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By *icked life OP Man
over a year ago

llanelli

How do I get my name on the list x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I get my name on the list x"

Pop a message to 'County Socials' and they will advise you.

C and P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't message them no single guys. Carmarthen social. Is not a social not open to everyone never has been

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

We lifted the filters as mentioned in our profile and whilst lots of males viewed the profile only one male actually messaged us.

Most interesting but not a surprising result.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And eveytime that has happen single make don't get the venue time or place had this happen to me a few times on the carmenthen social

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By *icked life OP Man
over a year ago

llanelli

I can't message you x

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"I can't message you x"

As the social is full we decided to reinstate the filter.

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"And eveytime that has happen single make don't get the venue time or place had this happen to me a few times on the carmenthen social "

You viewed our profile yesterday when the filters were lifted or did you not.

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By *icked life OP Man
over a year ago

llanelli

Ok thank you for letting me know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would like to attend but TV's are blocked too

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By *icked life OP Man
over a year ago

llanelli

I know it's gutting would do have loved to have gone tonight x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was just about going too ask about the social as i only just heard about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same. Think I was a bit too late for this one, maybe next time..

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By *shrop_cpleCouple
over a year ago

Ceredigion

Topping do last night H. Well done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really enjoyed it.

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By *ornycpl2000Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

Enjoyed meeting friends, pity Harry and, Stellla didn’t come and, say hello

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By *ornycpl2000Couple
over a year ago

Swansea

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By *icked life OP Man
over a year ago

llanelli

So gutted there was no spaces for single males left..it sounds like it was a good night

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

A good mix of genuinely friendly people and good atmosphere there

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

Someone was a bit naughty on here and posted the social location, so much for single guy's being idiots when a couple does this.

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"Someone was a bit naughty on here and posted the social location, so much for single guy's being idiots when a couple does this. "

Unfortunately we now have to change the venue for future socials.

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

Discretion is always important especially in a small place like Camarthen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost made it but my lady friend had a boiler breakdown so I'm still a social virgin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a lovely time with great friends shame our mate Stella wasn’t there ;( we did find it hard to know who was on fab who wasn’t as in a general pub atmosphere xx S

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"Someone was a bit naughty on here and posted the social location, so much for single guy's being idiots when a couple does this. "
...It was a very small pub and there was no room up the top end so had to sit down the other side ...Unfortunately we happened to be sitting next to about 8 men who knew why we were all there made disgusting remarks about everyone that walked through the door and made us feel very uncomfortable ....Maybe a venue where we are not treated like we are freaks would be a good idea ....

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"Enjoyed meeting friends, pity Harry and, Stellla didn’t come and, say hello "

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"Enjoyed meeting friends, pity Harry and, Stellla didn’t come and, say hello "

Well Stella was unable to attend and who Harry is we don't know as he was definitely not on the list.

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"Someone was a bit naughty on here and posted the social location, so much for single guy's being idiots when a couple does this. ...It was a very small pub and there was no room up the top end so had to sit down the other side ...Unfortunately we happened to be sitting next to about 8 men who knew why we were all there made disgusting remarks about everyone that walked through the door and made us feel very uncomfortable ....Maybe a venue where we are not treated like we are freaks would be a good idea ...."

Same venue as the previous social date and definitely no problems then, we definitely suffered from a member posting the venue details on their profile which we have no control over

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By *shrop_cpleCouple
over a year ago

Ceredigion

"It was a very small pub and there was no room up the top end so had to sit down the other side ...Unfortunately we happened to be sitting next to about 8 men who knew why we were all there made disgusting remarks about everyone that walked through the door and made us feel very uncomfortable ....Maybe a venue where we are not treated like we are freaks would be a good idea ...."

They were probably feeling jealous and left out. Console yourself with the thought that, while they were in the pub, their wives were likely sat at home dreading their return, and/or cuckolding them with their best friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another great evening and many thanks to Henry & Stella for taking the time to organise this event. It is a lot of work and well done for those who turned out for the evening. Perhaps having someone at the door to greet and introduce to those attending might be an idea but having previously organised parties we know how difficult it can be. We’re delighted that we found this social and look forward to the next one and to meeting some more people who share the same interests.

