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"Why do men find it difficult to talk about problems? Young lives being taken all because they think they are alone. If only they could see the love and emotion friends and family have for them they wouldn't do it. " It's a horrendous situation for It to happen to anyone. We nearly lost our son but thanks to modern technology and someone reporting his suicide attempt it was quickly traced back to our address. Thankfully we are one of the lucky ones,but tragically there are some family's & friends that aren't so lucky | |||
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"My brother committed suicide at the age of 31... to everyone he was the same happy-go-lucky guy he always was....til we had the heartbreaking phone call to tell us It's the not knowing why he was in such a dreadful place that suicide was the only way out that is still difficult to deal with " | |||
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"My ex, the man I lived with killed himself many years ago, he was successful in his life and job and on the outside it all looked OK but one day he snapped, all hell broke loose & before you know it the police are knocking at the door. No one will ever know why but it has taught me that if ever someone I know says they're lonely, struggling or need a chat I make time and I listen. I may not be able to help but I like to think I can be there X" | |||
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"Speaking from personal experience: It's a mixture of pride, shame and embarrassment,fear of failure to live up to expectation of being "A Man", hatred of oneself for feeling that way in the first place and so wanting to cause further harm as punishment for it in the first place, a whole myriad of things. In my case it took a very, very special woman to have the patience to not try and break down my walls but to instead show me reasons why I should remove them myself brick by brick. Don't ever underestimate how people of any gender can feel inside as it can often be a totally different thing to what they project for people to think. " I actually totally agree with this! Working in mental health I see a lot of men that suffer even more so as they feel they can’t open up its heartbreaking | |||
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"I am currently studying this as part of my course and it’s a subject I have recently written a report on! It’s awful and the statistics are dreadful! Men are less likely to talk as they see it as weakness it’s so sad! The amount of male suicides is huge! Unlike woman men don’t like to share feelings studied suggest it’s goin back to post war when men had to be seen as the stronger sex in society and therefore talking about problems wasn’t a thing that was done! This is wht reports say before Anyone jumps down my throat! Men need to know it’s ok and no1 will laugh it’s a natural thing to feel like things are on top of u and there is always a way out! I feel for men who suffer with mental health issues as there just isn’t enough done to help it’s very sad xx" If you’re doing a recognised qualification (I assume you are!) and you need thoughts/insights etc, I’m happy to talk about my experiences. Anything that helps build understanding/ knowledge, particular amongst young professionals, should be encouraged. | |||
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"Outwardly I’m a sociable person with many friends who love me. I’ve had terrible struggles with mental health, including in recent times. The only reasons I’m still here is that I couldn’t hurt people around me and I’m able to speak about my problems. It’s not really depression with me, but incredible levels of anxiety. I’m busy and active and recognise that I have much to be grateful for. On occasions, the balance tips though and I get consumed with the idea of taking my own life. It’s mainly because I simply can’t cope with stress anymore. I accept that it must seem ludicrous to people not burdened by this. However, someone in my position is consumed by these thoughts and it becomes normal, banal even. The idea of ending it doesn’t seem terrifying and irrational any more - your brain becomes normalised to living in a constantly anxious state and the act becomes banal and insignificant compared to the ongoing stress of coping with the anxious thoughts. There’s a certain arrogance to it too - it’s like you see the “real” world and not the edifice that’s been built up. When others express shock and sadness when someone takes their own life, you nod knowingly and think “ah, that’s one of us”. Don’t ever underestimate how this can skew peoples’ thinking and lead to an act of wilful self-destruction seeming mundane and normal. Take care everyone (men and women alike)" I can relate with all that you have said. When I've been at a real low ebb I have planned how I would end things. Thankfully, at the moment I'm feeling I'm on middle ground. Had a dreadful anxiety attack in work yesterday and sobbed for 15 minutes. Many people who haven't suffered with mental health issues don't often understand and often say * pull yourself together* or other such things. If I could pull myself together I definitely would. Let's look out for each other and try and recognise the signs that our friends and family are showing. Changes in personality and sometimes shutting themselves away. Often they will tell us that they are ok and try and portray to others that they are but once alone that isn't the case... Take care everyone xx | |||
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"I am currently studying this as part of my course and it’s a subject I have recently written a report on! It’s awful and the statistics are dreadful! Men are less likely to talk as they see it as weakness it’s so sad! The amount of male suicides is huge! Unlike woman men don’t like to share feelings studied suggest it’s goin back to post war when men had to be seen as the stronger sex in society and therefore talking about problems wasn’t a thing that was done! This is wht reports say before Anyone jumps down my throat! Men need to know it’s ok and no1 will laugh it’s a natural thing to feel like things are on top of u and there is always a way out! I feel for men who suffer with mental health issues as there just isn’t enough done to help it’s very sad xx If you’re doing a recognised qualification (I assume you are!) and you need thoughts/insights etc, I’m happy to talk about my experiences. Anything that helps build understanding/ knowledge, particular amongst young professionals, should be encouraged. " I have just finished my qualification thank you for offering.! I’m always here tho if u need an ear sometimes those who aren’t close are the easiest to talk to! Never feel like u can’t xxxx | |||
