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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a site for everyone to find whatever want to find..

Why catergorise it?

Just do what works for you and leave everyone else to do what works for them

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK.....

People will now come along and say....

1. We have to be attracted to the other....

and.......

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

Yes it's a swinging site but people use it in all sorts of ways. Let them crack on with it. At least if you're not looking for a connection or a relationship you know who to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

i tend to agree

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Swinging is not the same as using.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some people use the site for the same reason I do,to possibly find a partner that's also into swinging.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

I am in no way confused. I used this site as I wish without need for comment on my desire for connection. You can choose to do something different

V x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I can categorically state that none one has ever asked me for a date on here.

So rest assured

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

Ok.

You're wrong.

A

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

Ok.

You're wrong.

A"

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By *onygirlieWoman
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Each to their own. People should be able to use the site as they wish as long as they’re clear about what it is they’re after what’s the problem?

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all."

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Swinging is not the same as using."

Excellent, not sure what the OP thinks we women will find alluring in his one sentence profile!

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

OP might be more suited to using escort sites, it's easy just remember, it's our game play it our way or don't play at all...(then come on here moaning about not getting any)...simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's something for everyone on fab.

Some people date, dating and swinging can be great fun!! Building connections leads to lots of naughty and repeat fun with friends.

But there's nothing wrong with the meet now brigade either. See something for everyone xx

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

There's nothing wrong in that, especially if your seeking a swinger relationship. After all this site is for all aspects of swinging surely.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It can be whatever people want to use it as....

I wasn't looking for more than fun when i met Jack over 3 years ago,but it happened.

Just because someone wants a connection or social,doesn't mean they want more than fun.single women need to feel safe meeting strangers remember.

More and more people seem open minded to relationships now on fab.If the person you talk to doesn't fit what you want,move on to the next.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

"

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By *anguyXXXMan
over a year ago

torquay

Its all so much more fun with a good connection and some build up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

Yup you’re wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it matter to you what other people want or do?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Not much difference between here and dating sites nowadays to be honest. Dating sites are littered with people seeking nsa from here lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say the reverse is true, i.e. most dating sites are like NSA/swinging sites now. It's difficult to tell the difference these days, apart from the fact that people seem to be more honest about what they're looking for on here. But whichever you use, women are generally going to be more circumspect than men, for security reasons if nothing else

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By *arc82Man
over a year ago

oxford

I feel for the OP................I could see most of these replies coming from a mile off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say the reverse is true, i.e. most dating sites are like NSA/swinging sites now. It's difficult to tell the difference these days, apart from the fact that people seem to be more honest about what they're looking for on here. But whichever you use, women are generally going to be more circumspect than men, for security reasons if nothing else "

Totally agree and so on point x

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

Near Okehampton.

Yes it is a Swinging site, but it doesn’t have to meat market. Some on here think if a woman is on here, she should just shag anyone and everyone and cannot say No or she is just a timewaster.

For me/ us it has to start in the mind. So any moron that sends a Hi or Hows you’s or something equally unenthusiastic will be met with a No or not replied to at all. So yes I do need something more than a one line as an opening gambit.

I won’t want to date anyone, but I need to find them interesting, before anything else.

Or am I setting my sights to high?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

No we just don't want to fuck anything that resembles a flesh banana.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all."

Damn right !

We are all different and like all different things !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman....

So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from....

If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only.....

Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled....

You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

Don't message them, that'll teach them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should it be a hook up, fuck whoever asks site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman....

So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from....

If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only.....

Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled....

You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday....."

So you're saying that men don't make demands, will fuck any one who they happen upon and have no standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman....

So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from....

If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only.....

Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled....

You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday....."

It’s not about the ratio, it’s about what women want!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not want to date but I would like a connection with the guy I'm fucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

But they can't get a round of drinks in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hoping to date. but I'm also realistic that some men will say oh yes let's date but actually just want fun and it's just something to get my attention. But yeah I'd love to find someone for a relationship that goes on to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op you have to understand the dynamics of this site.... the ratio is 1,000 men to 1 woman....

So women can make demands because they have 1,000 men to choose from....

If the ratios were inverse..... men could make similar demands..... like blondes only.....

