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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We feel sick to the stomach that a friend we have know for 25 year have outed as in a pub full of people have this happens to any of you and what do we do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch, that's bad form on their part.

Some people have no respect for other people's situations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen this happen to a few people unfortunately, it's one of the reasons we try to stay under the radar.

Like you we'd be absolutely fuming and mortified. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We feel sick to the stomach that a friend we have know for 25 year have outed as in a pub full of people have this happens to any of you and what do we do xx"

Message me similar had happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, not as much discretion as there used to be X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is our fear. If it was us we would front it out. Show like... so what.... your lives that boring huh

Never the less a nasty thing to do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We been so careful the last few years the sad thing about it she was showing my sister as well x

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Sadly some people have a twisted desire for revenge, one upmanship, spite, jealousy, whatever it may be.

Just don't understand what makes anyone think they have the right to interfere in this way.

It's a weird world. We seldom agree in entirety with the next person. That doesn't mean either of us are right / wrong, just that we go about things differently.

Sadly these days this seems like a minority attitude at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, not as much discretion as there used to be X"

It’s awful at the moment

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By *-CrassClownMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"We feel sick to the stomach that a friend we have know for 25 year have outed as in a pub full of people have this happens to any of you and what do we do xx"

Dick move, no doubt about it.

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

100% a dick move. Unfortunately there are far more people who are untrustworthy nowadays.

It happened to us, front it out

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile and wave, smile and wave...

Or say you have a better sex life than they will ever have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's bloody awful! Some people have no regard for others in regards to being discreet.

I'd blag it. Act like you don't care and have nothing to be embarrassed about. That attitude will help things blow over very quickly, if you act like it doesn't bother you.... though I'd no longer have that person in my life at all. She does not deserve your friendship.

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats terrible by some we all get judge so much on here. We all know why we are here to enjoy sex in a safe legal way with others. Dave works for the police and Jill for the local government. Even though we are doing nothing wrong or illegal why do we feel we have to be so protective?? Part of it is because of idiots like that and some areas of society! X

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By *ve 63Woman
over a year ago

Newbridge

You never know half the people who were told secretly wish they had the guts to join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear this guys. If it was a male my advice would be bloody good hiding but I'm sure I read in the trail "she showed my Sister", I honestly don't know what to suggest unless maybe just front it up. You aren't doing anything wrong, just enjoying yourselves - so fuck them.

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Just laugh it off show them your enjoying life

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By *terobs6869Man
over a year ago

Llandudno

And what have you done wrong exactly?

Nothing illegal, immoral or anything to be ashamed of.

I'd walk a bit taller and smile nicely at the little people if I was you x

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By *ancardiff7Man
over a year ago

Near Cowbridge

Who ever she is, she's a cunt and no longer part of your life.

Secondly, own it. As lots of people have said just hold your head up high, say 'so what?' and don't be made to feel ashamed by anybody.

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By *exi_LexiTV/TS
over a year ago

caerphilly

As said above hold your head up high and show you don't give a fuck it's probably the best way to deal with it now it's out there and on the bright side there's no having to hide it no more but as for the friend well there is no friend don't give her the time of day horrible spiteful cow that she is xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have had to hide our profile for a bit to let this all blow over just people are sad got nothing better to do with the lives and secretly wishing they had balls to do something like this x

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By *yndon123Man
over a year ago

Hereford

"We have had to hide our profile for a bit to let this all blow over just people are sad got nothing better to do with the lives and secretly wishing they had balls to do something like this x"

That's the right attitude to have. X

Its old news now, crack on with your life leave them well alone as they will be judged in time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay strong you've done nothing wrong. Those who judge you don't deserve your time and thoughts.

This will make you stronger, whilst their envy and jealousy wI'll continue to eat away at them.

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By *appypaul69Man
over a year ago

vale

This is why I’m cautious on her even though I’m a single man. Some people just don’t care where as I like my private life to remain that way

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

"That's bloody awful! Some people have no regard for others in regards to being discreet.

Holly"
great advice and take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I allowed a social at one of my venues and a guest told my staff what the social was.

Never again!

