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"You can understand that happening at the very outset after 0, 1 or 2 exchanged messages, but not after a good amount of messages and pics being exchanged where the party was extremely interested in moving forward... Just doesnt sit right tbh at such a later stage..." It can happen at any stage. There's no rules. If you haven't done your full due diligence (chatted on the phone or video called offsite for example) and are going on whatever was said in messages, then all that's happened is you've swapped words on the Internet. It could have been anyone. Even if they were real, it still means nothing. Some people just change their minds. Which is everyone's prerogative. I've done it many times myself after months of loose chat. It only takes one thing to put someone off. | |||
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"Two weeks of messages and lots of photos a meet arranged for a Friday and then nothing even exchanged phone numbers . You text but no reply . Even couples have done this , saying they are on their way yet never arrive , now me I got worried and called and no replies until next morning with a photo of his wife in bed . WTF . " So call as soon as numbers are exchanged, early doors, not just before a meet that has been planned. Speak to people. It's a great way to find out more, discuss preferences, ask any questions and make a firm decision before even contemplating booking a room, a club event or travelling any distance. Texts are no different to messages on here. Just words on a screen that could be typed by anyone. | |||
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"Two weeks of messages and lots of photos a meet arranged for a Friday and then nothing even exchanged phone numbers . You text but no reply . Even couples have done this , saying they are on their way yet never arrive , now me I got worried and called and no replies until next morning with a photo of his wife in bed . WTF . " Don't take it to heart. I know it's easier said than done. I have had some questionable experiences but I have accepted that this is people. Some are great at communicating and some aren't. Some people respect and value other people's time and unfortunately there are loads that don't. You mention the UK and the US in your post. I don't think it has anything to with a breakdown in society. Personally men who talk about looking outside their own countries in this way, tend to go to countries that are poorer and find women who have to depend on them. This may not be what your intention but unfortunately it's what happens. | |||
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"Depends on the persons responses - initial pics and responses are usually always non sexual... If the female gets sexual then il reciprocate and the response is always postive - it just seems to go weird once you ask them to have a chat over a vidcall, despite them saying yes to a social meet up" It might not have a couple. You do have lots of men pretending to be part of a couple. It's happened to me loads. As soon as I mention a phone call - it's like the magic words to make them disappear. It's annoying but it happens!!! | |||
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"This a break down of a generation and click bait and attention seeking . UK and USA is riff with it. You can be good looking have a good job and still wont get a meet . Only Just this Friday I was ghosted . Your better off staying of these website and just go to clubs where there are real people whom are there to actually meet people like you . Social media has destroyed dating . In fact many men now are leaving USA and UK to go to the East were women want a European men for traditional values . UK is a Broken country. " | |||
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"‘I can’t get a shag therefore the UK is broken :-s’ This a break down of a generation and click bait and attention seeking . UK and USA is riff with it. You can be good looking have a good job and still wont get a meet . Only Just this Friday I was ghosted . Your better off staying of these website and just go to clubs where there are real people whom are there to actually meet people like you . Social media has destroyed dating . In fact many men now are leaving USA and UK to go to the East were women want a European men for traditional values . UK is a Broken country. " Yes, I had a good chortle when I read this one as well. | |||
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"Having been both a single male and a couples member, i wanted to get peoples take on this issue... Now for most men on here, i presume theyve become accustomed to women simply blocking them as they get inundated with messages from guys - what i dont get is when you message a female, she responds positively to your profile and reciprocates with pictures of them, you get to organising a social call or vid chat with a view to discussing a social meet for a drink - and then just like that, they ignore your messages, dont respond or better yet block you whilst youve been waiting for their response to take things further.. The crazy thing is that its happened when ive had a couples profile also where both me and my female fwb were looking for another female to join us, so its not limited to the sole guy searching for a female situ.. I would love to hear both sides responses to this and why/what is happening here..." Join the club | |||
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"There is also the “weekend” factor. What starts off as tipsy flirty fun on a Friday/Saturday night dissipates on Monday and by the following weekend the inboxes are full all over again and so the cycle goes. We’ve found that if a conversation doesn’t turn into a meet that weekend then it probably won’t. Nothing personal to anyone, it’s just the pressures of Fab fantasy vs real life. " Yes mind games . | |||
