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By *n2cpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

swindon

Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve not been to Xtasia but one or two other clubs we have attended have at times felt more like a social club or a night in Wetherspoons.

Try a different club or a different night?

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Do they still do the erection section every half hour or so ? They used to lower the curtains around the dance floor and the nearer you were to the centre, the naughtier it got.

Mop and bucket needed after we'd been on LOL.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

"

You are not alone

We just can't seem to make it work at Xtasia, the only time we have ever played with anyone else there is when we went with friends and shared the big hotel room.

After an hour or two we always give up and go to make the most of the orgy room, which we have all to ourselves

Have you tried Chameleons?

We find it much easier to chat to people there, and there is always something going on in the public play rooms

We do find Fridays easier going than Saturdays though.

K x

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

Blimey, get yourselves down to The Attic, you will be spoilt for choice when it comes to playmates

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By *opCat696969Man
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Really sorry to hear this, I love Xtasia, great people.

Perhaps give it one more go at the Hot Wives event on 23/6 or Cubs and Cougars on 21/7?

It does get going after 11pm normally on a busy night but get what you are saying about the smoking area, I never do understand why people spend most of their night out there.

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By *inkyandpinkyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We completely get what you’re saying, we have been twice and struggled there. We put it down to us being shy but everyone seemed to be in groups chatting and we felt quite awkward. They could do with something to break the ice about 10pm.

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By *andJCouple
over a year ago

fun town

We go to a few clubs around the midlands and do really like Xtasia. They have some great nights there…… but we know it’s unlikely we will play there.

It’s strange but we feel it’s more of a night

club/party type club with the added extra chance of being naughty.

We do have some amazing nights there and for us that’s more important then always playing

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Not been to Xtasia but general things with clubs/parties not always as easy as it seems. Lots of people we know barely go anymore as many have become more social clubs with lots/most not playing at all. That is fine if that is what you want of course. Other problem is things not getting going until VERY late. Much easier to get naked early and home with cocoa by midnight

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By *pl4maleCouple
over a year ago

Lichfield

For us it's that the guys are only part naked, just dropping there pants with the expecation of the turning a lady on.

Be interesting to see if the rules were change into lingerie or boxers when you entered the downstairs area.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I think they should mix the nights up - swap Friday to couples & females & Saturdays to allow single men. That way they would fill a gap in the market as single men have nowhere to go after 7/8pm on a Saturday in the midlands.

I find the music is too loud for chatting & making those important connections around the bar area (but I find this at most clubs)

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"I think they should mix the nights up - swap Friday to couples & females & Saturdays to allow single men. That way they would fill a gap in the market as single men have nowhere to go after 7/8pm on a Saturday in the midlands.

I find the music is too loud for chatting & making those important connections around the bar area (but I find this at most clubs)"

That is an excellent idea!

It's crazy that 2 clubs within 15 minutes of each other exclude single guys on the same night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's funny we have never played with anyone at Xtasia either and we have been a few times. Chams no problems.

Then again it's not a huge thing for us as Xtasia is definitely the night club vibe with loud music etc. We go just to have a good time and if anything happens even better.

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By *ewCoupl01Couple
over a year ago

South Dublin

We've travelled over to Xtasia twice and had really good experiences both times. Our style wouldn't be to go into the group room and go for it, so we enjoy a bit of a flirt. The first time we went was a foam party night and we found that helped.

Things seemed to flow and the foam was a bit of a playful icebreaker, so perhaps a night with a gimmick like that might be more fruitful.

We have had nights that didn't go as well at a club here in Ireland, kind of just didn't catch the vibe. We gave it a go a few times and in the end we just settled with the fact that club was just not a fit for us.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We've had good nights Xtasia. We meet a couple there who we have been good freinds of ours for years now. But everyone is different in how they socialise and the environment they feel comfortable in. Personally for us the night club vibe and noise doesn't work too well for us, especially socially. We've tended to have the most success meeting people and making connections at Xtasia in the big chilled sofa room (if that's still there). Personally we find clubs that are bit more relaxed and informal work better for us with regards making connections and it leading on to something more physical. So if you haven't tried any different clubs maybe it's worth trying other clubs too. You may just find they work better for you (or of course not).

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"For us it's that the guys are only part naked, just dropping there pants with the expecation of the turning a lady on.

Be interesting to see if the rules were change into lingerie or boxers when you entered the downstairs area."

As a couple who like a nice chilled down club Xtasia was a bit of a surprise. Our first experience of getting our kit off was later in the night in the group room. Like everyone else we dropping our kit into the huge pile of clothes in the middle of the floor. Then when Mr Misfit ran out to the bar to get much needed refreshment he looked around to see he was the only guy dressed down and all the other men were suited and booted at the bar. All looking very smart by the way but just alien to him being so dressed up that late into the evening. Then we noticed in the group room after people were finished they were scrabbling around on the dark floor to identify their own clothing from the mixed pile and getting fully dressed up again before leaving the room. Especially the males. It just seemed so bizarre and impractical to us. Not that it's a criticism we all do our swinger thing differently and that's clearly how many like it. But it was a different experience to what we were used to and not so much for us because we love to strip down and feel comfortable.