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"It is terrifying how many people are affected by this. A friend of Trevs took his own life yesterday (hence the post) and I personally know of 4 young men who have taken their own lives in the space of 18 months, all under the age of 30. Suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of 45 in this country, that is a frightening statistic ??" Wales also has the biggest suicide rate for men on 21 in 100000 it’s so frightening budgets are so over spent and money spending in wrong places that mental health doesn’t get the funding or attention it needs its heart breaking really it is xx | |||
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"I am currently studying this as part of my course and it’s a subject I have recently written a report on! It’s awful and the statistics are dreadful! Men are less likely to talk as they see it as weakness it’s so sad! The amount of male suicides is huge! Unlike woman men don’t like to share feelings studied suggest it’s goin back to post war when men had to be seen as the stronger sex in society and therefore talking about problems wasn’t a thing that was done! This is wht reports say before Anyone jumps down my throat! Men need to know it’s ok and no1 will laugh it’s a natural thing to feel like things are on top of u and there is always a way out! I feel for men who suffer with mental health issues as there just isn’t enough done to help it’s very sad xx If you’re doing a recognised qualification (I assume you are!) and you need thoughts/insights etc, I’m happy to talk about my experiences. Anything that helps build understanding/ knowledge, particular amongst young professionals, should be encouraged. I have just finished my qualification thank you for offering.! I’m always here tho if u need an ear sometimes those who aren’t close are the easiest to talk to! Never feel like u can’t xxxx" Sorry, been offline most of the weekend. Thank you for the lovely post and the kind offer. Well done on finishing your qualification! | |||
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"I am currently studying this as part of my course and it’s a subject I have recently written a report on! It’s awful and the statistics are dreadful! Men are less likely to talk as they see it as weakness it’s so sad! The amount of male suicides is huge! Unlike woman men don’t like to share feelings studied suggest it’s goin back to post war when men had to be seen as the stronger sex in society and therefore talking about problems wasn’t a thing that was done! This is wht reports say before Anyone jumps down my throat! Men need to know it’s ok and no1 will laugh it’s a natural thing to feel like things are on top of u and there is always a way out! I feel for men who suffer with mental health issues as there just isn’t enough done to help it’s very sad xx If you’re doing a recognised qualification (I assume you are!) and you need thoughts/insights etc, I’m happy to talk about my experiences. Anything that helps build understanding/ knowledge, particular amongst young professionals, should be encouraged. I have just finished my qualification thank you for offering.! I’m always here tho if u need an ear sometimes those who aren’t close are the easiest to talk to! Never feel like u can’t xxxx Sorry, been offline most of the weekend. Thank you for the lovely post and the kind offer. Well done on finishing your qualification!" That’s no problem at all! Any time honestly! Thank you it’s a long old road for me off to uni next lol xx | |||
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"I'm a long term anxiety/paranoia sufferer. Not many people know and that's how I prefer it, I am not a talker and I deal with things in my own way. Talking makes me worse if anything. My kids and boyfriend get me through the particularly difficut days just by being there and providing a distraction. Exercise and cutting back on the booze helped me but I'm crippled by it at the moment. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe not today, but one day " I'm like you talking isn't for me, I prefer to do & get on. Work hard, play harder & wear my mind out. But I do push myself outside my anxiety bubble & my biggest achievement to date was going to Chams on my own the other week. I survived & I enjoyed X | |||
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"I am currently studying this as part of my course and it’s a subject I have recently written a report on! It’s awful and the statistics are dreadful! Men are less likely to talk as they see it as weakness it’s so sad! The amount of male suicides is huge! Unlike woman men don’t like to share feelings studied suggest it’s goin back to post war when men had to be seen as the stronger sex in society and therefore talking about problems wasn’t a thing that was done! This is wht reports say before Anyone jumps down my throat! Men need to know it’s ok and no1 will laugh it’s a natural thing to feel like things are on top of u and there is always a way out! I feel for men who suffer with mental health issues as there just isn’t enough done to help it’s very sad xx If you’re doing a recognised qualification (I assume you are!) and you need thoughts/insights etc, I’m happy to talk about my experiences. Anything that helps build understanding/ knowledge, particular amongst young professionals, should be encouraged. I have just finished my qualification thank you for offering.! I’m always here tho if u need an ear sometimes those who aren’t close are the easiest to talk to! Never feel like u can’t xxxx Sorry, been offline most of the weekend. Thank you for the lovely post and the kind offer. Well done on finishing your qualification! That’s no problem at all! Any time honestly! Thank you it’s a long old road for me off to uni next lol xx" Great stuff - uni can be a great experience and you’ll probably appreciate it/get much more out of it than someone who goes straight from school. | |||
