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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How hard is it to find a decent single lad to play with..

Considering they're always moaning they can't get a meet, we're struggling to find one..

Any suggestions welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met plenty of awesome single guys over the years so there are loads on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we was looking for single males we'd put a meet up which sort of worked but the best results came from when we looked ourselves, met some lovely fellas and had no problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely fella here hun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When we was looking for single males we'd put a meet up which sort of worked but the best results came from when we looked ourselves, met some lovely fellas and had no problems. "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we was looking for single males we'd put a meet up which sort of worked but the best results came from when we looked ourselves, met some lovely fellas and had no problems.

Thank you "

You're welcome and hopefully you'll find who your looking for. X

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By *r PimmsMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Single males have the same dilemma!

There are plenty of good males here.

I never turn down a social and meet but given the abundance of dodgy profiles I exercise caution always...play safe.

Read between the lines.....X

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

This makes a refreshing change

You may find that the forums can act as a useful filter

And (said many times before) using the socials can introduce you to many people

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This makes a refreshing change

You may find that the forums can act as a useful filter

And (said many times before) using the socials can introduce you to many people "

Yes, we are going to give a social a try.

I went to a Cardiff one years ago and enjoyed it

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By *r PimmsMan
over a year ago

Swansea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"How hard is it to find a decent single lad to play with..

Considering they're always moaning they can't get a meet, we're struggling to find one..

Any suggestions welcome "

Hit the socials, and ignore the lists that seem to suggest that it will be standing room only due to the numbers of single guys who put their names down, most won't turn up, as the wife will not let them out!

Its a good filter, those that do turn up are, for the most part, fairly human lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been looking in the wrong places....

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Only made it to one fab social but been to many on the fet scene and definitely the best way to get to meet the more serious members of the community. Plus I know I suck at sending that first pm.

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

There are some lovely single guys around I must say. I get too shy most the time to approach in that way though in reality.

Have a few on my to do list

Mrs

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Only made it to one fab social but been to many on the fet scene and definitely the best way to get to meet the more serious members of the community. Plus I know I suck at sending that first pm. "

Totally off topic, but your rope work is very pretty

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Only made it to one fab social but been to many on the fet scene and definitely the best way to get to meet the more serious members of the community. Plus I know I suck at sending that first pm.

Totally off topic, but your rope work is very pretty "

Thank you. Always happy to practice a little more though.

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Only made it to one fab social but been to many on the fet scene and definitely the best way to get to meet the more serious members of the community. Plus I know I suck at sending that first pm.

Totally off topic, but your rope work is very pretty

Thank you. Always happy to practice a little more though. "

I'd love to watch a demonstration

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

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By *ardiffladXXXMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Tbh that is refreshing to here. Ive been trying to organise stuff with people but find in hard. In terms of socials I haven't got the asking price for clubs and then so many socials have a limit of single guys I can never seem to go to one. Being new to the site aswell and not having a personal verify doesn't help me either

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

As has been said socials and clubs certainly help and plenty of decent guys on here for you to choose from

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland


"Tbh that is refreshing to here. Ive been trying to organise stuff with people but find in hard. In terms of socials I haven't got the asking price for clubs and then so many socials have a limit of single guys I can never seem to go to one. Being new to the site aswell and not having a personal verify doesn't help me either "

The singles social is coming up in September mind where you need no veris x

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yeah I was lucky enough that I knew people on here through fet before I joined so was able to get a couple of veris straight away. Not that it always helps.

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By *ardiffladXXXMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Is that posted on the forum.

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By *antasy-man69Man
over a year ago

Bridgend

Single young security guard looking for meets here

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By *r n1ceguyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"How hard is it to find a decent single lad to play with..

Considering they're always moaning they can't get a meet, we're struggling to find one..

Any suggestions welcome "

Just outside your age range ???? xx

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By *r n1ceguyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

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By *r n1ceguyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"This makes a refreshing change

You may find that the forums can act as a useful filter

And (said many times before) using the socials can introduce you to many people

Yes, we are going to give a social a try.