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By *annabarberaCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

We've been to Xtasia a number of times for Sunday afternoon kink events and the BMFC

We've always had a great time and managed to play with others

Xtasia is a great club as to is chameleons but both in very different ways I guess you just need to find your groove and you'll get what your looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wish they'd put fans in those playrooms they are a sweatbox!

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

For us, we've always found Xtasia to be wonderful, so many lovely people. We were so nervous going our first time, had no idea what to expect but we've been able to meet and play with lots of couples/singles and made some amazing friends.

Perhaps it could be worth looking into different clubs or even just different events at Xtasia, look at the forums and see if you can start conversations prior with people who are attending so you've had an ice breaker

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
over a year ago

Somerset

We have been a couple of times and played once with a couple we met dancing and had an awesome time in one of the private rooms. We love the fact you can dance and have a great night even if you do play with only each other. It was a beach theme and shorts etc certainly made for easier and quicker disrobing than suits. The last club we went to was Fata Morgana in Amsterdam which is so good, any UK club will seem a bit meh in comparison.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I think they should mix the nights up - swap Friday to couples & females & Saturdays to allow single men. That way they would fill a gap in the market as single men have nowhere to go after 7/8pm on a Saturday in the midlands.

"

Xtasia are already catering for this scenario.

I agree that it would be great to have a couples only night on a Friday local and that somewhere for single males on a Saturday and Xtasia cover both scenarios.

On Fridays, it’s couples/females only in Flirts and then mixed in Xtasia. Then Saturday it’s couples/females only in Xtasia and then mixed in Flirts.

Of course couples/females have the added benefit of going back and forth between the two venues.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

We've only been to Xtasia for their BMFC events; so can only speak about those. We've always had a great time there and the rooms and play areas are always fully utilised.

Have you been on an event night or regular evenings? We certainly don't find it cliquey and chat to people we meet on the evening or the guys come and chat to us.

Also, if there's a post up about a night we're going we always try to engage in the forum so when we get there we can say hi to people we've chatted to on here first. If people arrange to meet there it may appear that everybody knows everybody and you feel left out of the loop.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

That is an excellent idea!

It's crazy that 2 clubs within 15 minutes of each other exclude single guys on the same night.

"

Hopefully my answer above gives you a thumbs up.

The main challenge is that they are separate businesses so will cater to a need and if they believe the market on a Saturday is for couples, that’s what they’ll aim for.

Of course, there’s a considerable chunk of revenue to be taken from single males, but a lot of couples are looking for couples/females and dynamics/atmosphere would change thus putting couples off from attending.

I guess with places like the Private Club within proximity, where a few couples attend, then there is something for single males.

I suppose with Chams and Xtasia being couples/females only on Saturdays (though males can go to Flirts), they do have unique offerings that separate them from each other.

On a personal level, we really enjoy both of the venues and like that Xtasia offers a high street nightclub experience where we order drinks at a bar, have a large dance floor to enjoy, dress up and surround ourselves with sexy people in their outfits wondering what’s on underneath versus bring your own alcohol, strip down and socialise.

Granted being dressed down does seem (to us) that we end up playing a lot quicker. But we also play quite a bit in Xtasia, though getting lost in the music is as much to blame as being fully dressed to start.

In our experience, I think it’s a given that when people make an effort, get dressed to the nines, and head to Xtasia, knowing it’s that nightclub vibe, the mentality seems to shift to a slower start from a playing point of view. They want to enjoy the night, vibe, flirt and then go into play, albeit a bit late.

Where Chams can be more of socialise, play, socialise, then play again and occasionally party at the end of the night. Again maybe it’s the mentality thing.

Just a question, as we’ve seen clubs have a variant of this. Do you think it might be a good idea to (even if it’s a once a month):

1) have a night where come 10pm you dress down (though the chill out room may offer a place if you don’t want).

2) to enter the main play area, you’re required to dress down.

Maybe something like this may encourage people to play a bit more, as that’s the main difference I see between the two in terms of playing earlier in the night.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"

That is an excellent idea!

It's crazy that 2 clubs within 15 minutes of each other exclude single guys on the same night.

Hopefully my answer above gives you a thumbs up.

The main challenge is that they are separate businesses so will cater to a need and if they believe the market on a Saturday is for couples, that’s what they’ll aim for.

Of course, there’s a considerable chunk of revenue to be taken from single males, but a lot of couples are looking for couples/females and dynamics/atmosphere would change thus putting couples off from attending.

I guess with places like the Private Club within proximity, where a few couples attend, then there is something for single males.

