FabSwingers.com forum: What helps with depression?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just feel stuck right now, and when I turn to someone for help they either say: “it’ll pass”, or man up. I got some social anxiety which doesn’t help at all. I just feel so lost right now.

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By *ovingeachotherCouple
over a year ago

Devizes

Get yourself to your local gp hun. Specialist help is always out there. Please don't feel you have to suffer alone ?? xx

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

If anyone ever tells you to 'man up', tell them to get in the bin, chum.

I would talk to someone. There's numbers available to reach professionals, anonymously. Do a little googling, depending on your particular situation which I won't intrude on here.

Keep it easy my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place is only likely to make you feel worse

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

Exercise helps a lot, go for a run, you'll feel great after

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Please see your doctor. Anxiety and depression are not trivial and no amount of ‘manning up’ cures them. If you won’t see a doctor then look at 5htp (from somewhere reputable like Holland and Barrett) as it’s a serotonin booster. A doctor is your best bet though. And never listen to an asshat that thinks you can man up your way out of depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the same until I seen the doc, after a chat knowing there is help there it's now OK.

Don't bottle it up and no need to man up, I'm 6ft big guy and I broke down crying when I really needed help.

You won't be judged by anyone for seeking help xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Exercise helps a lot, go for a run, you'll feel great after"

Absolutely this

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By *llr1976Man
over a year ago

Chepstow

So many options these days. I work in mental health. First thing is to do is go and see your doctor. He/she will signpost you from there. Ask for help and you'll get it, and I know it's sometimes hard to ask but it's worth it.

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By *ot so newCouple
over a year ago

limerick

I'm actually going through the same thing at the moment, but I have went to my doctor recently and got medication, it took about a month to notice a difference, but definitely try go for a walk or run,u need to try get up and change things for urself though, its horrible to go through but please go to ur doctor

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By *ot so newCouple
over a year ago

limerick

Go to the doctor, get medication, give it a chance to work, then get up every morning and say to urself what can I do today to make it better than yesterday,,,small little steps pal,,,really wish you the best

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By *ot so newCouple
over a year ago

limerick

"So many options these days. I work in mental health. First thing is to do is go and see your doctor. He/she will signpost you from there. Ask for help and you'll get it, and I know it's sometimes hard to ask but it's worth it."

Totally agree, it took me ages to finally ask for help but best thing I've done, i thought i could deal with it myself but i couldn't

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By *ot so newCouple
over a year ago

limerick

U ok mate??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find talking helps always nice have that person to talk to keep positive buddie we all hear for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This place is only likely to make you feel worse "

Your right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey buddy.

I’m a counsellor at a couple of helplines.

One that’s good if you have social anxiety is a text support line.

Text Shout to 85258

Free service.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

For me the only thing that worked was going to the doctor and getting on antidepressants. It’s the best place to start believe me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For me the only thing that worked was going to the doctor and getting on antidepressants. It’s the best place to start believe me."

Well done for make the choice to see them and help your self massive respect hardest thing is admitting it to your self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

https://www.mind.org.uk/

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By *attoodchapMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Absolutely Excercise!

Without going into too much detail I was mentally unwell 18 months ago. Did the usual anti depressants etc and just didn't get any better. Then a friend got me out of bed pre 6am every morning and made me bloody power walk everywhere! Apart from it getting you out of bed (which is all I did and makes you feel worse) it sets you up for the day, you've had a chat about your feelings said hello to dozens of people along the way and your getting fitter so effectively feeling much better! I talk to alot of guys (and girls) about mental health now as I don't find it such a taboo subject but excersice definitely helped me. Join a gym, a running club, tennis what ever puts you in a group of people and gets you out of your box! I also deactivated my social media and kept contact with a handful of close friends which again forces you to interact the old fashioned way and actually talk to people! I'll never tell you to man up but it does get better.

My therapist made me write down 3 reasons my I matter, 3 things I had to do the day after and 3 reasons that make my happy....thought it was shit at 1st but I actually still do it without writing it down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have social anxiety and when it strikes i get anxious and pass out lol which isnt good.. i wasn't able to go to pubs or any thing it comes and goes though which is hard work.. its something that you can't take pills for i find it better to tell people and talk about it so they can re assure you its okay if it happens and you don't feel more anxious of it happening.. only started for me in the last year b4 hand i didnt have a care in the world.. i find going to the gym helps me

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By *alvadoreMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

hi mate

its different for everyone. first off seek professional help and be open to what they suggest.

exercise releases endorphins so that'll give you a boost.

social anxiety is crap. I've helped a few friends out with this.

I got them to talk to anyone. people in queues etc.

a good one is talk to shop staff. ask female staff for advice. goto a clothes shop and ask them what they think looks good on you.

people love giving advice, it's a good way to get familiar with chatting to strangers

take care

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By *ustanormalguy82Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

This thread really helps restore faith in this site, as it can be hit or miss, by the support shown for the OP, from people who can relate and speak from personal experiences is nothing short of heart warming and wonderful

Well done,

And to those who are experiencing issues, it’s good to talk,

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