I went to a Cardiff one years ago and enjoyed it"

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By *errierMan
over a year ago

Newport

I am a always up for a chat

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials. "

I've never been. I don't know enough about it all, I'm afraid

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By *elsh_lass74Woman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Tbh that is refreshing to here. Ive been trying to organise stuff with people but find in hard. In terms of socials I haven't got the asking price for clubs and then so many socials have a limit of single guys I can never seem to go to one. Being new to the site aswell and not having a personal verify doesn't help me either "

Singles social in Newport at the beginning of Sept. It's posted in the forum. No veris needed plus we try to couple up people to get into the club, for those who want to attend without paying full price as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting about this on a meet the other day and she stipulated we (singles) are approached by the couples. Seems to be more active in South Wales than North Wales, doesn't help that profiles appear and disappear within days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it to find a decent single lad to play with..

Considering they're always moaning they can't get a meet, we're struggling to find one..

Any suggestions welcome "

It's not easy either way apparently. I guess finding decent people is just generally tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I'm one of the awesome ones

But I know from some of my friends on here that half the guys they speak to are all talk and nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lookingformore..... I'm having the same issue with ladies. Know One seems to reply...

Or. I'm away working as per. You know I'd meet you two for a brew or some food.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lookingformore..... I'm having the same issue with ladies. Know One seems to reply...

Or. I'm away working as per. You know I'd meet you two for a brew or some food. "

We definitely need a catch up soo kei

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We certainly do yes...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We certainly do yes... "

Well lets sort something, we've been saying this for ages now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets do it

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By *riggs69Man
over a year ago

Swansea

I am a single lad looking for a nice couple to have plenty of fun with so get back in touch

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By *wanzMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Id rate myself as a decent guy ...And my veris back it up ...

BUT !!!

I can't go to the local social as there is a couple going who are known trouble makers who have upset several people on the site, and even threatened me because I turned down a play with them ...

Sometimes its not the single guys on here that are the a-holes - its the couples ...

Anyway - there are or used to be (Im a returner from overseas working) LOTS of nice folk on here - lets hope they discover the fun of SWANZ :o)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials. "

Haven't long come back from a fetish and kink social and I have to say, was one of the best things I have done so far.. No clicky people, none of the 'usual suspects', no drama and all were all to happy to approach me without staying in groups! Look forward to going to some more, and no one was obsessed with green ticks, all were genuine enough! - highly recommended!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

Haven't long come back from a fetish and kink social and I have to say, was one of the best things I have done so far.. No clicky people, none of the 'usual suspects', no drama and all were all to happy to approach me without staying in groups! Look forward to going to some more, and no one was obsessed with green ticks, all were genuine enough! - highly recommended!! "

Here's a fact - I've only really been using this site for research purposes.. Ie, what the general attitude is of the users of one of the biggest swinging sites..

I concluded that by using other apps and sites, I was more successful.. The general attitude here, created by event organisers and some goers was -

* Your profile is shit and isn't to our standard, so good luck in getting meets

* You need to spend a stupid amount of time in the forums just to be recognised here (which is bollocks)

* If you do not have a green tick, you are not genuine, so good luck

* When new socials are created, the general response will be "good luck with that one", indicating that only their event is worth going to

* If you do not fit in, prepare to be reported or have a negative response

* Because this is the biggest swinging site, all others don't count..

As well as dozens more.. Including trying to influence others into their way of thinking, by saying things like "don't think you will get a meet", etc.. Also, if you monitor the forums enough, you will notice those dishing out their advice constantly contradict themselves regularly, but don't see it because they have their heads up their own arse..

Anyway, if you aren't having much success here, don't feel like there is no alternative.. THERE IS! - Just a simple Google search will bring up lots of sites and apps that offer swinging, fetish, kinks, etc...! - Anyway, I shall wait for the inevitable negative responses.. As usual..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And as per negative responses in the forums, quite simply, don't reply, they're doing themselves more damage by responding negatively in front of everyone and bitching amongst themselves, craving that response...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did send the two of you a polite message but instead of a reply or no thanks, you blocked me!manners cost nothing.

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

I've never been. I don't know enough about it all, I'm afraid "

No worries. Send me a pm and am happy to chat about it. Will be busy with kids for the next couple of weeks but after that more than happy to try and organise something.

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a single male, decent I think. Fido don't it hard to get a break on here. Take a chance?"

Guess you're into dogging?

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I'm a single male, decent I think. Find it hard to get a break on here. Take a chance?

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"I'm a single male, decent I think. Fido don't it hard to get a break on here. Take a chance?

