FabSwingers.com forum: Who hates time wasters?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time wasters you put all your effort into messaging them getting all down and dirty, making the build up for the meet exciting then they remove their account, how frustrating, is there actually anyone that will pull through with what they say!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

The mistake you are making is the dirty chat, the profiles you are messaging are guys getting their rocks off by stringing you along and getting you to talk dirty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We talk to couples and females only and it’s happinging to both accounts really is so strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get this in general this is my second account after a relationship break & its worse now than ever unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So annoying!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"We talk to couples and females only and it’s happinging to both accounts really is so strange "

I'm not sure you are getting it.

People start up fake female and couple profiles, for the purposes of getting access to genuine peoples private pics, and also they get off on dirty chat.

Treat EVERY new profile as fake until THEY prove otherwise, all the crap excuses are just that, crap, one easy way to out timewasters is to ask them to ring you, they can withhold their number so there is no risk to them.

Make sure your phone number isn't linked to any social media accounts, or buy a cheap "burner" phone just for swinging.

In the past month or so, we have had quite a number of approaches, and about 60% have been fake in one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We talk to couples and females only and it’s happinging to both accounts really is so strange

I'm not sure you are getting it.

People start up fake female and couple profiles, for the purposes of getting access to genuine peoples private pics, and also they get off on dirty chat.

Make sure your phone number isn't linked to any social media accounts, or buy a cheap "burner" phone just for swinging.

In the past month or so, we have had quite a number of approaches, and about 60% have been fake in one way or another."

Perfect advice apart from the speaking on the phone bit, I refuse to do that lol. But yeah the rest is sound & you're right op the effort you put in isn't worth it, we no longer meet here, we turn up at a club & just enjoy what ever fun takes place. We don't even chat beforehand anymore because most of the people we have fun with aren't on here. Plus you may find most the meeting here goes on via kik groups nowadays, I'm told that's where the 'happening' crowd hangs out, that's a quote BTW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of time wasters in the short time I've been here, one even tried to get me to prepay for the hotel for the meet with no intention of making it, thankfully I was getting wise to him.

I've also had a bad experience with someone I befriended here, I won't go into details because I honestly don't know what the truth of the matter is, all I know is that it upset me more than I'd like.

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By *oshker71Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I wouldn’t say some are even time wasters,

They are just idiots & very devious they string people along with there Bullshit & lies with no intention of meeting up.

They are either sick in the head knowing what people go thru to prepare for a meet or just plain thick as shit. .....rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few of them, agreed times and places then come the day, silence!

Let people know I've got plans then I end up wasting half a day, i understand things happen but at least let us know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Timewasters are so annoying, especially when you arrange to meet at a public place for a social and they just don't turn up, really bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 uptill now and went along too, fucking piss takers hope they get caught out should be a name and shame page Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 uptill now and went along too, fucking piss takers hope they get caught out should be a name and shame page Haha "

I read today that you should report time wasters to admin, they allegedly will keep an eye on their activity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 uptill now and went along too, fucking piss takers hope they get caught out should be a name and shame page Haha

I read today that you should report time wasters to admin, they allegedly will keep an eye on their activity"

Last one deleted profile day after so not able to report now oh well be more carefull now Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you guys you’ve all been so helpful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry people are wasting your time. People are mostly shitehawks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being a bloke on here then you'll see the timewasters and fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There so many devious people on here that it has made everyone over cautious (rightly so) it seems that no one trusts no one! Make things difficult!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There so many devious people on here that it has made everyone over cautious (rightly so) it seems that no one trusts no one! Make things difficult!"

Can we trust your a marathon man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pic and credentials please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha, only on request from females on a thread, blame them timewasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"haha, only on request from females on a thread, blame them timewasters!

Well that was a waste of time, was feeling like we got to know each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just the men and couples on here that get messed around either.

I guess it’s just a part of fab life. These days I’m not so naive to it, and if something doesn’t feel right then I won’t meet. No hard and fast rules but definitely trust your instincts.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not just the men and couples on here that get messed around either.

I guess it’s just a part of fab life. These days I’m not so naive to it, and if something doesn’t feel right then I won’t meet. No hard and fast rules but definitely trust your instincts.

Good luck! "

I wouldn't waste your time,not at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not just the men and couples on here that get messed around either.

I guess it’s just a part of fab life. These days I’m not so naive to it, and if something doesn’t feel right then I won’t meet. No hard and fast rules but definitely trust your instincts.

Good luck!

I wouldn't waste your time,not at all! "

Do you know the time? I mean, didn’t you lose your watch in very unfortunate circumstances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not just the men and couples on here that get messed around either.