I suppose with Chams and Xtasia being couples/females only on Saturdays (though males can go to Flirts), they do have unique offerings that separate them from each other.

On a personal level, we really enjoy both of the venues and like that Xtasia offers a high street nightclub experience where we order drinks at a bar, have a large dance floor to enjoy, dress up and surround ourselves with sexy people in their outfits wondering what’s on underneath versus bring your own alcohol, strip down and socialise.

Granted being dressed down does seem (to us) that we end up playing a lot quicker. But we also play quite a bit in Xtasia, though getting lost in the music is as much to blame as being fully dressed to start.

In our experience, I think it’s a given that when people make an effort, get dressed to the nines, and head to Xtasia, knowing it’s that nightclub vibe, the mentality seems to shift to a slower start from a playing point of view. They want to enjoy the night, vibe, flirt and then go into play, albeit a bit late.

Where Chams can be more of socialise, play, socialise, then play again and occasionally party at the end of the night. Again maybe it’s the mentality thing.

Just a question, as we’ve seen clubs have a variant of this. Do you think it might be a good idea to (even if it’s a once a month):

1) have a night where come 10pm you dress down (though the chill out room may offer a place if you don’t want).

2) to enter the main play area, you’re required to dress down.

Maybe something like this may encourage people to play a bit more, as that’s the main difference I see between the two in terms of playing earlier in the night."

I know that used to be how they did it, but every time we have been to Xtasia recently Flirts shuts as soon as the main club opens.

Either of those options would be great.

People do tend to rush to the orgy room around 1pm. Even just from a practical angle, dressing down before entering the play rooms would save you from having to sort through the mess of clothes and shoes that end up tanged on that tiny bit of floor space near the door once you are ready to leave

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Not been there, chameleons with dress down seems to work, and your clothes and valuables safe in lockers. Wife dropped out of the scene so haven't been for yrs, but travelling from afar, we got the feeling of socially clicky groups, i guess more regulars, and was hard to do anything. Seem to have more fun home with each other, partly i guess why we dropped away, and we're mid 50s now so maybe not quite as thrilling as looking at this 20 yrs ago.

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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Sitting back and taking in the comments! Will consider a few changes to see how they work, but often we find one change might make a forum poster happy, and 20 club regulars unhappy!

No longer doing flirts part of venues as couples only Friday night and singles welcome sat night. We tried this for 6 months, and it died a death! Most singles couldn’t get out on Saturday night, and most couples preferred to be where the fun was in main club rather than in flirts! We did try for you all but it fell flat.

Only other bit at mo is music levels. Too quiet, no one will dance. And dance often gets folks involved, especially as the ladies dress down, but guys in boxers on dance floor tends to be a turn off! Too loud and we get the complaints about not being able to chat, but we have the chill lounge for in-depth natter!

Anyway, listening in!

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By *n2cpl OP   Couple
over a year ago

swindon

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By *nglo-Indian-DelightCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

"

Go to Liberty Elite 1st Wednesday of every month fun at forties night x

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Sitting back and taking in the comments! Will consider a few changes to see how they work, but often we find one change might make a forum poster happy, and 20 club regulars unhappy!

No longer doing flirts part of venues as couples only Friday night and singles welcome sat night. We tried this for 6 months, and it died a death! Most singles couldn’t get out on Saturday night, and most couples preferred to be where the fun was in main club rather than in flirts! We did try for you all but it fell flat.

Only other bit at mo is music levels. Too quiet, no one will dance. And dance often gets folks involved, especially as the ladies dress down, but guys in boxers on dance floor tends to be a turn off! Too loud and we get the complaints about not being able to chat, but we have the chill lounge for in-depth natter!

Anyway, listening in! "

And one thing that we love about Xtasia is that it’s an agile dynamic club that isn’t afraid to try different things.

Great to get feedback on the subject.

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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

Go to Liberty Elite 1st Wednesday of every month fun at forties night x"

...and we don't cross post, lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Never had a bad night having been going for over a decade.

If you're struggling to make a connection on the night then maybe try and engage with people before going? Many nights run guest lists so it's easy to see who's going and drop them a line in advance?

Try a different themed night maybe?

We'd love single guys to be able to attend on Saturdays as that's who we look for and often we find the people we want to meet can't make Fridays due to work commitments, but understand that's an 'us' issue as much as anything.

Great that Paul is responding to comments. I've personally never known a club listen to its members as much as Xtasia.

A

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill

We really love Xtasia and haven't had a bad night. We mainly attend BMFC events. We will arrange some meets early through social media but play the rest as it comes.

Can't say I think stripping off is the solution. We like the club vibe.

If you are shy I would definitely say that you need to limit small talk as it appears like you aren't interested. A confident suggestion of going and getting down to business in a play room doesn't put anyone off.

Sx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

That is an excellent idea!

It's crazy that 2 clubs within 15 minutes of each other exclude single guys on the same night.

