner or husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very clearly said.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

Honesty? So you have never lied to protect someone else’s feelings or stop an unpleasant outcome? Really? What cheating/lies are acceptable or unacceptable to you? Sounds very much like you have made your own definition’s and justified them in your own mind to remove any guilt from your own actions? Pick and choose what’s right and wrong to suit your own life style? Fair? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And very likely the truth. You can still love your wife and family, but need sexual/physical contact, your wife won’t or can’t give. "

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status. "

so if it was your partner or husband and he never told he was fucking around bet you would care!

No fab is for swingers

Fab is for fucking strangers or getting a great shag

that initself is hard enough

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

Well, I’m pretty sure none of you married couples on here, who said the following vow, meant it? “Forsaking all others” ? I should tell my wife, get divorced, cause massive upset, because I can’t shag someone secretly? Get real with your relationship advice x

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

You seemed to disagree with my post? Not sure if , married men on here bother you or not? X

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"Well, I’m pretty sure none of you married couples on here, who said the following vow, meant it? “Forsaking all others” ? I should tell my wife, get divorced, cause massive upset, because I can’t shag someone secretly? Get real with your relationship advice x"

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"
what uve written is the truth exactly !

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .??????????

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

I think you are missing the point. How can not telling everyone about swinging be the same about lying to the person you should put before everyone? I am sure my friends and family wouldn’t care either way but I know they don’t furnish me with their sex life so I do the same.

For me, married people can cheat or whatever. I have had some nice chats with married folk who in this situation. I just really don’t need the drama, if it turns bad ie the wife finds out. No matter who you say, the wife or gf will turn her fury on the women who entered into a sexual arrangement rather than the man. Unfair but totally true.

It is my choice at the end of the day and I say no thanks

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The give away is the cannot accommodate on profile , almost always because Thier attached and living together

I don’t accommodate and I’m single, not attached in anyway at all! Maybe they live with family, their parents/kids or a house share. There’s lots of reasons why someone don’t accommodate

I'm single too, I used to accommodate, but don't any more due to a couple of bad experiences from people here. As this poster pointed out, lots of reason for not accommodating, not just having a partner.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

It is my choice at the end of the day and I say no thanks "

This. I had a ‘single’ guy’s girlfriend assaulting me on my doorstep and trying to kick my door in, when she found out. What people do behind closed doors is their business. Just like my swinging and causal sexual encounters are my business and nothing to do with anyone else.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

It is my choice at the end of the day and I say no thanks

I hope you reported her to police. How is this your fault if he lied to her??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

Actually I'm as open about being here as much as with all my hobbies to be honest! But as with all my hobbies I dont actually talk about them often unless something funny or brilliant comes along! And however it is, I would never discuss my sex life with anyone ... it's mine and private! So no I'm not cheating on anyone ... for me attached people on here just aren't as attractive because they are accomplished liars and this isn't a trait that I admire in anyone, actually the opposite. More importantly for me though is I want to meet when I want to meet, not when a person I've never met can be deceived!

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over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honesty? So you have never lied to protect someone else’s feelings or stop an unpleasant outcome? Really? What cheating/lies are acceptable or unacceptable to you? Sounds very much like you have made your own definition’s and justified them in your own mind to remove any guilt from your own actions? Pick and choose what’s right and wrong to suit your own life style? Fair? X "

Cheating is being dishonest to someone.

Lying is not telling the truth to someone.

Simple really.

If someone is so concerned about not hurting someone's feelings, why on earth do they cheat??

The fallout from cheating does not only affect the cheated partner, it affects any kids as well. We have seen it first hand many times

We know plenty of married men and women in a similar position who have had an adult honest conversation with their partners and are here with their partner's consent.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??"

My thoughts exactly?! It has nothing to do with family and friends if people are on here or on FB, dating apps etc. So how is that cheating?

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over a year ago

Cheating is being dishonest to someone.

Lying is not telling the truth to someone.