Just imagine a fab world..... and men ruled....

You could choose from 1,000 women and your inbox is full everyday.....

So you're saying that men don't make demands, will fuck any one who they happen upon and have no standards?"

No I’m saying that women on Fab can make any demand they want and some man will acquiesce ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're confusing wanting a connection with dating.

They're not the same thing.

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating.

They're not the same thing.

You're welcome "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating.

They're not the same thing.

You're welcome "

A connection is a given if you meet someone to have sex...

I think the Op is talking about people looking for long term relationships on a swingers site...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're confusing wanting a connection with dating.

They're not the same thing.

You're welcome

A connection is a given if you meet someone to have sex...

I think the Op is talking about people looking for long term relationships on a swingers site..."

Well no, the OP is assuming that anyone wanting a connection, socials & more than a 'Hi how are you?' message, is them wanting to date. That is not the case, for me at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a connection 100% or its not for me, I'm not in my teens/ early 20's anymore where the only connection I needed was a few beers or something more chemically enhanced.

Maybe I'm fussy in my old age or maybe I need my mind to be stimulated as well as my body (in that order)

I can't sleep with someone I don't like or fancy.

It's not a question of what you want or longer term plans just starting with mutual respect and courtesy.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

… travelling

I want to know that the people I am fucking are sexually and mentally compatible. If that’s a problem, you should just pay for a hooker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all."

Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages'

I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I want a connection 100% or its not for me, I'm not in my teens/ early 20's anymore where the only connection I needed was a few beers or something more chemically enhanced.

Maybe I'm fussy in my old age or maybe I need my mind to be stimulated as well as my body (in that order)

I can't sleep with someone I don't like or fancy.

It's not a question of what you want or longer term plans just starting with mutual respect and courtesy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all."

Agree xx

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

It's a site for swingers (the clue is in the name ), but it's populated by human beings, who are all different, and have different tastes, ideas, and desires. Just use the site how you want to use it, the same as others do, and you will find likeminded people

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By *arpeNoctumWoman
over a year ago

Herts / Essex

I think you're confusing dating with basic interpersonal skills...

Just because it's a swinging site doesn't mean you get to snap your fingers and get laid with no effort, and the sheer amount of people who seem to think they can demand it out of nowhere like they're in some sort of bizarre one-stop sex shop is exactly the reason for all the requests you're complaining about.

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

This site is for however you want to use it be it last min hook ups, regular nsa sex or finding a partner.

If you don't like what someone is looking for , don't message them simple

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

Ultimately it is about finding the right people. Lots of characters are on the site, so it is a challenge finding the right person.

That's why people try to filter out others.

Everyday is a school day

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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago

where ever


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

I agree x

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

This is SO wrong!

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

Your description of "the woman" aptly describes what I look for in a profile. I am not a piece of meat. I would not expect a reply to a five word first message if I had sent one and the social side of swinging is important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages'

I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers "

Yep I literally reply to the 100s of random let's meet now messaged with call an escort.

Also there is a meet section, so why don't they browse there?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

Exactly this. I often wonder who replies to the 'meet now messages'

I no more take a man home on a night out than click a dick on here. Any dick won't do I'm afraid. I think there's some confusion between swinging and hookers

Yep I literally reply to the 100s of random let's meet now messaged with call an escort.

Also there is a meet section, so why don't they browse there?"

Because that requires effort, ie searching and reading.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

OP could you please give us what your version of swinging means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes this may well be a swinging site rather than a dating site but that does not mean that men can just put in no effort and expect women to just open there legs for any tom, dick or harry.

As others have pointed out swinging is very different from a "hook-up". I see swinging as a lifestyle which includes making friends and the social side of things are equally as important to me as the sexual side.

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

Agree xx"

Disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is a swinging site, not a hook up site which you may be confusing it with . A big part of swinging is making connections with people and the social side of it all.

Agree xx

Disagree"

Are you going to expand on that?.

I'm not sure why people get so confused the clue is in the name "fabswingers"!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I want to be sure, not only that I have some connection with those I meet (as others have said), but also that I'm respected and safe. I can ask for it, so I do. If I couldn't, I'd stick to my vibrator. It's not about me wanting a relationship, or being difficult... I just don't fancy getting hurt, and I use every tool I have to judge someone before I potentially put myself in harm's way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To play devils advocate here.....

