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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting thread I'd love to be a 'swinger' with hubby but it's not possible.

I suppose I'm one of those using the swinging scene for my own pervy advantages but as he's not interested I see no reason why I can't have harmless fun

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By *eepandhardMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

"

Time spent in the park entertaining little people

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Time spent in the park entertaining little people "

Definitely not one to be confused with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *eepandhardMan
over a year ago

Swansea


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Time spent in the park entertaining little people

Definitely not one to be confused with "

Lol, I am totally confused here now

Back to the topic - not enough experience to have a clear opinion at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"An interesting thread I'd love to be a 'swinger' with hubby but it's not possible.

I suppose I'm one of those using the swinging scene for my own pervy advantages but as he's not interested I see no reason why I can't have harmless fun "
that's exactly right, "harmless" fun! As long as you are honest, open and upfront, then enjoy!

I often find that "swinging" is used as an excuse to behave & treat others poorly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences "
This for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences "

This for me but primarily the clubs, parties & group fun more so than the 1:1 stuff, they're just casual hook ups X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

"

Ask a 100 different people get 100 different answers.

To me what swinging is not about is other people's interpretation, I'd rather keep it fluid, let it evolve and change with my mood/situation

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

"Swinging is a non-monogamous behaviour in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity."

Ref: Bergstrand, Curtis; Blevins Williams, Jennifer (2000-10-10). "Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers". Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Ask a 100 different people get 100 different answers.

To me what swinging is not about is other people's interpretation, I'd rather keep it fluid, let it evolve and change with my mood/situation"
that's what's so great and how we learn, by asking and listening to those 100

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Swinging is a non-monogamous behaviour in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity."

Ref: Bergstrand, Curtis; Blevins Williams, Jennifer (2000-10-10). "Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers". Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality"

See what I read into the OP was what's your interpretation rather than actual meaning, however I'm often erroneous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Ask a 100 different people get 100 different answers.

To me what swinging is not about is other people's interpretation, I'd rather keep it fluid, let it evolve and change with my mood/situation that's what's so great and how we learn, by asking and listening to those 100 "

Learn by experience, I do the same with food, I tried trifle once, I hated it, haven't had it since, may try it again one, may not

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Ask a 100 different people get 100 different answers.

To me what swinging is not about is other people's interpretation, I'd rather keep it fluid, let it evolve and change with my mood/situation that's what's so great and how we learn, by asking and listening to those 100

Learn by experience, I do the same with food, I tried trifle once, I hated it, haven't had it since, may try it again one, may not"
Experience and understanding are equally as important in my view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's your interpretation of the term "Swinging"?

Just out of interest?

To me, it's primarily group fun and partner swapping, rather than endless one to ones, however I do indulge on occasion. I like to think that most "Swingers" are open, honest and upfront about their wants and needs.

"Swinging" seems to be used as the go-to excuse for shitty behaviour, e.g. "I thought this was a swinging site".

It'll be interesting to see how different people see it

Ask a 100 different people get 100 different answers.

To me what swinging is not about is other people's interpretation, I'd rather keep it fluid, let it evolve and change with my mood/situation that's what's so great and how we learn, by asking and listening to those 100

Learn by experience, I do the same with food, I tried trifle once, I hated it, haven't had it since, may try it again one, may not Experience and understanding are equally as important in my view. "

I concur, however I have no experience 'cos I'm fat old and ugly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't swing.

I have been to clubs etc in the past but it isn't really for me.

I never meet couples.

I fuck single guys and enjoy the occasional mmf etc and find this the best site to get what I want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't swing.

I have been to clubs etc in the past but it isn't really for me.

I never meet couples.

I fuck single guys and enjoy the occasional mmf etc and find this the best site to get what I want "
what don't you like about clubs? (Purely being nosey )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I woukdn't say I actively dislkke clubs as a whole

I don't enjoy Chams Newport, the dress code and lack of proper "nightclub" feel is offputting for me.

On the other hand I thoroughly enjoyed Xtasia....but with the distance it isn't really somewhere I can frequent, due to my personal circumstances.

If there was an Xtasia style venue locally though I would be far more inclined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry my typos are awful. Fat thumbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I woukdn't say I actively dislkke clubs as a whole

I don't enjoy Chams Newport, the dress code and lack of proper "nightclub" feel is offputting for me.

On the other hand I thoroughly enjoyed Xtasia....but with the distance it isn't really somewhere I can frequent, due to my personal circumstances.

If there was an Xtasia style venue locally though I would be far more inclined "

If you build it they will come (or cum)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I woukdn't say I actively dislkke clubs as a whole

I don't enjoy Chams Newport, the dress code and lack of proper "nightclub" feel is offputting for me.

On the other hand I thoroughly enjoyed Xtasia....but with the distance it isn't really somewhere I can frequent, due to my personal circumstances.

If there was an Xtasia style venue locally though I would be far more inclined "
I understand where you are coming from. I always hate getting undressed straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An interesting thread I'd love to be a 'swinger' with hubby but it's not possible.

I suppose I'm one of those using the swinging scene for my own pervy advantages but as he's not interested I see no reason why I can't have harmless fun "

ah forget hubby id swing with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I woukdn't say I actively dislkke clubs as a whole

I don't enjoy Chams Newport, the dress code and lack of proper "nightclub" feel is offputting for me.

On the other hand I thoroughly enjoyed Xtasia....but with the distance it isn't really somewhere I can frequent, due to my personal circumstances.

If there was an Xtasia style venue locally though I would be far more inclined I understand where you are coming from. I always hate getting undressed straight away "

Plus the lack of proper bar puts me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I woukdn't say I actively dislkke clubs as a whole

I don't enjoy Chams Newport, the dress code and lack of proper "nightclub" feel is offputting for me.

