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" Not saying its right what happened it's not, but some clubs do leave free to take condoms in play areas in bowls or similar could people have thought they were available to take for free? KJ" Yeah I did consider that but it was in the box with my other crops and whips next to them - so I was surprised and there are non others in the club like that | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same" Yep completely ridiculous that they didn't have their own. If you have decent condoms they are not cheap things either. Bit mind boggling really. | |||
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"I've come across lots of guys in clubs who don't have condoms with them. I obviously have my own supply but if a guy has come to a swingers club hoping for sex and hasn't come prepared, that's generally a deal breaker for me and I will tell them that any play plans are off the table as they haven't got condoms it also rather suggests they are willing/hoping for bareback and that they are just lazy or too tight to shell out for their own protection - not attractive qualities." This mirrors my exacts thoughts on the subject. And yes Op I think those guys were taking the piss. And regardless on whether you know the club provide them or not, take your own! Ones you know fit and you've tested the range before. Theres such a variety out there. | |||
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" Most clubs have them for free, but nobody should rely on that. " I guess they exist, but I don't recall any swingers club I've been to that have condoms for free. | |||
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"I carry Skyn XL in my little bag, they're too big for most men so it's a good excuse not to hand them out to beggars. " I carry cheap tight ones from the £1 shop to give to the scroungers and Skyn XLs for myself! | |||
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"The amount of men that dint bring them! I always carry condoms, just in case. But, men should always have their own. And, guys, after you finish, please put your condom in a bin, they are provided. Horrible having them left on the floor/beds!!! you'll always get them.. That's my rant over. Ha!" | |||
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"I've come across lots of guys in clubs who don't have condoms with them. I obviously have my own supply but if a guy has come to a swingers club hoping for sex and hasn't come prepared, that's generally a deal breaker for me and I will tell them that any play plans are off the table as they haven't got condoms it also rather suggests they are willing/hoping for bareback and that they are just lazy or too tight to shell out for their own protection - not attractive qualities." | |||
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"I've noticed a fair few unused condom's discarded in the car park at the end of the night, it always used to confuse me why that was, till one day after a conversation with someone about it, it clicked as to why that was. It's probably the same reason why they don't come prepared with any " Lol. Surely they can hide them somewhere | |||
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"I get the same can anyone 'lend' me a condom?? err no.. come prepared or dont come. " 'Lend'? I wouldn't want it back afterwards! | |||
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"I get the same can anyone 'lend' me a condom?? err no.. come prepared or dont come. 'Lend'? I wouldn't want it back afterwards! " Yeah I snapped at that once I actually said mate I dont want it back with your jizz in lol | |||
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"Over the years many men have asked me for a condom at the point of action. It staggers me that anyone would put themselves in a situation where they are likely to have sex but do not have the necessary equipment. Like the OP I have a little bag I carry with condoms and lube. My rant is that swingers clubs actually charge for condoms, whereas in male saunas they are always free and available in abundance." In fairness, some saunas get them free of charge from various sexual health organisations. Swingers don't, so the club have to pay for them, some of which then pass on charges. | |||
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"I always take my own... keep one or 2 on me at a time.. I get the same can anyone lend me a condom?? err no.. come prepared or dont come" Lend? Are they planning to give it back to you afterwards? | |||
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"I always take my own... keep one or 2 on me at a time.. I get the same can anyone lend me a condom?? err no.. come prepared or dont come Lend? Are they planning to give it back to you afterwards? " Might explain the notice I read in one of the play rooms, "please don't reuse Condoms yuck" | |||
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"I've noticed a fair few unused condom's discarded in the car park at the end of the night, it always used to confuse me why that was, till one day after a conversation with someone about it, it clicked as to why that was. It's probably the same reason why they don't come prepared with any Lol. Surely they can hide them somewhere " I suppose they can hide them down their pants | |||
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"I've come across lots of guys in clubs who don't have condoms with them. I obviously have my own supply but if a guy has come to a swingers club hoping for sex and hasn't come prepared, that's generally a deal breaker for me and I will tell them that any play plans are off the table as they haven't got condoms it also rather suggests they are willing/hoping for bareback and that they are just lazy or too tight to shell out for their own protection - not attractive qualities." Well said, our experience amazes us that at that point they blurt out the usual " sorry but i forgot them" yeah right!!! | |||