You can go to a great steakhouse and order the salmon.... or you can go to a great seafood restaurant and order the steak....

You might get a great meal but wouldn’t you go to a seafood restaurant for seafood and a steakhouse for steak?

You can also find the love of your life on a swinging site and also a swinging partner on a dating site....

What the Op is trying to say is if you’re looking for a date , go to a dating site... and if you’re looking for uninhibited NSA sex go to a swinging site.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To play devils advocate here.....

You can go to a great steakhouse and order the salmon.... or you can go to a great seafood restaurant and order the steak....

You might get a great meal but wouldn’t you go to a seafood restaurant for seafood and a steakhouse for steak?

You can also find the love of your life on a swinging site and also a swinging partner on a dating site....

What the Op is trying to say is if you’re looking for a date , go to a dating site... and if you’re looking for uninhibited NSA sex go to a swinging site.....

"

We all get that BUT no we will use the site as we choose. Dating sites are worse than this for men that want a quick shag, I prefer here and have made great friends personally x

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over a year ago

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Well to be honest I seek a lady who wants vanilla equitable social and swing,kink and fun. To date I have not really found many ladies looking for similar.

This has really surprised me as I would have though ladies would like to have their cake and eat it.

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying "

He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying

He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x "

Why would you block him?

He just asked a question.

I personally didn’t see anything rude or obnoxious....

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"I wonder why the OP started a thread then hid his profile and hasn't commented ... just saying

He might think he can't get blocked that way lol x

Why would you block him?

He just asked a question.

I personally didn’t see anything rude or obnoxious...."

I would block him same as anyone I'm not interested in and I'm not interested in the way he thinks wemon should be on here .... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone fancy a date lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone fancy a date lol x"

Medjool dates are still in season

I love my calendar it’s full of dates

X

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it’s just winter which means all the horny couples are cosying with their families. Leaving mainly people who are single and wanting more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone fancy a date lol x"

Only an old prune hear ts soz

I Wouldn't make the grade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "

totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "
I totally agree with you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging is not the same as using."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

This!

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Ever get the feeling the OP created a thread to which he couldn't give a flying toss about? But is enjoying his popcorn behind his hidden profile watching it all unfold before his eyes while stroking his cat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "

Brilliantly put x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. "

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. "

Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one?

Because you had a 'connection'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one?

Because you had a 'connection'? "

Lol

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By *olid as rockMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Top man I'm with ya ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate.

However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate.

However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha"

You have a meet veri?

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Not much difference between here and dating sites nowadays to be honest. Dating sites are littered with people seeking nsa from here lol. "
. This is true I have been on POF and I have seen 3 women on here that are on POF.I have met women on a dating site and had sex within a few hours.I don’t think there is anything wrong with looking for a partner that is into swinging the hard part maybe is if you get together in a serious relationship how that works out not just swinging but every day life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate.

However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha

You have a meet veri?"

That I do - but randomly enough I actually met a chick whilst out, we hooked up, and found out we were both on Fab so she was kind enough to Veri me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

I completely get what you mean - but if you just want a hook up you’re better off using pure mate.

However, and sorry ladies I really don’t mean this too negatively - trying to meet women on here is a joke. Maybe I’m doing it wrong but have never met a lady from here, even for a social first. Not a problem on any other site / app I use which makes me think it’s this site. However I am determined to make it happen haha

You have a meet veri?

That I do - but randomly enough I actually met a chick whilst out, we hooked up, and found out we were both on Fab so she was kind enough to Veri me "

But you've never met a lady from here?

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "

This!!

The magic words being.... I am here for MY enjoyment.

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven

We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away

Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"To play devils advocate here.....

You can go to a great steakhouse and order the salmon.... or you can go to a great seafood restaurant and order the steak....

You might get a great meal but wouldn’t you go to a seafood restaurant for seafood and a steakhouse for steak?

You can also find the love of your life on a swinging site and also a swinging partner on a dating site....

