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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. This is generally a post for the ladies.

I've been on here for a good while (I went and came back). In that entire time, I've struck up conversations with a number of lovely ladies (and had my fair share of rejections). However no meets or (individual) socials have come of it.

I'm wondering where I'm going wrong. Please don't take this as a pity post - I'm just genuinely wondering whether it's my _rofile or something else.

Thanks in advance xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep attending socials. Get your face out there and known. Be polite. Not pushy

Good luck

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By *emon DelightMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Now, I’m certainly no expert when it comes to wooing the ladies on this site - and I’m still learning the do’s and don’ts myself - but hopefully the following tips might help:

* Be patient

* Be polite

* Have faith

* Attend socials - cannot stress how’s important this is - networking will lead to more veris and sometimes referrals

* Keep refreshing and updating your _rofile & pics - include pics of yourself in different scenarios, or simply enjoying yourself outside in the sunshine.

* Always read _rofiles thoroughly before messaging.

* Always send a face pic (not a dick pic!) with your first message

* Allow your personality to shine through when messaging, but try not to get too disheartened if you don’t get a reply.

* Resist the urge to send a 2nd, 3rd, 4th message if they didn’t respond to your 1st.

* Contribute to popular threads on the forums.

* Try to have fun and not take things too seriously (easier said than done, I know!)

It’s always going to be an uphill struggle for us single guys, but hopefully the advice above might come in handy and yield a few results.

Best of luck to you!

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

Yes as always and has been mentioned attend socials always helps to get to know people and travel to clubs etc

Without doing all that I would hardly have many verifications on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try improving your _rofile photo

Also your _rofile text isn't at all alluring

"Told I'm good at xyz" never is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all

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By *rofMan
over a year ago

Around

You should use the search function, you'll be surprised at how many times this question has come up. Failing that do what Pedro suggested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should use the search function, you'll be surprised at how many times this question has come up. Failing that do what Pedro suggested"

The problem is Prof people repeatedly ask for advice then just ignore it anyway

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By *rofMan
over a year ago

Around

I agree, I'm tempted to post a wiki post just for this question.

However there is some good advice here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could try improving your _rofile photo

Also your _rofile text isn't at all alluring

"Told I'm good at xyz" never is "

Bit of a random one but just saw your pics and you have changed loads and look incredible fair play!! Well done on the transformation hun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could try improving your _rofile photo

Also your _rofile text isn't at all alluring

"Told I'm good at xyz" never is

Bit of a random one but just saw your pics and you have changed loads and look incredible fair play!! Well done on the transformation hun. "

Ta

I didn't want to be fat any longer and I'm not getting any younger so I sorted it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree, I'm tempted to post a wiki post just for this question.

However there is some good advice here."

Charge a pound a read and become a millionaire

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Now, I’m certainly no expert when it comes to wooing the ladies on this site - and I’m still learning the do’s and don’ts myself - but hopefully the following tips might help:

* Be patient

* Be polite

* Have faith

* Attend socials - cannot stress how’s important this is - networking will lead to more veris and sometimes referrals

* Keep refreshing and updating your _rofile & pics - include pics of yourself in different scenarios, or simply enjoying yourself outside in the sunshine.

* Always read _rofiles thoroughly before messaging.

* Always send a face pic (not a dick pic!) with your first message

* Allow your personality to shine through when messaging, but try not to get too disheartened if you don’t get a reply.

* Resist the urge to send a 2nd, 3rd, 4th message if they didn’t respond to your 1st.

* Contribute to popular threads on the forums.

* Try to have fun and not take things too seriously (easier said than done, I know!)

It’s always going to be an uphill struggle for us single guys, but hopefully the advice above might come in handy and yield a few results.

Best of luck to you!"

This about sums it up

I wish Site Admin could make posts like this "Sticky".

But then, no one would read it anyway

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By *emon DelightMan
over a year ago

South Wales

Nice to see the OP has taken the advice given above and updated his _rofile as suggested.

Oh wait... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice to see the OP has taken the advice given above and updated his _rofile as suggested.

Oh wait... lol"

I've not had the time. I'm not ignoring anything

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Nice to see the OP has taken the advice given above and updated his _rofile as suggested.

Oh wait... lol

I've not had the time. I'm not ignoring anything"

Well, look at this way, if you can't spend 15 minutes effort on your _rofile, then how do you think that people viewing it, or reading this thread, will view you as a potential meet?

Your _rofile is your advert / shop window, so get it sorted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice to see the OP has taken the advice given above and updated his _rofile as suggested.

Oh wait... lol

I've not had the time. I'm not ignoring anything

Well, look at this way, if you can't spend 15 minutes effort on your _rofile, then how do you think that people viewing it, or reading this thread, will view you as a potential meet?

Your _rofile is your advert / shop window, so get it sorted "

I PHYSICALLY haven't had the time. Like I said in my last reply. I'm working on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've updated it now. Any better? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now, I’m certainly no expert when it comes to wooing the ladies on this site - and I’m still learning the do’s and don’ts myself - but hopefully the following tips might help:

* Be patient

* Be polite

* Have faith

* Attend socials - cannot stress how’s important this is - networking will lead to more veris and sometimes referrals

* Keep refreshing and updating your _rofile & pics - include pics of yourself in different scenarios, or simply enjoying yourself outside in the sunshine.

* Always read _rofiles thoroughly before messaging.

* Always send a face pic (not a dick pic!) with your first message

* Allow your personality to shine through when messaging, but try not to get too disheartened if you don’t get a reply.

* Resist the urge to send a 2nd, 3rd, 4th message if they didn’t respond to your 1st.

* Contribute to popular threads on the forums.

* Try to have fun and not take things too seriously (easier said than done, I know!)

It’s always going to be an uphill struggle for us single guys, but hopefully the advice above might come in handy and yield a few results.

Best of luck to you!"

This!!

Possibly consider changing your _rofile picture cause it looks like you’ve chopped off your other half

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Now, I’m certainly no expert when it comes to wooing the ladies on this site - and I’m still learning the do’s and don’ts myself - but hopefully the following tips might help:

* Be patient

* Be polite

* Have faith

* Attend socials - cannot stress how’s important this is - networking will lead to more veris and sometimes referrals

* Keep refreshing and updating your _rofile & pics - include pics of yourself in different scenarios, or simply enjoying yourself outside in the sunshine.

* Always read _rofiles thoroughly before messaging.

* Always send a face pic (not a dick pic!) with your first message

* Allow your personality to shine through when messaging, but try not to get too disheartened if you don’t get a reply.

* Resist the urge to send a 2nd, 3rd, 4th message if they didn’t respond to your 1st.

* Contribute to popular threads on the forums.

* Try to have fun and not take things too seriously (easier said than done, I know!)

It’s always going to be an uphill struggle for us single guys, but hopefully the advice above might come in handy and yield a few results.

Best of luck to you!

This!!

Possibly consider changing your _rofile picture cause it looks like you’ve chopped off your other half "

Argh! I've just changed it from a topless one because someone else didn't like that one lol (I am genuinely single) xx

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