FabSwingers.com forum: Unicorns

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do unicorns really exist ? We have been in here for a few months and haven’t got very far, we have not ruled anything out from a one off threesome to becoming a permanent thruple. Where are we going wrong? Advice anyone. Thank you

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Only one pic of female on profile, I'd need to see some if male half I'd playing with a couole. What can you offer a single female?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you find appealing about your profile Mrs OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can you give more detail please.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Do you think bi women only care what the female half of the couple looks like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are only looking for sensual and passionate meets we are not looking for a porn style threesome we want the person who joins us to feel our passionate hospitality to hopefully go on to being a regular part of our lives both sexual and social. As a single female what would you want out of joining a couple?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Can you give more detail please."

Look at other threads asking for profile advice, lots on the forums with good advice. You can also look at well verified couples profiles.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I’d want to see pictures of both parts of the couple on the profile before even replying back to them. If I’m going to be having sex with them both, then I want them both to be represented on their joint profile.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would want to fancy the man as well as the woman so I would want to see a pic of him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made. Sometimes people do not like splashing their self all over a website.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made. Sometimes people do not like splashing their self all over a website. "

So in your couple, the woman is happy splashing herself all over a website but the man isn’t?

Just makes me think he’s got something to hide.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made. "

But will women bother to make initial contact when they only have one photo of you and none of him ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe there is a good reason for that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made. Sometimes people do not like splashing their self all over a website. "

If you're looking for a unicorn, your profile needs to be tip top. Your chances are pretty low, we get way too much attention.

There are ways to have an appealing profile with lots of pictures without revealing identity, if that's what you're worried about.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Maybe there is a good reason for that."

Perhaps write the reason on your profile?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made.

But will women bother to make initial contact when they only have one photo of you and none of him ?"

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is one of the things I’m trying to work out. Obviously we are not using face pics so what kind of pic are you looking for?

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

"We are happy to send photos of us both after initial contact has been made. Sometimes people do not like splashing their self all over a website.

So in your couple, the woman is happy splashing herself all over a website but the man isn’t?

Just makes me think he’s got something to hide."

Have to agree with above would maybe seem like there is something to hide , Doesn’t have to be splashing himself all over just a couple of pics so people Looking get an idea, then once you start chatting if your more comfortable send face pics

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"This is one of the things I’m trying to work out. Obviously we are not using face pics so what kind of pic are you looking for? "

Look at other profiles for inspiration.

Give an idea of bodies, type, shape, etc.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"This is one of the things I’m trying to work out. Obviously we are not using face pics so what kind of pic are you looking for? "

Like, the same kind of picture that you have of the woman in your couple. A sexy one that would make me want to talk to you both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Suggestions?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It has to be your profile and your ideas. A cookie cutter profile also won't work.

Sell yourselves the way you want to be portrayed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s a cookie cutter

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What’s a cookie cutter "

Identical, made to a mould.

I take the vast majority of my own pictures. Work out how your phone camera timer works.

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x"

Who took the one on your profile already?

Can the female half of your couple not take one of the male half?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x

Who took the one on your profile already?

Can the female half of your couple not take one of the male half?"

Yes indeed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eurgh. Unicorns are mythical creatures. My 6 year old daughter really rates them. Swinging couples looking for them? Really??

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x"

Cant you take some pics of him rather than asking the kids ?

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

"Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x

Cant you take some pics of him rather than asking the kids ?"

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

I suspect the real reason you’re not finding much success is that you’re bloody hard work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you've only been on Fab for 2 months, this is not long. Some couples have been unicorn hunting for years.

I am fully bisexual, had experience with couples, but there is nothing on your profile that has caught my attention, sorry. It is lacking pictures, as I'd like to see both male and female from the couple. It doesn't have to be face pic, not in the initial interaction.

You don't say on your profile if you have had any experience with a woman. I think it'd be quite important to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe there is a good reason for that.

Perhaps write the reason on your profile?"

Thank you I will add that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP, you've only been on Fab for 2 months, this is not long. Some couples have been unicorn hunting for years.

You don't say on your profile if you have had any experience with a woman. I think it'd be quite important to me. "

Sweetie I was gay until I met my bf but point taken. Thank you

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

Sweetie I was gay until I met my bf but point taken. Thank you "

But gay women on a swingers site are unlikely to meet m/f couples.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You've had lots of advice on this thread, but appear to not have acted on it or ignored it. As suggested earlier, perhaps look at existing threads as well. We can't write your profile for you. It needs to reflect you both as a couple. Effort in means rewards out.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I suspect the real reason you’re not finding much success is that you’re bloody hard work."

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I'm afraid I wouldn't be bothered to make an initial contact with the current profile. I'd want to see both of you, feels dodgy without.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Good luck with your quest OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, you've only been on Fab for 2 months, this is not long. Some couples have been unicorn hunting for years.

You don't say on your profile if you have had any experience with a woman. I think it'd be quite important to me.

Sweetie I was gay until I met my bf but point taken. Thank you "

Your profile says you've always been bi

Call me a pedantic, supicious bitch ( you're a pedantic, suspicious bitch Sappy) but I smell bullshit

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, something's up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok easier said than done unless I get the kids to take the photos but thanks for the advice x"

You could do a selfie of the two of you it’s really not that difficult

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

As a single woman, what's on offer? I can't work out what it is your offering?

