FabSwingers.com: Colin (66) , Man in York, North East, UK

Hi, I'm an experienced, confident and articulate Dom looking for a submissive lady.

I'm not a "kneel bitch" idiot, I treat people with respect and as individuals.

If you are already experienced in BDSM then I'm sure you will not be disappointed. If you are inexperienced and just curious then I can give you a sensitive and gentle introduction.

If you are a very special single girl then a long term relationship involving romance as well as kink is a possibility, but otherwise let's just enjoy some no strings attached fun and see where it goes.

I'm as kinky as hell but I am not particularly promiscuous. I value quality over quantity. I like civilized, intelligent, kinky women who have a lust for life.

I'm very reliable but not pushy so let's chat online and then maybe meet up for a drink to see if we click.

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I should perhaps try to define what I mean by submissive.

Being a willing slut might be an aspect of being a submissive but being a slut doesn't make you a submissive, there's more to it than that. Also forget about rubbish like FSOG.

For me, Dominant/submissive play is based on consent and respect for a set of rules governing the temporary transfer of power from a submissive to a Dominant.

Consent is determined by a detailed discussion of limits (what you find acceptable) prior to play. Limits are never renegotiated during play.

D/s play begins when I place a collar around your neck and ends when I remove it. While collared you must focus on obedience and surrender yourself to me. In return I will always stick within your limits and will put a tremendous amount of effort into making the experience exciting and positive for you.

During play you still have some control via the use of a traffic-light system of safewords. If you say red then I will remove the collar as quickly as possible and play will end. If you say amber (or orange or yellow) this means you need me to pause, we can then discuss how to proceed. You can use the word green either to indicate that you wish to continue or to provide feedback that you are particularly enjoying something.

If you are unable to speak, for instance if you are gagged, then I will place a squeaky toy in one of your hands. Squeezing this toy or dropping it signals the same thing as saying amber. I will remove the gag immediately to allow you to speak. In some circumstances I may use clingfilm to fasten the toy in your hand so that it can't be dropped.

While collared you should follow speech protocol and address me as Sir. This seems ridiculous at first and will result in giggles but with practice it adds considerably to the atmosphere.

The ultimate goal of play is to try to get you into a trance-like state called subspace. This is where the effects of natural adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endocannabinoids and endorphins combine with the hyper arousal caused by multiple or almost continual orgasm in a positve feedback loop.

When play ends I provide thoughtful and nurturing aftercare to make sure you are happy and well.

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If you are a single female and have made it this far then you are definitely a very special girl and a potential soulmate.

I'll describe my ideal partner...

You are intelligent, possibly short and curvy. You might be a little shy at first in public but you are strong-willed, independent and perhaps even rather feisty. However, in private your secret desire is to be told what to do, be tied up and used, but not just by anyone, you are discerning and looking for a cultured gentleman who is patient, understanding and loving.

You are not one dimensional - you have interests in the arts, travel and much more. You are probably on the left/liberal side of politcs and care about the future of our planet. You are romantic and wise enough to appreciate that some of the best things in life are simple pleasures like holding hands and sharing a bottle of wine while watching the sun set over a beautiful landscape.

If most of this description fits then please do get in touch.

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