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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

Don't need to, just go on couples nights. Sorted.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though."

They let them in now

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

No because I don't want to go on ladies and couples only nights. For me it's not the number of guys but the attitude and behaviour of some. I like single guys but expect respect irrespective of how much they pay. Is that too much to ask? Guys pay the club for entrance not to the woman for services but I think some confuse the two. It's these guys who spoil it for the real genuine lovely blokes out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

No.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I wouldn't go or pay more. Much prefer to pay more for a night where couples are not allowed in .... hang on a minute, we wouldn't be able to get in then, so maybe not!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wouldn't go on a night where single men weren't allowed in, or go to a club where single men weren't allowed at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't go on a night where single men weren't allowed in, or go to a club where single men weren't allowed at all."

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So if the preference is for a couples night and for better behaviour from blokes how should clubs police it?

There's a lot someone can do to make people feel uncomfortable without actually breaking rules. Should clubs get tougher on the rules to out the pests?

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

As other have said we have no issues with single guys in a club as long as they know how to behave and engage with us both. Sadly many wander round in the background, never chat and strangely seem to expect to play.

Our local club has a couples night where only a limited number of guys known to the club can attend, tend to be a great night as there are never any hassles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't go on a night where single men weren't allowed in, or go to a club where single men weren't allowed at all."

Same for me

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By *ubyExpreeWoman
over a year ago

BBBW Heaven

Most of the single guys, I've met in clubs are actually lovely but the couples!!!! That's a different story for a different thread.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"So if the preference is for a couples night and for better behaviour from blokes how should clubs police it?

There's a lot someone can do to make people feel uncomfortable without actually breaking rules. Should clubs get tougher on the rules to out the pests?"

Seems like the preference on this thread is to have single men in clubs?

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

Sometimes, depends on the club. Eureka would be amazing couples only.

We are not looking for men so were only looking at couples nights. We ended up in Gems who don't have any restrictions and had an amazing night. The men were really well behaved (Harry is ex military and doesn't put up with any crap). If we lived closer we would be there all the time, it's definitely my favourite club.

It really does depend on the venue and behaviour of the single men there.

(Mrs)

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

Most clubs do a couples only night so they should really go to that if they don't like single men.

Personally I love single men so I wouldn't go to a club if there weren't any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?

No because I don't want to go on ladies and couples only nights. For me it's not the number of guys but the attitude and behaviour of some. I like single guys but expect respect irrespective of how much they pay. Is that too much to ask? Guys pay the club for entrance not to the woman for services but I think some confuse the two. It's these guys who spoil it for the real genuine lovely blokes out there. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs. "

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs. "

We have had a few couples who have tried to push our boundaries. Apparently "every one starts like us but then the limits change" no, not with us they don't

We found it a massive turn off as I would need to be sure that our boundaries were respected otherwise I wouldn't be able to relax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs. "

I find couples far more pushy than single guys.. Have said it many times

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs.

I find couples far more pushy than single guys.. Have said it many times "

In conversation they can be, we have had this a couple of times. We avoid somewhere local to us as we were put off by a pushy male in a couple. We have had one pushy female in a couple also.

It's the following you around everywhere thing that makes me really uncomfortable and that is almost exclusively men. Those men never even try to make conversation though

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We go to clubs for the single guys, so happy with how it is now. Luckily we've never had a bad experience (yet)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I would not go.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though."

That won't work! Single men are the main and most lucrative driving force in the industry!

Banning men is suicide!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just go on couples nights, don't think it's an issue to have singles night, loads of people enjoy them.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs. "

How true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

No. I'm mostly interested in single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though."

Didn't they reintroduce single men? Which possibly says how it worked out for them.

I think around the same time they got rid of the fetish members access too - which we'd paid for. So that combined with banning single men just meant my partners, their partners and myself all went 'fuck it' and stopped going regularly to their fetish events. We didn't ever want to go back to somewhere that we clearly weren't welcome.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

Club owner here too.

Echo what Townhouse have said: Also we have had more to deal with with couples than we have ever had with single gents. But overall we haven't had that much trouble either way.

