FabSwingers.com: Alan (38) , Man in Wishaw , Scotland, UK

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1st dont send dick photos (blocked)

2nd do not ask to play with the doll they are 6 grand go buy one (blocked)

3rd be honest it's not that big a deal not going to kink shame or anything if you have a partner just tell them not here to cheat or be used to cheat with i don't care if your bi gay straight it's the person am looking for without all the lies anything you want to know am open and honest just take a read at my profile and photos not filtered

About Me & Why I’m Here

I’m a tall, soft-bodied 6'3" big guy with a calm, steady presence, a loyal heart, and a naturally affectionate side. I can be shy and a bit nervous at first I’ve never really done anything like this before but once I feel comfortable, I’m warm, attentive, and emotionally aware. I know who I am, even if I take a little time to open up.

I enjoy real connection the kind that feels relaxed, warm, and quietly electric rather than rushed.

I’ve spent a lot of my life being the dependable one, and I value that. I’m also here because I want connection for me too: chemistry, flirting, touch, and shared moments that feel easy, exciting, and genuine.

What I’m Open To

I’m open to friends-with-benefits and potential partner connections—people I can talk with, laugh with, flirt with, and gradually build closeness with once there’s comfort and mutual attraction. I value honesty, communication, and mutual respect. I’m here for quality connections, not collecting people.

How I Connect

I’m confident but never pushy. Because I’m naturally a little shy, I prefer letting things unfold naturally—good conversation, shared humour, light flirting, and that moment when interest becomes mutual.

For me, connection tends to grow like this:

conversation ? comfort ? attraction ? closeness ? chemistry

No pressure. No rushing. Just two adults enjoying each other and seeing where it goes.

This often works well for people who are switch-leaning, curious, or easing into attraction and intimacy without needing everything clearly defined upfront.

Experience & Intimacy Style

Most of my experience has been in long-term relationships, which has made me patient, attentive, and present. I’m comfortable taking the lead when it feels right, equally comfortable slowing things down, and always tuned in to how the other person is feeling.

My intimacy style is sensual and connection-focused:

slow, attentive oral

full-body massage and touch

safe, communicative sex

kissing, foreplay, and closeness

light sensory play (only when mutually wanted)

I enjoy intimacy that’s grounded, affectionate, and responsive. I’m open-minded, curious, and genuinely enjoy learning what works for the person I’m with. Clear communication and check-ins are a given.

When I’m interested, I’m consistent and engaged. I don’t disappear or play games I treat people with care.

Attraction, Affection & Chemistry

I’m naturally touch-oriented and affectionate. I enjoy attraction that builds through:

playful, mutual flirting

easy teasing and shared tension

deep kissing and full-body closeness

confidence without aggression

making someone feel genuinely wanted

cuddles, warmth, and comfort

I don’t separate softness from desire they often go hand in hand for me.

FWB & Partner Dynamics

I’m open to FWB or partner-style connections that feel relaxed, respectful, and enjoyable. I’m happy to talk openly about boundaries, expectations, availability, and pace.

Whether something stays light and fun or grows into something deeper, I prefer letting connection lead rather than forcing labels or outcomes.

Emotional Awareness

I live with depression, anxiety, insomnia, SAD, and PTSD, which means I can be reserved at first. Once I feel safe and comfortable, I’m warmer, more playful, and more expressive.

Safety & Practical Details

All tests clear (most recent: 10/12/2025)

Fully vaccinated

No STDs

Condoms required due to immune treatment

Anything beyond that only after trust and clear communication

I take both emotional and physical safety seriously.

I live alone and can host most evenings. I don’t drive, but I’m open to munches, events, and gradually exploring the scene.

Outside the Bedroom

I’m a PC gamer, enjoy music and films, love camping, and travel when I can (Marmaris is a yearly favourite). I do graphic design for Twitch streams and help moderate Discord and Twitch communities.

I’m affectionate, supportive, and genuinely enjoy making people feel appreciated whether as a friend, FWB, or partner.

What I’m Looking For

I’m looking for connections with people who:

enjoy big men

value communication and respect

like attraction that grows naturally

enjoy affection and closeness

are curious, switch-leaning, or vanilla-open

prefer honesty over pressure or games

No rushing. No pretending attraction doesn’t matter.

Just connection, warmth, chemistry and seeing what develops when two people genuinely enjoy each other.

I do own 2 dolls (5'4", one with a factory issue; both have size 9 E breasts and are medium-sized), along with a few toys (fleshlights, cock rings) ????, but I’m at the point where toys don’t satisfy me the way real skin, real heat, real control, and real intimacy would i do not share them can't believe if had to put this bit in with that many asking

If you fancy a chat, say hello.

If something here feels calm, affectionate, and quietly confident, we’ll probably get along very well.

Looking For

Meeting

Interests