Glad I had the day off and didn’t attend.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

"We have had to hide our profile for a bit to let this all blow over just people are sad got nothing better to do with the lives and secretly wishing they had balls to do something like this x"
I bet a lot off them would love to be in your shoes but will not admit to it rise above it and enjoy yourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I allowed a social at one of my venues and a guest told my staff what the social was.

Never again!

Glad I had the day off and didn’t attend. "

This is the first the organiser has heard about this & the social was invited back at the time... Hmmmm

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By *hriscum1Man
over a year ago

Brynmawr

Completely disrespectful to u, iv had samething an it's not nice

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

I had someone spreading it on Facebook that I was on here. Worse thing all my family been asking questions.

Worse for you that it's a old friend outed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh that's bad. You've nothing to be ashamed of though-it's people's lack of understanding that makes them think it's a bad thing to be swingers-you could be doing a whole lot worse! Hold your heads up high and laugh it off as them making a massive drama out of it all.xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a guy for a social and decided not to take things further as tured out we knew to many of the same people. He then got pissed and told my boss in the pub all about what we do!

I felt sick, angry , betrayed. All those feelings . I ended up coming clean to my boss and all is ok. We had some stern words with the guy I can tell you. Apologies and excuses as he was pissed and didn't know what he was saying just aren't good enough for me. Its put me off fab tbh. We have teenage kids to think about too xxmiss

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"We met a guy for a social and decided not to take things further as tured out we knew to many of the same people. He then got pissed and told my boss in the pub all about what we do!

Yeah thats pretty awful. I would lose my job if that happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We feel sick to the stomach that a friend we have know for 25 year have outed as in a pub full of people have this happens to any of you and what do we do xx"

It's terrible that this has been done to you, your private life is yours and should remain yours, people need to respect that, of course, this is something that all should do, it's unfortunate that not everyone owns the same principals.

In reply to others, we live in an age where people do all sorts behind closed doors, open minded persons are very aware of this, as long as we aren't breaking the law, what we do should have no bearing on our work or social lives, some people may not understand but that doesn't make us wrong for seeking or enjoying what we do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met a guy for a social and decided not to take things further as tured out we knew to many of the same people. He then got pissed and told my boss in the pub all about what we do!

Yeah thats pretty awful. I would lose my job if that happened to me."

See the consequences of peoples big mouths can ruin people's lives! Imagine how awful that would be. I'm very lucky my boss is open and understanding. Not everyone is that lucky. People are bastard selfish xxmiss

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

I was black mailed once so I confronted them told them do what you have to do but don’t blame me when you go down under the section 1964 after that had no further notice

Best not to show your weak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had guys doing the same, threatening to send my pics to work, post them on FB & one said he would post my face pics publicly on here. I just front it out now but I'm not so friendly or sharing anymore. I trust a rare few people & we don't share face pics much anymore X

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By *r sugarandspiceMan
over a year ago

South Wales

"I've had guys doing the same, threatening to send my pics to work, post them on FB & one said he would post my face pics publicly on here. I just front it out now but I'm not so friendly or sharing anymore. I trust a rare few people & we don't share face pics much anymore X"

Looks like we were in the same boat but sailed away happily lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s just wrong x

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

Sadly this is all you hear about more & more.

I have had it done many times to myself but I'm lucky everyone knows what we do & dont have to hide anything.

But you all are right it can destroy family & friend circles.

Back last year after being married for 2weeks some dickhead who was a fb from a few years ago decided to put 2 videos of myself on a porn site....

These videos were taken on my phone at the time and still to this day I have no idea how he got them.

The police were informed straightway!

Luckily for myself I have the most amazing husband & friends around me as it could of destroyed my marriage.

We know hes still on here doing what he does but as we keep saying karma is a bitch!

Sad thing was there was 2 other womens videos on there who had no idea they were!

Best way to deal with idiots like this are to let your friends know as word & mouth on here goes along way we did!

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

"Sadly this is all you hear about more & more.

I have had it done many times to myself but I'm lucky everyone knows what we do & dont have to hide anything.

But you all are right it can destroy family & friend circles.

Back last year after being married for 2weeks some dickhead who was a fb from a few years ago decided to put 2 videos of myself on a porn site....

These videos were taken on my phone at the time and still to this day I have no idea how he got them.

The police were informed straightway!

Luckily for myself I have the most amazing husband & friends around me as it could of destroyed my marriage.

