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Reasons why some choose not to verify

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Please discuss....

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By *wholeLotOfRosieWoman
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Please discuss.... "


"Please discuss.... "

I refused to veri a guy because it was a lousy meet. In fact I walked out. He messaged me the next day and asked for a veri anyway. I declined.

One guy I know always refused to veri. He’s playing around behind his FBs back so keeps his meets secret from her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a social a while ago and we just never clicked with the couple, nothing wrong with them but it just didn't happen so we never left a veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got verified for the first time today

Woohoo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We had a social a while ago and we just never clicked with the couple, nothing wrong with them but it just didn't happen so we never left a veri."

This

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By *nked_DemonWoman
over a year ago

near Cardiff

I always veri those who turn up,but I'm selective about what u say. One guy got a "Well he exists, that's all I'm prepared to say on the matter" and promptly blocked him

If it's a good meet it's a good veri, if it's not it's generally. "Nice guy, showed up"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always veri those who turn up,but I'm selective about what u say. One guy got a "Well he exists, that's all I'm prepared to say on the matter" and promptly blocked him

If it's a good meet it's a good veri, if it's not it's generally. "Nice guy, showed up""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't had a bad social yet so always veri. We couldn't to start as we were not verified ourselves but we always veri a social

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Not much point in verifying if you're gonna block as it disappears!

You can tell the ones that have followers or someone as they either don't want to be verified or won't display them.

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By *pples123456Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I don't veri for obvious reason oh them pasta boys.. unless they ask for one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s only been once I haven’t verified someone, and that was cos it ended badly and I didn’t want to encourage him, nor could I with any conscience recommend him to anyone else.

If someone makes an effort, then I will too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please discuss....

Please discuss....

I refused to veri a guy because it was a lousy meet. In fact I walked out. He messaged me the next day and asked for a veri anyway. I declined.

One guy I know always refused to veri. He’s playing around behind his FBs back so keeps his meets secret from her. "

My fb used to do this

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Because, if they get "discovered" on here by their partner, they can say they never actually did anything naughty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to say this remark was aimed at us. It was back last year so why its been brought up again. Sad

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By *rishbottomcockloverMan
over a year ago

NCW

Some 'straight' guys I have met, don't give me a verification, for obvious reasons that they want to be considered straight!

I don't mind, am totally discrete and respect their concerns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One or two verifications is all that's required.Why on earth some folks feel the need to have dozens is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One or two verifications is all that's required.Why on earth some folks feel the need to have dozens is beyond me."

Some people are social butterflies and may have tons of veris but a large percentage of those will be from social gatherings and not play meets.

We like to read veris as they tell a lot about the person.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I only verify when they verify me or visa versa.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"One or two verifications is all that's required.Why on earth some folks feel the need to have dozens is beyond me.

Some people are social butterflies and may have tons of veris but a large percentage of those will be from social gatherings and not play meets.

We like to read veris as they tell a lot about the person."

Exactly this. Also if you've been onsite a long while recent verifications shows the profile is still actively looking for meets or socials

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin


"One or two verifications is all that's required.Why on earth some folks feel the need to have dozens is beyond me."

We don't really see it this way. It's a swingers site. If we meet and get on we verify. We find that veris give us a good idea of the type of meets someone enjoys, and so allows us to more easily choose who we might approach.

It's not a judgement in any way it's simply an indication to us about whether there might be a fit, and we read them in conjunction with someone's profile.

If someone hides most of their veris we tend to look no further and move on.

A large number of veris doesn't phase us. It's a swingers site and we are looking for other swinging partners.

Others may be looking for other things & that's fine by us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some really interesting views on this. Thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One or two verifications is all that's required.Why on earth some folks feel the need to have dozens is beyond me.

We don't really see it this way. It's a swingers site. If we meet and get on we verify. We find that veris give us a good idea of the type of meets someone enjoys, and so allows us to more easily choose who we might approach.

It's not a judgement in any way it's simply an indication to us about whether there might be a fit, and we read them in conjunction with someone's profile.

If someone hides most of their veris we tend to look no further and move on.

A large number of veris doesn't phase us. It's a swingers site and we are looking for other swinging partners.

Others may be looking for other things & that's fine by us."

Each of their own...though I have my thoughts on that.

I've met females who don't want verifications.Nor do I need more.

I have one or two,and thats enough,which then enable me to contact those who don't meet guys with unverified guys.

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By *he Watcher2018Man
over a year ago

swansea

I don't do or receive veri's for the simple reason of anonymity, what happens at a meet stays at a meet, as long as there is good communication or a social beforehand I don't see a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do or receive veri's for the simple reason of anonymity, what happens at a meet stays at a meet, as long as there is good communication or a social beforehand I don't see a problem"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont always verify as some people have only met socially and not really chatted etc. I do get asked if I could verify but politely decline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like some people were right.

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin


"I don't do or receive veri's for the simple reason of anonymity, what happens at a meet stays at a meet, as long as there is good communication or a social beforehand I don't see a problem

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How does this relate to anonymity?

Do you simply mean you don't want others to know which other fabbers you've met?

You can hide the veris you don't wish to display (we've done this where names were mentioned for example).

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Think I’m gonna stop verifying ... had a meet yesterday and verified him he’s now hidden my verification but displayed the only one he has not verified me .... yep certain males hide them as they don’t wish to appear as meeting or upset other fems ... all very childish think it’s time to be choosy with my verifications

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

My understanding of a verification is to prove that the person/ persons you met are genuine.

Nothing to do with if you had a good time or not.

After all what is good for 1 may not be good for another.

We all have off days ect but that does not mean we are not genuine.