Once again a BIG thank you to Henry & Stella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would like to attend but TV's are blocked too

Would be great to have TV’s allowed to attend

love your profile

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By *ievsMan
over a year ago

dinas powys

Please let me know when next social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies for posting the venue, I didn’t foresee it would cause upset, I appreciate the need for discretion but I assumed the venue would be aware of the situation and we would have exclusivity to openly mix not hide behind the lie that were here for the birthday party so hoped to excite the night which initial feedback was that it wasn’t exactly buzzing.

I think the night really lacked diversity in the people attending and would like to see a greater effort made by those organising the event to invite people who are likely to benefit from it.

The venue in my opinion was pretty poor also, we had to go and stick the jukebox on to try and get a bit of a vibe going but could barely hear it, or find space to get our groove on.

I think in future a better suited venue should be selected - ie music and dance floor and a more open evening.

More effort to attract a diverse group, perhaps putting your name down on a thread allows others to see who will be attending and if they catch your eye put your name down too.

Be interesting to hear others thoughts on how we can make this night work better for us, since it is our night.

Hope my constructive criticism is well received

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"Apologies for posting the venue, I didn’t foresee it would cause upset, I appreciate the need for discretion but I assumed the venue would be aware of the situation and we would have exclusivity to openly mix not hide behind the lie that were here for the birthday party so hoped to excite the night which initial feedback was that it wasn’t exactly buzzing.

I think the night really lacked diversity in the people attending and would like to see a greater effort made by those organising the event to invite people who are likely to benefit from it.

The venue in my opinion was pretty poor also, we had to go and stick the jukebox on to try and get a bit of a vibe going but could barely hear it, or find space to get our groove on.

I think in future a better suited venue should be selected - ie music and dance floor and a more open evening.

More effort to attract a diverse group, perhaps putting your name down on a thread allows others to see who will be attending and if they catch your eye put your name down too.

Be interesting to hear others thoughts on how we can make this night work better for us, since it is our night.

Hope my constructive criticism is well received

Your criticism was definitely not constructive but actually destructive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you care to elaborate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the night really lacked diversity in the people attending and would like to see a greater effort made by those organising the event to invite people who are likely to benefit from it.

The venue in my opinion was pretty poor also, we had to go and stick the jukebox on to try and get a bit of a vibe going but could barely hear it, or find space to get our groove on.

I think in future a better suited venue should be selected - ie music and dance floor and a more open evening.

More effort to attract a diverse group, perhaps putting your name down on a thread allows others to see who will be attending and if they catch your eye put your name down too.

Be interesting to hear others thoughts on how we can make this night work better for us, since it is our night.

Hope my constructive criticism is well received

Your criticism was definitely not constructive but actually destructive "

One persons opinion that doesn't mirror many others who have had a good time at this social and previous socials. The majority of us throughly enjoyed ourselves. It's such a shame that a good venue now can't be used through thoughtlessness.

County socials do a great job in bringing us together.

It's a shame that you didn't enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really is, hence my comment to invite others opinion to potentially improve the night for everyone involved.

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"It really is, hence my comment to invite others opinion to potentially improve the night for everyone involved.

A simple challenge in that you organise a CARMARTHEN SOCIAL as you seem to be well experienced as we are definitely idiots according to yourselves,we are sure that you will not back out of the challenge and will give you a free run to choose a preferably early date.

In the meantime we will refrain from setting the date for our next social.

Yes we have made mistakes and apologised accordingly and Not used a attack for a defence. S&H.

p.s a early response is what we expect and we are sure that you are happy to accept the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really is, hence my comment to invite others opinion to potentially improve the night for everyone involved.

In the meantime we will refrain from setting the date for our next social.

Yes we have made mistakes and apologised accordingly and Not used a attack for a defence. S&H.

p.s a early response is what we expect and we are sure that you are happy to accept the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really is, hence my comment to invite others opinion to potentially improve the night for everyone involved.

In the meantime we will refrain from setting the date for our next social.

Yes we have made mistakes and apologised accordingly and Not used a attack for a defence. S&H.

p.s a early response is what we expect and we are sure that you are happy to accept the challenge

Well said Henry and surely we will be in touch with you privately. You have done so well to make this work and we admire what you have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please clarify where I have referred to you as idiots?