Simple really.

If someone is so concerned about not hurting someone's feelings, why on earth do they cheat??

The fallout from cheating does not only affect the cheated partner, it affects any kids as well. We have seen it first hand many times

We know plenty of married men and women in a similar position who have had an adult honest conversation with their partners and are here with their partner's consent.

Have you ever stopped to think that quite possibly maybe even having that conversation with a partner could affect the relationship too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a partner but not married. I love her more than anyone but will never marry her. I've said since day one I will never marry her or anyone and she's fine with that. She doesn't know I'm on here but she knows that I don't believe in monogamy, I do remind her a lot haha. I've told her she can fuck other people if she wants but she's not into that. I have my reasons for being on here and I only meet when she isn't at home... which is half the time. But ye, people are so judgmental when it comes to "cheating". If you don't know some ones circumstances, then don't judge.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )"

I take it you’re not hypocritical to your friends and family either. I’m sure you tell them that you’d happily sleep with their wives or girlfriends behind their backs. How did they react to you when you told them?

I also expect that you should also not be a hypocrite if your partner cheats on you either, accept it as why should you expect them to be faithful.

It’s a terrible example to compare a Swingers site to cheating, would people who enjoy the BDSM lifestyle have to tell their friends and family about that or they’re hypocrites as well ?

Very few of the ‘disaprovers’ Have actually cast judgement, if you actually check the majority have just given their reasons why they wouldn’t meet someone in a relationship. From meeting around the other persons timetable to the backlash after their partner finds out, already one person has commented that this happened to them.

Every person who cheats on their partner can convince themselves or others why it’s acceptable in their case, that’s up to them. As I said in my original answer to the Op I actually don’t judge, I’ve met cheaters in clubs I didn’t challenge them about their cheating to their face so I won’t be a hypocrite here and criticise those that do.

I won’t meet someone who’s in a relationship, I don’t want to be a part of their drama, or the potential upset that will happen eventually. I have experience from childhood to my own marriage why I hold my views.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No judgement here, but I prefer single men. They have less limits on their time, I don't need to worry about leaving marks on them, rushing away back to the wife, cancelling last minute. Single guys are just generally easier.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??"

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't and wont. No judgements on those that do, but I don't want the hassle of someone else's relationship.

Plenty of single guys on here and in the real world. "

This Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never meet a taken man intentionally. I've been on the receiving end of being cheated on and wouldn't wish that on anyone.

If you're in a sexless relationship then move on. Don't use kids as an excuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a married man and am on here because I’m getting zero sex at home. I love her still but I can’t stay in a sexless marriage without having some fun

I get told this all the time by married men and some only in thier 20s ,

You are lucky many here don't tell their wife or gf. tell Thier wife or gf what ?"

Tell them that they are looking for sex outside of marriage or a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

So how does that cheat the family and friends.

It may change their opinion of us and that is up to them.

There is no comparison between being on here and cheating on the person you say you love.

We both know that, and we just don't get why you are making the comparison.

Of course we try to defend when we behave dishonestly, but to someone who is your life partner??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell you what is very surprising here.

Stating something that is so obviously wrong creates such a stir.

Free will means you do what you want, however if it is plainly wrong so man-up and accept it. No-one is saying stop what you do, that is your choice. But stop trying to justify it.

Saying you love someone and you cheat on them?

Not right.

Saying that it will hurt them? It is more about not being able to face the consequences yourself.

Seen it so many times.

The cheating partner gets found out, thrown out and then cries like a baby.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

Everyone is judgemental, it's part of life, get used to it.

We certainly make judgements on who we will and will not engage sexually with.

You can have a no judgemental approach and have sex with anyone but that's your choice.

We make judgements based on many criteria and they are not all the obvious ones based on how people look.

As for comparing cheating on a partner to not telling friends and family, well that's a strawman argument.

I made no sexual or emotional commitment to my mother or friends about who I would be intimate with. Neither did I enter into a contract with them about who I could have sex with.