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"Outwardly I’m a sociable person with many friends who love me. I’ve had terrible struggles with mental health, including in recent times. The only reasons I’m still here is that I couldn’t hurt people around me and I’m able to speak about my problems. It’s not really depression with me, but incredible levels of anxiety. I’m busy and active and recognise that I have much to be grateful for. On occasions, the balance tips though and I get consumed with the idea of taking my own life. It’s mainly because I simply can’t cope with stress anymore. I accept that it must seem ludicrous to people not burdened by this. However, someone in my position is consumed by these thoughts and it becomes normal, banal even. The idea of ending it doesn’t seem terrifying and irrational any more - your brain becomes normalised to living in a constantly anxious state and the act becomes banal and insignificant compared to the ongoing stress of coping with the anxious thoughts. There’s a certain arrogance to it too - it’s like you see the “real” world and not the edifice that’s been built up. When others express shock and sadness when someone takes their own life, you nod knowingly and think “ah, that’s one of us”. Don’t ever underestimate how this can skew peoples’ thinking and lead to an act of wilful self-destruction seeming mundane and normal. Take care everyone (men and women alike)" Someone close to me is going through this now. This is the most succinct and clear description I've read and very closely mirrors what I'm seeing. | |||
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"Outwardly I’m a sociable person with many friends who love me. I’ve had terrible struggles with mental health, including in recent times. The only reasons I’m still here is that I couldn’t hurt people around me and I’m able to speak about my problems. It’s not really depression with me, but incredible levels of anxiety. I’m busy and active and recognise that I have much to be grateful for. On occasions, the balance tips though and I get consumed with the idea of taking my own life. It’s mainly because I simply can’t cope with stress anymore. I accept that it must seem ludicrous to people not burdened by this. However, someone in my position is consumed by these thoughts and it becomes normal, banal even. The idea of ending it doesn’t seem terrifying and irrational any more - your brain becomes normalised to living in a constantly anxious state and the act becomes banal and insignificant compared to the ongoing stress of coping with the anxious thoughts. There’s a certain arrogance to it too - it’s like you see the “real” world and not the edifice that’s been built up. When others express shock and sadness when someone takes their own life, you nod knowingly and think “ah, that’s one of us”. Don’t ever underestimate how this can skew peoples’ thinking and lead to an act of wilful self-destruction seeming mundane and normal. Take care everyone (men and women alike) Someone close to me is going through this now. This is the most succinct and clear description I've read and very closely mirrors what I'm seeing." Sorry to hear that. I’m happy to talk to you more about my experiences if you think it might help in any way. No pressure, of course. I’m no expert, but I guess I’ve lived with this a long time and have that experience to draw and on. | |||
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"Outwardly I’m a sociable person with many friends who love me. I’ve had terrible struggles with mental health, including in recent times. The only reasons I’m still here is that I couldn’t hurt people around me and I’m able to speak about my problems. It’s not really depression with me, but incredible levels of anxiety. I’m busy and active and recognise that I have much to be grateful for. On occasions, the balance tips though and I get consumed with the idea of taking my own life. It’s mainly because I simply can’t cope with stress anymore. I accept that it must seem ludicrous to people not burdened by this. However, someone in my position is consumed by these thoughts and it becomes normal, banal even. The idea of ending it doesn’t seem terrifying and irrational any more - your brain becomes normalised to living in a constantly anxious state and the act becomes banal and insignificant compared to the ongoing stress of coping with the anxious thoughts. There’s a certain arrogance to it too - it’s like you see the “real” world and not the edifice that’s been built up. When others express shock and sadness when someone takes their own life, you nod knowingly and think “ah, that’s one of us”. Don’t ever underestimate how this can skew peoples’ thinking and lead to an act of wilful self-destruction seeming mundane and normal. Take care everyone (men and women alike) Someone close to me is going through this now. This is the most succinct and clear description I've read and very closely mirrors what I'm seeing." We have messaged you x | |||
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"We're all so different, I'm almost 56 & don't ever think I'll 'win' I just think in terms of coping. The difficulty is every day is different, some good, some bad & some you just need to work hard & then sleep through to move on to the next one. Coping is good, having friends who recognise you've become overwhelmed & allow you to opt out without fuss help & having friends who care & understand that each of our experiences is individual is invaluable. I learnt a long time ago if a person reaches out for company, I'll do all I can to meet that need because let's face it, people rarely reach out easily X" You know I'm always here if you need me. You along with a few others where the only ones who reacted out and took the time to talk to me when I was going through a terrible patch in my life. Drinking made everything go away. Everyone else would ridicual me and belittle me but none of those ever once asked why I was like I was. And to be fair I was a absoulte nightmare. Luckily for myself I woke up one day and thought I'm better than this and ditch the tablets. It hasn't been easy at all but I was lucky I found the Mr and he sat and listened and was willing to be part of my life. So I'm very thankful for him and the few friends who helped and supported me through a very difficult time | |||
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"Having friends who understand and care is a huge help. I have received so much support and love from friends I've made on here and I really appreciate it...they have really been my saviours " It is mama and again you know were we are | |||
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