We recommend all 'new to swinging' couples make their first visit on a Saturday couples and Singles girls night.

And if you think it's just single gents that are pushy are not well mannered at times . . . then you haven't really experienced the full range of swingers lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward. "

Could we also try to do more to stop the ladies and couples who make everyone feel awkward?

(Said by the person who had their boob groped by a lady a few weeks ago.)

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward. "

The best way is always to tell an owner or member of staff - we deal with things very quickly whenever approached and do so very discreetly too.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward.

Could we also try to do more to stop the ladies and couples who make everyone feel awkward?

(Said by the person who had their boob groped by a lady a few weeks ago.)"

We do - whenever it appears.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never attend on couples night. I prefer single men included and did also when i played alone.

Doll x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No, as a single straight female what incentive would there be for me?

That is why I do not want to attend a local 'so called' club to me.

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Single men add to most clubs. Keeps the male members of the couples on there toes. Most couples nights become a bit boring without the single polite guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve never had a problem at a club as a no thanks has always been enough to dampen any unwanted attention from singles or couples . And tbh most people are very respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to."

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?

Don't need to, just go on couples nights. Sorted."

This exactly!

I LOVE single guys in clubs - especially the hot ones!

I wouldn't go to a club that was couples and single fems only - even though I sometimes just play with couples and single fems!

Unlike to keep my options open!

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though."

It didnt, they let them back in now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward.

Could we also try to do more to stop the ladies and couples who make everyone feel awkward?

(Said by the person who had their boob groped by a lady a few weeks ago.)"

Yep! To be fair - most of the people who've groped me without permission have been ladies! X

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs.

I find couples far more pushy than single guys.. Have said it many times "

Me too, both at clubs and on here in messages

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My very first club visit I was questioned by a female why I wasn't Bi

Was a very strange night indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need. "

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single men add to most clubs. Keeps the male members of the couples on there toes. Most couples nights become a bit boring without the single polite guys "

What do you mean "on their toes"? Do you think that women in clubs are just aching for an opportunity to leave their partner and hookup long-term with someone new?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that banning would be a stupid idea, end of the day it's only ever the minority that give the majority a bad name.

What I think all clubs should adopt is a truly couples nights and not the only a few "invited" single guys, those night put us off going and trying different clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldnt attend a club that banned single guys.

As a single woman, i wsnt to meet and play with single guys as im not after couples or women.

Ive only had one daft experience from a guy, just go straight to a member of staff at the club, gets sorted in no time.

So...single guys all the way for me..

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice."

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I think all clubs should adopt is a truly couples nights and not the only a few "invited" single guys, those night put us off going and trying different clubs.

"

Isn't that just removing agency from those who like meeting single men?

I mean, if there isn't a decent selection of single men to choose from I'm highly unlikely to find one I'm interested in, am I?

If a club said 'we're only going to allow select, handpicked ladies' would you still be quite as keen on that kind of idea?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Single men add to most clubs. Keeps the male members of the couples on there toes. Most couples nights become a bit boring without the single polite guys "

Well as a single guy that goes often to clubs I would say it is probably 50/50 on badly behaved men to couple.

From my experience booze is a big driver of why couples end up arguing. It is akward when a couple is having an argument in a club and if I am in the vacinity I tend to walk away

Don't get me wrong single guys do have a problem with booze as well but I think it's mainly due to I appropriate touching and the way they speak to couple females

I was myself in akward one on Friday. A couple was playing and he told her to suck me, she said no, and the conversation was repeated 3 times mid play. As she had said no to me meant that she wasn't intreasted which is fine. But it was still really akward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women? "

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something. "

For me I would say thanks for the interest but I prefer couple or females. A respectful no is normally ok

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By *heclitmaster84Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I'm a single male and true we do get bad press for some guys because they pay in think there entitled to have sex but if you show respect it gets you places I life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

For me I would say thanks for the interest but I prefer couple or females. A respectful no is normally ok "

We always ask as a couple, but because we're both bi a straight guy is of no interest to us. My partner has had homophobic statements made to his face on several occasions, and one guy even told him that 'fags shouldn't play in swingers clubs because they spread diseases'.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something. "

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What I think all clubs should adopt is a truly couples nights and not the only a few "invited" single guys, those night put us off going and trying different clubs.