I guess it’s just a part of fab life. These days I’m not so naive to it, and if something doesn’t feel right then I won’t meet. No hard and fast rules but definitely trust your instincts.

Good luck!

I wouldn't waste your time,not at all!

Do you know the time? I mean, didn’t you lose your watch in very unfortunate circumstances? "

Haha always one eagle eye keeping on the goings on. Was unfortunate at the time but I've learned to keep face and tick along nicely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s so hard to actually find nice genuine females that actually want to meet and not just say it x

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house

Single fems get let down too....hence cba to meet off here anymore..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had any for a long time, fortunately. I tend to talk for a while, to establish a rapport and don't engage in sex talk. Those that are only after wank fodder tend to disappear rather quickly, if they aren't getting that itch scratched.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't had any for a long time, fortunately. I tend to talk for a while, to establish a rapport and don't engage in sex talk. Those that are only after wank fodder tend to disappear rather quickly, if they aren't getting that itch scratched. "

I'm the same lol, not many men, women or couples chat for long once you cut out the sexy stuff. Helps to out those who don't fit my preference X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s very true they soon go if you don’t give them that itch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single fems get let down too....hence cba to meet off here anymore.."

I’m sure there’s plenty of people out there that will actually want to meet you what we can see you have a stunning body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would have to agree with comment about giving them your mobile number hey presto they vanish its a pain but how do fab control it xxxx

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By *ackwoody11Man
over a year ago

swansea

It happens to all worth getting to know people through mail first

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By *om Bert2020Man
over a year ago

Jersey / Swansea

I have had meeting with and Skyped some very nice folks on here.

But have had to many time wasters inbetween which spoils the site.

You only need to see some of the responses to some of the forum postings to know there are a load of time wasters and idiots about.

But when you do get genuine meet ups the real folks are great and fun people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse than someone wasting your time. We have limited time to meet so would hate this to happen to us

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now we have a baby it makes it worse as we only have limited time to meet and when the don’t show up it’s annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's hugely frustrating is seeing so many status's moaning about time wasting single guys . I'm verified, genuine and never rude , nor have I ever let anyone down on here but still given very little opportunity .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come across a lot of time wasters on here, I find it more strange because I'm not actually after anything. The only thing I'm offering is advice and a massage, I'm not asking for anything in return.

I have had more cups of green tea in costa on my own than I should lol.

It wouldn't be so frustrating if they are just honest and giving the real reason for any actions.

After all I'm only trying to teach someone about themselves and if they can't be open about how they feel, the things I do wouldn't take them to the next level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone said above you should try being a bloke on here.... even the time wasters haven't got time for me lol

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By *emon DelightMan
over a year ago

South Wales

"What's hugely frustrating is seeing so many status's moaning about time wasting single guys . I'm verified, genuine and never rude , nor have I ever let anyone down on here but still given very little opportunity . "

I share you’re frustration, dude. I’m also genuine, polite, friendly and have received some great verifications - yet I struggle to be noticed amongst so many timewasters and fakes.

It’s no wonder so many of the ladies on here are losing faith/trust in men - makes it so much harder for the rest of us genuine guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few!

Arranged a social then morning of the social or day before Nothing. Profile is either gone or blocked. No reply to emails. No show. I did think i was doing something wrong but tbh I've had quite a few good meets and no complaints. This was the reason I left FAB before.

The problem I think is its too easy to sign up to FAB and have access to emails arrange meets and see other people's profiles as a basic user at minimum cost.

Maybe you should have to verify yourself and pay the member fee before you can see profiles in full and contact people directly. I'm not adverse to this.

Then have a temporary blacklist and if you don't show to a meet without contacting the other person your on the blacklist for say 14 days. Admin control the blacklist. But then there are extenuating circumstances to consider.

So I don't think that there's a solution to please everyone I'm afraid.

Just a suggestion. Don't shoot me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been very fortunate in the short time of being on fab, and have not encountered any time wasters yet. What I do get a lot of is silly, immature messages, often rude too, despite taking the time to offer polite reply. The ratio of men to women is very high. Often find you are mass deleting, and potentially missing some good, genuine people. My advice would be to put filters on, and search for what you want yourself. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unfortunately we already have a filter it seems to be couples profile that talk to us but seems to be male always talking then they vanish as if they hiding the fact they were talking lol

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

I had 2 no shows today. Both tried to say that I wasn't there but I know that I was there. Nevermind

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By *efByOrgasmsMan
over a year ago

Heads of the Valleys

Just discovered that the 2 no shows was the same person.

How else would the one know the other fabname i was messaging

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