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" Might explain the notice I read in one of the play rooms, "please don't reuse Condoms yuck" " I think they're referring to having sex with more than one partner using the same condom. | |||
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"...But of course, as pointed above, it’s probably men that don’t want them to be ‘found’. J" Buy a 'man bag' with a secret inside pocket. Enough room for johnnies and some viagra as well. That only leaves the lube needing a home, so maybe the recipients can provide that. I know at least one bloke who keeps his club tool kit inside one of those cubby panels in the boot of his car. Just don't let the missus borrow the car and get a puncture! | |||
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"Is that a bragging line Skyn XL ... " I've got a photo story/cartoon on my phone showing a boyish looking customer in the chemist's shop asking "Do you sell condoms in size XXL?". "Yes sir, we do" replies the assistant. "In which case, do you mind if I hang around to see who buys them?" continues the boy. | |||
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"Is that a bragging line Skyn XL ... " Nah. Google suggests Skyn XLs are only 60mm. Standard condoms are 56mm. MySize make condoms that go up to 72mm. | |||
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" Is that a bragging line Skyn XL ... Nah. Google suggests Skyn XLs are only 60mm. Standard condoms are 56mm. MySize make condoms that go up to 72mm. " I've tried MySize 72mm (I'm wearing one on my profile picture). MySize are latex and smell so I prefer Skyn XL. | |||
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" Most clubs have them for free, but nobody should rely on that. I guess they exist, but I don't recall any swingers club I've been to that have condoms for free." Every Playroom we have has FREE condoms in at Club Play as standard. We promote safe sex heavily and consider it as a necessary thing to provide as standard in our club like toilet paper in the toilets. The downside as a club is some people do steal them all out of rooms with them being free The second problem is people demanding certain sizes (extra large) & latex free condoms which are very expensive. We do still advise people to bring there own especially if you need a size like extra large or latex free but we do put a selection of condoms out every time we open and can guarantee no matter how many we put out there's never any left at the end of a night. | |||
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" Most clubs have them for free, but nobody should rely on that. I guess they exist, but I don't recall any swingers club I've been to that have condoms for free. Every Playroom we have has FREE condoms in at Club Play as standard. We promote safe sex heavily and consider it as a necessary thing to provide as standard in our club like toilet paper in the toilets. The downside as a club is some people do steal them all out of rooms with them being free The second problem is people demanding certain sizes (extra large) & latex free condoms which are very expensive. We do still advise people to bring there own especially if you need a size like extra large or latex free but we do put a selection of condoms out every time we open and can guarantee no matter how many we put out there's never any left at the end of a night." Completely on board with your last paragraph. I know I'm rather an outlier, so I'd never expect a club to have provided something there's so little call for! | |||
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" Most clubs have them for free, but nobody should rely on that. I guess they exist, but I don't recall any swingers club I've been to that have condoms for free. Every Playroom we have has FREE condoms in at Club Play as standard. We promote safe sex heavily and consider it as a necessary thing to provide as standard in our club like toilet paper in the toilets. The downside as a club is some people do steal them all out of rooms with them being free The second problem is people demanding certain sizes (extra large) & latex free condoms which are very expensive. We do still advise people to bring there own especially if you need a size like extra large or latex free but we do put a selection of condoms out every time we open and can guarantee no matter how many we put out there's never any left at the end of a night." I mean I prefer to have durex extra strong so I won’t have latex free ones with me, tbh from prior experience if someone wants or needs a latex free one they will have them anyway. | |||
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"That’s desperate for people to be taking all the free condoms so there’s never any left ????. Wtf people! Have some decency lmao" This can be a problem on some nights and not on others as you say. It does get frustrating at times but part of running a club and trying to look after people but some people do not make it easy x | |||
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"If some men don’t want to spend the money to buy condoms, all they have to do is go into GUM clinic and get them for free. But of course, as pointed above, it’s probably men that don’t want them to be ‘found’. J" Gum clinic it's amazing what dentists and oral hygienists do nowadays..who'd have thought? | |||
