FabSwingers.com forum: Deleting messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi can anyone help me out to understand why when you send a message being polite 90% of them gets deleted without even being read. I understand the ratio men to women is massive but I can't understand why they do it. Thanks guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you have time to open several 100 messages a day? For some reason not all women use message filters so they're left with far too many messages to manage. The fab rules are clear mind, a lack of response should be considered a no, so likewise you need to accept a deleted message as a very clear no X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok thank you"

No probs, you're welcome X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as Peachy really....it would be a waste of both parties time engaging in conversation with someone who didn't interest me

I always used to reply no thanks to all half decent messages but they would often then result in the other party wanting an explanation etc etc and it just gets a bit silly really

So now I just reply to who interests me and delete who doesn't. Saves giving any false impressions or wasting anyones time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks guys I appreciate it. It makes sense now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above ^^^

Just don't be offended ...try the next person

Have fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok all taken on board thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same as Peachy really....it would be a waste of both parties time engaging in conversation with someone who didn't interest me

I always used to reply no thanks to all half decent messages but they would often then result in the other party wanting an explanation etc etc and it just gets a bit silly really

So now I just reply to who interests me and delete who doesn't. Saves giving any false impressions or wasting anyones time

this also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also we'd block them so you don't waste your time writing and sending another message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I tell you what's worse read your message and keep it but don't reply ?? At least you know where you stand when it's deleted ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And that explains it why guys only wink or just send short messages,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also we'd block them so you don't waste your time writing and sending another message.

& us, the block button is under used X

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

I had a message from a lady the other day, I replied with basically a polite 'thanks but no thanks' and was immediately blocked.

So basically that was her showing she wasn't interested in my lack of interest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I tell you what's worse read your message and keep it but don't reply ?? At least you know where you stand when it's deleted ??"

What he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I tell you what's worse read your message and keep it but don't reply ?? At least you know where you stand when it's deleted ??

What he said"

Bulk delete your sent messages

You can't worry about it then

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By *nglishdoodMan
over a year ago

Morristown

"Can I tell you what's worse read your message and keep it but don't reply ?? At least you know where you stand when it's deleted ??"

Oh god this! I know some people's inboxes are a mess and they just bulk delete later, but the urge to follow-up is strong; especially if you don't message often and really like the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message from a lady the other day, I replied with basically a polite 'thanks but no thanks' and was immediately blocked.

So basically that was her showing she wasn't interested in my lack of interest!

Perfect, the block button is there for a reason & I never get why people think about it in such personal terms, you didn't X

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

Maybe it's me but when messages get deleted or even a rare no thanks. I know exactly what that means and would not dream of trying to engage in a fruitless discussion on the why's...

I always make sure any of my messages are more than one liners and are well written even though I know 99% of them will be deleted.

Take it on the chin, don't agonize over it. Just move on.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

From the "FAQ" section of the site... "It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi can anyone help me out to understand why when you send a message being polite 90% of them gets deleted without even being read. I understand the ratio men to women is massive but I can't understand why they do it. Thanks guys. "
just the way it is on here it's rude but hey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy I really think you are massively overthinking this

When you message someone.... if they don't reply....whether the message gets deleted or not....just take the hint.

I would advise deleting your sent messages as you send them then you can't get yourselves into such a sweat over it

It's getting a bit silly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guy I really think you are massively overthinking this

When you message someone.... if they don't reply....whether the message gets deleted or not....just take the hint."

Forget and move on

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

Hahahaha love this. Swinging is closer to real life than you think. Even in this open and broad minded fantasy world we visit you are still judged on what and who you do.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

Hahahaha love this. Swinging is closer to real life than you think. Even in this open and broad minded fantasy world we visit you are still judged on what and who you do."

I wouldn't call it judgemental, the guy asked for advice and got it, people can chose who they play with, and how, but when it comes down to personal safety others will naturally shy away from those that indulge in the riskier option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

Hahahaha love this. Swinging is closer to real life than you think. Even in this open and broad minded fantasy world we visit you are still judged on what and who you do.

I totally agree, he can meet whoever he wants, and people can choose to not meet him because of those meets. I'm just pointing that it's the same as the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but they was only pointing out that his veris clearly show what haappened at his meets, so straight away his messages are going to get deleted, i dont see the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No issue, its just an observation I thought the OP may have overlooked. We all make decisions based on the information we have at hand, in this case its the the information on a profile, much like the real world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you have time to open several 100 messages a day? For some reason not all women use message filters so they're left with far too many messages to manage. The fab rules are clear mind, a lack of response should be considered a no, so likewise you need to accept a deleted message as a very clear no X"

Yes it is bonkers at times so mass delete is easier x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im just ugly so they get deleted by i accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly delete messages.. Generally they'll start with

"fancy a fuck"

"I'm in your area now"

"let me suck you"

It's a handy option to have..

Just remember, you are under no obligation to reply to a message or explain yourself to them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

Hahahaha love this. Swinging is closer to real life than you think. Even in this open and broad minded fantasy world we visit you are still judged on what and who you do."

I was not being judgemental it was my opinion if you read it properly.

Also gave some advice.

1 in 10 people in the uk have an std and in London that increases too 1 in 5 people would you play with your life .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I regularly delete messages.. Generally they'll start with

"fancy a fuck"

"I'm in your area now"

"let me suck you"

It's a handy option to have..

Just remember, you are under no obligation to reply to a message or explain yourself to them...

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By *ay rickMan
over a year ago

cardiff

If you do well in the real world then it should tell you it's just the amount of single guys here and also for some you may just not for them!!--just use this site for what it is and enjoy what you may get and who you may meet along the way is my advice op!!!--keep your chin up n don't think on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op nothing personal but we always read guys profiles and verifications before msg back.

So after i read your and the two young ladys you have met.

If i was you take a long hard think why people aren't messaging you back. Plus a trip to the gum clinic would be a good idea. Hubby

Hahahaha love this. Swinging is closer to real life than you think. Even in this open and broad minded fantasy world we visit you are still judged on what and who you do.

I was not being judgemental it was my opinion if you read it properly.

Also gave some advice.

1 in 10 people in the uk have an std and in London that increases too 1 in 5 people would you play with your life .

What you are stating are all really life facts. They cross over into the Fab life, I don't get what the problem is here. I've agreed with everything you said so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can and I don't blame them

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