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"This a break down of a generation and click bait and attention seeking . UK and USA is riff with it. You can be good looking have a good job and still wont get a meet . Only Just this Friday I was ghosted . Your better off staying of these website and just go to clubs where there are real people whom are there to actually meet people like you . Social media has destroyed dating . In fact many men now are leaving USA and UK to go to the East were women want a European men for traditional values . UK is a Broken country. " Yep. The people who brush this comment off are the ones who eat up the msm propaganda like it was liquid nirvana. | |||
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"This a break down of a generation and click bait and attention seeking . UK and USA is riff with it. You can be good looking have a good job and still wont get a meet . Only Just this Friday I was ghosted . Your better off staying of these website and just go to clubs where there are real people whom are there to actually meet people like you . Social media has destroyed dating . In fact many men now are leaving USA and UK to go to the East were women want a European men for traditional values . UK is a Broken country. " Either that, or some people have experienced online harassment first-hand and put their own safety over strangers’ feelings. But sure, the UK is broken just because women aren’t doormats. | |||
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"This a break down of a generation and click bait and attention seeking . UK and USA is riff with it. You can be good looking have a good job and still wont get a meet . Only Just this Friday I was ghosted . Your better off staying of these website and just go to clubs where there are real people whom are there to actually meet people like you . Social media has destroyed dating . In fact many men now are leaving USA and UK to go to the East were women want a European men for traditional values . UK is a Broken country. Either that, or some people have experienced online harassment first-hand and put their own safety over strangers’ feelings. But sure, the UK is broken just because women aren’t doormats. " And men are not doormats either . And if they have experienced harassment, why site on a website . Why sit on facebook if your getting so called bullied . Why even touch social media . like I said its mind games and attention seeking . Just look at the state of people doing silly things to get noticed . | |||
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"I think as long as you haven't got ready, got babysitters in, all excited for a new meet, you arrive at the pub etc and they are a no show. That's vile, never happened to us but know couples it has. Hopefully they would be kicked off site. Everyone can get cold feet, have a change of mind but a text just to say "lost our bottle sorry to let you down" is fine as long as not on the day, at least 24 hours would be nice. If they won't give mobile numbers and the lady is always busy or nipped out, give them a swerve. " Of course if a change of heart just send a text . Sorry called into work or sorry cant do this . All human . Its the mind games and ghosting that comes with it .Why text saying We are on our way . what's your post code . Then you wait an wait and a NO show. Then next morning a text with nude photo of his wife in bed . lol 😂 | |||
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"I think as long as you haven't got ready, got babysitters in, all excited for a new meet, you arrive at the pub etc and they are a no show. That's vile, never happened to us but know couples it has. Hopefully they would be kicked off site. Everyone can get cold feet, have a change of mind but a text just to say "lost our bottle sorry to let you down" is fine as long as not on the day, at least 24 hours would be nice. If they won't give mobile numbers and the lady is always busy or nipped out, give them a swerve. Of course if a change of heart just send a text . Sorry called into work or sorry cant do this . All human . Its the mind games and ghosting that comes with it .Why text saying We are on our way . what's your post code . Then you wait an wait and a NO show. Then next morning a text with nude photo of his wife in bed . lol 😂 " We've had people attending a social group meet call us and say we are outside the pub and too nervous to come in alone, can you come out and meet us and give us the car model etc. Go outside nobody there. What goes on in their sad minds. | |||
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"I think as long as you haven't got ready, got babysitters in, all excited for a new meet, you arrive at the pub etc and they are a no show. That's vile, never happened to us but know couples it has. Hopefully they would be kicked off site. Everyone can get cold feet, have a change of mind but a text just to say "lost our bottle sorry to let you down" is fine as long as not on the day, at least 24 hours would be nice. If they won't give mobile numbers and the lady is always busy or nipped out, give them a swerve. Of course if a change of heart just send a text . Sorry called into work or sorry cant do this . All human . Its the mind games and ghosting that comes with it .Why text saying We are on our way . what's your post code . Then you wait an wait and a NO show. Then next morning a text with nude photo of his wife in bed . lol 😂 " We've had people attending a social group meet call us and say we are outside the pub and too nervous to come in alone, can you come out and meet us and give us the car model etc. Go outside nobody there. What goes on in their sad minds. | |||
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