Please also clarify how setting a challenge to my feedback offers any benefit to the people using this forum or looking to enjoy a social outing?

This feels to me more a response of an immature being who’s feelings have been hurt because what they didn’t please everyone.

It happens, you’ll never please everyone but I feel my comments represent those of others whom I’d spoke to also and so are a credible voice, if you are happy with your events and are unwilling to make changes to suit the other population then that’s your call, likewise if you could see value in what I was saying and wanted to collaborate to satisfy the end user that would be fine too.

I find your challenge incredibly pointless however, regardless of whether I would or would not accept does not take away from the fact that some people didn’t enjoy the social and feel improvements could be made so voiced them.

It’s up to you whether you listen or not.

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By *hetwoofus.Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

All of the people we spoke to on Friday enjoyed this social and are looking forward to the next one S & H done a great job of getting nice couples and singles there who are genuine, if it's open to the masses who knows who will turn up, there are enough fake profiles on fab only this week we had a (couple) who again turned out to be a single guy picture collector (worked him out pretty quick mind) H & S please keep up the good work we will definitely be there as I said we thoroughly enjoyed it Thank you

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By *hetwoofus.Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

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By *hetwoofus.Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

"It really is, hence my comment to invite others opinion to potentially improve the night for everyone involved.

In the meantime we will refrain from setting the date for our next social.

Yes we have made mistakes and apologised accordingly and Not used a attack for a defence. S&H.

p.s a early response is what we expect and we are sure that you are happy to accept the challenge

Well said Henry and surely we will be in touch with you privately. You have done so well to make this work and we admire what you have done

And we will definitely be in touch for the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be clear I’m not suggesting a free for all, the organisers did a good job at maintaining discretion and ensuring the attendees were there for the right reasons, as well as openly suggesting improvements I’d like to be clear that I think this aspect was done well.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We’ve been following the Carmarthen social threads for a while as we miss this side of the scene.

Not to judge but seeing as some have commented on how the uninvited were making unwanted derogatory comments as soon as people arrived then surely the “Flat & quiet” atmosphere could/should be laid firmly at the door of the person that posted the venues location as it would have put a downer on people?

S&H

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

"To be clear I’m not suggesting a free for all, the organisers did a good job at maintaining discretion and ensuring the attendees were there for the right reasons, as well as openly suggesting improvements I’d like to be clear that I think this aspect was done well."

HOW CAN SOMEONE CLAIM THAT THEY HAVE SUGGESTED IMPROVEMENTS WHILST ACCEPTING THAT DISCRETION WAS PARAMOUNT AND THEN NAMING THE VENUE.

WE NOW HAVE TO FIND A NEW VENUE DUE TO YOUR PROFILE POSTING FOR SELFISH PURPOSES S&H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could reword my post I would, but I can’t.

I didn’t see it as a problem personally but now on reflection realise it can be for others so fine I respect that.

Ironic I’m able to take your comments on board even if they’re in capitals, but you’re unable to take my constructive points to support future improvements.

I wonder what that suggests about our willingness to be thoughtful towards others and their desires.

Just saying.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

"Please clarify where I have referred to you as idiots?

Please also clarify how setting a challenge to my feedback offers any benefit to the people using this forum or looking to enjoy a social outing?

This feels to me more a response of an immature being who’s feelings have been hurt because what they didn’t please everyone.

It’s up to you whether you listen or not."

I'd give up if I were you, they have a habit of attacking people who dare to comment negatively, like somehow they think they know better than everyone else.

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

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By *shrop_cpleCouple
over a year ago

Ceredigion

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly."

