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By *rivate hire OP   Man
over a year ago

close to ystrad mynach

Don’t know if it’s just me but I can text chat all day confidently but I’ve been offered a meet and just couldn’t follow through with it as I’m too shy so anyone else in the same position message me if you want or reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All chat no balls...

You're one on many reason we only meet single males in clubs as they bottle it faster than a newbie single female.

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By *onbon7Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

That won’t go down well on here. If you arrange a meet and don’t turn up you’re seen as a time waster, the people you’re meeting put in the effort, it’s disrespectful if you don’t turn up. We had a single guy not turn up yesterday because he ‘forgot’. That’s 2 hours of our lives we won’t get back! If you don’t have the bells to go through with the meet, don’t start the chat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That won’t go down well on here. If you arrange a meet and don’t turn up you’re seen as a time waster, the people you’re meeting put in the effort, it’s disrespectful if you don’t turn up. We had a single guy not turn up yesterday because he ‘forgot’. That’s 2 hours of our lives we won’t get back! If you don’t have the bells to go through with the meet, don’t start the chat! "

this !

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By *rivate hire OP   Man
over a year ago

close to ystrad mynach

I told them before the meet way before

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By *-CrassClownMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Start by going to your local group social, it is utterly pointless being on the site if you know you can't meet others, maybe try building up your confidence and then coming back once you can meet.

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By *rivate hire OP   Man
over a year ago

close to ystrad mynach

Not a time waster As I told them in plenty of time in fact we hadn’t even arranged a time or place

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

As crassclown said a social is a very good idea, as you get to know some people off here and may get lucky that way so not meeting one on one and and would of spoken before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah not showing up after arranging a meet literally ruins things for you especially if the person is well known just suck it up and meet them my first meet was at 18 with a 40 year old everyone gets nervous just go with the flow

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By *ay.fabMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I would say go to social as ice breaker. Also try private clubs. Be confident what you have. Do not worry about big cock or gym body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sites saturated with keyboard wankers, love the idea of hookups etc, but never follow through. You've done yourself no favours X

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By *arrapsMan
over a year ago

port talbot


"The sites saturated with keyboard wankers, love the idea of hookups etc, but never follow through. You've done yourself no favours X"

Hit the nail smack on the head.

It’s difficult enough for us genuine men, when you start messing people about they get all defensive and block all contact from single men.

Either man up and meet or leave this site.

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By *rivate hire OP   Man
over a year ago

close to ystrad mynach


"The sites saturated with keyboard wankers, love the idea of hookups etc, but never follow through. You've done yourself no favours X

Hit the nail smack on the head.

It’s difficult enough for us genuine men, when you start messing people about they get all defensive and block all contact from single men.

Actually never backed out of the meet I was just asked if I was interested and said from the start that I don’t think I’m ready and the couple in question was understanding about it

Either man up and meet or leave this site."

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

The adrenaline rush of meeting someone new is often the main reason people are on here.

As said above, try going to a social either a group one or 1 on 1. If you're too shy to meet for a no pressure social then this may not be the site for you.

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By *ancubsaMan
over a year ago

Newport


"The adrenaline rush of meeting someone new is often the main reason people are on here.

As said above, try going to a social either a group one or 1 on 1. If you're too shy to meet for a no pressure social then this may not be the site for you."

I think you should have worded this post differently from the start incorporating the fact that you never actually set up a meet in the fist place. I have spoken with others and suddenly they stop communicating and not because I'm an ass lol.

I see you have just had a social with a lady so you're on the right track. Visit a few more socials and before you know it you're on your way. Socials can also be a little daunting if you don't know anyone but hopefully the more experienced people will keep an eye out and drag you into a conversation. It does make it easier if you do know people before you go and you can also chat with other that are planning to go to the socials. This is purely a friendship exercise and they won't be expecting you to drop your pant and roger them upon meeting of even after but you may come away with a few more friends.

Best of luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And here's me always getting either no reply or deleted messages

Chin up OP. Just need to build your confidence up a bit. Social interactions etc can be difficult for some, it's normal. Just battle through that anxiety!

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By *rivate hire OP   Man
over a year ago

close to ystrad mynach

Thanks and yes had my first social and went well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all bottle it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are too shy to show up you shouldn't be on here. Time wasters give us all a bad name.

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By *lease300Woman
over a year ago

merthyr


"Thanks and yes had my first social and went well "

It gets easier good luck x

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By *rShinyKnickersMan
over a year ago

BARRY

THIS is why use singletons find it difficult to meet! We kinda get tarred with the same brush.

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By *-CrassClownMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thanks and yes had my first social and went well "

Congrats, onwards and downward

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