FabSwingers.com forum: 2 months and about 2 interactions :/

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

Not sure what it is about my profile but I've had about 2 replies in two months. Trying to be friendly but not getting any responses or views etc.

Is my profile off-putting, or is it just a lack of fab swingers in my age range in North Wales?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Not sure what it is about my profile but I've had about 2 replies in two months. Trying to be friendly but not getting any responses or views etc.

Is my profile off-putting, or is it just a lack of fab swingers in my age range in North Wales?

Think its just the site mate its shit, im in the same position, unless your a spice boy who spends hours in the mirror, with a 6 pack and water in you biceps you got no chance. Iv given up with the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ur obviously going for the wrong people then An no offence not all men want spice boys I like a cuddly man not someone that spends not time in the mirror than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Not sure what it is about my profile but I've had about 2 replies in two months. Trying to be friendly but not getting any responses or views etc.

Is my profile off-putting, or is it just a lack of fab swingers in my age range in North Wales?

Aww I don’t think that’s the case at all. I certainly don’t go for those types of people and from what I’ve gathered from various forum posts, many women are the same.

OP, I actually quite like your profile. Some might say to add more to your profile description, but I quite like that it’s short and sweet.

Maybe some more photos.

But honestly, it’s alright. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have messaged women of different ages, body type, skin colour, distance from me, and in 3 months iv had a conversation with 2 women out of god knows how many messages iv sent. The 1s that dont reply, ignore, read then mark as unread (annoying) or just straight delete, the majority of their veris are spice boys. So you cant blame me for assuming thats all women are after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have messaged women of different ages, body type, skin colour, distance from me, and in 3 months iv had a conversation with 2 women out of god knows how many messages iv sent. The 1s that dont reply, ignore, read then mark as unread (annoying) or just straight delete, the majority of their veris are spice boys. So you cant blame me for assuming thats all women are after"

Yeah I can definitely see why you’d assume that! Must be really frustrating.

Do you send a face pic with your message by any chance? That’s what most people appreciate. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe having some public pics up would help u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can definitely see why you’d assume that! Must be really frustrating.

Do you send a face pic with your message by any chance? That’s what most people appreciate. X"

I do feel for women on here because they probably receive 100s of messages a day on here, but im allways polite in my messages and include a face picture every time, it is just so annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe having some public pics up would help u "

I did have but iv taken them down now i give up, im not making the 1st move anymore if someone messages il show them, thats why iv put them as friends so people can see i have got some

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"Hi,

Not sure what it is about my profile but I've had about 2 replies in two months. Trying to be friendly but not getting any responses or views etc.

Is my profile off-putting, or is it just a lack of fab swingers in my age range in North Wales?

Keep trying mate, there's some nice people here. Be tidy and they'll soon start showing up. It's all about patience.

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By *ighugs69Man
over a year ago

Port Talbot

This site is free to join & send messages. This results in female profiles getting 100s of them a day. So you're pretty much wasting your time sending messages to people who don't know you.

The best way to make any progress is going along to one of the socials. That way people can see you're genuine and also you can see they are too.

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By *ay rickMan
over a year ago

cardiff

My advice is don't treat this site as a place to get laid easily---keep that for the real world n use this as an add on!!--your right in your post op just get out partying I'm sure there's plenty out there in the real world who atleast would respond to an introduction rather than ignore lol goodluck bud keep on the hunt

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Maybe having some public pics up would help u

I did have but iv taken them down now i give up, im not making the 1st move anymore if someone messages il show them, thats why iv put them as friends so people can see i have got some"

Try going to socials, you'd be surprised how quickly you can make friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope loads around my area and I've only ever had 1 message that wasn't off a friend on here.

Think it's just more of the case some are only on here to talk, some only on here for social and there regular hook up and then part Looking.