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"I carry Skyn XL in my little bag, they're too big for most men so it's a good excuse not to hand them out to beggars. " Good plan. | |||
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"Not boasting but does any other gents find the condoms in clubs to small we always bring our own extra large condoms. Nothing worse when you can’t get a condom on. " Yep. I always have to bring my own. It's annoying, but entirely understandable. They've got to cater to the majority, and there simply aren't that many of us who need the larger ones. | |||
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"Not boasting but does any other gents find the condoms in clubs to small we always bring our own extra large condoms. Nothing worse when you can’t get a condom on. " Me, and I also got an unpleasant rash from the free condom I used in a club once! I always carry Mates Skyns with me, whether out at work, in my car, or in a club (although, having condoms with me in a club usually guarantees I won’t need any ) | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same" I always bring my own condoms. I tend to carry 2 and keep the rest in my locker | |||
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"Peoples laxidasical approach to condoms clubs always amazes me. I always take some and I'm happy to give them to people I am playing with. Equally if a guy has his own, I want to have a look at it before he uses it. If they're cheap crappy looking ones then I'll ask him to use mine. I'm quite sure some people would just stick a sock on it if it meant getting their leg over . But yes, I totally agree. Take your own, and make them good quality. " Durex all the way for me | |||
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"Peoples laxidasical approach to condoms clubs always amazes me. I always take some and I'm happy to give them to people I am playing with. Equally if a guy has his own, I want to have a look at it before he uses it. If they're cheap crappy looking ones then I'll ask him to use mine. I'm quite sure some people would just stick a sock on it if it meant getting their leg over . But yes, I totally agree. Take your own, and make them good quality. Durex all the way for me " MySize for me. Great quality, and I say that as someone who's tried out a *lot* of different brands. And they actually fit! | |||
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"I don't think it's wrong to ask. Poor skills being in a play space not equipped but I get it's a bit of pain to go back to the bar (maybe also mixed with a fear it will result in missing out). Likewise perfectly fine to say fuck off, get your own. As to taking without consent, bang out of order. I would also say inductive of the kind of guys who cause trouble in clubs. I must admit I have been presently surprised at clubs that provide free condoms in the play spaces. This is convenient and pragmatically I'm sure it does encouraged safe sex (although it shouldn't necessary to do so). But I also understand providing tubs of free condoms is an operational cost that may not be viable in every clubs business model." In our view as a club it's necessary to promote safe sex. As a club you can get Free condoms to a point but they are very limited. The cost to us as a club is only about £20 - £30 a week and one we are more than happy to pay. We know of clubs that get free condoms and sell them at a £1 each which we find dubious to say the least! | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same" Some people have no respect for other people’s property, we’ve had it where we’ve had condoms go missing while at clubs and it’s bloody annoying as they’re not cheap! Some people expect/ try there luck to play barback. In our opinion each individual should provide there own and we like to provide our own latex free condoms and only take in what we might potentially need. | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same Some people have no respect for other people’s property, we’ve had it where we’ve had condoms go missing while at clubs and it’s bloody annoying as they’re not cheap! Some people expect/ try there luck to play barback. In our opinion each individual should provide there own and we like to provide our own latex free condoms and only take in what we might potentially need." Had the same thing this weekend just gone. I was involved in some play where I was lucky enough to go all the way. I always carry a condom with me (ex-boy scout honour "be prepared"). Two voices were heard saying "anyone got a spare condom"? If I wasn't having so much fun, I'd probably have been tempted to have said "fuck off...get your own". | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same Some people have no respect for other people’s property, we’ve had it where we’ve had condoms go missing while at clubs and it’s bloody annoying as they’re not cheap! Some people expect/ try there luck to play barback. In our opinion each individual should provide there own and we like to provide our own latex free condoms and only take in what we might potentially need. Had the same thing this weekend just gone. I was involved in some play where I was lucky enough to go all the way. I always carry a condom with me (ex-boy scout honour "be prepared"). Two voices were heard saying "anyone got a spare condom"? If I wasn't having so much fun, I'd probably have been tempted to have said "fuck off...get your own". " I said well they sell them at the bar which was about 12 ft away. Lol then I put my own one on lol | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same" Can not believe people would use club condoms without size and shape not taken into account or trust other to provide.. | |||
