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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Hi all

Looking for some advise

Mrs b has expressed an interest in being spanked

Looking for advise on paddles etc and also how to start as a complete new idea to me

Help !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with your hand and work up to other things from there. Toys can be great fun but IMO a good hand is always the best.

Read her reactions and have safe words in place, you'll find your own pace with it as you start experimenting more

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

I'm no expert but starting with your hand sounds like very good advice. You're not likely to go too far too fast - since it's going to start hurting your hand.

Also stick to the butt, don't start hitting around bony areas. There should be plenty of advice on line if you Google it.

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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Thanks for the info and advice. Have also received a few private messages with ideas lol

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Spanking is pretty safe and hot. Floggers are good but require practice so they land 'flat' and in the right place. If you buy a cane, watch out for the cheap ones as they can wrap round the bottom and cause damage at the tip.... a stiff cane is necessary; ours is a fibreglass beauty.

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My go to is a leather paddle, it's short in the hand and can be used in numerous positions, I often ask the female to give me a number and then spank said amount of times on each cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Def the hand, the male hand should not be flat and tight. Spread your fingers, and when you spank, do not slap ! Ideally the female should be on all fours or leaning over something and has a naked bum. Spank upwards, firmly in line with the anus and spank as though you were bowling a large ball. You and she, will know when its right, as she will shudder in a way she has never shuddered before.

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By *ust_A_Tease_To_PleaseWoman
over a year ago

South Wales: Newport, Chepstow

Different implements feel very different, so worth trying a few different ones.

Some pervertables from the kitchen are fun - a wooden spatual is a personal favourite.

Google where is ok to hit, but sticking to bum and thighs are safest. Do not hit the tail bone, spine, neck, or where isn't protected by ribs (bruised kidneys are not fun). I find it useful to place my hand over the tailbone if I am worried.

Start slow and increase strength overtime.

I use a number system - 1234 are "green" so stay there to warm up, 567 are "amber" which is a fun place to play in (hehe) once warmed and getting into it, then 89 and 10 are "red" - too hard! Pull back a bit.

You can ask for the number and use the feedback to adjust. Remember every implement is different and a light touch with one item might be a red with another! So build slowly.

Have fun

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys


"Different implements feel very different, so worth trying a few different ones.

Some pervertables from the kitchen are fun - a wooden spatual is a personal favourite.

Google where is ok to hit, but sticking to bum and thighs are safest. Do not hit the tail bone, spine, neck, or where isn't protected by ribs (bruised kidneys are not fun). I find it useful to place my hand over the tailbone if I am worried.

Start slow and increase strength overtime.

I use a number system - 1234 are "green" so stay there to warm up, 567 are "amber" which is a fun place to play in (hehe) once warmed and getting into it, then 89 and 10 are "red" - too hard! Pull back a bit.

You can ask for the number and use the feedback to adjust. Remember every implement is different and a light touch with one item might be a red with another! So build slowly.

Have fun

"

Couldn't have put it any better myself

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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Thanks to all for the info and ideas so far

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By *lease300Woman
over a year ago

merthyr

I enjoy hand spanking any harder implement be careful maybe try on yourself first trust is key enjoy xxxx

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Trust is essential. You also have to read the person you're spanking. They'll enjoy a certain level of pain but too much is no fun. I agree with the start with the hand advice and then progress as we have to a paddle, flogger and cane.

Mr

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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Thank you for all the advise. But as for safe words etc knowing mrs b as i do if she says stop or that hurt. I d better stop if i want to see the next day lol

But please keep the ideas flowing as mrs b is also reading this post ??

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By *lapit262000Man
over a year ago

Ammanford

Start over the knee, warm the buttocks up with a hand spanking starting slow and soft builing up the intensity to a nice warm red glow. Remember to pause regular to strole, rub, caress and tease before continuing the spanking this builds up her anticipation. Once the bottom is thoroughly warmed up increase the intensity, speed and force within her limits. As for implements different implements have very different feelings and effects, I prefer using domestic items such as wooden hairbrush, wooden spoon, spatula, slippers etc. Remember to have a safe word RED is usually a good one. Have fun. My palm is itching now ??.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Start over the knee, warm the buttocks up with a hand spanking starting slow and soft builing up the intensity to a nice warm red glow. Remember to pause regular to strole, rub, caress and tease before continuing the spanking this builds up her anticipation. Once the bottom is thoroughly warmed up increase the intensity, speed and force within her limits. As for implements different implements have very different feelings and effects, I prefer using domestic items such as wooden hairbrush, wooden spoon, spatula, slippers etc. Remember to have a safe word RED is usually a good one. Have fun. My palm is itching now ??. "
Try a genuine horse riding crop the very long and you can tap the bottom without hurting it too hard but watch out she might use your new lol

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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Got to be honest the last comment matches my concerns. I have no wish to be spanked lol

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By *carlett AllureWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Echoing what’s been said above - hand spanking in a good position to begin and then build up to other items. I’m not a fan of wooden spoons/brushes etc but my recent encounter with a play mates leather paddle was hugely enjoyable- I’ve even ordered my own to keep in my draw!

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By *lapit262000Man
over a year ago

Ammanford


"Echoing what’s been said above - hand spanking in a good position to begin and then build up to other items. I’m not a fan of wooden spoons/brushes etc but my recentencounter with a play mates leather paddle was hugely enjoyable- I’ve even ordered my own to keep in my draw!"
If you are looking for a knee to go over and a hand to operate the said paddle look no further ???

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"Echoing what’s been said above - hand spanking in a good position to begin and then build up to other items. I’m not a fan of wooden spoons/brushes etc but my recentencounter with a play mates leather paddle was hugely enjoyable- I’ve even ordered my own to keep in my draw! If you are looking for a knee to go over and a hand to operate the said paddle look no further ???"
The riding crop does not hurt ,its made for control of the horse but in the right hands a lot less painful and a wooded spoon trust me

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By *rsbrooksandjohn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Swansea


"Echoing what’s been said above - hand spanking in a good position to begin and then build up to other items. I’m not a fan of wooden spoons/brushes etc but my recent encounter with a play mates leather paddle was hugely enjoyable- I’ve even ordered my own to keep in my draw!"

Hi Scarlett thanks for the advise. Could not message you direct as outside your age limit

Ps thanks for all the advise and offers so far

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

My weapon of choice is a riding crop. Leaves lovely patterns on your arse and doesn't hurt too much??

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By *weet_candy_kissWoman
over a year ago

close to u


"Different implements feel very different, so worth trying a few different ones.

Some pervertables from the kitchen are fun - a wooden spatual is a personal favourite.

Google where is ok to hit, but sticking to bum and thighs are safest. Do not hit the tail bone, spine, neck, or where isn't protected by ribs (bruised kidneys are not fun). I find it useful to place my hand over the tailbone if I am worried.

Start slow and increase strength overtime.

I use a number system - 1234 are "green" so stay there to warm up, 567 are "amber" which is a fun place to play in (hehe) once warmed and getting into it, then 89 and 10 are "red" - too hard! Pull back a bit.

You can ask for the number and use the feedback to adjust. Remember every implement is different and a light touch with one item might be a red with another! So build slowly.

Have fun

"

This is spot on advice

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