We would take issue with you here. Surely an element of control over the proportions of those attending is a necessary evil? Otherwise the balance of single chaps present would far outweigh the couples/ladies wouldn't it? We recently spoke with a couple who told us of a social they had attended where there were 60 blokes and only 4 couples. This seems no good. It cant be a free for all can it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I disagree with you on this point. I think that organised socials are for like-minded people to meet and chat and socialise. An event that is open to all will attract attendees in similar proportions to the fab membership, and that's fine. After all, it's not an orgy or sex party ... well I hope not, if it's in a public pub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I run the swansea day social and allow everyone to attend . It works out well at mine after all it's not a sex party but a nice day too chat to like minded people . I've never had anyone complain or suggest to me to run it any different. Ive run it for years and never had any negative comments on the forum . Only ever banned one person from attending it as I had a few complaints from people on the day. I hope everyone continues to enjoy mine

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

Every single social we have attended from a small country pub to the Tea Party & MLS has an element of controlling the numbers. We’ve never seen it as a bad thing & all at these socials have been friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some important points raised, following this discussion I’ve had several parties contact me of which some being unhappy single males.

Being part of a couple and experiencing nights heavily dominated by single males I can honestly say it’s not my thing however me speaking up was to support catering for all and in line with that my suggestion would be a limited number of single males in line with the ratio of other guests, that way single males get the opportunity, and greedy ladies get the opportunity too exploit that.

By publishing this information people can make a call on if it suits them and the organisers can cater to suit the larger population.

As I previously mentioned you can’t please everyone but as a couple I don’t mind a ‘reasonable’ amount of single males attending and likewise some ladies will be glad of the added variety, I think there’s also a value in tracking numbers against the capacity of the venue since it sounds several were unhappy to be cramped stood up in the corner and ultimately I think it felt a bit awkward to float about and actually socialise.

All lessons to learn from here I think, not destructive comments Henry.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

We have been to, at a rough guess, around 50 socials, maybe more. Some have been huge, with 150 plus people attending. There has never been a problem with too many guys attending, the usual rough ratio is about 80% couples, and about 10% each of single ladies and gents. The whole idea about socials is for people to make friends, mingle, socialise and network with possible future playmates, if you restrict one group then you deprive those attending of the opportunity to have a choice.

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By *adyinred696969Couple
over a year ago

Brecon

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

Having control by having a vetted door list is an advantage of hiring a small venue, a function or meeting room, and is a sensible way of restricting access to anyone who wants to gatecrash.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

Having control by having a vetted door list is an advantage of hiring a small venue, a function or meeting room, and is a sensible way of restricting access to anyone who wants to gatecrash."

Agreed but the MLS & Tea Parties are held in pubs & i’m pretty sure there have been no issues with either gatecrashers or other pub goers.

Maybe the fact the location does not stay the same is the answer? Easy in Manchester or London, Not so easy in Carmarthen though.

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

The mixture of females and couples amounted to 51 in total as for the guys who attended uninvited we would say that the number was at least 10 who decided to make negative statements to the couples especially. S&H

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By *ounty SocialsCouple
over a year ago

CARMARTHEN & SWANSEA

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

We omitted to say that no couples or single females arrived uninvited.

S&H

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I doubt it would be the same with no controls in place over who attends.

To prove this could S&H advise how many couples & single ladies attended who were NOT on the guest list as against how many guys arrived who were not invited?

We omitted to say that no couples or single females arrived uninvited.

S&H "

Says everything really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not joining in this convo. But I will say, if whoever runs the social ( I am local and don't go to socials)

I know a owner personally with established businesses in town. She told me about a social that took place in the pub earlier this year. She and the staff clicked after about 20 odd people shaking hands and greeting ect that it was a swingers thing. (She knows my lifestyle and I've told her about other city/ town socials) She said that although people gathered there, there were no complaints, no disrespect no mess and great profit that night. She mentioned she would have happily let this community use her establishment within rules.

I'm just saying alot of down to earth businesses around just ask the right people...

:Steps back into the darkness:

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who uses the excuse of organising a social to pick and choose who gets to attend should be left to it, there are many other socials out there that are much, much more inclusive and friendly.

I agree with Rosie here

I ran the Neath Day social for a few years and never limited or excluded anyone based on gender, relationship status or anything else. The numbers always seemed fairly balanced and as it was purely a social event, why would it matter if there were more men, more couples, more women etc than others?? The single men always seemed quite capable of socialising with each other aswell as the couples and women. You will often find that a proportion of single guys who say they will attend won't show anyway.

I am just glad it never seemed to attract the amount of hassle that this one seems to have

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