FabSwingers.com: Sultry (46) , TV/TS in east brighton , has parking , South East, UK

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PROLOGUE : alpha

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“An Alpha is a leader; she is self-assured, powerful and confident in everything she does,” says Spencer.

“These personality types don’t hold back, tending to steer the pack in friendships and powerfully lead their teams in work. An overwhelming number of CEOs tend to be Alphas, actually, as they relish in striving to be the best and being challenged.”

“She knows her worth and excels in life by staying on track and true to herself and her needs”

Spencer concludes: “With this kind of leadership and power, Alphas can become overworked, stressed and disengaged from their personal lives.

“As such, the best kind of Alpha is one that knows not just how to be the best person they can be, but also understand that balance in life is always needed to truly succeed.”

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Sec A: ABOUT ME

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My profile pics and videos , if you bother to study the 709 pics / videos I have on my profile, will give you an understanding of what kind of person I am, my personality , my hobbies , and also indicate my preferences in the bedroom . A picture can speak a thousand words , isn’t that right ? I hate ping pong messages , so please don’t message for small talk or to ask stupid questions.

No Snapchat, no kik, I only meet with guys who can WhatsApp their live location when a meet has been agreed . I only accommodate.

If you message me and asked me to travel to you , pray to God that I’m in a good mood that day , or you will get some condescending reply from me . Lol ( you have been warned ) .

Whilst I am happy to meet first timers , I don’t have time for timewasters. So if a guy bores me with pointless chat, or macabre foreplay,

Don’t be surprised if I give you a yellow card .

And if you want to watch porn at the same time , or disrespectful to me as a host , or a trans, it’s red card for sure . You can join the list of guys who got kicked out for poor performance! Lol.

Feeling scared ? You should be . I have had enough of timewasters. Still interested? You won’t regret it . You might not want to leave ! Lol. Actually I will tell you when it is time to go. ;-)

One word of caution

I do like to have a laugh .

If you cant make someone shake with an orgasm that you give them, At least make them shudder with laughter at the jokes that you crack . So please don’t be over sensitive !

GLORYHOLE SCREENS FOR FABBERS

I’ve had this Perspex, which I saved when my neighbour upgraded The conservatory.

I had other uses for that , but As I run out of time before moving, I asked somebody to cut round holes in them, Then the panel will be cut to fit into a doorway so it will form the bottom half of the portable glory hole . The end user can customise the top half using curtain, or cardboard or plywood , so that they can be totally hidden behind the partition , unseen to whoever accepted their invitation for a glory hole encounter ????

About four screens available , made to order ‘ with one or more holes , different heights .

Pm Sultry if you are genuinely interested . Apparently, glory hole is a common fantasy for women . I was told .

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—Sec B: Sultry’s Soirées, Supperclub & Send off Party

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I have spent more than 10 years hosting parties at my lovely house in brighton. Initially for tgirls only, Then I opened my house for Tgirls , couples and singles, To hang out with other like-minded people in a safe space . The parties , for maximum 20 people at one time , became the soirées , aimed particularly at those who are new to this lifestyle . This is where I encourage all the guests to spread the idea of ‘ compassionate swinging ‘ , where People are treated as persons , rather than sex objects . This is where I campaigned for inclusivity and diversity, and more interaction of the trans community with the heterosexual community.

The first ever swingers party I attended I was the only tgirl there and I felt so alienated . The same when Eastbourne Social started.

With my Closest bestie , BlueEyesSheWolf at the forefront, Eastbourne Social evolved , taking the concept of Sultry’s Soirées, we saw a vision of integrated sections of fabswingers communities , mingling and mixing as one United community, and the idea of ‘ compassionate , inclusive swinging community’ spreading throughout the south east .

How my heart swelled when I went to Worthing social just after the new year , and met with not one other , not two but four other trans persons, chatting and getting on together with everyone else and so heartwarming to see how welcoming our fabs community in Sussex is . Long May this last .

I try my best to attend, promote and Support the socials but That is all the capacity I have so no more parties at my house.

HOWEVER ,

As news start trickling down, About my decision to relocate to Asia to spend more time with my family after living in the UK for 25 years, I have yet to decide and announce how my sendoff party will look like, when and where . All I know for now, Is I plan to fly home and ship my belongings , by end of February and possibly return briefly in the summer for a proper farewell With many shags, lovers and party guests , who have become very very close lifelong friehds .

I will keep my profile active as potentially, I might set up a tour guide agency in Asia , Specialising in specialised and unique itinerary where you guys could benefit from

Having me as your tour guide , taking you to local attractions , culture, jungles , forests and beaches with the chance to meet local minded people in the local areas . Who knows , Queen of Fabswingers, may become Queen of the jungles . Lol

Just watch this space .