Guess you're into dogging? "

damn predictive text

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to the best of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfaoooooo!!!! Clearly this is a wind up right guys, ignore the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 weeks in...another troll?

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"2 weeks in...another troll? "

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps your age parameters are too narrow? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 weeks in...another troll?

Who?

"

The couple and their verification, both 2 weeks since they joined. Bit of a quincidence them joining the same time struggling to find a single guy isn't it? Come on....tut tut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Logging out the same time? After a reaction obviously, us single guys ain't that dull especially the gooduns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And not hard to find let's be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wel wel it's like picking the right Dailey out of the field

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2 weeks in...another troll?

Who?

The couple and their verification, both 2 weeks since they joined. Bit of a quincidence them joining the same time struggling to find a single guy isn't it? Come on....tut tut! "

We have both been on here before as single people and now and as a couple..

There are lots of people I've met through socials who I'm pretty sure would verify me..

My old profile was sweetNsaucy and due to relationship I had 3 years off from fab..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2 weeks in...another troll?

Who?

The couple and their verification, both 2 weeks since they joined. Bit of a quincidence them joining the same time struggling to find a single guy isn't it? Come on....tut tut!

We have both been on here before as single people and now and as a couple..

There are lots of people I've met through socials who I'm pretty sure would verify me..

My old profile was sweetNsaucy and due to relationship I had 3 years off from fab.. "

As for kez, I've known him 15 years, he's a friend of both me and my partner.. Why wouldn't he verify us? And vice versa?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

Haven't long come back from a fetish and kink social and I have to say, was one of the best things I have done so far.. No clicky people, none of the 'usual suspects', no drama and all were all to happy to approach me without staying in groups! Look forward to going to some more, and no one was obsessed with green ticks, all were genuine enough! - highly recommended!!

Here's a fact - I've only really been using this site for research purposes.. Ie, what the general attitude is of the users of one of the biggest swinging sites..

I concluded that by using other apps and sites, I was more successful.. The general attitude here, created by event organisers and some goers was -

* Your profile is shit and isn't to our standard, so good luck in getting meets

* You need to spend a stupid amount of time in the forums just to be recognised here (which is bollocks)

* If you do not have a green tick, you are not genuine, so good luck

* When new socials are created, the general response will be "good luck with that one", indicating that only their event is worth going to

* If you do not fit in, prepare to be reported or have a negative response

* Because this is the biggest swinging site, all others don't count..

As well as dozens more.. Including trying to influence others into their way of thinking, by saying things like "don't think you will get a meet", etc.. Also, if you monitor the forums enough, you will notice those dishing out their advice constantly contradict themselves regularly, but don't see it because they have their heads up their own arse..

Anyway, if you aren't having much success here, don't feel like there is no alternative.. THERE IS! - Just a simple Google search will bring up lots of sites and apps that offer swinging, fetish, kinks, etc...! - Anyway, I shall wait for the inevitable negative responses.. As usual.. "

I've been around a long time & I can't agree with much of that tbh:

Profiles are only commented upon if the op has put the thread up specifically seeking comment & yes, some people don't pull punches with their responses.

You need to spend time in the forum, definitely not, we don't meet from the forum & on my single profile I actively avoid all of you. My experience has been pretty much the same speaking with friends, clubs, socials & parties seem to be the places people meet nowadays.

We & others we know often meet newbies on the site, if I'm going to a club, party or social we always reach out to new people & I even have a little social aimed at those, like me who prefer a smaller environment, me green tick needed.

New socials are generally well supported & organisers from the bigger ones will fully support & attend the new ones, they're always there to offer advice if asked. Both the new social run by wild oats & my Sunday lunch social had more than 20 attendees, I reckon that's really good going & many attendees were at their first ever social.

Experience does bear out much of what you say & reads more like what you've personally experienced & that could say more about you than the site tbh

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

Haven't long come back from a fetish and kink social and I have to say, was one of the best things I have done so far.. No clicky people, none of the 'usual suspects', no drama and all were all to happy to approach me without staying in groups! Look forward to going to some more, and no one was obsessed with green ticks, all were genuine enough! - highly recommended!!

Here's a fact - I've only really been using this site for research purposes.. Ie, what the general attitude is of the users of one of the biggest swinging sites..