Isn't that just removing agency from those who like meeting single men?

I mean, if there isn't a decent selection of single men to choose from I'm highly unlikely to find one I'm interested in, am I?

If a club said 'we're only going to allow select, handpicked ladies' would you still be quite as keen on that kind of idea?"

We don't really go for single guys so we go on couple only nights. The point I'm making is if a club has a couples only night where is the sense in a select group of single guys? That would make it a normal night which isn't what we are looking for. As for the select single women, we don't really see many single ladies so I doubt it'd bother us in the slightest.

On a singles and couples night, it doesn't really matter who attends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion. "

Sutton house parties do. Red = no, orange = maybe, green= yes please & blue = bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward. "

Out of interest do you actually go to clubs? Or are your opinions based on hearsay?

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion.

Sutton house parties do. Red = no, orange = maybe, green= yes please & blue = bi"

Townhouse have had a Traffic Light colourd wristband scheme for 3 years. It's an optional scheme and works well. Red - just socialising, Yellow - Soft swap or bi female, Green - Bring it on baby, we're a full swap couple lol

We also have pink bands for guys/girls wanting to meet single guys.

It works well and we find that the pink bands work well as the single guys know who to strike up conversation with if they want more than a social.

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By *anillanomoreCouple
over a year ago

Chichester


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion.

Sutton house parties do. Red = no, orange = maybe, green= yes please & blue = bi

Townhouse have had a Traffic Light colourd wristband scheme for 3 years. It's an optional scheme and works well. Red - just socialising, Yellow - Soft swap or bi female, Green - Bring it on baby, we're a full swap couple lol

We also have pink bands for guys/girls wanting to meet single guys.

It works well and we find that the pink bands work well as the single guys know who to strike up conversation with if they want more than a social. "

It makes sense. It let's you focus your attention on the right person.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

That won't work! Single men are the main and most lucrative driving force in the industry!

Banning men is suicide!"

Radlett does not welcome single men at all anymore. Don't know if they are still in business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go if there was no single men , I fined couples and single women nights boring and it always about pleasing the couples so no fun for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward.

The best way is always to tell an owner or member of staff - we deal with things very quickly whenever approached and do so very discreetly too. "

Cat @ Evolution is an awesome host/club owner.

She pounces on anyone that steps out of line, and has a quiet word - as she has done this on a few occasions for when 'A', having been the subject of unwanted advances/touching.

If the club owners know about it or seen it themselves, then they can take action - but they need to be involved to educate others - thats goes for single guys, single ladies and couples.

On a side note, we have found males of a MF couple to be the one that you need to watch out for when straying from their partner as they go for a quick cig or a toilet stop.. single guys where we have been have generally been very respectful.

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke


"Been interesting reading the feedback. I also don't think banning is a good idea but I would try to do more to stop the men who make everyone feel awkward.

The best way is always to tell an owner or member of staff - we deal with things very quickly whenever approached and do so very discreetly too.

Cat @ Evolution is an awesome host/club owner.

She pounces on anyone that steps out of line, and has a quiet word - as she has done this on a few occasions for when 'A', having been the subject of unwanted advances/touching.

If the club owners know about it or seen it themselves, then they can take action - but they need to be involved to educate others - thats goes for single guys, single ladies and couples.

On a side note, we have found males of a MF couple to be the one that you need to watch out for when straying from their partner as they go for a quick cig or a toilet stop.. single guys where we have been have generally been very respectful."

TY.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples nights are full of couples who aren't couples anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

That won't work! Single men are the main and most lucrative driving force in the industry!

Banning men is suicide!

Radlett does not welcome single men at all anymore. Don't know if they are still in business"

Radlett is very much in business, we have moved our very popular newbie night concept to the venue, The Playgrounds at Radletts goes from strength to strength too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Club owner here too.

Echo what Townhouse have said: Also we have had more to deal with with couples than we have ever had with single gents. But overall we haven't had that much trouble either way.