I did however make a sexual and emotional commitment to my partner

and

I did make that legally binding contract when I got married.

So emotionally, sexually and legally there is no comparison between life partners and friends and family.

A contract by definition can be ammend by mutual agreement of both parties involved, which we have.

Cheating by its nature is not by mutual agreement.

Outside of the emotional, sexual and legal commitments, there is the bigger issue of consent.

A couple consent to not engage in safe sex on the basis of those emotional, sexual and legal commitments.

If one party is not fullfiling their commitments there is a question of whether that sex between them is consensual.

If you don't agree, just consider the case that went to court last year of a woman consenting to sex with her lover on the understanding of her lover being male.

When they discovered that consensual sex was with a female, the courts ruled this as sexual assault and the lady jailed.

It does not matter if the cheater uses protection, when they engage in sex with their life partner it is not with full disclosure of the risks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think if they are nice not my business if they are in a relationship

As long as it’s safe fun why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No judgement here, but I prefer single men. They have less limits on their time, I don't need to worry about leaving marks on them, rushing away back to the wife, cancelling last minute. Single guys are just generally easier. "

this is also my way of being on here, I do not come here for drama I can take someone to the local theatre for that!

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By *ozy couple d lCouple
over a year ago

DROMORE

Or no profile picture, what is there to hide if your single , married perhaps ??????????

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

It's not cheating as in cheating on your partner is it. That was what the OP is about, nothing to do with friends and family as they aren't the husbands, wives or partners are they?

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By *ora 123Man
over a year ago

Basildon

"It’s a sex site, we’re not here to fall in love. Plenty of other sites for that. Couldn’t care less about your marital status. "

Your right. Makes me feel better anyway. Thank you.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"Or no profile picture, what is there to hide if your single , married perhaps ??????????"
Probably, but what issues? You want good sex

They want good sex

Everyone is happy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or no profile picture, what is there to hide if your single , married perhaps ?????????? Probably, but what issues? You want good sex

They want good sex

Everyone is happy? "

Most people want to have sex with honest people. Why choose a dishonest cheat when there are plenty of decent single guys who give just as good sex.

Maybe that is the issue.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

Everyone is judgemental, it's part of life, get used to it.

We certainly make judgements on who we will and will not engage sexually with.

You can have a no judgemental approach and have sex with anyone but that's your choice.

We make judgements based on many criteria and they are not all the obvious ones based on how people look.

As for comparing cheating on a partner to not telling friends and family, well that's a strawman argument.

I made no sexual or emotional commitment to my mother or friends about who I would be intimate with. Neither did I enter into a contract with them about who I could have sex with.

I did however make a sexual and emotional commitment to my partner

and

I did make that legally binding contract when I got married.

So emotionally, sexually and legally there is no comparison between life partners and friends and family.

A contract by definition can be ammend by mutual agreement of both parties involved, which we have.

Cheating by its nature is not by mutual agreement.

Outside of the emotional, sexual and legal commitments, there is the bigger issue of consent.

A couple consent to not engage in safe sex on the basis of those emotional, sexual and legal commitments.

If one party is not fullfiling their commitments there is a question of whether that sex between them is consensual.

If you don't agree, just consider the case that went to court last year of a woman consenting to sex with her lover on the understanding of her lover being male.

When they discovered that consensual sex was with a female, the courts ruled this as sexual assault and the lady jailed.

It does not matter if the cheater uses protection, when they engage in sex with their life partner it is not with full disclosure of the risks. "

Maybe quote that to the person that married you?

The contract you made was, if religious was between you, your partner and god. If not religious, it was you , your partner and the British legal system. You could be divorced, by a judge for cheating, regardless! Think about your judgement? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many couples or ladies would consider playing with a married guy?

(no criticism of my marital status please, as you don't know my reasons for being here!)

If we were looking for single guys we would never consider a married guy.

Not being judgemental, but usually their reasons involve some type of dishonesty and that just isn't attractive.