Hopefully my answer above gives you a thumbs up.

The main challenge is that they are separate businesses so will cater to a need and if they believe the market on a Saturday is for couples, that’s what they’ll aim for.

Of course, there’s a considerable chunk of revenue to be taken from single males, but a lot of couples are looking for couples/females and dynamics/atmosphere would change thus putting couples off from attending.

I guess with places like the Private Club within proximity, where a few couples attend, then there is something for single males.

I suppose with Chams and Xtasia being couples/females only on Saturdays (though males can go to Flirts), they do have unique offerings that separate them from each other.

On a personal level, we really enjoy both of the venues and like that Xtasia offers a high street nightclub experience where we order drinks at a bar, have a large dance floor to enjoy, dress up and surround ourselves with sexy people in their outfits wondering what’s on underneath versus bring your own alcohol, strip down and socialise.

Granted being dressed down does seem (to us) that we end up playing a lot quicker. But we also play quite a bit in Xtasia, though getting lost in the music is as much to blame as being fully dressed to start.

In our experience, I think it’s a given that when people make an effort, get dressed to the nines, and head to Xtasia, knowing it’s that nightclub vibe, the mentality seems to shift to a slower start from a playing point of view. They want to enjoy the night, vibe, flirt and then go into play, albeit a bit late.

Where Chams can be more of socialise, play, socialise, then play again and occasionally party at the end of the night. Again maybe it’s the mentality thing.

Just a question, as we’ve seen clubs have a variant of this. Do you think it might be a good idea to (even if it’s a once a month):

1) have a night where come 10pm you dress down (though the chill out room may offer a place if you don’t want).

2) to enter the main play area, you’re required to dress down.

Maybe something like this may encourage people to play a bit more, as that’s the main difference I see between the two in terms of playing earlier in the night.

I know that used to be how they did it, but every time we have been to Xtasia recently Flirts shuts as soon as the main club opens.

Either of those options would be great.

People do tend to rush to the orgy room around 1pm. Even just from a practical angle, dressing down before entering the play rooms would save you from having to sort through the mess of clothes and shoes that end up tanged on that tiny bit of floor space near the door once you are ready to leave "

You know they have lockers? Many people will dress down when they feel like it, put clothes in lockers and then get dressed at the end of the night.

It gives people choices, rather than forcing them to strip on arrival which can be a daunting prospect for many and put them off the idea of a club.

A

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

First few times attending Xtasia were fairly quiet for us. Since then it's been more a case of pushing the boat and inviting people to join when things are happening as it does seem difficult to get invited in for play at times.

The foam party is fantastic though as there's a lot of people that go in the foam dressed down or even fully naked and it makes for a good laugh too. Great icebreaker.

Don't disagree about it being difficult with loud music there, but it adds to the atmosphere and it's not loud everywhere.

If you want dress down and the likes, chameleons down the road is the place to be. Love both clubs but a completely different vibe from each. You can't compare them.

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

The fact that dress down isn’t compulsory is one of the main reasons we like Xtasia. Mr doesn’t play he gets his enjoyment from watching me have fun so he would not be comfortable or want to strip off on entry

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"Sitting back and taking in the comments! Will consider a few changes to see how they work, but often we find one change might make a forum poster happy, and 20 club regulars unhappy!

No longer doing flirts part of venues as couples only Friday night and singles welcome sat night. We tried this for 6 months, and it died a death! Most singles couldn’t get out on Saturday night, and most couples preferred to be where the fun was in main club rather than in flirts! We did try for you all but it fell flat.

Only other bit at mo is music levels. Too quiet, no one will dance. And dance often gets folks involved, especially as the ladies dress down, but guys in boxers on dance floor tends to be a turn off! Too loud and we get the complaints about not being able to chat, but we have the chill lounge for in-depth natter!

Anyway, listening in! "

Don't know how I skipped this but it's great to see feedback being taken on board and clubs getting involved on the forums too!

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

A good discussion.

For us personally, this is why we like Xtasia. We are very much into the dress up vibe and want the nightclub experience. And as many say, if we want to strip, then Chams would be our choice.

It’s interesting to see the one comment about the foam party. I purposely reserved from mentioning it, but I agree that it does bring a social element to it. Though probably more foam related than dress down but maybe the losing inhibitions of dressing down does work and hence why I played the devils advocate suggesting an occasional event.

Though personally, we like Xtasia how it is.

As for cliques, we do hear this for many places; Xtasia, Chams, Libs and further afield. I’m not sure there are any major cliques and think it’s perception. Though it’s probably easier for us to say this as we are two very confident people who are comfortable to chat and get stuck into anyone.

One comment I would say around noise levels, which I totally get the for and against arguments is when I was a DJ, I would purposely walk around various parts of the floor plan during the course of the night and higher/lower the sound levels according to the numbers.

