FabSwingers.com forum: Plan Vs last minute

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just me who gets really fed up of people who seem incapable of making plans ahead of time??

So many men seem to only be able to comit to last minute meets, or unable to plan over a week in advance.... then when

It annoys me as I work, study and have sole responsibility for a young child. Very rarely do I have a night to myself unless it is planned in advance.

My last naughty weekend away resulted in an early night and no play as the poor sod had "confidence issues" in the club. Fml.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All our meets as a couple or just the wife are planned, we never do last minute meets.

If others can't commit to a couple of weeks time for a social/play meet then no problem for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to plan ahead. Just saying

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

Its to do with having many responsibilities to meet. It never works if one person has lots of responsibilities and the other very few. In my experience when you've juggled stuff, moved meetings, postponed things and so on just to clear a time slot, the person who is is sooo anxious to spend time with you, but has had to move nothing, will often say they forgot their mum's coming round to go shopping or has to drive their brother somewhere at the last minute etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to plan a fair bit ahead, but sexually it's not always a good thing.

E.g. Had a meet last night arranged a few days ago, when the time came, I wasn't feeling particularly horny, and was tired, but didn't want to let her down.

Got there and she felt the same but didn't want to let me down!!!!!

As it happened we had a half decent night but nothing mind blowing.

For me, my job massively dictates my pre planned free time, so I tend to pre plan more important aspects of my life.

Sometimes unplanned stuff is the best, had many an amazing unplanned night.

Different strokes different folks I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We struggle with planned meets - if we plan, someone usually lets us down, or maybe as said above we don't feel like it. It's difficult as we're both constantly in different areas of the country and often find a free evening when we wouldn't have expected to have one.

It would be nice to plan ahead - but hasn't worked out for us yet so we stick to last minute (people we've spoken to before but never met)

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By *eswillMan
over a year ago

Chepstow

I have found planned meets ( 10 days+ before) most get cancel for some reason or other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I try to plan a fair bit ahead, but sexually it's not always a good thing.

E.g. Had a meet last night arranged a few days ago, when the time came, I wasn't feeling particularly horny, and was tired, but didn't want to let her down.

Got there and she felt the same but didn't want to let me down!!!!!

As it happened we had a half decent night but nothing mind blowing.

For me, my job massively dictates my pre planned free time, so I tend to pre plan more important aspects of my life.

Sometimes unplanned stuff is the best, had many an amazing unplanned night.

Different strokes different folks I guess"
yes I know that feeling.

It's just so frustrating when I've made loads of arrangements and then it's a blow out

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Time is a precious commodity, and so I like to plan

Rarely do I get to act on the spur.

Weekends are taken up with all of my sprogs activities, which are starting to be more and more involving.

Which is one of the reasons why I started my socials (next on the 2nd btw), and I usually try and arrange something of the back of those

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try to plan a fair bit ahead, but sexually it's not always a good thing.

E.g. Had a meet last night arranged a few days ago, when the time came, I wasn't feeling particularly horny, and was tired, but didn't want to let her down.

Got there and she felt the same but didn't want to let me down!!!!!

As it happened we had a half decent night but nothing mind blowing.

For me, my job massively dictates my pre planned free time, so I tend to pre plan more important aspects of my life.

Sometimes unplanned stuff is the best, had many an amazing unplanned night.

Different strokes different folks I guess yes I know that feeling.

It's just so frustrating when I've made loads of arrangements and then it's a blow out

I feel you! I don't have kids so can't relate to that aspect, but I do understand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its to do with having many responsibilities to meet. It never works if one person has lots of responsibilities and the other very few. In my experience when you've juggled stuff, moved meetings, postponed things and so on just to clear a time slot, the person who is is sooo anxious to spend time with you, but has had to move nothing, will often say they forgot their mum's coming round to go shopping or has to drive their brother somewhere at the last minute etc."
I've never thought of it like that? You are probably right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're very much a plan ahead couple our time is so limited with competing work patterns that we've got to try & be organised, we even struggle to meet each other at times. As singles though we have more flexibility & we both like the occasional spur of the moment thing, but that's rare nowadays because we prefer to enjoy together X

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We try to plan ahead, work means we have to.

Last minute meets are very hard, most folks are an hour or so away, so by the time we decide we want some fun, and then find others who are interested, its time to go to bed, let alone travel an hour or more lol!

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

"Its to do with having many responsibilities to meet. It never works if one person has lots of responsibilities and the other very few. In my experience when you've juggled stuff, moved meetings, postponed things and so on just to clear a time slot, the person who is is sooo anxious to spend time with you, but has had to move nothing, will often say they forgot their mum's coming round to go shopping or has to drive their brother somewhere at the last minute etc. I've never thought of it like that? You are probably right! "

I reckon someone either understands the pressures which the person they're meeting has, or they simply don't get it and think everyone is as free as they are.

