FabSwingers.com forum: Socials

By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

Why is there competition in running socials wtf surly we swingers can go to all we want to without e mails saying go to there's you can't come to mine for fuck sake grow up thank fuck I'm on the dark side and can hold my head up high I don't need petty crap last time I looked we're adults how wrong can you be how many more of you been told this a few I bet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what you been told xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the suspense and drama of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never come across that before that's just really childish, there's plenty of people to go round them all X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe anyone would actually do that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have noticed myself when someone tries to start up a social in their area, generally you'll get negative forum responses.. It appears when some people try and give it a go, users of the more known socials (only a small number of) will start meh meh meh'ing about it.. We could do with some good ones in Pembrokeshire.. Maybe not 'so dark' though as that's not everyone's cuppa...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have noticed myself when someone tries to start up a social in their area, generally you'll get negative forum responses.. It appears when some people try and give it a go, users of the more known socials (only a small number of) will start meh meh meh'ing about it.. We could do with some good ones in Pembrokeshire.. Maybe not 'so dark' though as that's not everyone's cuppa... "

A prime example of this is on a previous thread whereby they wanted to start a 10 pin bowling social.. Some responses were quite shitty..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rest assured the Caerphilly lunch social is open to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I did mine they were always open to everyone and I never competed with anyone else as there was no need to

I ahve no issue with any other social organisers never have

Not a clue what or who this is aimed at but think some people need to grow up

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

"A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss "

Maybe you would like to come and teach me ..... dyslexia is not an illness it's a fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss

Maybe you would like to come and teach me ..... dyslexia is not an illness it's a fact "

Oh for goodness sake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do a Sunday lunch one & I've had no issues, it doesn't take any special effort to do a small social & anyone can do it. I didn't notice anything on the 10 pin one & that was a brilliant night, one of the funniest nights I've had in ages X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I AM totally confused who is emailing whom and saying what about socials am confused

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I can gather, he's pissed that for a lot of socials, the organisers want to keep the m/f ratio as even as possible. Y'know, instead of having 3 women and 48 dudes turning up hoping for a bonk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a clue no idea why the op would even need to post it on here

Surely any personal issues should be kept to pm??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit early for popcorn... bacon sandwich and a cuppa anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit early for popcorn... bacon sandwich and a cuppa anyone?

2 sugars please

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).

The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.

There are two socials being organised in that area.

Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.

Just call me Sherlock lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).

The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.

There are two socials being organised in that area.

Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.

Just call me Sherlock lol!

"
ooooo Jessica Fletcher eat your heart out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).

The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.

There are two socials being organised in that area.

Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.

Just call me Sherlock lol!

ooooo Jessica Fletcher eat your heart out!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to"

I get the house party bit & I don't attend some for that very reason, but it shouldn't apply to socials. Most that arrange them like to have a mix of people. I'm guessing there's a little spat going on down West & tbh it needs to stay down there & off the forum. The socials down this way are going really well atm & we don't want to spoil that.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to

Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well

As you say it could well be a personal spat

Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to

Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well

As you say it could well be a personal spat

Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?

I wouldn't worry about the "M/F/MF" ratio, most "single" guys who put their names down don't turn up... they cant get their wives to let them out for the evening lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to

Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well

As you say it could well be a personal spat

Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?

Like Mart says controlling numbers rarely works I've been to many socials & parties, they look cock heavy on site but never are in practice. Most couples & females pm X

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Possibly trying to only have certain people attend ie age, looks, those with a vagina and or breasts

It's the same as a house party when you were younger, you get into some and not others

Life's short, no body' has died just move on and find a social you get a yes to

Couldn't agree more re not spoiling any especially if they are going well

As you say it could well be a personal spat

Not been to a social yet, do they control numbers so you don't get 20 men 1 couple and 1 single woman ?

Like Mart says controlling numbers rarely works I've been to many socials & parties, they look cock heavy on site but never are in practice. Most couples & females pm X"

Might try to build up the courage to find a friendly one to attend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're all friendly & you'll always find someone willing to hold your hand to begin. Depends what type of social you enjoy, the lunchtime ones have more chat, the evenings ones are more music & dance based & the bowling social is just a good laugh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"They're all friendly & you'll always find someone willing to hold your hand to begin. Depends what type of social you enjoy, the lunchtime ones have more chat, the evenings ones are more music & dance based & the bowling social is just a good laugh x"

Thanks for the advice I'm in wales weekday days and evenings when I stop over in a hotel.