When the floor was empty or less people then I would take the level down a touch but enough to entice people to the floor, and when it filled up pop it back up. I’m not a sound engineer but the presence of people I believe affect reverberant sound.

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By *ouplesplaytimeCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We chose to go to _tasia for are first try of a club because of the size and stuff to try , all theo it was quite due the the big event on Sunday that they did try getting us to stay for and we wish we could off , we had a fantastic time and made the effort to talk to people and meet someone great people , we was shown round and made to feel very welcome

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By *ers321Couple
over a year ago

beverley


"I think they should mix the nights up - swap Friday to couples & females & Saturdays to allow single men. That way they would fill a gap in the market as single men have nowhere to go after 7/8pm on a Saturday in the midlands.

I find the music is too loud for chatting & making those important connections around the bar area (but I find this at most clubs)"

100% agree with this. We've been a few times to Xtasia and although we've enjoyed it, it was slim pickings on the Saturdays as there seemed to be a lot of couples looking for single guys just like us.

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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago

North of Oxford

We visit _tasia and other clubs, they can all have a night or two where there appears to be no vibe for us. Regardless of how busy, we've had a poor night at different clubs that have been really busy but no one seemed to rock the boat as they say for us, we can't say it's the club it could be just how the night turns out. Definitely don't despair we are sure things will fall together sooner rather than later. We do know some people connect online to meet at clubs and play, we prefer to just say hi yes we are going (even if we've met and played before doesn't mean that the same vibe will be there on another night) we've never had a really bad night at a club but can say some have been amazing, whilst a few have been just a good night out. We would recommend going without expectations. Other than to have a good night out with each other..

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By *est mids guy 69Man
over a year ago

Solihull

I've been to a few clubs but have to be honest Xtasia never fails, as a single guy it can be hard to strike up a conversation with some people, but in most cases I find everyone open and inviting. I've had a lot of fun over the last few years and never bean made to feel like an outsider or a clicky environment. As I do not have a partner Saturdays are out of limits, it would be nice if they had an exclusive single male invite list (Xtasia to randomly invite regulars) , just a handful that can be used and abused . I will be honest, I'm really jealous I cant go to the foam party !! All in all Xtasia is a great place to do what you want, no pressure and no expectations. Cant thank Paul and all the staff enough for creating a really nice place to go and forget the world for a few hours.

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By *uncouple 321Couple
over a year ago

south West

We've been to _tasia about 6 times over the last year and its never failed us , lots of friendly people chatting and plenty of fun to be had , we due to go back again in couple weeks

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

London for 3 days


"I think they should mix the nights up - swap Friday to couples & females & Saturdays to allow single men. That way they would fill a gap in the market as single men have nowhere to go after 7/8pm on a Saturday in the midlands.

I find the music is too loud for chatting & making those important connections around the bar area (but I find this at most clubs)"

So true great idea

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By *uncouple 321Couple
over a year ago

south West


"The fact that dress down isn’t compulsory is one of the main reasons we like Xtasia. Mr doesn’t play he gets his enjoyment from watching me have fun so he would not be comfortable or want to strip off on entry "

Snap same with us

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By *P CompanyCouple
over a year ago

lichfield

3 times at Xtasia for us and not "pulled".

Now every other club has been great and fun had everytime

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By *izhome1Couple
over a year ago

North West Leicestershire

We use to go there it was the first club we tried it used to be go on a Saturday night

Then we whent to chsm found it was a lot better and great to go on a Sunday afternoon

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By *ifewantstoplayCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

We are going to Xtasia next Friday ( it’s our 1st time), we are hopeful of a very fun night

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

"

Not alone tbh. Been there twice. The first time was ok but play was limited and the place is very cliquey. Second time I took some mates but couldn't get in myself bc apparently you need to register for every event so what happened was my friends left early to come join me at another party. 200 mile trek and money wasted so don't think I will bother again tbh.

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By *amieLDN22Man
over a year ago

London


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

You are not alone

We just can't seem to make it work at Xtasia, the only time we have ever played with anyone else there is when we went with friends and shared the big hotel room.

After an hour or two we always give up and go to make the most of the orgy room, which we have all to ourselves

Have you tried Chameleons?

We find it much easier to chat to people there, and there is always something going on in the public play rooms

We do find Fridays easier going than Saturdays though.

K x"

I will check this Chameleons place out in a few weeks. Only heard about this place late Friday night. Just need find the time and plan this out.

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"Have been to Xtasia twice now and both times we hate to say w e failed to have a good night.

We tried to talk to people , make connection but nothing. Sadly it did seem very clicky

Even as the night progressed we saw little playing. Only room that was busy seemed to be the smoking shelter.

You are not alone

We just can't seem to make it work at Xtasia, the only time we have ever played with anyone else there is when we went with friends and shared the big hotel room.

After an hour or two we always give up and go to make the most of the orgy room, which we have all to ourselves

Have you tried Chameleons?