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"Every single one of our meets we have had in a club never have condoms and my husband is always the one giving them to the other guy, the amount of times we've gone off to a room and we are getting down to it and at the point of having sex and he reaches for one, "my guy" doesn't, either they just expect bareback or they just really don't expect action." The only thing I can think is that have 3 and maybe run out - but at least be honest and say that I always have at few in seethrough play bag with more spare in locker, you never know if you get invited to join in | |||
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"Most guys we've met in clubs have their own but we always ask them to use the ones we provide (Skyns) as K. can react badly to some and can get very sore after. The only exception might be if she was to play with someone who was very large or very small and Skyns wouldn't fit (we carry both normal and XL) however we think anything that wouldn't fit those sizes of condom wouldn't be great compatibility for her. If A. is playing with other women then we will offer to use ours (especially as Skyns feel great!), but if a couple asked to use theirs then he would be fine with that. We see it as a miniscule cost in terms of a club visit, even if we have a busy day and get through 6 in a visit that's only about £4, we will always supply them to our friends if they get caught out or run out. We carry around 10 in a little purse type bag along with a small tube of lube and a small vibrator and have loads more in our bags in the locker in case we had a very adventurous day." Skyns are brilliant I've actually had to stop play in the past as I thought it had broken or come off as it felt that good, but lo and behold it was fine, also carry a few latex-free ones just incase. | |||
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"Skyns are brilliant I've actually had to stop play in the past as I thought it had broken or come off as it felt that good, but lo and behold it was fine, also carry a few latex-free ones just incase." All Skyns are latex-free (unless some of the more exotic ones aren't), we recently got some of the elites to see what they're like as they're 15% thinner! We ditched "normal" condom's as they don't let you feel as much sensation for either party, and they delay ejaculation for so long they really rub her up the wrong way! | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same" I just don't get it, But I will tell you this.... I have found increasingly at clubs of late men not bringing condoms in the hope you're too horny to say no and end up saying oh go on then!! It really does grind my gears, I avoid these men like the plague as it tells me they don't take their or my sexual health serriously! | |||
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"This is a bit of a rant from the weekend Was involved in a group play. A few guys were watching and at that point I was and someone cheekily said can I have a condom - no was my response the club sell them. Also later on I noticed a few guys had helped themselves to my box that I had left with my bondage kit when I was doing a demo Now for me as a single guy I always take condoms as you never know if play will happen. If you can make your mind up to go to a club then take a pack with you. Along with my kit, I check if I have lube and condoms and toy cleaner just in case Why why can’t others check the same I just don't get it, But I will tell you this.... I have found increasingly at clubs of late men not bringing condoms in the hope you're too horny to say no and end up saying oh go on then!! It really does grind my gears, I avoid these men like the plague as it tells me they don't take their or my sexual health serriously!" Here here!! Always take a pocket full of packets of fun! No i won't let anyone "borrow" one. Its quite funny watching a guy's dying erection as he hunts the club for a glove of love | |||
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" Here here!! Always take a pocket full of packets of fun! No i won't let anyone "borrow" one. Its quite funny watching a guy's dying erection as he hunts the club for a glove of love " Hear hear! (no, I'm nor correcting you - merely agreeing 110% with you!) | |||
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"All Skyns are latex-free (unless some of the more exotic ones aren't), we recently got some of the elites to see what they're like as they're 15% thinner!" One thing is to ensure your condoms have a silicone lube (which includes Skyns) as most water based condom lubes are very irritating. Not tried Skyns but problem I found with non latex is if you're larger there is no stretch. Just had to throw out my MySize condoms as they'd all expired since lockdown! | |||
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" Not saying its right what happened it's not, but some clubs do leave free to take condoms in play areas in bowls or similar could people have thought they were available to take for free? KJ" That makes sense. | |||
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"Over the years many men have asked me for a condom at the point of action. It staggers me that anyone would put themselves in a situation where they are likely to have sex but do not have the necessary equipment. Like the OP I have a little bag I carry with condoms and lube. My rant is that swingers clubs actually charge for condoms, whereas in male saunas they are always free and available in abundance." And that's why AIDS is no longer the rampant threa it used to be. Well done those places. | |||
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