FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By *adycardiff OP Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

I have had a few people arrange a meet and then cancel within the last hour or simply just go silent.

Is that the norm here or am I being used ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been stood up more times than I care to remember. You can only really put it down to experience

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By *adycardiff OP Woman
over a year ago

cardiff

Does anyone do anything to prevent it ? Like does getting a mobile number or something make it less likely ?

I dressed up all nice this morning to meet a guy and he messaged me saying he was on way. Then last minute cancels due to "car trouble"

It's just frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could swap numbers but theres no guarantee they will answer phone or return a text. It is frustrating. For what its worth he is an idiot for not meeting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On more than one occasion, I have chatted, arranged to meet, then hours before the meet 'user is no longer on site'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is all really bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have driven to Bristol and Cheltenham to be stood up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is all really bad"
plenty of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse than when this happens and they block you so you can’t even ask them why!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is it men or women are worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being straight I haven't been stood up by a man yet!! Lol

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

I arranged a meet once took nearly two hours getting ready drove to cardiff knocked on the door and some women answered and didn't have a clue wot I was on about I was all dressed up and just wanted the ground to open and swallow me up, it was so embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear what's wrong with folk

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By *TG1Man
over a year ago

Swansea

"So is it men or women are worse"

Both M & F are guilty of this. Why waste others time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So is it men or women are worse"
women I find if I say I'm meeting I'll be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never not turned up or had a let down

Some I wish hadn't turned up tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've also had somebody giving my phone number out to random people so nobody gets my number on here any more!

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

"I have had a few people arrange a meet and then cancel within the last hour or simply just go silent.

Is that the norm here or am I being used ?! "

Were they verified?

I've been very lucky. I've never been let down and I've never not shown either.

It's basic human decency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We arranged a meeting here a couple weeks ago.

Guy never showed, messaged him here, no reply.

Five days later, he messaged us...said he received a better offer earlier that day!

Also said we were his ‘last resort’, if nothing else turned up....thanks. A great way to make a couple feel great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a few last minute cancellations, which were frustrating, but never been stood up before, nor have I ever done it to anyone.

Sometimes timings don’t work out and rearrangements are required, which is completely understandable, but there’s no excuse for not showing at all. However, I know people it’s happened to, and the most plausible reason is that they’re either fake (maybe using someone else’s pictures) or they just got too nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's definitely reasons on times but most time wasters arnt worth anything they just thrive on the thrill and never meet x

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By *aucy sausageMan
over a year ago

Gentleshaw

Have had a few that arrange a meet and dont show

One particularly bad one was a seemingly nice couple, fairly local, good veris from males and couples

Drove to their post code.. text said.. nice car.. now get out and proove you have brought rubbers.. like an idiot, waved a box above my head..

Then nothing. Blocked on Fab and a dead line when calling them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had a few that arrange a meet and dont show

One particularly bad one was a seemingly nice couple, fairly local, good veris from males and couples

Drove to their post code.. text said.. nice car.. now get out and proove you have brought rubbers.. like an idiot, waved a box above my head..

Then nothing. Blocked on Fab and a dead line when calling them!

Odd lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a verified couple arrange to meet me at a country pub, about an hours journey from my house, they chatted until I was on my way and then went silent. They definitely messed me about on purpose as I gave them every chance to change their mind before I left. Some people are just dicks, but what can you do. Don't understand what people get out of it, if you arrange a meet, just bloody show up, if you want to back out do that too, what's the worst someone can call you for changing your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever been stood up once and I've never let anyone down for a meet so I must be coosing my meets right ?

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd

Sadly it’s par for the course. I tend to see it coming now. Had a meet arranged for Friday and despite being verified he’s known to be a time waster. He let me down less than an hour before the meet. I was so confident he would let me down I hadn’t even bothered getting ready. Neither did I let it bother me. But it’s more common now than it was a year ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly it’s par for the course. I tend to see it coming now. Had a meet arranged for Friday and despite being verified he’s known to be a time waster. He let me down less than an hour before the meet. I was so confident he would let me down I hadn’t even bothered getting ready. Neither did I let it bother me. But it’s more common now than it was a year ago. "

How did you know that he is he known to be a time waster?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few no shows, one as at the pub and over later nothing from the couple and then blocked me, how very rude lol.