What the Op is trying to say is if you’re looking for a date , go to a dating site... and if you’re looking for uninhibited NSA sex go to a swinging site.....

"

One tiny flaw with this, dating sites are littered with people from here looking for hook ups and nsa. I know this as I'm on them, hence why I'm also using fab for dating now as well, if you can't beat em, join em lol.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall


"I'm hoping to date. but I'm also realistic that some men will say oh yes let's date but actually just want fun and it's just something to get my attention. But yeah I'd love to find someone for a relationship that goes on to swing. "

I'll go with this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away

Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!"

Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious

Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that

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By *lsieWoman
over a year ago

where ever


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "

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By *aughty But Nice TwiceWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"If men actually stopped looking at the women on here as free escorts, and started treating them with respect, I suspect they would have a more enjoyable experience!

Most of my messages are either so mundane, or they completely ignore what I am looking as if my needs and wants don't matter!

Sorry guys, but I am here for my enjoyment, not just yours!

Show some respect, in fact lay off the porn and learn how to communicate in a polite manner as if you were speaking to a woman face to face, it's not much to ask is it? "

You hit the nail right on the head x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Is that because you left your ex wife for your current one?

Because you had a 'connection'? "

Nowhere near as simple as that but yes. No leaving involved but that was the end result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash...."

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong. "

And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away

Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!

Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious

Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that "

This is something I can’t understand....

Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple?

You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems....

That seems like a dream to me....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away

Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!

Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious

Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that

This is something I can’t understand....

Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple?

You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems....

That seems like a dream to me.... "

It does seem very odd behaviour, I have to agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.

And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them. "

Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is.

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

Swinging yes, but you still need a few social skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've had 3 meets (with older guys) and after it, Fiona gets bombarded with private messages wanting her to ditch shrek and rub off with them. And basically belittle and slag shreks skills in the bedroom, trying to intice Fiona away

Dunno why these guys are on a swinging site if it's a wife they after!

Lol we’ve had two guys we were chatting try to go ‘white knight’ on us and tried to message seperatly! We thought it was hilarious

Needless to say they didn’t get any further! Real swingers relationships with each other are so much stronger than a conventional marriage but not everyone gets that "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally need to find a connection before i Fuck, rather have a Date with a lady or a couple and build up the friendship.

And some of us would like to find a full time partner who wants to keep swinging.

So can be easier on here than on a vanilla dating site.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.

And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.

Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is. "

Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Its a site for everyone to find whatever want to find..

Why catergorise it?

Just do what works for you and leave everyone else to do what works for them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.

And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.

Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is.

Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either. "

I responded to the OP question, I'm terribky sorry we disagree, that doesn't mean I'm wrong. When somebody asks for an opinion you not liking it doesn't make their opinion wrong. All of these posts are in the public domain and ANYBODY can give an opinion on them and judge them as they see fit.

I know because f what they say and how different it is from reality considering I have worked at multiple clubs and attended in excess of 1000 club events then see somebody giving advice on what happens at clubs that isn't even close to reality that they haven't attended much if at all, therefore they should be listening to advice not giving it.

The response to my post implied I was Criticising asking for advice, I very clearly wasn't I was Criticising the appalling advi e often given from people who don't have any experience to be advising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either. "

100% agree with you on this. We don't look for connections etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This is something I can’t understand....

Why would a single guy want to steal a wife from a couple?

You get to have sex with her without dealing with any of her daily problems....

That seems like a dream to me.... "

We thought it would be easy to find a guy for NSA, but when we get to the Kik stage, they seem to go abit odd.

We set the rules, no private messaging but the majority break it within 24 hours.

We have a handful of guys who have totally understood the swinging and we remain in contact with.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"have to admit I'm confused about this wanting a connection thing, ain't nobody having a connection with either of us, that's where the lines start blurring, and anybody messaging that wants a connection, male, female or couple, is instant delete or block.

Don't care if your profile wants one, that's up to you, but I don't think that's swinging at all. That's where it starts to go wrong.

I'm married to the last person I had a connection with while swinging.

So actually OP I don't think your as wrong as you've been attacked, I think a lot of people are using this site completely differently to how it was setup to be used, but that won't be changing either.

A huge number of the forum users just use it as a social club and online flirting for'adults' that won't be changing either.