We find it much easier to chat to people there, and there is always something going on in the public play rooms

We do find Fridays easier going than Saturdays though.

K x

I will check this Chameleons place out in a few weeks. Only heard about this place late Friday night. Just need find the time and plan this out. "

Both clubs require membership, you cannot turn up on the door. Some events you can join by registering on a guest list but you always need to check this first. Not sure what you are used to but it is always wise to check the club rules before wasting time and money.

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By *inkcouple192Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

We have been reading a lot of your comments about the club not working for you or having issues with. Music levels , click groups & dress codes.

There has been some discussion about the group feeling and the current events that ourselves and other that are hosting are making that a thing in the past. So everyone feels welcome and has the ability to make new connections . But at the same time everyone who goes need to take advantage of all the naughty people that are there ( it might only be a look . Wink .smile and that could be your in )

Music levels yes at times are loud and does make it hard to keep conversation and will be looking at this at our hosted event . There is still the outside smoking area and also part of the upstairs lounge ( if there not doing karaoke) maybe we can look at being less club music until after 10pm to give people time to chat flirt and build some connections.

Dress code now this does help make _tasia different from other places. And can see the benefits and disadvantages of it , we have seen many advantages of the men being well groomed it creates more of a surprise for when the lucky women or couple gets the guys in the rooms , now most of the lady’s do dress absolutely stunning but a lot don’t feel comfortable stripping down out to show off there amazing underwear/outfits , I think maybe that is something we can help people change there minds on , J is normally one of the very first who will strip out of her dress leaving her in just her outfit for all to enjoy checking out every part of her body which does go down very well and leads to a lot people either smiling at her , flirting , even flat out saying they want her . Let’s hope all that read this take this one bit of advice if your in the club don’t be shy to show everyone there why they should come talk to you and more

We know for a lot of people who make the comments that the club does not work for them have the right to say it but putting off others who the club or events might work for is unhelpful , and we recommend maybe trying to find a night /event that could work for you and try it again , there are many nights on Friday and Saturday that has been taken over by some amazing people who host them , we all want everyone to have a great night but also there to listen to any concerns or things that could improve the night/ atmosphere

From ourselves, all the event hosts & _tasia team we hope to see you all there soon

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Can't speak about _tasia because we've never been and after messaging the club to enquire about an event and receiving a curt reply we never will...

However, we find clubs can be cliquey at times especially event nights. You usually get a lot of couples who all know each other attending the same events so they stick together. Also couple only nights seem to suffer from the same problem.

We find the best club nights are usually the mixed nights with single guys. The couples there are much more likely to be looking to play rather than unicorn hunting.

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By *ou at FlirtsWoman
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"Can't speak about _tasia because we've never been and after messaging the club to enquire about an event and receiving a curt reply we never will...

However, we find clubs can be cliquey at times especially event nights. You usually get a lot of couples who all know each other attending the same events so they stick together. Also couple only nights seem to suffer from the same problem.

We find the best club nights are usually the mixed nights with single guys. The couples there are much more likely to be looking to play rather than unicorn hunting. "

Hi, sorry you feel this way about the club. If you have any questions feel free to message me directly as due to this being a single female profile, I can't message you :p

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Any club visit is what you make of it. As with life on Fab, effort put in results in a better chance of success.

Just going to a club means nothing, particularly as a single guy. Its no different to setting up a profile on here with a couple of non descript photos, a cock pic or two, a profile bio that says nothing about you except you're looking to meet people for sex - and then you sit back wondering why the offers aren't flooding in.

It's all about engagement, whether you're a single guy or a couple. Yes, approaching strangers in person is hard, especially somewhere new. But having first visited the club a decade ago and seen many changes since then, the hosts of any night have always bust a gut (as have the staff) to make people welcome when visiting. Themed nights will never be for everyone as we all have our preferences. They're useful to many though as it can help if you have a specific dynamic that floats your boat, whether hot wives, greedy girls, BMFC or one of the rave nights or foam parties. Clubs can't please everyone all the time no matter how they try. Without a theme nights just become 'samey' and people proactively start looking elsewhere for specific events.

But even on a themed night it's perfectly possible to attend and have a good time. We popped in for a flying visit as we were in the area, just for a planned quick drink and catch up with staff, after attending a big organised social in the centre of Brum on Friday when Xtasia was hosting a BMFC night which we'd normally never attend as its not one of our interests. Found some company that caught Fox's attention and now have another great single guy in our contacts who we'd gladly meet again.

Like everyone there are things we'd love to happen that would make our swinging lives easier. Single guy nights on the occasional Saturday as many can't do Fridays. The option to 'bring a friend' on a guest pass because from a purely practical point of view they'd never want to sign up for membership as they wouldn't be attending enough to warrant it. A ban on people talking about the weather outside playrooms downstairs as its distracting when you're getting naked with others. We also liked the upstairs area of old, where couples could take single guys in but single guys couldn't enter alone, as it reduced the crowd of onlookers just following those actually playing around. Hell - moving the club 100 miles down the M5 would also be great cone to think of it....

