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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To all you experience do fabbers our there a question as this has happened 3 times this week .you see a profile that interests you so you message .you then get a positive reply saying yes we would like to chat so you respectfully ask when .then you get no message even though you know it’s been read .so you ask if they /she has changed thier/her mind which is ok .instead of a respectful answer you find yourself blocked .That to me is just rude or is it standard on here ?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"To all you experience do fabbers our there a question as this has happened 3 times this week .you see a profile that interests you so you message .you then get a positive reply saying yes we would like to chat so you respectfully ask when .then you get no message even though you know it’s been read .so you ask if they /she has changed thier/her mind which is ok .instead of a respectful answer you find yourself blocked .That to me is just rude or is it standard on here ? "

I think its just confusion over what you interpret as "chat".

They probably mean they are happy to swap messages, whilst you mean to actually chat on the phone.

Most won't give out phone numbers, at least not straight away, and your subsequent message(s) may be seen as "pushy", hence the block.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"To all you experience do fabbers our there a question as this has happened 3 times this week .you see a profile that interests you so you message .you then get a positive reply saying yes we would like to chat so you respectfully ask when .then you get no message even though you know it’s been read .so you ask if they /she has changed thier/her mind which is ok .instead of a respectful answer you find yourself blocked .That to me is just rude or is it standard on here ? "

How soon after did you ask if they’d changed their mind?

If it was within a day or two, I imagine that would seem pushy to a lot of people.

To be honest, I wouldn’t send that second message at all. If they are interested, they’ll reply.

It’s easy to think you’re the centre of their world when you get a reply. In reality, they’re probably trying to find time to chat to lots of friends/people they are interested in. That’s before you factor in work, mowing the lawn, taking the kids to football practice etc etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is a tool to be used like any other filter & no one needs to justify why its used. They may have simply changed their minds & that's their perogative, best to move on & not read too much into it tbh X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No request for telephone numbers ever requested chat only ever on here and always give them a couple of days to ask if they are still interested .dont accept blocking is just another filter .if you have asked to chat and somone has take the time to reply if you changed your mind just say so.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"No request for telephone numbers ever requested chat only ever on here and always give them a couple of days to ask if they are still interested .dont accept blocking is just another filter .if you have asked to chat and somone has take the time to reply if you changed your mind just say so."

I find your approach v strange. We chat to loads of people. We never ask if we can chat, it's just a natural progression from a message. Sometimes the chat stops, we don't announce it will stop, it just does, then sometimes it starts again. It's more natural. If we meet from that we meet. It sounds like you see 'chat' as some sort of contract. It's not. We would block to.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Blocking is used very widely on here.

The main reason is that saying a polite “no” is often followed up by a “why not” or a stream of abuse even.

I’ve seen women friends’ inboxes - the nonsense they get is unbelievable. I’d be blocking like crazy if I was woman.

Blocking is just the Fab equivalent of not interested, or no longer interested. People have said the site rules actually state that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No request for telephone numbers ever requested chat only ever on here and always give them a couple of days to ask if they are still interested .dont accept blocking is just another filter .if you have asked to chat and somone has take the time to reply if you changed your mind just say so."

There's no need for you to accept, it's a tool made available by the site that some prefer to use rather than be left open to rudeness. It allows people to be clear, if you're blocked there's no doubt & can be no further messages or confusion, we proactively block ahead of any interaction.

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

OP - You'll learn to grow a thick skin on here - If you don't already have one.

Remain positive and friendly, trying to get into a but why not conversation. Each time you're knocked back isn't the way to go.

The main trust of this site ?? is supposed to be about fun without the drama.

Sending messages to people you haven't already met isn't normally very successful. If you're looking for meets.

You're much better off going to a social. At least there you know you'll be talking to real people.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Also...

"as this has happened 3 times this week "

As this is something that's happened a lot in a short period of time, I would have a think about your approach, and maybe modify it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be rude to you but you don’t know how they’ve been spoken to in the past after initially agreeing and changing their mind or even for just plainly rejecting. I’ve seen a lot more be rude after they’ve been told no and to me it would seem easier for them to just hit the block button to stop the contact.

Don’t see it as an attack on you or your personality just accept that others have spoilt it by not being able to take no as an answer to not wanting to meet.

I’ve not seen if I’ve been blocked as I don’t tend to send a message after I’ve sent one and they’ve read it unless they’ve put a new status up and it intrigues me to talking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many times I've been starting to enjoy a random conversation and then all of a sudden they stop chatting I could understand if they didn't see the message, because I know women get lots of messages... But when they see it, I'm left wondering what did I say wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fed up of people being rude on here and abusive. There is no need for it. They are the ones who should not be one here and for us girls or women we just cant handle it any more

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