I concluded that by using other apps and sites, I was more successful.. The general attitude here, created by event organisers and some goers was -

* Your profile is shit and isn't to our standard, so good luck in getting meets

* You need to spend a stupid amount of time in the forums just to be recognised here (which is bollocks)

* If you do not have a green tick, you are not genuine, so good luck

* When new socials are created, the general response will be "good luck with that one", indicating that only their event is worth going to

* If you do not fit in, prepare to be reported or have a negative response

* Because this is the biggest swinging site, all others don't count..

As well as dozens more.. Including trying to influence others into their way of thinking, by saying things like "don't think you will get a meet", etc.. Also, if you monitor the forums enough, you will notice those dishing out their advice constantly contradict themselves regularly, but don't see it because they have their heads up their own arse..

Anyway, if you aren't having much success here, don't feel like there is no alternative.. THERE IS! - Just a simple Google search will bring up lots of sites and apps that offer swinging, fetish, kinks, etc...! - Anyway, I shall wait for the inevitable negative responses.. As usual..

I've been around a long time & I can't agree with much of that tbh:

Profiles are only commented upon if the op has put the thread up specifically seeking comment & yes, some people don't pull punches with their responses.

You need to spend time in the forum, definitely not, we don't meet from the forum & on my single profile I actively avoid all of you. My experience has been pretty much the same speaking with friends, clubs, socials & parties seem to be the places people meet nowadays.

We & others we know often meet newbies on the site, if I'm going to a club, party or social we always reach out to new people & I even have a little social aimed at those, like me who prefer a smaller environment, me green tick needed.

New socials are generally well supported & organisers from the bigger ones will fully support & attend the new ones, they're always there to offer advice if asked. Both the new social run by wild oats & my Sunday lunch social had more than 20 attendees, I reckon that's really good going & many attendees were at their first ever social.

Experience does bear out much of what you say & reads more like what you've personally experienced & that could say more about you than the site tbh

"

Smaller socials sounds good to me, where do I sign????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one "

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We single males are out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular "

As if I would imply such a thing, I'm sure I've seen a pic of it at some point

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular

As if I would imply such a thing, I'm sure I've seen a pic of it at some point "

Nope, you definitely haven't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular

As if I would imply such a thing, I'm sure I've seen a pic of it at some point

Nope, you definitely haven't "

Come on now Jack you're making me feel a Perve here, are you implying I've been thinking about the size of it hmmmmmm

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular

As if I would imply such a thing, I'm sure I've seen a pic of it at some point

Nope, you definitely haven't

Come on now Jack you're making me feel a Perve here, are you implying I've been thinking about the size of it hmmmmmm "

I would never imply you were a perv.

We all know you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Look out for the any of the lunch socials & any put up by Wild Oats, I'm sorry if I've missed anyone else with a small one

I hope you're not implying I have a small one

Though my socials do prove fairly popular

As if I would imply such a thing, I'm sure I've seen a pic of it at some point

Nope, you definitely haven't

Come on now Jack you're making me feel a Perve here, are you implying I've been thinking about the size of it hmmmmmm

I would never imply you were a perv.

We all know you are "

Hmmmm I try my best

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By *ardiff123Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Nice easy guy here, reliable, respectful, horny, loves giving pleasure, available most times xx

However, out of your age range ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol its just as hard to find a single lady to play with lol

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By *SSWING2017Couple
over a year ago

bridgend


"Id rate myself as a decent guy ...And my veris back it up ...

BUT !!!

I can't go to the local social as there is a couple going who are known trouble makers who have upset several people on the site, and even threatened me because I turned down a play with them ...

Sometimes its not the single guys on here that are the a-holes - its the couples ...

Anyway - there are or used to be (Im a returner from overseas working) LOTS of nice folk on here - lets hope they discover the fun of SWANZ :o)"

We too have had this problem after turning down a couple to play!!

Sad really isn't it!

Don't take anything too serious in this scene, it's all for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it to find a decent single lad to play with..

Considering they're always moaning they can't get a meet, we're struggling to find one..

Any suggestions welcome

Hit the socials, and ignore the lists that seem to suggest that it will be standing room only due to the numbers of single guys who put their

names down, most won't turn up, as the wife will not let them out!

