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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am going to chams for the first time with my male friend. I have no idea what to expect. Also a little nervous. Any one who has been could you give me some idea on what its like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect to get lost! It's rather a maze the first time but you soon get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Expect to get lost! It's rather a maze the first time but you soon get used to it."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect to get lost! It's rather a maze the first time but you soon get used to it.

Thank you "
It is like a dungeon when u get in u gonna have some towels and a locker. U decide if u only have your towel around or something sexy. Ground floor has a hot tub and a sauna then its some showers and rooms to play. Also a bar u can have a drink if u need alcohol bring your own cos they not allowed to sell u any. Second floor is smoking area more room to play and another sauna. Third floor is all about kinky staff. It is overwhelming for first time but it is a lush place. We are going there this friday see u there. Have fun enjoy yourself

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By *akenloversCouple
over a year ago

ceredigion

We are going this Friday too. Happy to show you around xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Expect to get lost! It's rather a maze the first time but you soon get used to it.

Thank you It is like a dungeon when u get in u gonna have some towels and a locker. U decide if u only have your towel around or something sexy. Ground floor has a hot tub and a sauna then its some showers and rooms to play. Also a bar u can have a drink if u need alcohol bring your own cos they not allowed to sell u any. Second floor is smoking area more room to play and another sauna. Third floor is all about kinky staff. It is overwhelming for first time but it is a lush place. We are going there this friday see u there. Have fun enjoy yourself "

Thank you sounds very daunting but I am excited. Hope to see you there xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are going this Friday too. Happy to show you around xx"

Very nice of you thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same I was parked next to chams but I don't know why I couldn't break fear barrier.

I wait to have conversation with someone from chams guests then should be easier, but I don't know anyone from swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Had the same I was parked next to chams but I don't know why I couldn't break fear barrier.

I wait to have conversation with someone from chams guests then should be easier, but I don't know anyone from swingers. "

Aw I suppose you just got to do it hopefully see you there one day xx

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

I think it's all down to expectations.

If you expect to be romanced by lots of Anthony Joshua lookalikes and be romanced then you'll be disappointed. But there will be attractive men and women there.

Expect to feel nervous going in, its just normal the first time.

When you've got changed, go to the bar first and you will see normal Ladies and Gentleman who look normal just like yourself. Get yourself a drink and i'm sure some of the friendly people will probably come and talk to you. There just normal and won't be looking to pounce on you lol.

Nothing will be expected of you and you don't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable with, it can all be quite mellow once you get over the first time nerves.

When you've got over the shock of going in and realising its quite alright, go and have a look around the place (it is a bit of a maze, as mentioned, as its an old building). If its early you might find just people chatting around the place. Otherwise you'll get to see and hear people playing, theres a bit of a group room on the first floor and also a room with a glass window for couples only.....but you can let out the voyeur in you and watch through the glass if you like.

When you've seen what others are up to you will feel more comfortable about joining in yourself, if you want to. There's plenty of lockable rooms that you and your +1 could use should you wish.

Finally, there might well be some single men there who really don't know about eticate (spelt wrong lol) and might just follow you around the building, just tell them to stop doing it. There will also be some single men there who a nice and will chat to you. If someone suggests playing and you don't fancy it, just give them a polite 'thanks but no thanks' or something of that ilk.

Most of all enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's all down to expectations.

If you expect to be romanced by lots of Anthony Joshua lookalikes and be romanced then you'll be disappointed. But there will be attractive men and women there.

Expect to feel nervous going in, its just normal the first time.

When you've got changed, go to the bar first and you will see normal Ladies and Gentleman who look normal just like yourself. Get yourself a drink and i'm sure some of the friendly people will probably come and talk to you. There just normal and won't be looking to pounce on you lol.

Nothing will be expected of you and you don't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable with, it can all be quite mellow once you get over the first time nerves.

When you've got over the shock of going in and realising its quite alright, go and have a look around the place (it is a bit of a maze, as mentioned, as its an old building). If its early you might find just people chatting around the place. Otherwise you'll get to see and hear people playing, theres a bit of a group room on the first floor and also a room with a glass window for couples only.....but you can let out the voyeur in you and watch through the glass if you like.

When you've seen what others are up to you will feel more comfortable about joining in yourself, if you want to. There's plenty of lockable rooms that you and your +1 could use should you wish.

Finally, there might well be some single men there who really don't know about eticate (spelt wrong lol) and might just follow you around the building, just tell them to stop doing it. There will also be some single men there who a nice and will chat to you. If someone suggests playing and you don't fancy it, just give them a polite 'thanks but no thanks' or something of that ilk.

Most of all enjoy yourself. "

Thank you so much for your insight, I appreciate your reply xx

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay

Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know there are better clubs but as you said its the closest so not much option.

Thank you I will keep my mind open xx

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice "

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close. "

Totally disagree with you. There are lots of better clubs out there that are worth travelling for. Mr S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with u max

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close. "

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close. "

That's cool no disrespect taken, I've been to chams a quite a few times and it's fine and ok but in my opinion out of the others I've traveled to to would rank 4th of the 4 I have been to simply that.

I can only simply assume that you haven't been to any others, trust me it's a big old beautiful swinging world out there over the bridge.

Take a gamble and go visit a few dude

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Totally disagree with you. There are lots of better clubs out there that are worth travelling for. Mr S "

There are so many clubs about.

Some love chams, some hate chams.

But you can't say it's the best club around as there are far better clubs in my experience.

And are worth travelling for.

