FabSwingers.com forum: Timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do i always attract the timewasters for.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been getting a lot of it recently too. Totally disillusions you

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?"

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have been getting a lot of it recently too. Totally disillusions you

Kinky

Yea i know tell me about it lol. They arange to meet through wats app then dont turn up. And try saying they never recieved my message to say i was on my way. Even though you know your message was deliverd and read lol

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

The number of veris means very little

A lot can be from frequent social gatherings, butterflies; or multiple veris from the same people (which admittedly is a little strange

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By *ymatemarmiteMan
over a year ago

Crosshands

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

The number of veris means very little

A lot can be from frequent social gatherings, butterflies; or multiple veris from the same people (which admittedly is a little strange

Agreed about veris... I agree with the people i meet not to put veri's for each other. We all know the great time we had no need for promotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

The number of veris means very little

A lot can be from frequent social gatherings, butterflies; or multiple veris from the same people (which admittedly is a little strange

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Agreed about veris... I agree with the people i meet not to put veri's for each other. We all know the great time we had no need for promotion

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By *onny-n-clydeCouple
over a year ago

cwmbran,

We have noticed a big increase in time wasters recently especially couples. Really don't understand what kind of kick they get from it. Thankfully the good outweigh the bad

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

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at least if they have verifications it is because they do actually meet people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the site dips and rises with dreamers which can make it pretty frustrating, hence why we don't really bother unless someone really catches our eye.

As for veris we take them with a pinch of salt as who would display a bad one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

The number of veris means very little

A lot can be from frequent social gatherings, butterflies; or multiple veris from the same people (which admittedly is a little strange

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Agreed about veris... I agree with the people i meet not to put veri's for each other. We all know the great time we had no need for promotion

Promotion? That's a new one on me lol, we agree with anyone we've met previously not to re verify but the system is valuable from our perspective & we would rarely met anyone who doesn't have verifications to show they meet & have fun. The more the better for us because they've generally been the genuine swingers who understand the scene without the need for judgement etc X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I just love timewasters. I love trying to sort out meets and then being let down. Really love it when a 'couple' does it.. just reminds me that my life ain't that bad. That I need to fuck with other people life's to get my kicks..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everone

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Sure, I mean, why would you want to be sure they are genuine and always turn up, jeez, who'd want to meet them huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I just love timewasters. I love trying to sort out meets and then being let down. Really love it when a 'couple' does it.. just reminds me that my life ain't that bad. That I need to fuck with other people life's to get my kicks.. "

We're like this makes us remember some people have very sad little lives & their only enjoyment is messing people about. We always see any meet as a bonus & we're happy to have our fun if nothing comes from a search, but you be fair we've not had very many let us down on the day & where they have there's usually been a very reasonable response X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Sure, I mean, why would you want to be sure they are genuine and always turn up, jeez, who'd want to meet them huh?

I just like to be careful who i meet there are alot of weirdos out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It one of my pet hates.. being late. Not turning up. If I arrange a meet I go though with said meet. So I tend to be a bit choosy....

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By *elease your tensionMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

Yes I agree with what you have said. I am very genuine had 2 verifiable nights but still struggling to get meets.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Sure, I mean, why would you want to be sure they are genuine and always turn up, jeez, who'd want to meet them huh?

I just like to be careful who i meet there are alot of weirdos out there."

Yeah, and there's no way of being sure that you only meet non-weird people, it's not like you can see a list of other peoples opinions on them... oh, wait!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Sure, I mean, why would you want to be sure they are genuine and always turn up, jeez, who'd want to meet them huh?

I just like to be careful who i meet there are alot of weirdos out there.

Yeah, and there's no way of being sure that you only meet non-weird people, it's not like you can see a list of other peoples opinions on them... oh, wait!

Ok fair point you cant see things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X"

Because im not interested in meeting someone who got about 30 veris where they have fucked everyone of them. I met sum1 the other week and they wanted fuck without a condom and i was like no thanks. Dont play the sex lottery. Which is stupid really coz they veiwed my profile but never read it properly as it says. Safe sex only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X

Out of interest OP, seens as you've joined swingers website, what is it you find offputting if a member has had sex with 30 people??

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By *ax-BangingMan
over a year ago

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"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X

Out of interest OP, seens as you've joined swingers website, what is it you find offputting if a member has had sex with 30 people??"
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Exactly its a swingers site lol maybe the op should be on a vanilla dating site instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X

Have you mistakenly wrong slotted to this site maybe a dating site would suit better? Just because people openly meet other people for adult fun does not mean they all play the'sex lottery', that's a very sweeping statement & says more about the individual than about the many members of Fab. We only play safe & have never met anyone here who doesn't tbh. I do wonder how you would look upon things if you were super lucky enough over time, to meet several women, what would you think about yourself then? Hmmmmmmmm I gutted that would just be you being a lucky guy & a bit of a lad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business. "

What is op lol

And whats wrong with my choices.i met someone on here before and they told me to becareful who i meet and that its harder to get a meet with loads of veris. What i mean by playing the sex lottery is bare backing everyone you will end up catching something

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

What is op lol

And thats not something i wanna do.

If i wanted vanilla i been on pof.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you "always" attract timewasters, maybe its your selection process you should look at?