We know hes still on here doing what he does but as we keep saying karma is a bitch!

Sad thing was there was 2 other womens videos on there who had no idea they were!

Best way to deal with idiots like this are to let your friends know as word & mouth on here goes along way we did!

And still to this day after not hearing from him for years I dont understand why he did it....

So I'm guessing it was jealousy!

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"Sadly this is all you hear about more & more.

I have had it done many times to myself but I'm lucky everyone knows what we do & dont have to hide anything.

But you all are right it can destroy family & friend circles.

Back last year after being married for 2weeks some dickhead who was a fb from a few years ago decided to put 2 videos of myself on a porn site....

These videos were taken on my phone at the time and still to this day I have no idea how he got them.

The police were informed straightway!

Luckily for myself I have the most amazing husband & friends around me as it could of destroyed my marriage.

We know hes still on here doing what he does but as we keep saying karma is a bitch!

Sad thing was there was 2 other womens videos on there who had no idea they were!

Best way to deal with idiots like this are to let your friends know as word & mouth on here goes along way we did!

And still to this day after not hearing from him for years I dont understand why he did it....

So I'm guessing it was jealousy!"

Mrs Oarsome he was out to cause trouble love. Lucky you went to the police x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay strong, they obviously have issues, you are far better than they will ever be. Your relationship is stronger, they seem tainted by jealousy of your strong bond. Basically fuck em and carry on x

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

"Sadly this is all you hear about more & more.

I have had it done many times to myself but I'm lucky everyone knows what we do & dont have to hide anything.

But you all are right it can destroy family & friend circles.

Back last year after being married for 2weeks some dickhead who was a fb from a few years ago decided to put 2 videos of myself on a porn site....

These videos were taken on my phone at the time and still to this day I have no idea how he got them.

The police were informed straightway!

Luckily for myself I have the most amazing husband & friends around me as it could of destroyed my marriage.

We know hes still on here doing what he does but as we keep saying karma is a bitch!

Sad thing was there was 2 other womens videos on there who had no idea they were!

Best way to deal with idiots like this are to let your friends know as word & mouth on here goes along way we did!

And still to this day after not hearing from him for years I dont understand why he did it....

So I'm guessing it was jealousy!

Mrs Oarsome he was out to cause trouble love. Lucky you went to the police x"

He so was and yes as soon as we seen it the police was rang as you know

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly

"Stay strong, they obviously have issues, you are far better than they will ever be. Your relationship is stronger, they seem tainted by jealousy of your strong bond. Basically fuck em and carry on x"

Luckily my husband knows everything & we met on here so there was no secrets & still no secrets.

And we are stronger than every.

What ever he was hoping to achieve he didnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly this is all you hear about more & more.

I have had it done many times to myself but I'm lucky everyone knows what we do & dont have to hide anything.

But you all are right it can destroy family & friend circles.

Back last year after being married for 2weeks some dickhead who was a fb from a few years ago decided to put 2 videos of myself on a porn site....

These videos were taken on my phone at the time and still to this day I have no idea how he got them.

The police were informed straightway!

Luckily for myself I have the most amazing husband & friends around me as it could of destroyed my marriage.

We know hes still on here doing what he does but as we keep saying karma is a bitch!

Sad thing was there was 2 other womens videos on there who had no idea they were!

Best way to deal with idiots like this are to let your friends know as word & mouth on here goes along way we did!

And still to this day after not hearing from him for years I dont understand why he did it....

So I'm guessing it was jealousy!"

Unfortunately there are some extremely bitter and strange people on here, it pretty much mirrors real life, 99% of people are great but the 1% can cause untold damage and it's not always easy to spot them.

We really feel sorry for anyone this sort of thing has happened to as we'd hate it to happen to us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We met a guy for a social and decided not to take things further as tured out we knew to many of the same people. He then got pissed and told my boss in the pub all about what we do!

Yeah we do also so putting our family first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met a guy for a social and decided not to take things further as tured out we knew to many of the same people. He then got pissed and told my boss in the pub all about what we do!

Yeah we do also so putting our family first

I dont blame you! It's just not worth it. I can't remember the last time we met on here. We tend to stick to clubs , socials and events now. It's rare we meet on fab.

I hope everything settles down soon for you. Awful position to be in xxmiss

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