We recommend all 'new to swinging' couples make their first visit on a Saturday couples and Singles girls night.

And if you think it's just single gents that are pushy are not well mannered at times . . . then you haven't really experienced the full range of swingers lol.

"

Club hosts here, at our previous venue we had generally little trouble from single guys, more problems with couples (and staff actually!!) x

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Given how often you see couples/ladies saying how irritating some/quite a lot of single guys at clubs can be would you pay more for a club that is for ladies and couples only?"

We did. That club was Liberty Elite and we personally loved it.

However they changed the model and reverted back to their original policy and introduced single men. For the reason that the club was quiet and didn't get enough support from all the couples and single females that wanted a dedicated club.

Tried, tested and unfortunately failed. Is it any better now single men are there on Fridays? Hopefully someone can comment as its been a year now.

We gave Libs a chance on a mixed Friday as its one of our favourite clubs. Unfortunately the "higher Calibre" single male, were no different to other clubs. It put us off and we haven't been since.

Along with other things, but why would be bother travelling so far and then paying premium for those "pesky" single males, when we could have the same experience cheaper and closer.

I say that comment tongue in cheek as we have attended mixed nights in various clubs, such as partners, Atlantis and adventures and haven't had any negative issues.

It would Probably never happen as its down to business but would love clubs to mix it up a bit. Don't ban single men, they are ultimately the revenue stream (along with couples) but look at couples only days on different days. For example libs, xtasia and Chams are all couples only on Saturday and mixed on Friday. This limits single men that want local fun (and I'm talking Birmingham surrounds here) on Saturday and limits couples that want couples only fun on Fridays.

We travel occasionally to cupids as they have couples only on weds, and partners on Thursday and Sunday for their couples only. We would love some mid week variety around our area. And I'm sure there must be an opportunity for clubs to consider/alternate their Friday/Saturday mixed/couples policy.

So to answer your question, probably no to paying more for a couples only venue, yes to opening the door to everyone and yes to mixing up the days to giving everyone opportunities to what they want on different days.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Couples nights are full of couples who aren't couples anyway!"

Good point! No full but definitely quite a few.

And agree with comments that there can be issues with females and couples as much. And have seen females get away with much more than a single male ever would.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

That won't work! Single men are the main and most lucrative driving force in the industry!

Banning men is suicide!

Radlett does not welcome single men at all anymore. Don't know if they are still in business"

Can't see how their regular BMFC events would work if they don't welcome single men.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

That won't work! Single men are the main and most lucrative driving force in the industry!

Banning men is suicide!

Radlett does not welcome single men at all anymore. Don't know if they are still in business

Can't see how their regular BMFC events would work if they don't welcome single men."

Don't know. They have something called 'Platinum' and another one called 'Lady in Red' on their link to their website here and neither permits single men

They do a BWFC where men are allowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer single men nights.

We don't like the attitude of some though.

if they did what they did in a vanilla Club they would be rightly put on their arses.

Well behaved single guys are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree i have been to clubs and when the husband starts talking to me the green eye monster in the wife comes out.

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By *hy-totCouple
over a year ago

Skellow


"Guys get really bad press because of a small minority who don't know how to behave.

In my humble opinion as a club owner, we actually have more trouble from couples and ladies! Our guys have to go through an induction process to be considered for membership and so we find that our guys are so well behaved. I have had to kick out more couples than guys over the years and I find that couples can be more pushy, just because a lady is involved. Then there's the jealousy issue which can cause bad vibes and if the couples have been drinking they can try and push the boundaries of others.

Most guys are MORE than aware of the bad press they receive on the scene and actually go out of their way to prove otherwise.

There is no need for a club to be so exclusive, just hold different nights for different tastes and needs. "
I have too say we attended our club as a guest for a birthday party and we can 100% say it was a fantastic night well done townhouse

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By *he PlaygroundsCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Over The Rainbow

Just wanted to clarify. Radlett Parties still do have singles nights on a Friday as they have done for the last 18 years, there couples only nights are on Saturdays, so the set up is very similar to other clubs. The BMFC is a separate organisation who have run a party night at Radlett for the last 7 years who welcome couples and single guys.