If I arrange to meet will always turn up on time and always dress smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had a few no shows, one as at the pub and over later nothing from the couple and then blocked me, how very rude lol.

If I arrange to meet will always turn up on time and always dress smart"

Not all are the same unfortunately x

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By *ing-louisMan
over a year ago

Valleys

I got stood up last week. No message to say she wasnt coming, just deleted the profile later that night. Very annoying when you've driven half hour to meet someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah twice I’ve had people cancel. One just didn’t say anything until the next day and the other let me know in advance so all was well.

I’ve had to re arrange once too so I totally understand it can happen!

Reading some of these perhaps we should open a forum name and shame section !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed!!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone do anything to prevent it ? Like does getting a mobile number or something make it less likely ?

I dressed up all nice this morning to meet a guy and he messaged me saying he was on way. Then last minute cancels due to "car trouble"

Sadly an all too frequent occurrence. I've been stood up many times over the years. Their loss has often been someone else's gain though right?

Car trouble typically being the excuse. Or..."my friend just arrived"

It's just frustrating"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps...there are some good guys about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sort of giving up on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sort of giving up on that"

Don't be daft xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not worth the hastle x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think that after being here for a few years you can start to get a feel for people whilst messaging them.. the second we feel something isn't right we politely tell them and move on.

Touch wood we have been lucky and gut instinct has worked well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time we booked a hotel arranged a meet was chatting with them etc ,and then on the day cancelled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost count of the amount of meets I arranged as a single female where they either didn't show for me or another friend. Often they had arranged with more than one of us. I don't meet her as a single female anymore haven't found anyone worth the head space tbh X

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By *embslee1Man
over a year ago

pembroke

Honestly couldn't imagine not turning up to a meet. But then again I'm sex mad.

Guess some people just get pre-fun nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it's the norm.

You can report a profile for not turning up. Not much consolation on the day, but better than nothing

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By *rucker1111Man
over a year ago

crewe

That’s the trouble with this site there’s to many wannabes and haven’t got the balls to show up so frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been let down like a slow puncture in a Michelin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was let down 3 times in 1 week a while back. I’ve started to only arrange meets with people I’ve met at events and socials now. I do make the odd exception though.

There’s seems to be a pattern.... newbies, those who can’t accommodate and little or no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last time we booked a hotel arranged a meet was chatting with them etc ,and then on the day cancelled

That’s really not on.

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By *onny-n-clydeCouple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

Over the years we've been left hanging more times than we can remember. For us it has been couples that are the worst, no veri's or various good vari's there's no guarantee. As others have said, you do get a bit of a nose for BS, and we have on a few occasions not bothered getting ready because we knew they wouldn't show. Thankfully the good outweigh the bad.

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By *ancubsaMan
over a year ago

Newport

That is extremely annoying and what is nearly as bad is messaging back and forth and then they suddenly go dark. I always say that if we meet up and we really don't feel it then just have a drink and peel off. No harm done. I also find that people are so different in their profiles to RL and you can only gauge a person properly in RL. I won't stand someone up because it's bad manners irrespective of whether you know them well or not.

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By *mar0709Couple
over a year ago

South Wales

We had arranged two members of this site for a Bukkake last weekend, gave mobile numbers and location and YEP you guessed it "motorbike broke down" and "work came up" heard it all before and always report in honesty as we put so many guys off... thankfully two showed who were genuine

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By *ummer breeze300Woman
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Think I've been lucky I've had one cancell due to work but we met up 2 days later .have had some lovely socials and some not so good ones but that's part of being on here and that's why I have a social first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drove over twenty miles to meet a lady in a dump of a pub in Bristol where I waited for over an hour,gave up & drove twenty miles back home. Apparantly her other half wanted to chat & she got to the pub just after I left. Wasn't happy !

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By *liderxxMan
over a year ago

swansea

Nice to see a good long thread in this forum shame it’s because of time wasters on Fab tho!!

I keep it simple I actually read people’s profiles, veris and then from my point of view if I say I’m going to meet I ensure I don’t let them down, so far so good as as people have said on here you can see newbies, unverified married etc etc so do your homework lol!

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