FabSwingers.com: Colin (64) , Man in York, North East, UK

Hi, I'm an experienced, confident, articulate and respectful Dom looking for a submissive lady or couple.

I'm not a "kneel bitch" idiot, also when playing with a couple I try to ensure that the guy is getting as much fun out of the situation as the girl, although this can be complicated in practice as there are so many different roles that males take on.

BDSM isn't particularly suited to one night stands as Doms need to learn a lot about their submissives and trust takes time to develop. However, I hope I can provide a good gentle introduction for any curious newbies.

If you are a couple then ideally you should both be subs but if the male is a novice Dom then I can help with practical guidance and advice. Or perhaps he's a keen photographer and just wants to join in the fun now and then. I'm open to suggestions.

For married couples into cuckolding, I'd want to chain hubby up in a corner. Maybe having his wife milk him a couple of times.

If you are a female or couple already experienced in BDSM then super. Let's see if we can expand our horizons or at the very least have one or two fun evenings together.

If you are a very special single girl then a long term relationship involving romance as well as kink is a possibility, but otherwise let's just enjoy some no strings attached fun.

I am basically straight but when meeting a couple I can be orally bi if the guy is cute and into this. If this bothers you then you are not the kind of open-minded person I would want to spend any time with.

On very rare occasions I cross-dress in lingerie because it feels nice and it seems to turns many people on. But I am principally masculine in nature and am always an alpha Dominant - I don't do switching.

I'm as kinky as hell but I am not particularly promiscuous. I value quality over quantity and to be honest I wouldn't touch many vanilla people with a barge poll as they would bore me to death. Nothing lost because such people would dismiss me as a weirdo anyway.

Still, I know from experience that there are a small number of highly civilized, intelligent and kinky (or kink-curious) people out there who have a sense of adventure and a real lust for life. If that's you then please get in touch.

I'm very reliable but not pushy so let's chat and meet up for a drink to see if we click.

My monochrome profile photo is about 18 months old. It's an honest representation of what I look like. The other photos were taken in March 2025. I look much younger than my age, probably because of a good diet, plenty of exercise and long blond hair that's only just beginning to turn grey.

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I should perhaps try to define what I mean by submissive.

Being a willing slut might be an aspect of being a submissive but being a slut doesn't make you a submissive, there's more to it than that. Also forget about rubbish like FSOG.

For me, Dominant/submissive play is based on consent and respect for a set of rules governing the temporary transfer of power from a submissive to a Dominant.

Consent is determined by a detailed discussion of limits (what you find acceptable) prior to play. Limits are never renegotiated during play.

D/s play begins when I place a collar around your neck and ends when I remove it. While collared you must focus on obedience and surrender yourself to me. In return I will always stick within your limits and will put a tremendous amount of effort into making the experience exciting and positive for you.

During play you still have some control via the use of a traffic-light system of safewords. If you say red then I will remove the collar as quickly as possible and play will end. When playing with a sub couple if either says red then I will remove both collars. If you say amber (or orange or yellow) this means you need me to pause, we can then discuss how to proceed. You can use the word green either to indicate that you wish to continue or to provide feedback that you are particularly enjoying something.

If you are unable to speak, for instance if you are gagged, then I will place a squeaky toy in one of your hands. Squeezing this toy or dropping it signals the same thing as saying amber. I will remove the gag immediately to allow you to speak. In some circumstances I may use clingfilm to fasten the toy in your hand so that it can't be dropped.

While collared you should follow speech protocol and address me as Sir. This seems ridiculous at first and will result in giggles but with practice it adds considerably to the atmosphere.

The ultimate goal of play is to try to get you into a trance-like state called subspace. This is where the effects of natural adrenaline, dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, endocannabinoids and endorphins combine with the hyper arousal caused by multiple or almost continual orgasm (or edging for a male) in a positve feedback loop.

When play ends I provide thoughtful and nurturing aftercare to make sure you are happy and well.

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To deceitful single males, don't waste your time. I'm not a fool and will quickly discover that you aren't a female or a couple.

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If you are a single female and have made it this far then you are definitely a very special girl and a potential soulmate.

I'll describe my ideal partner...

You are probably in your 50's, intelligent, short and curvy. You might be a little shy at first in public but you are strong-willed, independent and perhaps rather feisty. However, in private your secret desire is to be told what to do, be tied up and used, but not just by anyone, you are discerning and looking for a cultured gentleman who is patient, understanding and loving.

You are not one dimensional - you have interests in the arts, travel and much more. You are probably on the left/liberal side of politcs and care about the future of our planet. You are romantic and wise enough to appreciate that some of the best things in life are simple pleasures like holding hands and sharing a bottle of wine while watching the sun set over a beautiful landscape.

If most of this description fits then please do get in touch.

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