FabSwingers.com forum: Delusion of grandeur

By *amie.cardiff1980 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Ive been on and off this forum for a while now, quite enjoy having a nose and participating in the threads but 'some' people on here really make me laugh and they definitely have delusion of grandeur. Not sure that these same people would be that way in the 'real world'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so unimportant I had to google what that term you used meant

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By *amie.cardiff1980 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I'm so unimportant I had to google what that term you used meant

I googled it to make sure i spelt it correct lol (Shhhhh)

Jokes aside, just be nice to each other. Not too much to ask in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's egotism as opposed to grandiose delusions ..

However, the same men that complain about such traits are the ones who allow it - by quite frankly, messaging those they may not even find attractive with sweet talk..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's egotism as opposed to grandiose delusions ..

However, the same men that complain about such traits are the ones who allow it - by quite frankly, messaging those they may not even find attractive with sweet talk..

Very much this

Desperate men hurling themselves at the slightest hint of fanny is bound to give some women a false sense of attractiveness (if that's even a word)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's egotism as opposed to grandiose delusions ..

However, the same men that complain about such traits are the ones who allow it - by quite frankly, messaging those they may not even find attractive with sweet talk..

Very much this

Desperate men hurling themselves at the slightest hint of fanny is bound to give some women a false sense of attractiveness (if that's even a word)"

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By *amie.cardiff1980 OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Agree with both of you, some of the blokes are to blame when they message women they wouldnt be seen dead with if they bumped into their mates on a night out. Just need to keep it real lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree with both of you, some of the blokes are to blame when they message women they wouldnt be seen dead with if they bumped into their mates on a night out. Just need to keep it real lol"

Nobody should drop their standards, even if just for a fumble ..

It's not kind ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really? Maybe I'm reading this thread wrong but it isn't just about looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? Maybe I'm reading this thread wrong but it isn't just about looks

No, I completely agree - attraction is not exclusive to looks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that I must be deluded by false optimism.....it's a curse really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about justified feelings of grandeur?

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By *obbo44Man
over a year ago

Swansea

I personally blame it all on trecco bay , everything was going as it should and people were happy and the the hall of mirrors closed and had a end of season sale and BAM it all changed shocking experience for everyone involved .

Great mirrors though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally blame it all on trecco bay , everything was going as it should and people were happy and the the hall of mirrors closed and had a end of season sale and BAM it all changed shocking experience for everyone involved .

Great mirrors though

Really great. It's the only mirror I use

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By *obbo44Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Great mirrors though

Really great. It's the only mirror I use

Ha and me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? Maybe I'm reading this thread wrong but it isn't just about looks

Desirability maybe a better choice of words Peach. Certainly isn't just a looks thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this however surely the only way for there to be a change is for men not to be desperate to fuck any hole that’s available?

If men on fab only pursued those they were genuinely attracted to and wanted to engage with anyone who isn’t necessarily attractive/desirable wouldn’t get the same level of attention....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get this however surely the only way for there to be a change is for men not to be desperate to fuck any hole that’s available?

If men on fab only pursued those they were genuinely attracted to and wanted to engage with anyone who isn’t necessarily attractive/desirable wouldn’t get the same level of attention...."

It's an age thing too. In my 20's and 30's the only criteria was warm blood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really? Maybe I'm reading this thread wrong but it isn't just about looks

Desirability maybe a better choice of words Peach. Certainly isn't just a looks thing"

Desirability is a far better word & that opens the whole subject right up, I would by far prefer a person who connects & clicks my buttons than just a person who looks Classically attractive. What's on the inside counts but unfortunately this site isn't set up for people like that, unless they get along to socials. You aren't going to establish that stuff via a profile or a few messages. Hence why we now only meet at clubs or via socials.

The delusions of grandeur aspect applies equally to those who consider themselves beautiful or those who don't, but generally in here it's the perceptions of others & their responses that lead to a person/s being viewed as all powerful, because generally they aren't & behind the scenes don't even believe themselves to be X

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By *amie.cardiff1980 OP Man
over a year ago

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"I get this however surely the only way for there to be a change is for men not to be desperate to fuck any hole that’s available?

If men on fab only pursued those they were genuinely attracted to and wanted to engage with anyone who isn’t necessarily attractive/desirable wouldn’t get the same level of attention...."

Bang on the money right there! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It applies to women also, the lure of numbers, the constant need for validation, chasing the perfect 'O', I've heard/seen similar behaviors from women over the years. From the 'yeah he's ugly but got a nice cock' to the 'yeah he's a knob but he fucks me right'. People compromise on their values all the time, in fact I was told on my very first club meet, 'you need to leave your values at the door ' I never did X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get this however surely the only way for there to be a change is for men not to be desperate to fuck any hole that’s available?

If men on fab only pursued those they were genuinely attracted to and wanted to engage with anyone who isn’t necessarily attractive/desirable wouldn’t get the same level of attention....

Bang on the money right there! x"

Thank you. X

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