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By *retty GoodMan
over a year ago

Cardiff Bay

I'm a single dad of 2 amazing boys so planning ahead but as les said majority cancel, my time is important,, but I'm a live life to the full guy and will go with how my mood takes me ,, I put up a post and a meet today short notice as I'm kid free just had work and now finished at the gym and the weather looks nice and I fancy a drink, would love some female company to share tonight with x

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

O yes I think there's always room for spontaneity too. Meeting people shouldn't always require something on the scale of the Schlieffen Plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man I can manage to arrange ahead of time (mummy raised me well) and I can do last minutes quite often

As a average looking single male on here I need to be a flexible as possible to stand a chance of meets

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its to do with having many responsibilities to meet. It never works if one person has lots of responsibilities and the other very few. In my experience when you've juggled stuff, moved meetings, postponed things and so on just to clear a time slot, the person who is is sooo anxious to spend time with you, but has had to move nothing, will often say they forgot their mum's coming round to go shopping or has to drive their brother somewhere at the last minute etc. I've never thought of it like that? You are probably right!

I reckon someone either understands the pressures which the person they're meeting has, or they simply don't get it and think everyone is as free as they are. "
yes totally!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a single man I can manage to arrange ahead of time (mummy raised me well) and I can do last minutes quite often

As a average looking single male on here I need to be a flexible as possible to stand a chance of meets

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well done sir! Nice to know some are capable of making a plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My job means that I can sometimes be called away at short notice. However I like to plan as much in advance as possible and generally around days/weekends that I know I should be free. Hate letting anyone down especially at short notice.

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By *etlinkMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Planning is always good, although spare of the moment play time has its perks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to plan my last meet 3 weeks in advance

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

I prefer spur of the moment, I can't just say I am going to be feeling in a sexy mood next Thursday, it just doesn't work like that. But that's probably why I prefer to go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer spur of the moment, I can't just say I am going to be feeling in a sexy mood next Thursday, it just doesn't work like that. But that's probably why I prefer to go to clubs."
that's where build up comes into play

lots of sexy chat on the run up

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

"I prefer spur of the moment, I can't just say I am going to be feeling in a sexy mood next Thursday, it just doesn't work like that. But that's probably why I prefer to go to clubs. that's where build up comes into play

lots of sexy chat on the run up

Different people, different ways. All good, I just prefer what works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble with last minute,,, spare of the moment,,, implies 'local ish ' and I like my own space.

Anyway,,,I get away frequently for an average of three nights therefore planning is my own personal option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion your horny when your horny so a quick meet is normally a steamy affair. But if you want to plan a club meet (I'd love to if anyone would oblige) then planning is definitely needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last minute always makes me feel like a spunk dump

Just my personal opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Last minute always makes me feel like a spunk dump

Just my personal opinion "
the biggest downside of a "quick fuck and go". Definitely doesn't satisfy me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last minute always makes me feel like a spunk dump

Just my personal opinion the biggest downside of a "quick fuck and go". Definitely doesn't satisfy me.

That's my view, think guys get more from it than women, that's from my experience. I'm more of a build up & slow burn. Although when I've not seen chat for a few days or so, we will have an extremely quick first round, but that's because we're familiar with each other so functional is ok, we both know it'll lead to satisfaction for both X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last minute always makes me feel like a spunk dump

Just my personal opinion "

This for me hate spur of the moment meets with someone I've not met

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Last minute always makes me feel like a spunk dump

Just my personal opinion

This for me hate spur of the moment meets with someone I've not met

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I think I'm a slow burner! Lol 100% need a build up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg I even need a build up with Ch3wy never mind some bloody random

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By *astmeetswest77Couple
over a year ago

monmouth

No planning. Chance would be a fine thing.

Even a walk in the beacons on my own take a weeks planning these days.

That's the price of kids.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No planning. Chance would be a fine thing.

Even a walk in the beacons on my own take a weeks planning these days.

That's the price of kids. "
I know that feeling!

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By *atty_loves_curvesMan
over a year ago

South Wales

I don't object to the steamy build up, the teasing and anticipation, but sometimes that just adds to the lets meet up now spontaneity and overflowing of passion that can be a bit missing with the 'lets meet a week friday'.

Sometimes when you have known someone for a little while, it doesn't just have to be a 'shag and go situation'.

Of course I know life generally gets in the way of this but when it does happen it is the hottest and steamiest sex of all.

Club meets are a different matter because you wouldn't go if you weren't in the mood, well I wouldn't anyway.

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By *ay rickMan
over a year ago

cardiff

I prefer to plan ahead as with most here work and life in general takes over!!--the build up not just the sexy chat but the banter and finding out if you click in other ways also usually leads to better sex--random quickies best kept for nights out in the real world for me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I prefer to plan ahead as with most here work and life in general takes over!!--the build up not just the sexy chat but the banter and finding out if you click in other ways also usually leads to better sex--random quickies best kept for nights out in the real world for me personally

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think that 90% of meets are planned. I do have to admit tho when I was a single male I even planned my meets but had some of my best meets were last minute.

If your having trouble planning it's always best to plan a club as if in Mavs case, the male couldn't perform, you could always get fun from someone else.

There have been plenty of times I've taken fems to clubs and they have played with others (Not because I couldn't perform) and I have never begrudged it and always taken them home.

Unfortunately there are those who think that if they don't have fun the person they came with can't.

That's not what this is about !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres timewasters and genuine,,, just gotta decipher whose real and whose not,,

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