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

You say that unicorns are hard to find but as a single female I find couples REALLY hard to find. Especially ones where you get on with both parties.

A lot of couples are looking for something that no one can offer and it's all on their terms which as a female I don't like.

You say that you are struggling to find someone but maybe you aren't offering what anyone wants. As in you are asking for things only you guys want instead of considering what the female wants. You can't expect someone who doesn't know you to instantly become friends or even consider a poly relationship.

I haven't read your profile so I can't comment where you are going wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a unicorn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple who (like most) are seeking a bi lady to join us - and have some success, not gloating but hoping to share knowledge - we have pictures of both of us - though considerably more of the Mrs, 1 because shes far prettier than me (mr) and 2 i hate having my photo taken.

But photos of both are needed, as is a reasonably well written informative profile.

Also going to swing clubs on nights when single guys are either not allowed or limited. Generally bi women looking for couples will be at these events.

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a unicorn?"

Single bi woman. Almost impossible to find so the monika "unicorn". Will say this. I work for a charity aimed at Bi people and they hate the term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say that unicorns are hard to find but as a single female I find couples REALLY hard to find. Especially ones where you get on with both parties.

A lot of couples are looking for something that no one can offer and it's all on their terms which as a female I don't like.

I haven't read your profile so I can't comment where you are going wrong. "

Shame distance is between us. Alternative looking, bit of kink,. Pretty much our likes there.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You say that unicorns are hard to find but as a single female I find couples REALLY hard to find. Especially ones where you get on with both parties.

A lot of couples are looking for something that no one can offer and it's all on their terms which as a female I don't like.

I haven't read your profile so I can't comment where you are going wrong. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You say that unicorns are hard to find but as a single female I find couples REALLY hard to find. Especially ones where you get on with both parties.

A lot of couples are looking for something that no one can offer and it's all on their terms which as a female I don't like.

I haven't read your profile so I can't comment where you are going wrong.

Love the fact that all you pictures have food in them

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You say that unicorns are hard to find but as a single female I find couples REALLY hard to find. Especially ones where you get on with both parties.

A lot of couples are looking for something that no one can offer and it's all on their terms which as a female I don't like.

I haven't read your profile so I can't comment where you are going wrong.

Love the fact that all you pictures have food in them

I like cooking and posting not so normal pics lol. Thanks x

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

"What is a unicorn?

Single bi woman. Almost impossible to find so the monika "unicorn". Will say this. I work for a charity aimed at Bi people and they hate the term. "

A unicorn is not just a bi single female. It's just a single female. They can also be straight.. Although this makes for a much less interesting mff

People pretend they are hard to find but actually I don't think they are. Couples are definitely harder to find. Ones that don't have a jealous party...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are only looking for sensual and passionate meets we are not looking for a porn style threesome we want the person who joins us to feel our passionate hospitality to hopefully go on to being a regular part of our lives both sexual and social. As a single female what would you want out of joining a couple?"
What they're saying is you have to sell yourselves the label unicorn, the myth, means a woman who's interested in meeting couples to play with either partner but I presume predominantly with the woman of couple, quite often for the satisfying of the man's fantasy but as a result of many couples just being a man they've become a little wary so need information, pics and contact I would imagine, to succeed at snaring this illusive myth both male and female need to appeal in write up and pics

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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago

North Oxfordshire

"What is a unicorn?

Single bi woman. Almost impossible to find so the monika "unicorn". Will say this. I work for a charity aimed at Bi people and they hate the term.

A unicorn is not just a bi single female. It's just a single female. They can also be straight.. Although this makes for a much less interesting mff

People pretend they are hard to find but actually I don't think they are. Couples are definitely harder to find. Ones that don't have a jealous party... "

No... “unicorn” is another word for a “single bi babe.” It’s specifically the bisexuality and therefore the (supposed) willingness to play equally with both parts of a heterosexual couple that’s makes them a “unicorn.” (ie rare as hens teeth)

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"What is a unicorn?

Single bi woman. Almost impossible to find so the monika "unicorn". Will say this. I work for a charity aimed at Bi people and they hate the term.

A unicorn is not just a bi single female. It's just a single female. They can also be straight.. Although this makes for a much less interesting mff

People pretend they are hard to find but actually I don't think they are. Couples are definitely harder to find. Ones that don't have a jealous party... "

They are hard to find. I've stopped looking as many of them just expect ff play and not willing to share male half. Don't need the drama. Even worse when they say equal play, then change the rules when you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People pretend they are hard to find but actually I don't think they are. Couples are definitely harder to find. Ones that don't have a jealous party...

Just putting this here - we are not that kind of couple. If you meet us it would mean we both want to be involved.

No jealousy either.

Now where is that horn....i know i left it here somewhere.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

People pretend they are hard to find but actually I don't think they are. Couples are definitely harder to find. Ones that don't have a jealous party...

Just putting this here - we are not that kind of couple. If you meet us it would mean we both want to be involved.

No jealousy either.

Now where is that horn....i know i left it here somewhere. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is one of the things I’m trying to work out. Obviously we are not using face pics so what kind of pic are you looking for? "

You have non face pics of Mrs...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is one of the things I’m trying to work out. Obviously we are not using face pics so what kind of pic are you looking for?

You have non face pics of Mrs...

You’ve no face pic at all or were you in the film “Splash”

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