We run 2 parties a month at Radlett and we have a no single guys policy, as this is what our guests have requested which we have found to be very popular. If our guests wanted single guys at our parties then we would look at introducing them on our Saturdays. Our feelings are that it is a small minority of single guys who spoil it for most of the true gents out there.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I've noticed that d*unkeness is more common in couples, generally I.think because they have one who is driving therefore one who isn't.

And a single man who behaves badly is far easier to deal with then a couple who do - having words with a man who repeatedly groped me at the instigation and encouragement of his wife is not fun when she's standing there too looking like she's going to rip my hair out for daring to complain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's better for all involved if clubs have dedicated nights for what people want ie single nights for those looking for singles and couples nights for those who don't want singles.

Admittedly not all couples are couples but if you arrive as a couple you should stay as a couple during the night. That said I have heard stories of guys going into a club with a lady, disappearing into the dark room and the lady leaving and the guy not coming out till the end of the night and leaving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We prefer single men nights.

We don't like the attitude of some though.

if they did what they did in a vanilla Club they would be rightly put on their arses.

Well behaved single guys are great."
what's a vanilla club and do they have strawberries????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion.

Sutton house parties do. Red = no, orange = maybe, green= yes please & blue = bi

Townhouse have had a Traffic Light colourd wristband scheme for 3 years. It's an optional scheme and works well. Red - just socialising, Yellow - Soft swap or bi female, Green - Bring it on baby, we're a full swap couple lol

We also have pink bands for guys/girls wanting to meet single guys.

It works well and we find that the pink bands work well as the single guys know who to strike up conversation with if they want more than a social. "

Oh is THAT what they are?

I've been coming to the club for ages - and I love it - but I've only ever seen the bands at reception! I'd love it if everyone wore them - particularly as I'd like to know if some sexy couples are looking for a single fem!

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Most clubs have couples and single women nights. Some like VA even have couples areas so even on open nights you can avoid single guys if you want to.

I think couples areas are a good idea, it gives you somewhere to escape to if you feel the need.

Controversially, I'd prefer a non-heterosexual area to a couples area. I personally find it very hard meeting other bisexual people at clubs - and many people take great offence at being asked. Plus the opportunity to play away with women from couples eyes would be nice.

Yep I like your thinking. Do people really get offended if you ask them? Both men and women?

Yes. Men mostly. "I'm not a faggot" and other similar delightful responses aren't unknown.

Alternatively I think straight people should be made to wear a coloured wristband or something.

I think it is Hellfire that has something similar to your idea. Different glow bracelets to indicate what you are looking for. I love that idea, it stops confusion.

Sutton house parties do. Red = no, orange = maybe, green= yes please & blue = bi

Townhouse have had a Traffic Light colourd wristband scheme for 3 years. It's an optional scheme and works well. Red - just socialising, Yellow - Soft swap or bi female, Green - Bring it on baby, we're a full swap couple lol

We also have pink bands for guys/girls wanting to meet single guys.

It works well and we find that the pink bands work well as the single guys know who to strike up conversation with if they want more than a social.

Oh is THAT what they are?

I've been coming to the club for ages - and I love it - but I've only ever seen the bands at reception! I'd love it if everyone wore them - particularly as I'd like to know if some sexy couples are looking for a single fem! "

Sometimes the simple ideas are the best!!!

I know Libs do a yellow/golden band for ladies so they know if other ladies are bi. A lot of women can't be asked and say they just know.

But I think that if a lady was allowed to wear a band to denote that they are not looking for single males to join them, it may make things a lot easier for everyone!

I know that some women don't find the band a particularly great fashion accessory, but I'm sure on a mixed night, they could stomach it, if not being approached is more important than wearing a band that looks like you've got a locker and about to go swimming.

I think it would make life so much easier for everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A club with no single guys in would be pretty pointless for me, so no i wouldnt go at all never mind pay more to get in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Liberty Elite banned single men too. I'm not sure how that worked out for them though.

They let them in now "
See, even they went back to charge men, it is an easy earner I guess lol.

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