***SULTRY’s SEND OFF Sayonara SOIRÉE ***

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I am definitely going to host a little farewell drinks / early evening event on :

Thursday 23rd Feb , in brighton, 5 pm to 8 pm ,

At the Arcobalena pub Kemptown ( opposite Thomas Kemp) Brighton .

This is a great bar for like minded people, with good reviews . They serve great food , and on this date , Happy Hour is from 5 to 8 pm .

Everyone is invited , couples , singles males , single females , trans and their partners , Whether you have met me or not . It will be an inclusive space for everyone and entrance is free .

After my send off party which ends by 8 pm, some of us , might want to carry on Partying at

Spank Brighton @ Proud Cabaret , which starts from 9 pm to 2 am .

If you are not going to Spank Brighton, you may fancy staying on at Arcobalena bar ,

And take part in the highly praised interactive sex education quiz hosted by Lydia Scabies, from 8 pm to 11 pm. Sex education, including sexual health promotion, has always been a big passion of mine, and this quiz is one big reason why I chose this bar, on this date . It’s sponsored by Terence Higgins Trust , where I regularly get my condoms and lube from , to help distribute to fabbers .

As usual I have something special planned for fabswingers guests .

Auction & raffles items : sexy dresses, bedroom accessories , and the infamous personalised GH panels ;-) any donations for raffles are welcome. Funds raised will go towards MeRAC

( Mental Health Recovery in Action) , a small mental health charity I founded several years ago . You can find it on FB, please do follow .

On the stage, there will also be

* dance performances from myself ( and other friends )

*Bondage rope demonstration by CheekyMonkee

* singing performances

* etc

from other ‘ artist friends ‘ , pls do volunteer , it’s a bit like an open mic ;-)

Volunteers are welcome . One friend is going to sing too , And I would be most grateful if anybody else would like to enhance the atmosphere by getting on the stage , to share and show off their hidden talents .

I know it is on a school night but it is the only date when the Shibari instructor, Who will do a 30 minutes demonstration for the guests , will be in Brighton .

For those wishing to carry on after 8 pm and joining me to Brighton Spank club, pls get the tickets early .The dress code is ‘ Gothic Fantasy ‘ and on this night , it will feature

Local cabaret artist , Miss Wing Chans

top male burlesque, the Hairy Growler and

Bondage rope demo by CheekyMonkee

I hope to see you there . You may contact the bar directly to book a table for yourself and your companions. Don’t feel pressured that you might have to sit Together on one big table. I think it is nicer people sit in clusters so that it is easier to walk around and Mingle . You can order your own food and run your own tab . If you let yourself known to me, I would come over and say hello .

LOVEHONEY DISCOUNT through fabswingers.

Do you know that as fabbers members , you can get discount price at lovehoney ? Click lovehoney icon on Ur profile and get 15% off , order over £50 delivery . Valentine’s coming , let’s get some bondage stuff , blindfolds etc

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-SEC C : Sussex fabswingers Social events

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EASTBOURNE SOCIAL

The Next Eastbourne Swingers Social:

Saturday 25th February 2023:

To buy your tickets please search profile : TheEastbourneSocial .

Eastbourne Socials have been attracting over 50 paying guests, all from fabswingers. Mainly couples and singles from all over Sussex, even London.

The Event is great to meet and check out the people that you have been speaking to On fabs. You can dance too and there is always cabaret performances by a local dance / burlesque group to entertain guests .

You can’t have sexy play at the venue but if you book an Airbnb , possibly a self catering flat / house NEARBY, or a hotel , you can invite guests from the social afterwards .Or collaborate with other couples or singles, rent a two or three bedroom self contained accommodation and you can party together afterwards. ;-)

There are some pics and videos on my profile , showing the venue• in Eastbourne to give you some ideas • venue might change

Below is the amateur burlesque group who perform at Eastbourne Social

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3rd Feb Grove theatre Cabaret Cerises; cabaret and burlesque https://cabaretcerises.onlineticketseller.com

BRIGHTON SOCIAL

This meet up is held at a pub in hove , close to the train station . It’s a big pub, with covered heated outside smoking area . Easy to get to by train and bus , no 7 especially.Brighton social meet gathering in this new venue , Where people can really mingle around is hosted by the very friendly Queenie .

Next : Saturday , 4th February 2023

WORTHING SOCIAL

this event is held in a spacious and friendly pub on a Sunday evening, near Worthing train station, and very well attended too. please contact the profile for details of the venue .

Next : Sunday , 12th FEBRUARY 2023

7 pm

Profile C.K.A.F in brighton Is a big big TIMEWASTER

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Sec D :Empowering safe & respectful meets

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Meeting strangers from a website has its perks and downfalls.