But while the suggestions above would suit us, they might not suit everyone. And it's not just about us, you or anyone else. Clubs have to do their best to appeal to as many as they can to survive. We all have our wish lists. We all have our personal preferences. The odds on any club offering someone their perfect, dream environment 365 days a year are slim.

Clubs are what you make of them as much as the bricks and mortar, events, staff and facilities they consist of.

And of course if you find you don't enjoy one then it's simple. Find one that you do.

A

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials


"Any club visit is what you make of it. As with life on Fab, effort put in results in a better chance of success.

Just going to a club means nothing, particularly as a single guy. Its no different to setting up a profile on here with a couple of non descript photos, a cock pic or two, a profile bio that says nothing about you except you're looking to meet people for sex - and then you sit back wondering why the offers aren't flooding in.

It's all about engagement, whether you're a single guy or a couple. Yes, approaching strangers in person is hard, especially somewhere new. But having first visited the club a decade ago and seen many changes since then, the hosts of any night have always bust a gut (as have the staff) to make people welcome when visiting. Themed nights will never be for everyone as we all have our preferences. They're useful to many though as it can help if you have a specific dynamic that floats your boat, whether hot wives, greedy girls, BMFC or one of the rave nights or foam parties. Clubs can't please everyone all the time no matter how they try. Without a theme nights just become 'samey' and people proactively start looking elsewhere for specific events.

But even on a themed night it's perfectly possible to attend and have a good time. We popped in for a flying visit as we were in the area, just for a planned quick drink and catch up with staff, after attending a big organised social in the centre of Brum on Friday when Xtasia was hosting a BMFC night which we'd normally never attend as its not one of our interests. Found some company that caught Fox's attention and now have another great single guy in our contacts who we'd gladly meet again.

Like everyone there are things we'd love to happen that would make our swinging lives easier. Single guy nights on the occasional Saturday as many can't do Fridays. The option to 'bring a friend' on a guest pass because from a purely practical point of view they'd never want to sign up for membership as they wouldn't be attending enough to warrant it. A ban on people talking about the weather outside playrooms downstairs as its distracting when you're getting naked with others. We also liked the upstairs area of old, where couples could take single guys in but single guys couldn't enter alone, as it reduced the crowd of onlookers just following those actually playing around. Hell - moving the club 100 miles down the M5 would also be great cone to think of it....

But while the suggestions above would suit us, they might not suit everyone. And it's not just about us, you or anyone else. Clubs have to do their best to appeal to as many as they can to survive. We all have our wish lists. We all have our personal preferences. The odds on any club offering someone their perfect, dream environment 365 days a year are slim.

Clubs are what you make of them as much as the bricks and mortar, events, staff and facilities they consist of.

And of course if you find you don't enjoy one then it's simple. Find one that you do.

A"

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By *attandDaisyCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We've been regulars at Xtasia for a few years now. We've really enjoyed Xtasia but lately it's become too much of a nightclub and less of an adult club.

Music is now way too loud to hold a conversation in the main room. We usually spend time in the Chill Room when the music gets too loud. That hasn't been the case lately as someone had the idea that an adult club doesn't need a chill room but instead needs Karaoke! Last visit, a load of us ended up in the bottom of the dungeon as it was the only place we could have a conversation. We don't smoke so we don't use the smoking area.

The last few times we've been it just seems way too much like a nightclub. We just didn't feel in the mood due to this.

Karaoke in an adult club completely killed it for us.

- Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been regulars at Xtasia for a few years now. We've really enjoyed Xtasia but lately it's become too much of a nightclub and less of an adult club.

Music is now way too loud to hold a conversation in the main room. We usually spend time in the Chill Room when the music gets too loud. That hasn't been the case lately as someone had the idea that an adult club doesn't need a chill room but instead needs Karaoke! Last visit, a load of us ended up in the bottom of the dungeon as it was the only place we could have a conversation. We don't smoke so we don't use the smoking area.

The last few times we've been it just seems way too much like a nightclub. We just didn't feel in the mood due to this.

Karaoke in an adult club completely killed it for us.

- Matt"

Haha what even had the kareoke? That's so cringe

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By *ou at FlirtsWoman
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"We've been regulars at Xtasia for a few years now. We've really enjoyed Xtasia but lately it's become too much of a nightclub and less of an adult club.

Music is now way too loud to hold a conversation in the main room. We usually spend time in the Chill Room when the music gets too loud. That hasn't been the case lately as someone had the idea that an adult club doesn't need a chill room but instead needs Karaoke! Last visit, a load of us ended up in the bottom of the dungeon as it was the only place we could have a conversation. We don't smoke so we don't use the smoking area.

The last few times we've been it just seems way too much like a nightclub. We just didn't feel in the mood due to this.

