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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding the same problem mate have met to lovely ladies but that’s it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've met 2 but neither do verification. It doesn't help the ratio of women to men either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No definitely not and the amount of time wasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sure a lot of women use the site just for attention

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By *ite -meWoman
over a year ago

my house


"Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills haha"
With your body you shouldn't have problems meeting, try going to a social...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills hahaWith your body you shouldn't have problems meeting, try going to a social..."

I would

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I can't go on socials as I don't have any verifications haha I'll just keep plodding along but any tips on my profile would be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah. And you are in great shape so imagine what its like for us actual plain Janes :D

Just stick with it butt.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I can't go on socials as I don't have any verifications haha I'll just keep plodding along but any tips on my profile would be greatly appreciated "

Some socials you can go without veris.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

You need to write more on your profile

Your pics are good. But people will want to know more

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah true I'm rubbish at that stuff but with a bit of wisdom I'm sure I can come up with something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few socials around which don't require veris

You're in great shape which puts you at an advantage as you are nice to look at

You need to put some effort in though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In what way I'd hate to be a pm pest so if I don't get a reply I just sack it off. Or do I need more effort on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And is giving a girl a wink considered a no no

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"And is giving a girl a wink considered a no no "

Some like winks, some don't. You don't know til you try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a winker

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've sent hundreds of winks I an 10 reply if I'm lucky haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta take the rough with the smooth mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent hundreds of winks I an 10 reply if I'm lucky haha"

You get replies from winks?

Count your blessings lol

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Look at what you've tucked in your interests this and lack of profile text might be the key. Maybe it's your approach too in your messages. There is some really good advice given to guys who've asked the same/similar questions. Put it in the forum Search. Take from those threads what's helpful and away you go.

Already have a good selection of pics that cover what women want to see so you're already half way there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just had a quick overhaul thanks for the advice I shall get grafting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ohhh just got a message and it's a man even though my profile says I'm straight FML haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely a better profile than most. Just keep going. Socials are the way forward though. Just be polite in your messages,that's all I ask. It helps if you read profiles and don't just look at pics too. Most only look at pics.

Last night I had a guy message asking to impregnate me. So as long as you don't go down that route with your messages I'm sure you will get there xxmiss

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Ohhh just got a message and it's a man even though my profile says I'm straight FML haha "

Use your filters to stop men messaging you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have but he snuck through the little rascal

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I have but he snuck through the little rascal "

Sneaky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills haha"

To be fair, if the profile is not great, it doesn't tend to draw much attention. Just saying.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think my profile is better than most I've added some personal information now and I'll see how that goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my profile is better than most I've added some personal information now and I'll see how that goes "

Good luck OP

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By *mbidextrous WizardMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Hard word for guys in here bro. If you ain’t a Channing Tatum lookalike then you have to rely on your personality coming through....but morals ,manners and just being a good guy seem to be left at the door the second we join this site !! But persistence without pressure will also help you meet the genuine women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nice one thank you

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By *are2xploreMan
over a year ago

Cynon Valley

Try the social meets. I went to neath and swansea socials. Great to meet people and chat. I didnt get any meets from it as im a chubby ugly guy but im sure you wont have any problems. Good luck.

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"Hard word for guys in here bro. If you ain’t a Channing Tatum lookalike then you have to rely on your personality coming through....but morals ,manners and just being a good guy seem to be left at the door the second we join this site !! But persistence without pressure will also help you meet the genuine women. "

Not necessarily. Yes it's hard work but not everyone goes for celebrity looks. Everyone's perception of handsome/beautiful is different.

Patience, politeness and personality is key

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I lot of hard work to be ghosted on the day of the so called meet haha but push forward we must

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I lot of hard work to be ghosted on the day of the so called meet haha but push forward we must"

Be more concerned if they ghost you after a meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd just like to know sometimes just for feedback purposes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills haha"

I have the same problem mate. I always take my time over any messages I send & am courteous & respectful in them. I always use correct spelling & grammar...I absolutely despise text speak...unless actually texting family or friends, haha.