Firstly , look after your sexual health . Educate yourself . Don’t just go dip your wick anywhere without protecting yourself and your partners . If you are prepared to take the risks, do so with informed decision. Don’t harass someone with all the questions about their sexual health AFTER your fun. All these questions should have been asked , discussed and decided on before you start doing the deed . Don’t let anxiety about risks ruin the good night you had . Read up . Get checked regularly . Get PREP , find out about U=U , or what undetectable means , and know where to get PEP from . Remember , you have 72 hours to protect yourself .

If you haven’t got time to go to the clinic, There are three FREE vending machines dotted around Brighton, where you could obtain home testing kits, And you just do everything by post .

And guys, if you want to be suited and booted , before you go digging for beetroot , it is YOUR responsibility, on your way to your meet , to drop by into Boots .

Many local Brighton bars , have free condoms you can take for free . You can get even free condoms from THT and They would even post it to your home address.

There are links on this site to other sites about this and also about your personal safety .

From my own experience and experiences of many other fabbers, shared with me, I have been actively promoting respectful , compassionate swinging and empowering the very vulnerable and often marginalised . New Tgirls , newly single M & F Are at risk of being tricked , exploited and taken advantage of by unsavoury predators . Should this ever happen to you and you are not sure what to do, Don’t hesitate to reach out for advice and support . Single transpeople, and single women particularly are often prey to con artists. Reach out to your safety huddles for help, if you are being threatened . And do google ‘ romance fraud ‘ . Unfortunately, it happens. The number of times , the day after a meet , when I found my own kitchen knives, being moved to the bedside table in the bedroom, obviously by Whoever that came round the day before, should be enough to scare people off meeting , but you learnt how to be safer , and after twelve years on fabs , I think I have a lot of tips to share with other new fabbers, to avoid the near missed I have had .

However, Don’t let that put you off from meeting people. If you put safety first , Hopefully you also would meet many fabulous lovers , and also genuine friends , the way I have over the years on fabs .

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CHRISTMAS At Sultry’s : collective Collaborative commune at Christmas

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THIS EVENT IS NOW COMPLETED

Due to my Airbnb , I am currently NOT HOSTING any parties in Brighton, except small private parties only but I would recommend that you try to attend events organised by my fabulous friends .

However , I will still be hosting Christmas day lunch for anyone who are going to be on their own this Sunday .

In fact , this year I am going to a Christmas get-together from Friday 23rd until Boxing Day 26th. I am currently planning Xmas activities for each day, Daily menu is almost done .

So over the four days , I would plan some Christmassy activities daytime and each evening, with sit down meal everyday . There might be some fabswingers elements for Friday night depending on guests , but Apart from a group of fab swingers and non fab swingers hanging out over Christmas under one roof, There will be no sexual swinging in my house from Saturday until Boxing Day. Just a good old times traditional Christmas . Well kinda traditional. lol

If you are going to be at loose ends, or on your own at Xmas weekend , and if you are in or around Brighton , Or even able to travel to Brighton, you could choose to pop in on any day or you could choose to come and stay in my ‘Christmas Weekend collaborative Commune ‘ . From Friday to Monday .

Basically , you can stay at mine , indoors or campervan and contribute , collaborate and collectively create a fond Christmas experience for those staying over . It’s not a FREE event ( I can’t finance the cost like previous years ). We will share the costs of meals , and we will all share labour , energy , and the memories . The more joining , then the smaller cost of food ., activities .

Places limited . Only 12 max for Xmas lunch and only 8 max to stay over each night x

Overnight arrangement?

I have three double bedrooms, one for single males and one for any females / trans to share , store your suitcase , sleep , get changed etc .

The house has facilities to sleep 10 people, and only max 8 will be accepted . It’s a bit like big brother concept , although there will be no hidden cameras ! Lol

If you are going to have days over Christmas where you are going to be on your own, you know you don’t have to .

Networking in fabs for F2M trans

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. In 12 years of fabs, I can’t recall seeing/ interacting with any trans masc (f2M) people here . I convinced a transmasc friend to join fabs recently but it’s difficult to find other transmasc on fabs. It’s also difficult to find cis men who understand how to ‘play’ with a transmasc, how to interact with them as a trans man, how to touch them as a masculine identity. Most cis males appear to approach and interact as if they were talking to a female , so this is not what they are looking for . Additionally , The idea of penetrative sex with a cis male is quite intimidating, anxious about pain and discomfort , how foreplay should be , etc .

Then there is also the issue of safety when meeting eg. How safe is it for a transmasc person to meet an unknown cis males at their place ? What is The likelihood that the person would be asked to leave after sex, as usually what happen when a tgirl goes to a male’s house ? That’s why I always accommodate at mine .

Any transmasc / cis men or cis women who could help my friend talk about this very unusual topic ?

Ps : any cis males living near Brighton who would be happy to just give head to a transmasc , please pm me so I can pass on to my friend . If you are someone I know already , that is preferred .

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