On the other hand I thoroughly enjoyed Xtasia....but with the distance it isn't really somewhere I can frequent, due to my personal circumstances.

If there was an Xtasia style venue locally though I would be far more inclined I understand where you are coming from. I always hate getting undressed straight away

Plus the lack of proper bar puts me off"
oh I quite like that after recently drinking Luke warm wine out of a plastic pint cup

At least I can take my own and know it'll be chilled (and cheaper)!

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Bermondsey

Some people just want to see it as the old cliché of wife swapping; but I see it as more than that nowadays.

Fab gives me the opportunity to meet people who are much more uninhibited about sex

I like to indulge in twosomes, threesomes and on occasion moresomes

I'm not here looking for long term relationships, or friends with benefits or exclusivity, but I do want to be friends with whoever I might meet, and I find that socialising is as important as actual fucking

As long as you're upfront, and honest about what you're after, then that's perfectly fine by me.

If that's swinging, then so be it

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

I see swinging as three or more people meeting for one reason, to enjoy each other with expectations afterwards.

Of course you are likely to meet first and see if you hit it off. There should be no pressure to act and it should be a fun, exciting and pleasurable experience for all.

In a club environment, I feel its a place for liked mind people to meet other liked minded people without the hassle of knowing what someone is at the club for. We all what we go for! Of course that doesn't mean you can think that everyone there is going just to be with anyone and the same rules of extraction apply as outside the club.

No, of course means no, but if you sit on my face you probably won't be able to hear me lol

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

EDIT: with no expectations afterwards.

We all know what we go for!

Jesus, any more mistakes!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences "

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are also a very small number of genuine married couples here, most are just fake fuck buddy "couples"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity.. "

I think you used up everyones elses share of negativity in that post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice Mr Hound. Now I know where Ive been going wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity.. "

I'm more than happy with the sex my partner gives me & I don't get sex like it elsewhere,I have a particular fetish & that is to watch him with others, know he's with others & I don't see meeting this desire as any reflection on our sex life or the quality of our relationship, it enhances & we get immense, mutual pleasure from sharing. I feel a little saddened that you don't have the ability to understand anything other than your own narrow view on the topics discussed here. Diversity & difference are wonderful things & they should be embraced not frowned upon or belittled. I get that everyone has a right to express their view, but do you have it within you to be tolerant or polite in your expression?

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity..

I'm more than happy with the sex my partner gives me & I don't get sex like it elsewhere,I have a particular fetish & that is to watch him with others, know he's with others & I don't see meeting this desire as any reflection on our sex life or the quality of our relationship, it enhances & we get immense, mutual pleasure from sharing. I feel a little saddened that you don't have the ability to understand anything other than your own narrow view on the topics discussed here. Diversity & difference are wonderful things & they should be embraced not frowned upon or belittled. I get that everyone has a right to express their view, but do you have it within you to be tolerant or polite in your expression?"

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By *sums.r.usCouple
over a year ago

conwy

Very well said

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Bermondsey


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity.. "

I feel that there's a whole black hole of negativity going on...

Excuse me whilst I just check my copy of a Brief History of Space and Time

Yep, no mention of couples shagging other couples because of difficulties in their relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice Mr Hound. Now I know where Ive been going wrong "

Mr Hound seems to know people better than they know themselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity.. "
interesting view point. Where do you fit into all of that? The self suckers of society?

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By *rBeardMan
over a year ago

Mid Glamorgan


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity.. "

Think your view of swinging is dated , swinging In 2017 Is far different from the 80's/ 90's that many people seem to think it is these days. Times evolve and it's a shame people's perceptions don't with it.

I'm married and I sure as hell don't swap my partner because I'm not happy with what I have. Quite the opposite really.

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity..

Think your view of swinging is dated , swinging In 2017 Is far different from the 80's/ 90's that many people seem to think it is these days. Times evolve and it's a shame people's perceptions don't with it.

I'm married and I sure as hell don't swap my partner because I'm not happy with what I have. Quite the opposite really. "

100% agree me beard it's about enhancing what you have as a couple

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice Mr Hound. Now I know where Ive been going wrong

Mr Hound seems to know people better than they know themselves "

You will be surprised what you can pick up on when you take a back seat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun with friends and/or acquaintances.

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By *rsbrooksandjohnCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

For us its the ability to break a few establishment rules and broaden our horizons ultimatley leading to us having a more honest relationship and awesome sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's about endless fun. Be it in groups, 3 somes female fun or one to one. For me it's being with people who are open minded and being able to discuss and maybe share experiences

Fun = Sex... Alot of people refer to sex as fun here...

Swinging = couples or singles who get off on having sex with others, primarily through the use of websites, etc.. You will find most married couples are happy enough and therefore don't need to shag someone else to feel better..

There is the social scene excuse, but those people will also have shag verifications on their profile (most don't display them and manipulate the display of them just to suit what they are looking for at that time, which is sly as fuck and quite dishonest, shows their needs come first)

Either way, swinging is swapping current partner with someone else, because they are not happy with what they have.. Quite selfish to be honest...

And queue negativity..

Think your view of swinging is dated , swinging In 2017 Is far different from the 80's/ 90's that many people seem to think it is these days. Times evolve and it's a shame people's perceptions don't with it.

I'm married and I sure as hell don't swap my partner because I'm not happy with what I have. Quite the opposite really. "

I agree his views seem very backward

But it takes all sorts I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sure does P & that for me is one of the positives of this lifestyle, you get to meet & interact with people you'd never acknowledge in real life X

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