Are they more weekend based ?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What the OP is saying is that a certain social organiser has told him that he isn't welcome at said social if he attends another run in same area but by different person. NOBODY should have to feel they have to choose between them especially as it's only a social event. "

That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss "

Grammar police not helping. We all know what Warren meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either way I can't see the problem.. I arranged one in a local town a few years back, alright, it was slow to begin with and, initially, only around 8 people showed (2 MF CPL, 1 F and 5 M), it's just a shame we couldn't continue using the venue as management changed hands and shortly after I left the site for the first time (one of many

) everyone kind of gave up and went their own separate ways..

Anywho, Pembrokeshire needs a good couple of socials, all different so people can pick and choose what one(s) they would like to attend.. Keep it up, Warren, you'll get people who show!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped going to socials now I went to three different ones in different areas but all same faces.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I stopped going to socials now I went to three different ones in different areas but all same faces.

That is true for some of the local ones, I just threw on a disco and good couple of pints (I was friends with the pub owners who had a little dance floor on the second floor)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was convenient too because they are also a hotel

if I could get x people to stay in the hotel or buy drinks, I got the dj and venue for free x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And if I didn't pull in the numbers to cover costs, I'd do bar work for free..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op"

Mostly because the organiser is a control freak. The reason I started a Caerphilly social was for unverified users to get that much need verification in order to allow them to the weekend socials. I have NEVER told anyone they could not attend if they were also going to a different one run by someone I may not like.

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

"the bowling social is just a good laugh x"

Thanks ... Always good to know people enjoy themselves..

As an organiser of socials it takes a bit of work to get the right balance of people...

My socials are always open to all but I do try and make sure I get a 50/50 gender split.

Ten Pin Bowling socials are fun but by their nature are numbers limited and also numbers and payment needs to be confirmed and paid in advance to guarantee a booking which I do willingly.

What is annoying is guys (and it is predominantly guys) who confirm and then do a "no show". It's just lack of manners.

I tend to under book the numbers but also over invite as I know that for every six guys invited only four will bother to turn up...

Anyway that's my rant for the year over..

To everyone who attends my future socials have a great time and enjoy yourselves....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op

The Sunday lunch social is the same, I started it because I was having lunch alone most Sundays & I knew others were as well. It's a great way for those with no veris to get started & I've no interest in other socials people attend or who puts them on, that's not my concern & luckily most other organisers are like us, I think you've got caught up in a particular dispute there Warren, best left to it because socials run by people like that tend to fail X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fair enough but there's usually something more that's going on that has led to this decision. but hey it's up to the op

Exactly

The numbers attending speak for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

And creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

really, I think I know what you're on about now X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

really, I think I know what you're on about now X"

Yea I twigged earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

really, I think I know what you're on about now X

Yea I twigged earlier

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

"Its not hard to figure out guys 'n' gals. (Green arrow can help lol).

The OP has applied to go to a social in an area.

There are two socials being organised in that area.

Sounds like the organiser of one social has seen the OP put his name down for the other one, and got all "bent out of shape" about it, and messaged the OP.

Just call me Sherlock lol!

Spot on mart and you know me be safe

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

Thank you Hun as you know from my past I have supplyed raffle prizes at loads of socials and comps in the chat room I also run my own socials I can't name and shame on here xx

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

Thanks for the advice I'm in wales weekday days and evenings when I stop over in a hotel.

Are they more weekend based ?"

Look on welsh forum enjoy

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

"Either way I can't see the problem.. I arranged one in a local town a few years back, alright, it was slow to begin with and, initially, only around 8 people showed (2 MF CPL, 1 F and 5 M), it's just a shame we couldn't continue using the venue as management changed hands and shortly after I left the site for the first time (one of many

) everyone kind of gave up and went their own separate ways..

Anywho, Pembrokeshire needs a good couple of socials, all different so people can pick and choose what one(s) they would like to attend.. Keep it up, Warren, you'll get people who show! "

Got the venue if someone wants to take Pembs socials over they sre welcome. This one was in Carmarthen

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By *arren e treggiden OP Man
over a year ago

pembroke dock wales

"And a single man using a fake couples profile to arrange socials is fucking stupid for a start

Finally you've caught on thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a sneaky way to get through filters, why cause horrible in such a good social scene, we're fortunate in this part of Wales we have lots of choice X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A bit of punctuation wouldn't go amiss

Maybe you would like to come and teach me ..... dyslexia is not an illness it's a fact "

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