Just our opinion.

Same for us as the poster above."

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

Ok for married women though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok for married women though? "
absolutely not.. wrong on both accounts

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"Ok for married women though? absolutely not.. wrong on both accounts "

I think you might find, most couples, are happy to meet married women. Might say single on profile, but why ask if that’s true?

Seems to me, sex hierarchy is

Single women looking for anything

Married couples looking for women

Married couples looking for couples

Men looking for men

Men looking for anything

That’s life

??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok for married women though? absolutely not.. wrong on both accounts

I think you might find, most couples, are happy to meet married women. Might say single on profile, but why ask if that’s true?

Seems to me, sex hierarchy is

Single women looking for anything

Married couples looking for women

Married couples looking for couples

Men looking for men

Men looking for anything

That’s life

??????"
where do I fit in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

Everyone is judgemental, it's part of life, get used to it.

We certainly make judgements on who we will and will not engage sexually with.

You can have a no judgemental approach and have sex with anyone but that's your choice.

We make judgements based on many criteria and they are not all the obvious ones based on how people look.

As for comparing cheating on a partner to not telling friends and family, well that's a strawman argument.

I made no sexual or emotional commitment to my mother or friends about who I would be intimate with. Neither did I enter into a contract with them about who I could have sex with.

I did however make a sexual and emotional commitment to my partner

and

I did make that legally binding contract when I got married.

So emotionally, sexually and legally there is no comparison between life partners and friends and family.

A contract by definition can be ammend by mutual agreement of both parties involved, which we have.

Cheating by its nature is not by mutual agreement.

Outside of the emotional, sexual and legal commitments, there is the bigger issue of consent.

A couple consent to not engage in safe sex on the basis of those emotional, sexual and legal commitments.

If one party is not fullfiling their commitments there is a question of whether that sex between them is consensual.

If you don't agree, just consider the case that went to court last year of a woman consenting to sex with her lover on the understanding of her lover being male.

When they discovered that consensual sex was with a female, the courts ruled this as sexual assault and the lady jailed.

It does not matter if the cheater uses protection, when they engage in sex with their life partner it is not with full disclosure of the risks.

Maybe quote that to the person that married you?

Still trying to defend cheating? ?

Sad.

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By *homas juniorMan
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

Everyone is judgemental, it's part of life, get used to it.

We certainly make judgements on who we will and will not engage sexually with.

You can have a no judgemental approach and have sex with anyone but that's your choice.

We make judgements based on many criteria and they are not all the obvious ones based on how people look.

As for comparing cheating on a partner to not telling friends and family, well that's a strawman argument.

I made no sexual or emotional commitment to my mother or friends about who I would be intimate with. Neither did I enter into a contract with them about who I could have sex with.

I did however make a sexual and emotional commitment to my partner

and

I did make that legally binding contract when I got married.

So emotionally, sexually and legally there is no comparison between life partners and friends and family.

A contract by definition can be ammend by mutual agreement of both parties involved, which we have.

Cheating by its nature is not by mutual agreement.

Outside of the emotional, sexual and legal commitments, there is the bigger issue of consent.

A couple consent to not engage in safe sex on the basis of those emotional, sexual and legal commitments.

If one party is not fullfiling their commitments there is a question of whether that sex between them is consensual.

If you don't agree, just consider the case that went to court last year of a woman consenting to sex with her lover on the understanding of her lover being male.

When they discovered that consensual sex was with a female, the courts ruled this as sexual assault and the lady jailed.

It does not matter if the cheater uses protection, when they engage in sex with their life partner it is not with full disclosure of the risks.

Maybe quote that to the person that married you?

Still trying to defend cheating? ?

Sad. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The hypocrisy of some people on the site .

Moaning about cheaters whether men or women. Calling them and chastising them without knowing the radon’s they may be on here .

Being on sites like this may be the reason they are still together . They are adults and make their own choices . Get over it and move on .