Its a good filter, those that do turn up are, for the most part, fairly human lol! "

Haha so true, you can mostly spot an attached man cause they tend not to message after 7pm. And they change from can accommodate to. Can we get a room this time. I'm not saying all. Just most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your version of decent doesn't it? Most women on here think they dons stacking mail/male....

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By *eepandhardMan
over a year ago

Swansea

No decent men, virtually,here

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Do you attend any of the fetish community events? I get to one or two when I can. Always have rope on me at those. Get funny looms if I bring it to normal socials.

Haven't long come back from a fetish and kink social and I have to say, was one of the best things I have done so far.. No clicky people, none of the 'usual suspects', no drama and all were all to happy to approach me without staying in groups! Look forward to going to some more, and no one was obsessed with green ticks, all were genuine enough! - highly recommended!!

Here's a fact - I've only really been using this site for research purposes.. Ie, what the general attitude is of the users of one of the biggest swinging sites..

I concluded that by using other apps and sites, I was more successful.. The general attitude here, created by event organisers and some goers was -

* Your profile is shit and isn't to our standard, so good luck in getting meets

* You need to spend a stupid amount of time in the forums just to be recognised here (which is bollocks)

* If you do not have a green tick, you are not genuine, so good luck

* When new socials are created, the general response will be "good luck with that one", indicating that only their event is worth going to

* If you do not fit in, prepare to be reported or have a negative response

* Because this is the biggest swinging site, all others don't count..

As well as dozens more.. Including trying to influence others into their way of thinking, by saying things like "don't think you will get a meet", etc.. Also, if you monitor the forums enough, you will notice those dishing out their advice constantly contradict themselves regularly, but don't see it because they have their heads up their own arse..

Anyway, if you aren't having much success here, don't feel like there is no alternative.. THERE IS! - Just a simple Google search will bring up lots of sites and apps that offer swinging, fetish, kinks, etc...! - Anyway, I shall wait for the inevitable negative responses.. As usual.. "

I think you are generalising way too much, and the only negativity here is generated by you.

"Your profile is shit..."

Some profiles are, and some forum posters don't sugar coat how they put it over, but there is also a lot of advice given that gets ignored or attacked.

"You need to spend..." Nope, the forums are only used by a very small minority of fabbers, advice is usually to hit the socials if you want to get known.

"...green tick.." applies more to fems and cpls, lets face it, who's going to fake being a single male?

"When new socials are created..." some newbies seem to think that they can short-circuit the meet process by throwing together a short notice, ill-thought out social, and those with more miles under their belts tend to spot something that isn't going to fly and point it out.

"If you don't fit in...." Some sensitive souls take opinions that don't mesh with their views as an attack on them, and react badly... its a forum, don't post if you cant take the shadow as well as the sunshine.

"...inevitable negative responses.." there is one common denominator when that happens.

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Well that escalated quickly

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I know a few decent single guys in the scene and I know a few dickheads as well

I would say if you do the following

Willing to go to go to social and clubs

Willing to have a few decent pics that are not just your cock

That you willing to send a polite message that is not scattergun

Willing to read forums to get to know people

Write a decent profile and I would say have a look at other guys, and maybe a few single women to get an idea

The scene is about reputation takes time to build and develop but can be ruined in one shit meet or incident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this tread still going on?

Plenty of single decent guys out there. You just have to reply some of them.

Don't dismiss them on a first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op

Please Don't class us all in the same boat, And with that said I'm more than happy to throw my hat in the ring and prove that although a minority we are still out there

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

You have to wait until they're walking down a badly lit Victorian passageway, then leap on them from a great height. Then if the couple inject the single male with a narcotic serum through through their fangs, they can drag the single male back to their lair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have to wait until they're walking down a badly lit Victorian passageway, then leap on them from a great height. Then if the couple inject the single male with a narcotic serum through through their fangs, they can drag the single male back to their lair. "

This was plan B.... Great minds think alike

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By *rchanfelMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Why do you thinkni learnt rope? Good play partners are hard to find so once you finally get to meeting don't want them escaping

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do you think i learnt rope? Good play partners are hard to find so once you finally get to meeting don't want them escaping "

I like your thinking!!!

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot


"Why do you thinkni learnt rope? Good play partners are hard to find so once you finally get to meeting don't want them escaping "

It's knot what they were expecting...

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