Great post but I hope you’re ready for the backlash....

Oh I am, from people on average about 3 veris, over the three profiles I've had on here there are over 200 verifications, and the only ones requested were the ones on this single male profile for forum use. So I'm quite happy that my view of how swinging works does indeed work very well the real problem with this forum is that the vast majority of users just aren't swingers, and I say problem only because people come on here wanting to know about swinging and club etiquette and what goes on at meets, etc and most of the advice is not realty its peoples fantasies and opinions on what should happen in their view, not what really happens at all. So it isn't a problem that they aren't swingers but it is a problem most of the advice gi en is crap and wrong.

And what's wrong with finding out about etiquette? There a lot of posts that are helpful and informative. Just because people aren't meeting you or any Tom dick or Sally, doesn't mean they aren't swingers. They just quietly go about their business with existing friends, contacts on here, maybe club meets or parties. I'm sure many forumites run their profiles like this. No one has the right to judge them.

Did you read before you posted or did the typos confuse you? There is nothing wrong with asking, just most of the people responding are talking bollocks, and most have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs, they just give their opinion of what it should be in their opinion and not what it is.

Not at all confused by typos. Do you have photographic or verbal proof that they 'have hardly been involved with swinging or clubs'? How did you find this to be factual? People are free to use this site and run their profiles how they see fit. I stand by my statement that it's not for you or anyone else to judge them for that. There is no need for rudeness or sarcasm either.

I responded to the OP question, I'm terribky sorry we disagree, that doesn't mean I'm wrong. When somebody asks for an opinion you not liking it doesn't make their opinion wrong. All of these posts are in the public domain and ANYBODY can give an opinion on them and judge them as they see fit.

I know because f what they say and how different it is from reality considering I have worked at multiple clubs and attended in excess of 1000 club events then see somebody giving advice on what happens at clubs that isn't even close to reality that they haven't attended much if at all, therefore they should be listening to advice not giving it.

The response to my post implied I was Criticising asking for advice, I very clearly wasn't I was Criticising the appalling advi e often given from people who don't have any experience to be advising. "

My point was... How do you know the individual people on this thread who have posted dont have experience to advise others? Do you know all of them personally? I don't, but am not judging. Just because they don't have multiple veris, shout it from the rooftops or choose to fly under the radar that doesn't make them unqualified to respond.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better than match of the day this

*as once said in Rita sue and Bob too

One of my fave films fyi fabbites

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By *anguyXXXMan
over a year ago

torquay


"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say ive never felt any connection with anyone we’ve met on fab. The sex is enjoyable because we’re doing it together and thats our connection.. the people we do it with are just extras in our filthy fun

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all.

Agreed"

Safety aspect applies to both sexes too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the op has confused people asking for a social with thinking that it's a date.

I also think he is confused somebody wanting a connection with somebody wanting a romantic connection. A connection simply means that there is a spark between you and the person or an interest. that does not mean that they want to have a relationship with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better than match of the day this

*as once said in Rita sue and Bob too

One of my fave films fyi fabbites "

Brilliant film!!!

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By *anguyXXXMan
over a year ago

torquay


"Personally speaking, I need to have some kind of connection with someone. A social meet first to see if we get on. I wouldn't just turn up at theirs, have them at mine or go to a hotel, there's always safety in mind, hence why I do things that way. If they won't agree to a social I don't meet them at all. There also has to be some kind of attraction. No way would I fuck someone I'm not attracted to just because I'm on fab and they expect it instantly. This isn't gender specific, it applies to all.

Agreed

Safety aspect applies to both sexes too. "

Goes with out saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better than match of the day this

*as once said in Rita sue and Bob too

One of my fave films fyi fabbites

Brilliant film!!!"

It looks like a frozen sausage And ff Mavis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"
there really is no difference between this and some dating sites

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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago

Camberley/Middleton


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

there really is no difference between this and some dating sites "

To be fair their is and its not just the photos.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

there really is no difference between this and some dating sites

To be fair their is and its not just the photos. "

Not for me there isn’t. This is the only site I use.

