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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Compose yourself and think.....this person has what I've been looking for.

You take your time and write a lovely message with thought behind it, not too forward but showing your interest.....send your best full body pic aaaaaaaand no reply.

Sucks ass.

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By *JJJJxMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yup, that's fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per fab rules you must take a no reply as a no, leave your sense of entitlement at the log in page. I'm sure all the other ladies are with me on this one, but there are more important things in life than providing polite no messages, firstly at the cost to your self esteem because the majority of guys can't take a polite no & secondly because the volume of mail means you could be spending all your time sending pointless rejection messages.

If you did a forum search on this topic you'll see it's been done to death X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a clear indication they aren't interested in you and saves you wasting your time any further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't there there is sense of entitlement here, it more like a hope that the person you think you would get on with and fancy the pants off may like you back.

Let's not confuse hope with entitlement.

We all need a little hope.

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By *aydee65Man
over a year ago

Near Merthyr

It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging."

Christ do men really read that much into things??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've sent messages like that before that were never opened. After a few, you think 'fuck it'!

The trouble is, the ladies here get so many messages, you get lost in the pandemonium of dick pics and 'fancy a fuck's' and then sometimes deleted in an inbox clear out.

When I was a contibutor, I used to upload pics and reply to updates and then message the people who viewed my profile. Seemed to work ok.

Fab is definitely a woman's world though. We outnumber the ladies many times over so it's always a bit of a fight. You need to make yourself noticeable. Flood the updates page and see where that gets you or try some socials!

Kudos to you as well Miss P69. I've sent a couple of friendly messages to you a couple of times regarding your status' and have always had a response! Your good for the Fab community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging.

Christ do men really read that much into things?? "

Yep, any means to rationalise a repeat message, hope lol the messages I get on my single profile don't come across as hopeful, more like desperation nowadays. But maybe that's just my experience because I'm older, fatter & for some reason should be grateful for the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't there there is sense of entitlement here, it more like a hope that the person you think you would get on with and fancy the pants off may like you back.

Let's not confuse hope with entit

We all need a little hope."

Bleating about it on the forum infers a sense of entitlement.

If your not getting meets/messages read/replied too IMO you have 3 choices, change your approach, change the site, leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging.

Christ do men really read that much into things??

Yep, any means to rationalise a repeat message, hope lol the messages I get on my single profile don't come across as hopeful, more like desperation nowadays. But maybe that's just my experience because I'm older, fatter & for some reason should be grateful for the attention "

Cos I know you so well I can tell you're not suggesting all men on here are pests, just some like enit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get that women on here receive 100s of messages a day and not getting a reply after the message has been read generally means they're not imterested.

Its just gutting when you see a woman whos right up your street, local and you get hopeful of getting a reply and nothing happens. I guess thats just life tho haha.

She has got the best toes ive ever seen tho.... something a foot lover searches his whole life for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May possibly be in a relationship. If that is the case, she won't want to be going loco, down in Acapulco.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"May possibly be in a relationship. If that is the case, she won't want to be going loco, down in Acapulco."

Can't believe I just wrote that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't there there is sense of entitlement here, it more like a hope that the person you think you would get on with and fancy the pants off may like you back.

Let's not confuse hope with entit

We all need a little hope.

Bleating about it on the forum infers a sense of entitlement.

If your not getting meets/messages read/replied too IMO you have 3 choices, change your approach, change the site, leave. "

You're!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't there there is sense of entitlement here, it more like a hope that the person you think you would get on with and fancy the pants off may like you back.

Let's not confuse hope with entit

We all need a little hope.

Bleating about it on the forum infers a sense of entitlement.

If your not getting meets/messages read/replied too IMO you have 3 choices, change your approach, change the site, leave.

You're!"

Seriously??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't there there is sense of entitlement here, it more like a hope that the person you think you would get on with and fancy the pants off may like you back.

Let's not confuse hope with entit

We all need a little hope.

Bleating about it on the forum infers a sense of entitlement.

If your not getting meets/messages read/replied too IMO you have 3 choices, change your approach, change the site, leave.

You're!"

"There there"

"It more"

We can all be pedants, just some get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging.

Christ do men really read that much into things??

Yep, any means to rationalise a repeat message, hope lol the messages I get on my single profile don't come across as hopeful, more like desperation nowadays. But maybe that's just my experience because I'm older, fatter & for some reason should be grateful for the attention

Cos I know you so well I can tell you're not suggesting all men on here are pests, just some like enit "

It's only coz you got the cutest butt on Fab that you get the meets fair play though you've never whined, moaned, bleated or complained, you just get on with it X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on whether the message was read and deleted (definitely not interested), or it was just deleted (probably not interested, but may have 'block deleted') or if it has just been not read, in which case it may be lost in the backlog of a few hundred unread messages. If its the last one, then I may wait until I see that person online and try another message as you have a far higher chance of a reply if the message is sent when the blue dot is showing. Either way it's not a good idea to become a nuisance by repeat messaging.

Christ do men really read that much into things??

Yep, any means to rationalise a repeat message, hope lol the messages I get on my single profile don't come across as hopeful, more like desperation nowadays. But maybe that's just my experience because I'm older, fatter & for some reason should be grateful for the attention

Cos I know you so well I can tell you're not suggesting all men on here are pests, just some like enit

It's only coz you got the cutest butt on Fab that you get the meets fair play though you've never whined, moaned, bleated or complained, you just get on with it X"

No bugger listens when I do, kind of negates the effort, I'm getting on, I need all my energy for shagging see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response. "

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist "

I fall out of a lot of peoples age ranges as well so that stops me being able to message people first.

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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist

I fall out of a lot of peoples age ranges as well so that stops me being able to message people first. "

Newport social is next month, get your name down to go, make a positive impression and then you may find that people don't take any notice of the age, unfortunately some people are perceived as young and their attitude even younger (in my experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist

I fall out of a lot of peoples age ranges as well so that stops me being able to message people first.

Newport social is next month, get your name down to go, make a positive impression and then you may find that people don't take any notice of the age, unfortunately some people are perceived as young and their attitude even younger (in my experience)"

The singles social is next week so I'm going to that. If it goes well I'll have a loolk at the other one

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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist

I fall out of a lot of peoples age ranges as well so that stops me being able to message people first.

Newport social is next month, get your name down to go, make a positive impression and then you may find that people don't take any notice of the age, unfortunately some people are perceived as young and their attitude even younger (in my experience)

The singles social is next week so I'm going to that. If it goes well I'll have a loolk at the other one "

Fair enough, hope it goes well for you

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By *rgasmicFunCouple
over a year ago

Gwent

Wow this is intense lol, as to the thread opening, Guys not all the ladies like a cock pick, a nice smile on a nice presentable guy works for a lot of weman, send a nice polite message then if she replies and ask's for a cock pic send it and go from there.

If she does not reply leave it u r not for her, its as simple as that, some one above said fab is run by weman that is totaly true, as with out them there is no swinging, so if a lady says no or no thank u move on its a big world .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm considering not bothering messaging first anymore. If I get a wink or something then I will. Or if someone in the forums says something. Otherwise there's been not much response.

You've only been on fab 6 weeks, it's a little early to be so defeatist

I fall out of a lot of peoples age ranges as well so that stops me being able to message people first.

Newport social is next month, get your name down to go, make a positive impression and then you may find that people don't take any notice of the age, unfortunately some people are perceived as young and their attitude even younger (in my experience)

The singles social is next week so I'm going to that. If it goes well I'll have a loolk at the other one

Fair enough, hope it goes well for you "

Thank you. Best wishes.

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