I never send cock pics unless asked & have private face pics to swap if asked for them.I am not keen on crowds of people that I don't know very well, so not really sure about big social gatherings.

Guess I'll just have to plod on. Surely the law of averages says sooner or later someone will be willing to meet I HAVE had a few meets with a regular couple, but they have now left the site. And as I was their first meet, we were unable to verify each other !

Oh well...

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By *are2xploreMan
over a year ago

Cynon Valley

We can all keep trying and hopefully something will happen. Problem is i aint getting any younger

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"I can't go on socials as I don't have any verifications haha I'll just keep plodding along but any tips on my profile would be greatly appreciated "

There are smaller socials that don't require veries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I'd go for more shit grafting skills, u don't look a bad looking bloke (I think u would be better in person)

Good luck on your quest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stay positive, it'll happen in time. I've struggled to meet for long intervals at times but always get asked to meet again. It's hard to tell about a person from a quick paragraph or so.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my profile is better than most I've added some personal information now and I'll see how that goes "

Better than some yes, better than most no.

Arrogance won't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jst had a look and although ure profile pics are better thank most most of them are of ur arse. If I'm not looking to peg u I ain't going there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or does anyone else have a problem getting through to and meeting girls on here. Or am I an ugly sod with shit grafting skills hahaWith your body you shouldn't have problems meeting, try going to a social..."

This is the best way to meet people (my opinion) as people know you are genuine then and want to make an effort with swinging ! Not just a shag site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In what way I'd hate to be a pm pest so if I don't get a reply I just sack it off. Or do I need more effort on my profile "

Seriously, attend a social

You are a good looking bloke and you seem to have a decent s.o.h

If I were still running the Neath daytime social you are the kind of guy the female contingent would have been pleased to see

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

You sound like a decent guy, mate.

The comment about “hundreds of winks” leapt our at me. I really don’t think sending lots of them, or lots of messages is the way forward.

I honestly think that “less is more” on here. Remember you may be one of 20-50 guys who has contacted that person that day.

Be patient and get known as someone who contributes to forums, goes to socials and “has a bit about them” as a person. This strikes me as the better approach and the rest will flow from there.

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot


"In what way I'd hate to be a pm pest so if I don't get a reply I just sack it off. Or do I need more effort on my profile

Seriously, attend a social

You are a good looking bloke and you seem to have a decent s.o.h

If I were still running the Neath daytime social you are the kind of guy the female contingent would have been pleased to see "

There seems to be at least one of these threads active each week. I'm starting to think they're just a way to get traffic to your profile.

The advice is much the same each time and above is an excellent example.

Sending message to people you haven't already met on here is normally a waste of everyone's time. Since there are so many fake profiles spamming people.

If you do get a 'bite' from your unsolicited message. There's a very good chance it's a fake/time waster who won't meet you.

So as advised above, get your butt to a social and you should see your luck improve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers man I shall keep my eye out and stay patient

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

If you're here for sex then likely you'll be disappointed. However, if you're here just to chat and make a few online friends then more people talk on fab than any dating app.

Don't forget that m:f is 100:1 . what makes you so special?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not special at all I'm not in it for pen pals but when you look for females around you and there are 3 online and all are blank profiles you know it's a dead end haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And the see who's near is all men I will graft elsewhere

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"And the see who's near is all men I will graft elsewhere "

This is why men are prepared to travel. I've never found a friend within 40miles of home.

But when you make a good friend it's all worth it. Can take years of looking on here in afraid.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

Actually, I take that back it's pointless wasting time here searching. Better to look elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i have the same problem nothing personal take it on the chin

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"Yeah i have the same problem nothing personal take it on the chin "

And I thought south Wales and Cardiff in particular is a hotbed for naughtiness, judging by the numbers nearby.

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