Really your chances are just the same as meeting someone when your out and about tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitly! You need to attend the socials. The single guy's who do this always do well on here. It shows that u are interested in the lifestyle and not just here for a quick meet xxmiss

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Nope loads around my area and I've only ever had 1 message that wasn't off a friend on here.

Think it's just more of the case some are only on here to talk, some only on here for social and there regular hook up and then part Looking.

Really your chances are just the same as meeting someone when your out and about tbh."

Really?

Some of the big socials have over 100 people there, all swingers.

You need to take a look at your profiles, and think of the efforts you are (not) making, and then maybe you might understand why you are not getting meets.

A profile should have information, humour, and style, (and no dick pics!) its your "shop window", ask yourselves, "would I message or reply to this guy" when you look at it.

The most successful single guy we know on here NEVER had to send a first message, but he got meets.

He went to clubs, socials, made friends, started getting invited to parties, had meets, and is now part of a swinging couple... and he's definitely not a "spice boy" with a gym body.

Make an effort and you will get meets...make no effort and you will still be here posting moans about not getting meets in 12 months time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

Not sure what it is about my profile but I've had about 2 replies in two months. Trying to be friendly but not getting any responses or views etc.

Is my profile off-putting, or is it just a lack of fab swingers in my age range in North Wales?

this is definately not true fella

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

OK I'm being dull...don't all agree at once. But what is a *Spice boy*

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"OK I'm being dull...don't all agree at once. But what is a *Spice boy*

I think its supposed to mean a "pretty boy".

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

"OK I'm being dull...don't all agree at once. But what is a *Spice boy*

I think its supposed to mean a "pretty boy"."

LOL thank you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Golden rules for being a single male on here:

1. Patience

2. Respect people's opinions on you

3. Never message unless messaged

4. Attend social events

5. Go to clubs

6. Be yourself

7. NO means NO

8. Have a laugh

9. Don't get piss when rejected

10. Always be open and send up to date pictures when asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is difficult for single men, you have my sympathy but im sure you will connect with someone x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Golden rules for being a single male on here:

1. Patience

2. Respect people's opinions on you

3. Never message unless messaged

4. Attend social events

5. Go to clubs

6. Be yourself

7. NO means NO

8. Have a laugh

9. Don't get piss when rejected

10. Always be open and send up to date pictures when asked."

9/10 of these make perfect sense...but never message unless messaged? Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your thoughtful replies btw

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

"Golden rules for being a single male on here:

1. Patience

2. Respect people's opinions on you

3. Never message unless messaged

4. Attend social events

5. Go to clubs

6. Be yourself

7. NO means NO

8. Have a laugh

9. Don't get piss when rejected

10. Always be open and send up to date pictures when asked."

I agree with 9/10 of these. I don't see why single men can't message first. As long as they read the profile, are respectful and don't expect a reply automatically. Then it's fine to message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Golden rules for being a single male on here:

1. Patience

2. Respect people's opinions on you

3. Never message unless messaged

4. Attend social events

5. Go to clubs

6. Be yourself

7. NO means NO

8. Have a laugh

9. Don't get piss when rejected

10. Always be open and send up to date pictures when asked.

I agree with 9/10 of these. I don't see why single men can't message first. As long as they read the profile, are respectful and don't expect a reply automatically. Then it's fine to message first. "

Because you don't need to send endless messages to people if you get yourself out there.

Winks are more than adequate if you want to say hi and if they want to know more, wait for wink back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

More winks it is!

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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

Personally I don't really pay attention to winks.

And I know of others that are the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aaaaargh. Lol x

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Make you message stand out from the crowd. Add something from the profile you are contacting to show you've actually paid attention to it.

Make sure you are what they are looking for from what their profile says.

If they delete your message don't take it to heart. A delete is a no thank you. Block that profile so you don't waste your time messaging again.

As previously said you profile is your window. If you've paid no attention to it women/couples with think you won't put attention to a meet or building a rapport with them.

Swinging isn't about getting a shag! It's about connecting and having mutual fun!

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