Well i tend to look for ppl that dont have loads of veris

Just for my own interest why do you choose people ego don't have loads of veris? When you're worried about time wasters I can't see the rationale X

Out of interest OP, seens as you've joined swingers website, what is it you find offputting if a member has had sex with 30 people??.

Exactly its a swingers site lol maybe the op should be on a vanilla dating site instead "

I posted on here for advice not to be slated dh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

What is op lol

Nothing at all wrong with your choices, you play the way you like as it's no one else's business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

What is op lol

Nothing at all wrong with your choices, you play the way you like as it's no one else's business. "

Thank you at least someone on this post aint slating me. What does op mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not being slated I'm just trying to understand how the number of verifications equates to safety, there are people here who only want bb sex & that's their choice but they could have 0 -100 verifications, it's for you as for each of us to make our choices just don't be fooled into thinking the number of verifications will give any idea about safety. It is your choice & I was merely interested in the rationale I don't agree with your rationale but it's your system to follow as you wish. I guess we all have to have some kind of system no matter how flawed it may be. Happy swinging, Ooops sorry it's unlikely to be swinging cos that's unsafe X

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By *aut-eWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

What is op lol

Nothing at all wrong with your choices, you play the way you like as it's no one else's business.

Thank you at least someone on this post aint slating me. What does op mean?"

Original poster, you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe the op plays a little different to most.. it's all about choices and that's his, makes absolutely no difference to us how someone else plays and it's none of our business.

What is op lol

Nothing at all wrong with your choices, you play the way you like as it's no one else's business.

Thank you at least someone on this post aint slating me. What does op mean?

Original poster, you "

Why would i be one of them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, as others have stated OP means original poster.

I can't see anyone slating the OP at all he is welcome to meet who he likes. I was just interested in his views

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Dude, we have a shitload of veries, but we haven't shagged everyone on that list, in fact its about a third.

And, what about people who only display their latest veri, but might have shagged hundreds?

Some show all, some show a few, some show one or two, you pays your money and you takes your chances!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

helllooo just found out about these forums lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"helllooo just found out about these forums lol

Welcome, have a quick read of this and a few others threads and slowly reverse back out lol

We won't be far behind you.

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By *amo2121Man
over a year ago

swansea

"helllooo just found out about these forums lol

Welcome, have a quick read of this and a few others threads and slowly reverse back out lol

We won't be far behind you. "

Creased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"helllooo just found out about these forums lol

Welcome, have a quick read of this and a few others threads and slowly reverse back out lol

We won't be far behind you.

Creased

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry, as others have stated OP means original poster.

I can't see anyone slating the OP at all he is welcome to meet who he likes. I was just interested in his views

Oki doki

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dude, we have a shitload of veries, but we haven't shagged everyone on that list, in fact its about a third.

And, what about people who only display their latest veri, but might have shagged hundreds?

Some show all, some show a few, some show one or two, you pays your money and you takes your chances!

If you read what i wrote it says about people who shagged loads of ppl. And its upto me what i write. This has just escolate from what i was onbwt

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

I'm confused to how a high number of veris can equal unsafe/bareback sex? Genuinely not getting how he's come to that conclusion.

I do also find it odd that a person coming onto a swingers site, to find sex with other people, is judging people that have had sex with large numbers of people...

Op, would you limit yourself to the amount of women you'll meet/have sex with as to not rack up your numbers? Do you have a cut off to how many women you can shag in your lifetime? "Sorry love, you're gorgeous and I would love to bang you but I can't go above my quota and, unfortunately for you, that was reached last month"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's exactly what I was struggling with, couldn't get the rationale nor how it related to the opening post about time wasters. Certainly wasn't slating just confused X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm confused to how a high number of veris can equal unsafe/bareback sex? Genuinely not getting how he's come to that conclusion.

I do also find it odd that a person coming onto a swingers site, to find sex with other people, is judging people that have had sex with large numbers of people...

Clearly you have not read what i wrote. Someone ask me to bareback them and i said no. I didnt say that you lot do that. Did i? I have read on plenty of profiles stating if you got loads of veris then jog on basicly.

But its my choice what i do. All i was on about wasctimewasters and some of the people above have started going on about something else. If i have offended anyone then sorry. That was not my intention.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

"I'm confused to how a high number of veris can equal unsafe/bareback sex? Genuinely not getting how he's come to that conclusion.

I do also find it odd that a person coming onto a swingers site, to find sex with other people, is judging people that have had sex with large numbers of people...

Of course it's your choice, never said it wasn't, was merely trying to understand your logic.

As for the time wasters bit, be vigilant in checking veris, were they meeting in person or cam, how long ago was their most recent veri and if you're going for people with none at all then there's more risk of them being a time waster- no always, as we all start somewhere, but it is highly likely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's full of jokers well some honest people but a load of time waters most of the people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have the time to waist other people's time in the first place

Time waisters just end up making people frustrated and distant from what the site is about.

I suppose the success of the site has also been it's downfall.

Like many have said above. You have to be a good judge so you don't get messed about.

As for veris, I think they are a great way to find out what the person is like. If I kept all the veris I've had since the site started I'd have hundreds. Not from shagging 24/7 but years and years of trust, friendship, and respect for others. So lots of veris are not bad at all dispite what others state on their profiles.

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