Failing to give verification's just leaves the door wide open for all the fakes to continue to operate. And is bloody ignorant as far as we are concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always verifi even if it was just a social meet. Its slightly annoying when u take the time to write one and don't get one in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had women contact men I’ve met and slag me off to them so I don’t display who mine are from anymore. One guy is a guy I’ve known and shagged a few times since 2014 and he would screen shot the messages sent to him from random women in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't show them because a lot of women get jealous or possessive, it just opens up a way for abuse.

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town

I tended to only veri from socials. It's rare for me to veri from play meets unless they've sent one first. Tbh I think having to many put people off

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Social meet veris are pointless. It does not prove in any way shape or form that you have met genuine swingers.

I have seen genuine couples on here with 100's of social veris and never played.

It just means you met a person or persons who like a drink and chat lol.

Look up the definition of swinging.

There is no mention of a (social side).

Why not veri everyone you meet in the pub,super market or church gathering lol

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"Social meet veris are pointless. It does not prove in any way shape or form that you have met genuine swingers.

I have seen genuine couples on here with 100's of social veris and never played.

It just means you met a person or persons who like a drink and chat lol.

Look up the definition of swinging.

There is no mention of a (social side).

Why not veri everyone you meet in the pub,super market or church gathering lol "

If you say so lol of course I'm not a swinger, I've no need to prove I'm genuine to you. Those who've met me know how genuine a I am lol

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Not a swinger? Ok so what would people be proving? That you are a genuine man? This would not need proof as none would doubt you are a genuine man. Our vicar is a genuine man as is the postman. I have no reason to doubt that and as far as I know neither of them have veris lol.

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Not a swinger? Ok so what would people be proving? That you are a genuine man? This would not need proof as none would doubt you are a genuine man. Our vicar is a genuine man as is the postman. I have no reason to doubt that and as far as I know neither of them have veris lol. If you are not a swinger then why would you be a member of a swinging site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social meet veris are pointless. It does not prove in any way shape or form that you have met genuine swingers.

I have seen genuine couples on here with 100's of social veris and never played.

It just means you met a person or persons who like a drink and chat lol.

Look up the definition of swinging.

There is no mention of a (social side).

Why not veri everyone you meet in the pub,super market or church gathering lol "

You should read what you posted before this. It totally contradicts what you say here.

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Socialmeets have nothing to do with swinging.

If you meet for swinging then it is only polite to give a vari if the person/persons turn up with the intention of SWINGING.

Defintition of swinging is is the dictionary and mentions nothing about a social side.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"Socialmeets have nothing to do with swinging.

If you meet for swinging then it is only polite to give a vari if the person/persons turn up with the intention of SWINGING.

Defintition of swinging is is the dictionary and mentions nothing about a social side.

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I don't think anyone actually conforms to the definition of a swinger. Everyone adapts it to them personally!

A lot of people attend organised socials and gain a lot of verifications from these. That doesn't mean they're not genuine swingers. They are networking and meeting people in a relaxed environment to then go on to play.

Just cause someone only shows their social verifications doesn't mean they don't have play ones they may just not choose to show them as they are personal to them

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By *uprinolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

Point taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont show my veris as I am really shy

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

I attend social events to network. As a single female on here it's a good way to meet and gauge whether I'm attracted enough to someone to want to meet them in an intimate setting. I don't show all my verifications. The play meets are for my memories

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy "
pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that...

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that... "

Me too shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socialmeets have nothing to do with swinging.

If you meet for swinging then it is only polite to give a vari if the person/persons turn up with the intention of SWINGING.

Defintition of swinging is is the dictionary and mentions nothing about a social side.

I don't think anyone actually conforms to the definition of a swinger. Everyone adapts it to them personally!

A lot of people attend organised socials and gain a lot of verifications from these. That doesn't mean they're not genuine swingers. They are networking and meeting people in a relaxed environment to then go on to play.

Just cause someone only shows their social verifications doesn't mean they don't have play ones they may just not choose to show them as they are personal to them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that...

Me too shy "

And I just spat my coffee every Where xx

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that...

Me too shy

And I just spat my coffee every Where xx"
Dribbler....

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that...

Me too shy

And I just spat my coffee every Where xxDribbler.... "

Hahahaha don't waste coffee ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I can’t remember their username did I really say that out loud haha true tho x

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By *cedGemsWoman
over a year ago

South West Wales ;-)


"I don't show them because a lot of women get jealous or possessive, it just opens up a way for abuse."

Sadly the same applies to males too It's about choice and attraction .. nothing more in our book (and the sex hehe), yet some have the attitude your 'fair game' being on here and 'expect' to meet just by conversing. Don't need to prove anything x

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By *cedGemsWoman
over a year ago

South West Wales ;-)


"I dont show my veris as I am really shy pmsfl.....pissed my pants reading that...

Me too shy

And I just spat my coffee every Where xxDribbler....

Hahahaha don't waste coffee ffs "

Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please discuss....

Please discuss....

I refused to veri a guy because it was a lousy meet. In fact I walked out. He messaged me the next day and asked for a veri anyway. I declined. Some ugly fuglys like to cause trouble

One guy I know always refused to veri. He’s playing around behind his FBs back so keeps his meets secret from her. "

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By *idingawayCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It really annoys me. I veri everyone. I expect one back. if I don’t write something lovely then that’s a different story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love a few veris!

Oh wait I need to actually meet people first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once have I not left a veri...

and that was because he ignored my request to use a condom.

when I challenged him saying no and pushing him off me he said ‘oh I was only playing’ ...and did the same again another 2 times!! .... grrr I was not happy

(which is probably another forum topic)

Sadly, he deleted his profile before I could report him ...

However, someone said to me recently .., you never see a bad one

Food for thought eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few people from here and because there's no connect we just agree to not veri, no point someone saying "they seem nice"

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