Disapprovers , ask yourself this .

Do you tell all your friends and family you are on a swinger site ? Do you tell your parents or kids . Work colleagues or best friends ?

If not why not ! It’s only sec and we are all consenting adults !

Are you hiding it because it’s embarrassing? Or because they will probably think worse things about you . They may even disassociate you and chastise you .

Ate you cheating them too ? Would your family and friends feel the same as a cheated wife or husband or significant other ?

( I’ll return later to see the response

And im sure it won’t be favourable to what I’ve wrote )

Interesting point.

So in your views, by being on here people are cheating on their friends and family?

How??

I didn’t say they were cheating I asked the question .

Would your family and friends think you were honest about you being on this swinger sure .

How would they feel ?

Some probably would pat you on the back others would find you disgusting .

It’s your choice after all .

But do you think it would harm your relationship with the family member or work colleagues

A big yes I’m most cases

People join sites like this for their own reasons

Stop being judgemental

Everyone is judgemental, it's part of life, get used to it.

We certainly make judgements on who we will and will not engage sexually with.

You can have a no judgemental approach and have sex with anyone but that's your choice.

We make judgements based on many criteria and they are not all the obvious ones based on how people look.

As for comparing cheating on a partner to not telling friends and family, well that's a strawman argument.

I made no sexual or emotional commitment to my mother or friends about who I would be intimate with. Neither did I enter into a contract with them about who I could have sex with.

I did however make a sexual and emotional commitment to my partner

and

I did make that legally binding contract when I got married.

So emotionally, sexually and legally there is no comparison between life partners and friends and family.

A contract by definition can be ammend by mutual agreement of both parties involved, which we have.

Cheating by its nature is not by mutual agreement.

Outside of the emotional, sexual and legal commitments, there is the bigger issue of consent.

A couple consent to not engage in safe sex on the basis of those emotional, sexual and legal commitments.

If one party is not fullfiling their commitments there is a question of whether that sex between them is consensual.

If you don't agree, just consider the case that went to court last year of a woman consenting to sex with her lover on the understanding of her lover being male.

When they discovered that consensual sex was with a female, the courts ruled this as sexual assault and the lady jailed.

It does not matter if the cheater uses protection, when they engage in sex with their life partner it is not with full disclosure of the risks.

Maybe quote that to the person that married you?

Still trying to defend cheating? ?

Sad.

Love you xx"

Being on the end of a marriage where he cheated on me twice once I forgave him more fool me he than betrayed my trust again. Took me awhile after that for to gain trust and thought everyone was dishonest. That is my view point and take and I am now finished on this thread, divorcing it and cheating on it elsewhere on the forums!

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Their wife

Thier life

Thier shit if it hits the fan

Yup.

I avoid attached guys simply because they often have limited free time and can be flaky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married but my wife is thousands of miles away, cant wait till she arrives

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Maybe quote that to the person that married you?

Your reply makes no sense. Go back and read the whole thing again.

We are not cheating and no a judge could not divorce us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once.

I would think that as well as married men playing away there are a fair few married ladys as well "

Yes I have actually seen a woman advertise that she is married and hubby does not know and then puts won't meet married men. I have never known a social site full of so much bigotry and double standards! yes I am married and my wife had cancer so stopped her ability to have sex several years ago. So to the shallow minded judge all you want and I hope when you are enjoying yourselves in clubs that you make sure that whoever if fucking you is really single! you don't ask then do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

,hypocrisy but I guess some like to think there better !

Cheating is not nice .

This is much more than just a sex site.

When you get married you sign a contract to each other.

It's not hypocrisy as cheating is probably the worst thing you can ever do to your partner.

35 year together and never cheated on each Other once.

I would think that as well as married men playing away there are a fair few married ladys as well

Out of interest does your wife know you're getting sex elsewhere? Not judging just asking ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if there has been an illness that’s stops your sex life even though you still really love your partner, people still crave affection

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