V x

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By *annahcakesWoman
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

Don’t swingers need to have a connection with the other person(s) also or is it that I don’t fully understand the ways of the true swinger? Someone throw light on this for me and explain!!

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Looking at a lot of profiles I can see that many people, especially women, want to "make the connection", "have lots of socials" or want us men to write an essay on our first message.

Correct me if I am wrong, but isn't this a swinging site? I'm quite sure that many of these people are confusing this for dating which is something totally different.

"

So what ... people are all different and want all sorts

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Sex for me is not about sticking something hard in a wet hole, it's about connection, chemistry, being able to look the other person in the face both during and after 'the deed'. A conversation would be nice, too.

As someone said on another forum post about similar issue: if I wanted just something hard inside me, I'd use one of my dildos/vibrators. "

This!!! 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing."

Couldn’t have put it any better... x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing."

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By *r and Mrs PenguinCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Yes this is a swinging site.

But I for one want to know the person on the end of the cock. It's entering my personal space.

If not we as a couple could pick people up off the street. I'm sure if we walked around with a sign round our neck, "looking for a threesum" we've have plenty of interest.

Needs to be able to get along with hubby, I don't wonna be in the middle of two people who are not saying a word to each other.

Not everybody is so liberal, lots of people want connection, banter and a good laugh in the process of not surely ita rather clinical.

Each to their own, their are many people that love last minute meets with not much chatting.

Every one has their way and how they like to do things, nobody is right or wrong. X x x

Just preference.. xxx

Mrs p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing.

Couldn’t have put it any better... x "

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By *ed hoppersCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Blimey - there’s a lot of thoughts in here. Clearly everyone can have their own approach to the lifestyle. Granted, it’s not our preferred approach to rock up and crack on. We’ve talked about it a lot on the podcast. In fact, it’s one of the main reasons single guys haven’t featured in our journey. We’d welcome a little more of the build a connection approach - but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. The simple answer is to ignore the profiles that don’t suit your style. One thing we have noticed is that club visits can expedite situations somewhat. Oh well - our two pence for what it’s worth. X

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Have to say ive never felt any connection with anyone we’ve met on fab. The sex is enjoyable because we’re doing it together and thats our connection.. the people we do it with are just extras in our filthy fun "

And that is the meaning of connection. If there wasn't, you wouldn't be having filthy fun, and coming back for more. Strange thing connection/chemistry/attraction

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"OP's attitude is why I have got fussy in my old age. Too many guys who confuse swinging with Tinder. `I've sent you a message therefore I demand a response and a meet.' I'm lucky I have some excellent `friends' and a lovely, kind, respectful, sexy fwb. And if I didn't, I would stick to my battery powered pal's rather than meet a guy with this attitude. No I don't want to marry you. No I don't want to move in with you. No I don't want to date you, but I am a human being and expect to be treated like one. Go have a wank little boy. Maybe when you are grown up enough to realise the above, women may want to meet you. Life - and definitely this site - owes you nothing."

Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them.

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By *evils-couple13Couple
over a year ago

Neath

Met my husband on here..

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"Met my husband on here.. "

That must have been awkward when you found out.

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By *urhamjayMan
over a year ago

Durham


"

Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them."

And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Swinging is not the same as using.

Excellent, not sure what the OP thinks we women will find alluring in his one sentence profile!"

Assuming he's looking for women ... but then ... haven't checked his profile ... already know it's not what we are looking for there

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By *eo_72Man
over a year ago

Mansfield

Gets more like Facebook everyday in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gets more like Facebook everyday in my opinion "

How so?

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By *eo_72Man
over a year ago

Mansfield


"Gets more like Facebook everyday in my opinion

How so?"

Just some of the silly statuses your read

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"

Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them.

And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown.

"

It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. )

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By *eo_72Man
over a year ago

Mansfield


"

Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them.

And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown.

It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. ) "

Your just a fast left swiper lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"

Hm... Actually on Tinder you can only contact someone if you match, and if you do not like them you can unmatch them.

And possible matches are decided by the machine. You don't see everyone. There's an algorithm to who is shown.

It can't avoid showing everyone to me - I just run out of people pretty quickly. ) "

Oh that's not just me then lol

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Wouldn't be a bad thing would it?

Caters to everything except bdsm.

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