Karaoke in an adult club completely killed it for us.

- Matt

Haha what even had the kareoke? That's so cringe"

The karaoke was for an event I believe and isn't always there

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By *uncouple 321Couple
over a year ago

south West


"Any club visit is what you make of it. As with life on Fab, effort put in results in a better chance of success.

Just going to a club means nothing, particularly as a single guy. Its no different to setting up a profile on here with a couple of non descript photos, a cock pic or two, a profile bio that says nothing about you except you're looking to meet people for sex - and then you sit back wondering why the offers aren't flooding in.

It's all about engagement, whether you're a single guy or a couple. Yes, approaching strangers in person is hard, especially somewhere new. But having first visited the club a decade ago and seen many changes since then, the hosts of any night have always bust a gut (as have the staff) to make people welcome when visiting. Themed nights will never be for everyone as we all have our preferences. They're useful to many though as it can help if you have a specific dynamic that floats your boat, whether hot wives, greedy girls, BMFC or one of the rave nights or foam parties. Clubs can't please everyone all the time no matter how they try. Without a theme nights just become 'samey' and people proactively start looking elsewhere for specific events.

But even on a themed night it's perfectly possible to attend and have a good time. We popped in for a flying visit as we were in the area, just for a planned quick drink and catch up with staff, after attending a big organised social in the centre of Brum on Friday when Xtasia was hosting a BMFC night which we'd normally never attend as its not one of our interests. Found some company that caught Fox's attention and now have another great single guy in our contacts who we'd gladly meet again.

Like everyone there are things we'd love to happen that would make our swinging lives easier. Single guy nights on the occasional Saturday as many can't do Fridays. The option to 'bring a friend' on a guest pass because from a purely practical point of view they'd never want to sign up for membership as they wouldn't be attending enough to warrant it. A ban on people talking about the weather outside playrooms downstairs as its distracting when you're getting naked with others. We also liked the upstairs area of old, where couples could take single guys in but single guys couldn't enter alone, as it reduced the crowd of onlookers just following those actually playing around. Hell - moving the club 100 miles down the M5 would also be great cone to think of it....

But while the suggestions above would suit us, they might not suit everyone. And it's not just about us, you or anyone else. Clubs have to do their best to appeal to as many as they can to survive. We all have our wish lists. We all have our personal preferences. The odds on any club offering someone their perfect, dream environment 365 days a year are slim.

Clubs are what you make of them as much as the bricks and mortar, events, staff and facilities they consist of.

And of course if you find you don't enjoy one then it's simple. Find one that you do.

A"

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think the following quote has never been more apt:

“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time”

We do respect everyone’s comments and opinions as we hope ours are too.

From our perspective, we are fairly seasoned club hoppers who have attended a lot of clubs, many a time and on various nights/events. And as people may know, we will never speak ill of any and all of them get our support. Of course, like everyone, we have a subjective opinion and have our favourites.

Reading the comments, one thing we will say objectively about Xtasia, is we believe they are one of the most dynamic clubs we have come across in the lifestyle. They have an agile approach and will try different things to cater for different needs and react to demand.

We have seen this implemented and then not backed up, so they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t.

But I do think amongst all of the clubs we’ve experienced they do react.

There are some clubs that are taking a similar model and also reaping the success of this.

I can definitely say that Xtasia will listen positively to critique and ideas, and as long as they’re backed and justified, they do react.

I’m sorry to hear of your “curt” response and hope the club can make you reconsider. We love the clubs and the people up North, and would love to reciprocate that warm welcome we always receive in the Midlands.

One thing I’ve seen in some clubs is a dedicated area/zone for new couples, who may be shy, or finding their feet in new surroundings.

Maybe Xtasia could implement this in an area in the chill out room to eliminate/reduce where the perception/or reality? of a clique is present to give new couples a head start?

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By *hexcoupleCouple
over a year ago

redditch

We find it works well to get a group chat going with four or five couples then meet up inside and carry on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love _tasia, never played but we are newbies.

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By *wocomeasoneCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We are regulars at Xtasia but we love it never tried another club we don’t always get to play there but always have a good night. More often than not we do end up playing we are there every Friday night and some Saturdays depending on work. We have now stated to host the risqué reggae night.

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By *orthsouth4957Couple
over a year ago

Telford

Really surprised to read this. We are new to all this and once we decided to explore this lifestyle we decided to go to a club and see what it’s all about. We did our research and decided to visit Xtasia because it sounds like a nice place and also we loved that it was like a regular club with all the extra fun. We made our first visit in February and found people to be so friendly and welcoming to us. Felt no pressure at all and just loved the whole place. The owners are so friendly and we have made friends over the last 3 visits. You have to mix and chat to people and we also go with the view that if we have fun with anyone else it’s a bonus and the last few times we have had lots of bonuses lol. We are visiting Xtasia next week again and Can’t wait.

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