And before I'm shot down I like chams but I prefer a few others and I will travel to enjoy them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Totally disagree with you. There are lots of better clubs out there that are worth travelling for. Mr S

There are so many clubs about.

Some love chams, some hate chams.

But you can't say it's the best club around as there are far better clubs in my experience.

And are worth travelling for.

And before I'm shot down I like chams but I prefer a few others and I will travel to enjoy them "

Agreed 100%, in our humble opinion chams could/should be one of the best clubs in the country but in our eyes it falls short for various reasons.

There are some superb clubs about and plenty more for us to visit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add OP we're sure you'll have an amazing time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am going to chams for the first time with my male friend. I have no idea what to expect. Also a little nervous. Any one who has been could you give me some idea on what its like "

I felt the same first time but really no need to be anxious! There is no pressure to play which is what I worried about. People have always been friendly the times I've been. Relax as from what I've seen nobody judges and are just there for a good time xxx

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

"

I've been to darlaston and angels. And when I say chams I'm including darlaston

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

I've been to darlaston and angels. And when I say chams I'm including darlaston "

No disrespect dude but I'm calling bullshit, you've never left newport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After all the difference in opinions, did you have a good time ?

We love cams in Newport and support it whenever we can as we have had some of our best nights there but agree with some of the others that if you ever get the chance to experience other clubs out there you will have some amazing nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both clubs for different reasons, as a single female I enjoy the familiarity of Newport, I'm happy to go alone & do my own thing, dipping in n out of social chat etc. But Darlaston is where we prefer to go as a couple, there's more action & it's a better vibe & surroundings for us. Each club has its own things to offer & there's no reason why we need to stick to just one. Try them for yourselves & see what fits for you X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

I've been to darlaston and angels. And when I say chams I'm including darlaston

No disrespect dude but I'm calling bullshit, you've never left newport "

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By *elsh and welsherCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

They are all great clubs , it what u make it I think..

secrets in Devon my fav ..

love Newport tho also cause it so friendly..

We all different tho.. very different and that y we go to these places!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are all great clubs , it what u make it I think..

secrets in Devon my fav ..

love Newport tho also cause it so friendly..

We all different tho.. very different and that y we go to these places!! Lol

"

Secrets is on the top of our to do list this summer, amazing reviews and sounds right up our street.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

I haven’t been to Chams yet, as it’s a 2 hour drive from here in Pembrokeshire and been told there’s no guarantee of admission for single guys on arrival, depending on the night. Correct me if I’ve heard wrongly though.

One day I hope to get there though, not expecting anything more to happen than to socialise and chat, anything more than that would be a bonus, even if it’s just allowed to watch without involvement, although obviously that would be a welcomed opportunity with the right couple or group or person.

Whilst not familiar with Chams, I have been to the same venue over the years when it’s run as the Greenhouse for gay and bi men. Not a frequent visitor but enough to know the layout of the place and appreciate that it’s just not down the facilities which the venue provide, it’s more down to the people who go and the attitude they have whilst there. I’m sure it’s the same on a Chams night too. I’ve been to the greenhouse when it’s been really busy and then disappear as soon as a buffet has been put out and eaten and I’ve been there when it’s only been two or three of us, until it was just me! In all scenarios, I would have rated the place as either good or bad, because of the other people there, not because of the venue.

So, I’m looking forward to a Chams night too, rating it purely on my personal experience and interaction with others, knowing that the next time will be a different experience again, all because of those who attend each time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Expect to get lost! It's rather a maze the first time but you soon get used to it."

haha.... definitely this

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

town


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

I've been to darlaston and angels. And when I say chams I'm including darlaston

No disrespect dude but I'm calling bullshit, you've never left newport "

actual truth been to darlaston and Angels lol

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay


"Just my opinion but there are far better clubs about, however that involves traveling a fair distance, it's a shame as out of the four I've been too it's easily the worst but by a cruel twist of fate the closest

Just remember it's nothing like you are picturing in your mind and most people are nice

With no disrespect dude I'm calling Bullshit on saying there's far better clubs it's one of the best out there and we're very lucky to have it so close.

Max you cant say that as you've not travelled around and been to other clubs. Some have some haven't.

Newport is a great club and on out doorstep which should be used as much as possible so we don't lose it. But you can't say it beats some of the club's that are around the country when you've not been to them

I've been to darlaston and angels. And when I say chams I'm including darlaston

No disrespect dude but I'm calling bullshit, you've never left newport

actual truth been to darlaston and Angels lol"

Guess no one was bullshitting then, and was simply giving an honest opinion but no worries apology accepted

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By *bcouple4moreCouple
over a year ago

pontypridd

Hope you enjoyed yourself, Friday night we did, think we just missed you in the jacuzzi as you'd just got out before we went in again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello,

Hoping yo pop down soon, what's the best night for single bloke?

Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello,

Hoping yo pop down soon, what's the best night for single bloke?

Thanks in advance.

"

I hear Saturday evenings are the best times to go.......

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly


"Hello,

Hoping yo pop down soon, what's the best night for single bloke?

Thanks in advance.

I hear Saturday evenings are the best times to go....... "

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking


"Hello,

Hoping yo pop down soon, what's the best night for single bloke?

Thanks in advance.

I hear Saturday evenings are the best times to go....... "

I've heard that Saturday evenings can be very *different*

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By *ar-Some CoupleCouple
over a year ago

from somewhere glittery & sparkly


"Hello,

Hoping yo pop down soon, what's the best night for single bloke?

Thanks in advance.

I hear Saturday evenings are the best times to go.......

I've heard that Saturday evenings can be very *different* "

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